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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 11/25/2007 11:09:10 PM | It's the men who can't live up to the lifestyle out here. This is one of the most expensive places to live. Why date a looser guy? If your the kind of of guy who needs to bash a woman then your not a man. A lot of talk about overweight women. No, most Socal women ar not gold-digging and self-centered. It's the guy who wants the Baywatch Barbie yet he's just an average Joe. He's bitter 'cause he can't get what he wants.
I grew up out here and all I ever wanted was to have just one man who was true to me and himself. To feel loved... I think that I'm pretty and look young for my age. (natural) All I ever met was a bunch of ego-idiots. I would like to meet at least one man who would take me out and treat me like a lady. I would like to go out, have fun, and to have someone except me for me. Instead, I feel like I'm on a interview. It's all about what do I do for a living, do I own my home, do I have children, blah, blah, blah. When the man just wants someone to leach off. He works a sucky job, he lives with roomates, parents, ex's. He's a high school/ college drop-out. He seeks women who are 1/2 his age. He looks like he could be my father. He has issues with his ex, drugs or alcohol. He's so shallow that he thinks that he's hot! He posses in his profile in front of his Harley or sports car as if he was some kind of showcase?
Foreign women want a free ticket called a US Visa. Trust me, they are not so nice...
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 11/26/2007 6:58:53 PM |
It's the guy who wants the Baywatch Barbie yet he's just an average Joe. He's bitter 'cause he can't get what he wants. Aaah, you hit the nail on the head!
I think a big problem with online dating, is that it encourages a lot of comparison shopping and you might just end up not giving someone a fair chance to really shine. It's sort of like getting a big menu at a restaurant and not being able to decide what to order. Too many possibilities.
Unless someone behaves in an egregious fashion, I will always give them a second and even a third chance. I have to say that a lot of people do not do this. They skulk off and never talk to the other person again. Sort of scummy, and I am happy that they show their true colors, so I don't have to deal with them.
A relationship takes effort on the part of both parties. | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 11/26/2007 11:43:57 PM | Aaah, you hit the nail on the head!
nope, you are incorrect
1. Barbie is not even on baywatch. and I for example like taller women...the taller, the better - Barbie is barely 12 inches tall...too short and she is way too skinny...
so- too short for my speed, and way too skinny...
2. there are two blondes on Baywatch- appealing to some - appalling to some...some are ambivalent - personally fake breasts are a turn off - conversely: young, firm perky breasts - "C" or even a" D" are turn ons providing they are au natural...and on a voluptuous sexy intelligent with an hourglass figure -
smokin!
so ya see...not all men have the same tastes
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 11/28/2007 9:28:47 PM | | Funny you, Butler guy. There is a Baywatch Barbie. You pretty much set it. Natural big boobs with a small frame? Yeah right! Keep dream'n.... | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 11/28/2007 9:40:11 PM | | The older I get and the more people I meet from other states. The more I realize how much nicer the women are from other states. | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 6/21/2008 1:49:13 PM | It is true that women in southern california are superficial, have big egos and are gold digger. not all of them, but probably 86% of them. If they tell you they aren't, clues... look at what they wear, is it gucci? prada? do they have to accessorize? are the guys they are dating mostly making 70k or more? is their morals and family values last on the list? chances are they are the gold diggers. shoot, even some of the fat and poor ones where I'm from gold dig, but not all.
Gold digger women give clues about themselves, they will lie, so you have to ask questions and observe.
Lastly, alot of women here are saying myth, that's because they don't want the honest answer to be 'revealed.' <<<<<< i was IMed by a lady not to tell everyone. | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 6/25/2008 10:59:54 AM | What's wrong with gold-digging? That's what made California's economy boom. In fact, it still does.
And you've got to dig deep to find gold; "shallow" doesn't cut it.
Speaking of gold, California women coined the term "mine".
"Myth"? Only if she'th thtill thingle. Or maybe theparated or divorthed.
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 6/27/2008 9:38:01 AM | Well I'm a California Woman, however, not born and raised here. I was raised on the East Coast and I think the East Coast had more traditional values and a less shallow approach to people. The first thing I remember learning when I moved here 25 years ago, was, "Let's do Lunch", doesn't mean actually having lunch together. It simply meant see you around, maybe.
So on the dating scene, people do come across as self serving. The whole gold digger thing....... I don't consider myself a gold digger, but a gold preserver! I'm not looking to support someone just to have someone in my life. That's what a parent does, and I do not want to be someone's mama! | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 6/27/2008 10:19:28 AM | I think the description of California women above is sour grapes...
Women in California have it better as far as jobs, education, career advancement opportunities and being social equals with men than women in most other states... and that's probably why Joe Dirt can't get a date.
Any questions?
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Posted: 6/27/2008 12:22:09 PM | Let me guess- your boss is a woman, right? I think you're just bitter because you got passed over for that promotion.
Women in California have it better as far as jobs, education, career advancement opportunities and being social equals with men than women in most other states..
Uh huh. Sure. I suspect it has a lot to do with what a woman wants to do, and what she's willing to do to get to the top. | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 6/27/2008 12:34:29 PM | People are slightly different no matter what state, or region you are from. I grew up back east, and there are several subtle differences between my way of thinking, and those who have grown up in California. It's all relative.
Oh and of course you get the added bonus of never losing your accent if you're not a native. | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 6/27/2008 1:11:56 PM | ^^^^I grew up in L.A., and we ladies LOVE beautiful accents!
Sometimes, I think there are those moments when we all want to blend-in, and an accent leads to the whole 'where are you from' conversation that sometimes we might want to avoid talking about AGAIN that day.
I, myself, like to say some things the way I originally heard them from my motely crew of weird and wonderful friends for emphasis (and a bit of flair!) and I have been asked a lot of times that same question when I still lived there.
The thing I realized awhile back is that the ones usually asking were generally opening up the conversation to talk about where THEY were from.
...I found it to be a 'share tactic'...
L.A. is such a cosmopolitan city that most of the population are from elsewhere anyway.
Most of us who grew up there are pretty open-minded with diverse backgrounds and attitudes... not everyone, though.
L.A. is proof that it takes all kinds of different nuts to make a nuthouse interesting! IMO
 I wouldn't have wanted it any other way!
Don't fret, SSG...
Un-displaced accents are a good thing! | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 6/27/2008 4:38:13 PM | I agree with the part about the clues. And maybe its 90%.
And although I see many people with people who are not by any means wealthy, rich or too well to do. I can only wonder how they met.
Being here in cali for about 30 yrs I have seen it grow. Many women from all over the world come here. And lots of them make a pretty good living and are educated.
But on the whole, most of them are golddiggers. Sorry to say. Yes, when they ask for a guy that is financially secure. Does that mean that if he only makes 20k a yr. and is happy with himself that is he financially secure? For him it does. But for a women in cali. it means he is poor, a loser, someone not worth even looking at.
If you have been around on POF for awhile you see many of the same women here for a very long time. And I will guess the men as well. Most all the women say something in there profile that shows they have issues with something that I will only guess didn't work out well in the past with a guy or two or.....
So, the thing I hear so much is all guys want is sex. I can only guess all those guys have given up on finding something real. Not being rich, tall, handsome. So they just try for sex.
In the end. Talking about it will changed nothing. If a girl is hot or just the plain jane. She more than likely is going to wait for that rich tall handsome guy. With all the BS .......
Mean while saying they want that nice guy and money don't matter.
Yes us guys do understand that you don't want someone who is poor, But at least be honest in your profile. I can respect a girl who says that is what she is looking for way more than one that tries to hide it. Thanks and good luck to you all. | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 6/27/2008 6:45:16 PM | | May I bring up one more thing? I seem to get mis understood because I prefer to "date (as in, get to know one another over conversation and [publicly appropriate] activities). This seems to give the impression that I want to "date" (as in, be intimate with) many people over a long period of time. I hav discussed this with other members here and there are a remarkable number of men who shut down, shut off and cut contact if they find out that one has had more than one date (gasp) in the last week or two. I am hopeful that I will know "the one" when I meet him (or meet with him a few times) but please do not confuse my patience and persistence in meeting a whole lot of frogs with something more - erm - distasteful. Meeting more than one potential date or relationship candidate is not the same as "playing the field". | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 6/27/2008 10:49:37 PM | | i have learned that our women here are mainly responsive to str8 forward, somewhat respectful men. but you must have that look in your eyes. you must make her believe that if she passes you up, she'll always be left wondering what if. | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 6/27/2008 11:39:29 PM | Every location in the country or in the world has its stereotypical people. California just gets a lot of press for their various cultures.
Sure when you go to LA, you will see the LA culture which is mostly about vanity and all that stereotypical stuff. But there are people who are not.
Sure when you go to Berkeley you will see the tree hugging people where showers are optional and they look like they are straight out of the 60's. But there are people who are not.
There are good and bad with every area and subculture. Some are more annoying and make digging through the crap (stereotypes) to get to the quality layer more painful but I think each area has its ups and downs. Some areas just take more patience to get past the stereotypical folks. | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 6/28/2008 3:39:15 PM | I agree. yet, you missed one thing....women in LA are rude, and rude to other women. I guess it's a competition thing. I swear, I lived in san francisco for 3 years and made more girlfriends up there than i have all my life here!
Rude and catty! | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 6/28/2008 8:19:21 PM | Its not just women that have the monopoly on being self absorbed and living above there means in LA have met/seen guys as well. Not all people but some just have this mentality.
Kind of silly to lay this all on one door step. | |
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