| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 6/28/2008 9:38:23 PM | I've spent time in both the north and south part of Cal. The LA territory is full of barbie dolls and Ken's walking around. They drive as poorly as they relate to fellow human beings and their traffic is legendary even by Bay Area standards. After market body parts, thankless or lack of gratitude for someone else's generosity towards them, many people in LA smoke including a lot of the younger generation aryans.
The people in the Bay Area are more in touch with staying honestly connected and truly caring about what goes on in them and around them. The Bay Area is also home to many transformational home bases like Landmark Education, Sterling, and other similar circles in trying to find the true essence of your self and giving back to humanity. There are some areas where the LA mentality does exist though. Palo Alto, Blackhawk/Alamo, and Marin/ Tiburon/ Belevedere vicinities are ripe examples.
Overall if you like or prefer drama, storytelling, or bs as a way of being you'll love LA/SD.
But, if you have no interest in that environment then you'll love the Bay Area. | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 6/29/2008 5:28:33 AM | You can either call the LA "culture" a culture or a virus that spreads relentlessly killing whatever gets in its path. I personally go for the latter.
I have lived in North San Diego county for almost 5 years now and I have seen it spread through here in the last 2 especially. The plague was more forgiving! 
I have now even seen it spread to Phoenix Arizona. I have a friend I visit out there every once in a while and the last two trips in the last year have been totally different. Yes, you guessed it, the LA virus is spreading there too. Damn, anyone have a shot or pill to kill it? I wish I did or I wouldn't be looking for a new place to live. Too bad because I just LOVE the beach and weather here. | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 6/29/2008 2:21:39 PM | | Wow! Why are California men even bothering to date if all the women here are so bad.... Hmmm this could explain the same sex marriage - go get 'em boys. | |
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| I'd rather be in Denmark!
Posted: 7/2/2008 8:22:26 PM | Let's just say I was born and raised here, let's just say I love the weather here in the San Diego area and also the lifestyle (not inclusive of the dating scene). Let's just say I have a wonderful son and there's so much for us to do here year round. We have lots of beautiful people here and at least it's nice to look at them, but it's best not to bother them. I find the best thing to do is to be friendly, respectful and just let them be. If you think they are very attractive, no need to tell them, I'm sure they've heard it all before......no need to stare, I'm sure they've seen that all before too....just keep on trucking and appreciate any attention they shared with you in whatever way at all. Yes, this is where a man has to stand in this environment, to not be part of the problem by reacting to rejection, but instead being part of the resolution by avoiding the rejection. That's my stance..........what's Allstate's?
I think everything has a cause and effect.......I've noticed via travel and also seen interviewed women from around the country............it looks as if the certain mentality that was born of this region of the country is the cause and echoed behaviors in the rest of the country...is the effect. Not everyone is the same, men or women and I'm sure there are some good, nice women around, but I appeciate them from afar whether they are or not. This is my reason for appreciating this site, you can do so at leisure. I do believe there is a certain attitude born here in Southern California and it seems it would have began at least in the 70's. Just take a look at the movie "Up In Smoke"....sure I can understand why the blondies were trying to blow off Cheech.......but notice that demeanor?..........anyway, that's the earliest I can trace it. I can understand that there will be snooty attitudes in higher income regions no matter what, but do understand what the question really is asking here. I noticed the women in New Mexico were very friendly and easy to talk to, they come up to you! I went up to the bar to order a drink when my girlfriend went to the bathroom.....there were 3 girls on me within minutes asking me what I was ordering and about my drink.......blatant picking up there............so to get over the blues head over to Albuquerque, NM.........although I did meet a few So. Cal girls when I was there, more are moving out there........but they were nice and so was I. | |
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| SoCal Women, fact or myth
Posted: 7/3/2008 1:16:47 AM | To be fair, it's not just the women. If you act like you give a sh*t in any way, you're done for around here. Both men and women seem to find any sort of display of eagerness offensive and once you get tagged as someone who doesn't keep your cool, you're shunned.
I thought for a while it had to do with $$, and then I thought it was just me, and then I thought it was a whole bunch of things, but as soon as I realized that if I played it aloof people of both genders felt a whole lot more comfortable around me, I started to get along much better.
Backhanded compliments and sardonic remarks work well as conversation starters. Direct compliments or overt interest of any sort makes people think you're scamming them--whether for money or emotional energy. The only way you can get away with a compliment is to immediately ignore the person for a good long while--until they figure out you don't want anything in particular from them.
You don't have to stop giving a sh*t, but you do have to pretend like you don't at all times. It's a big metro area, and scary in its way, and just as NYC residents are obnoxious and in your face to cope with the fear of so many strangers, LA people maintain a veneer of cool. | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 7/3/2008 1:53:22 AM | | Ladies don't respond to this crap, you don't have to lower yourselves to being baited like this. These guys that want to troll and flame have nothing better to do with their time, and so they take perverse pleasure in trying to bring you down to their levels. | |
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| SoCal Women, fact or myth
Posted: 7/3/2008 4:15:08 PM | Even though this post is on women but this is a wider cultural issue affecting both sexes. If I didn't travel so much I wouldn't see the stark differences between the Southern California "LA Syndrome" versus even Northern California versus even Central California which are all different. When you mix in non California states it is even more drastic. When you get other countries involved the difference is even larger.
Last month I talked to a woman who lived in San Diego a year ago and now moved to the SF Bay Area. She moved because of the exact same things. She couldn't even make and keep friends here because of trust and integrity issues. Within 3 months of returning she built a wide net of friends back up and was in a solid relationship. This is only one of many of the stories I have heard from both sexes.
Some people may say, "get off your high horse" or "this is crap" but they either are not aware of the differences or don't care. To each their own.
Now that I am traveling less I see it more and don't have the "away time" for my sanity hence I am moving. The weather and laid back attitudes are just no longer worth the price you have to pay with the majority that follow the "LA Attitude" | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 8/5/2008 5:10:51 PM | | Well, you gotta look and realize that places like L.A. are made for social climbing. It is expensive here and lots of people have Hollywood aspirations | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 8/7/2008 12:34:35 AM | Wow. I am gonna read this thread backwards. I am from cali. Most of my native guy/girl friends are pretty normal.
I work in Hollywood/entertainment & find the real pricks are ususally transplants. The beach kids/peeps just like surfing & bbq's & running or biking. Married folk have kids & do little league & soccer.
I guess I am running in the right (wrong) crowds?
So sorry you boys have had such a bad run. Try the south bay or the LB. Maybe you would fair better.
Wahine | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 8/7/2008 9:53:11 AM | Geez, the last time I was in Hollywood, I met someone first thing at a bar and ending up having sushi with her while giving her boyfriend a chance to show up and do what she wanted for once.
Never saw her again after I left the restaurant. Gotta say though, it was uncanny and a fulfilling experience. That was at the 'World Cafe'.
Love that place! | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 8/7/2008 2:43:22 PM | sadly, as I hang my Cali-native head in shame, I have to agree.......we wimmins are a sordid, self-centered, conniving, gold digging, immature, calculating, b!tchy, inconsiderate, malicious, cold hearted, ball-breaking, emasculating, scheming, venomous, low-down, wicked, vile lot!!!!
it is not a myth....it is a fact. 
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 8/7/2008 6:47:49 PM | ^^^^ (Hands him a cookie)
Congrats on being an unjaded, open-minded, optimistic, mature thinking male. | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 8/7/2008 6:56:44 PM | All people are unique, Just becaue your female don't make it right to be lumped in to a unforgivable mound. Only short sighted and narrow minded men will use these terms.
"California women are regarded as being gold-digging, tofu eating, self centered, and shallow than other women in the country".
It's childish to think all women are the same, even when you have been hurt.
I better stop rambling.
my 3 cents | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 8/7/2008 10:17:45 PM | | i agree the women from cali are a whole different breed. i am originally from portland oregon and the women down here are just down right rude for the most part. the only place that i seem to meet decent women who actually are not all stuck up is in the bay area. the funny thing is, i live in modesto and people don't make shit for money out here but yet they all still have that attitude. | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 8/8/2008 5:58:14 AM | ^^^what kind of bristles would those brushes be made from?
sable, hog, squirrel, or ass?
If I might be of assistance, they come from a particular breed of ass... the Dumb Ass. Dumb Ass brush bristles can be made into much smaller brushes, of course, but when talking about women (something some men know very little about), Dumb Asses are typically arranged in the ever-so-popular "broad-brush" configuration (hence the name). Often, broad-brush strokes are applied with "sweeping statements" ultimately producing a very dull pattern, which is pretty much a trademark of the Dumb Ass. | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 8/8/2008 4:32:26 PM | | Strangly enough it depends on what county your in from my experience. The facts of this plays heavy in the OC....THE OC!!!! What the hell is wrong with the women out there? But the IE and SDC chicks are very humble and your actally good enough for them lol and what a surprise their hotter than OC chicks too.Hmm, crazy cali. | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 8/16/2008 12:07:18 PM | FACT AND FICTION HERE
This is what I call a 'STEROTYPE" !
Its a generization that California men and women are self absorbed. We are all Barbies and Kens walking around..... Hogwash....
Not everyone is the same. One thing Ive learned is that everyone makes their own life path choice and we all learn from the choices and mistakes we make .
Im sure in just about every place in the world there are self centered, self asborded women and men. California is probably worst then other places. I did grow up in NCSD and "behind the orange curtain" and honestly would be open to settling elsewhere in some other small town with the man of my dreams, who actuall has feelings. I really do not think he exists though.
I live in a "snobby area" called Olivehain in Encinitas in NCSD. I am not the same as most women here. I constantly get accused of being from the midwest because I treat people the way I want to be treated. I believe in "old school husband and wife roles" Many of my friends call me a nutrerer. I do not judge a book by its cover.
I moved from the OC to San Diego to get away from self centered egotistical people. Only to find that its much the same here as well. The men here in SD are just looking for perfect lil barbie doll women type. Lets get one thing straight I am not fat and I am beautiful but not a bbw.
I need a strong confident dominant personality "type A" man whose mama raised him right.......
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 8/16/2008 12:24:08 PM | I haven't read this whole thing but have a few opinions. I have done a lot of traveling around the country and met a number of women.
I have found women in Southern California to be more superficial than most of the country (this does not mean all women in SoCal, just some). Their looks and the looks of their man seems to be very important to them and sometimes too much so. Money also seems to be more important to SoCal women. I have found women in the Pacific Northwest to be very easy going and laid back. I have always been most impressed with women in Texas. They don't seem to be as superficial and are just the most friendly people.
I want to say it again...These are just my observations and generalizations from these observations. Not all women in these areas fit into these catagories. You will find good and bad everywhere you go. | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 8/16/2008 1:15:17 PM | | So how can all "southern califronia women be superficial" when most of us are not orginaly from here???? | |
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| California women: fact or myth?
Posted: 8/16/2008 1:47:44 PM | I never said all if you read what I said. Maybe reading is the bigger problem.
Let me quote here what I said
I have found women in Southern California to be more superficial than most of the country (this does not mean all women in SoCal, just some).
Not all women in these areas fit into these catagories. You will find good and bad everywhere you go. | |
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