| Why can't ment show respect for a women
Posted: 10/21/2006 9:35:38 PM | Let her burn it off....
I don't think there is any reason for "men" to disrespect women in general, but she and many women here are noting a POF phenomenon. It's just that many here are from the white ghetto, and no one expects Jerry Springer trash in POF to behave better because this site does attract quite a few males from a bad end of town. I discussed this with a psychologist who was in here......she wrote to me noting this POF class phenomenon. There is a particular age range (above the younger guys) where there are guys coming in here in the 40's who have never been married and who have no college education. It's a POF phenomenon.....a Bell's curve.
IT ALSO DEPENDS ON THE COUNTRY AND CITY>>>
This is why a lot of the women are baffled in the middle age range. They are all wondering what in the world is going on......it's called white trash, ladies.
Executives, the well educated, your Long Island men, aren't rushing to POF in that age range because they are married, have kids, and aren't living on "the fringe".....but here you run into a white trash ideation of the treatment of the fairer sex. This kind of thing always thrives in ghetthos - regardless of ethnicity. Online dating in a free site is bound to attract a subclass of men (and women) who have class issues and emotional and mental illness, and while the rest of us were having children or getting educated, being goal oriented,...there is a subclass of people who aged into the 40's without passing milestones that are signs of emotional health and good class affiliation.
THERE ARE VERY GOOD MEN out there I've run into a few on this site in that age range, but most have valuers reflecting a lower class social training as regards women. AT first, I was baffled myself, and then I noticed all the women complaining.....What's wrong with these men, ? Blah Blah. Then, I noticed the commonality in that middle age range.....all reporting "no kids" (most often they dumped them), no education, and no history of marriage,...the fringe failures of the male world.....this is a class issue. The educated men who have good histories maritally and supported thier kids are totally different classwise. The issue.....is a Jerry Springer Show type subclass of men coming in here in a certain age range.
Haven't you seen the odd "standards" on the female side of the browser. Ha ! I went out with a white guy here.....and you had to walk around garbage in his house, no education, and he'd never been married by 42, no kids, half his emotional age......white trash. HEck, even my mother has an engineering degree. There is nothing wrong with "MEN"....the trend follows a failure of education and class issues......it's a class issue manifesting (and with that menta illness, substance and alchoghol abuse, child abandonment, and failure to develop normal intimate relationships with women that progress to marriage and children). It isn't "men".....it's a fringe class of men in a certain age range. Some good guys wander in, but the guys here should see what is on the female side of the browser....
It's Jerry Springer...online dating....Hats off to you classier guys in here. | |
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| Why can't ment show respect for a women
Posted: 10/21/2006 9:44:49 PM | | Don't blame "men" as a generalization....I thought that too....but then I started looking at the stats. It's also regional...I live in Los Angeles, so there will be a certain curve here. | |
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| Why can't ment show respect for a women
Posted: 10/21/2006 9:59:13 PM |
Don't blame "men" as a generalization....I thought that too....but then I started looking at the stats. It's also regional...I live in Los Angeles, so there will be a certain curve here.
Do whatever you want. I base my decisions on people for their individual merits, not their gender, what region they are from, or where they place on a curve. If that's working for ya...  | |
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| Why can't ment show respect for a women
Posted: 10/22/2006 2:51:11 PM | Going back to the original post:
Honey, don't settle..mutual respect is essential in any relationship for it to work for a lifetime. Don't ever sell yourself short, as you are beautiful on the inside as well as the outside..never, EVER let anyone tell you anything different. As Benz stated..you MUST love yourself before anyone can love you completely as you desire.
Benz..thanks my friend..again, you are a true man and ooze class, which is in rare form nowadays..I'll see ya on the island my friend...We Floridian's stick together, eh? *wink*
And to Ron? Lose the attitude, and stop hating yourself...if you were nice to people for a change, then they may reciprocate in turn..and it would do you good to stop 'drunk typing'..lol
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| Why can't ment show respect for a women
Posted: 10/22/2006 3:49:43 PM |
Honey, don't settle..mutual respect is essential in any relationship for it to work for a lifetime. Don't ever sell yourself short, as you are beautiful on the inside as well as the outside..never, EVER let anyone tell you anything different. As Benz stated..you MUST love yourself before anyone can love you completely as you desire.
I totally agree. As benz said and I have always said you can't expect someone to love you if you don't love yourself
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| Why can't ment show respect for a women
Posted: 10/22/2006 4:10:43 PM | | Ya know what? I have read all of the postings here, and it seems to me that everyone has the same underlying theme or thought, and it does not matter if it is women(t) or men(t) that are being disrespectful. In my opinoin, when we act and think like those who we are talking or referencing in our postings perhaps we are all being a little men(t)al. ;>) Face it everyone, there are those on both sides of the gender pool that do this or have done this in the past. Perhaps even you or me. The reality is... it takes all kinds of people to make the world go around, and at some point in time, we may inevitably encounter someone like that. A lot of good people can hurt people and be rude at times, whether they are concious of it or not. The fact that we live in a self-fulfulling world where we are inundated with advertisments that extoll the benefits of having this or that or looking like this, etc. realy does not help the issues. Really, not matter what, we are all charged with the same basic laws of human dignity and decency - our personal responsibility of being courteous to others and treat everyone as we would personally like to be treated. Ho - hum, our world is flawed, as are men and women. No one is perfect, least of all me! "Why can't we all just get along?" | |
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| Why can't ment show respect for a women
Posted: 10/22/2006 4:13:29 PM | MSG 51 has some interesting thoughts. Class does make a difference and the differences are never so stark as when people hit the 40s. Younger than 40 you can be a stuggling genius. Over 40 you turn into an aging failure. The 40s is when people start counting the chips. The middle-class nightmare is in deep REM. The trailer parks stop being a mailing address and turn into a way of life. A new SUV pulls up to a light beside an '85 Dodge Pickup and the drivers look the other way. Kenny G is playing in one. Gretchen Wilson in the other. Okay so we see it? What does that have to do with respect, except that nobody in one class really respects anyone in the other?
What to do about it? Wait a while. Age is the great leveler. By 65 the other things don't matter so much. Anybody who lives to that age gets credit for at least that. The class struggle is over. | |
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| Why can't ment show respect for a women
Posted: 10/22/2006 4:16:50 PM | all reporting "no kids" (most often they dumped them), no education, and no history of marriage,...the fringe failures of the male world.
Hmm. Never finished college, but work in computers making close to 6-figures, own my own house, paid off in full by age 38, financially on track to retire by 55... never married/no kids (the first one I proposed to at 30, "sooo in love with me, we're gonna have a wonderful life together", cheated on me 3 weeks later; the 2nd, at 36, was seperated for 2+years when we met, had her own house, rather than divorce to continue with me "a wonderful guy", went back to "a**hole" (her name, not mine) "for the kids" - and is still unhappy in a love-less marriage)...
... glad to know that puts me on the "white trash"/"fringe failures of the male world" list. | |
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| Why can't ment show respect for a women
Posted: 10/22/2006 9:29:36 PM | "I had a lot of pimples too. One day I fell asleep in a library. I woke up and a blind girl was reading my face.".............Just No Respect At All !!!! | |
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| Why can't ment show respect for a women
Posted: 10/23/2006 8:31:03 AM | | What a retarded statement. No logic whatsoever. Re-think your evaluation of men and maybe you might attract a decent one. Your description of men puts us back to the caveman days, last time I checked it was 2006. | |
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| Why can't ment show respect for a women
Posted: 10/23/2006 9:18:14 AM | | Dear OT...T.O. "Time out" (men think they the only one that can do what and when they want) seems you with someone who you both dont see eye to eye. Now lets see here....STAY AND BE UNHAPPY WITH THE STATUS QUO......OR DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT... Your topic is...WHY CANT MEN RESPECT WOMEN????? MAYBE JUST MAYBE YOU A WOMEN WHO HAS NOT LEARNED TO RESPECT HERSELF 1st...Think about it. | |
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| Why can't ment show respect for a women
Posted: 10/23/2006 9:22:13 AM | If y'all think you're getting disrespected repeatedly, both in and out of relationships, remember to never take things personally. Nothing other people do is ever because of you. It's simply a projection of their reality. Heck, they probably have their own issues and insecurities to deal with. Haven't there been times when you handled things immaturely and ended up hurting other people? And how ridiculous would it be if you found out that they were obsessing that it was due to them? You know damn well that you did what you did because it's the best way you knew how to handle things.
So, in essence, don't take anything personally. Rarely does it have anything to with you. People do what they do because of who they are, not the other way around. And, remember, if they're treating you that way, they're probably treating other people just as badly, if not worse. There's absolutely no reason to take their poison and make it your own. It's theirs, and when they try to send it you, simply hurl it right back. | |
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| Why can't ment show respect for a women
Posted: 10/23/2006 10:13:57 AM | | for the same reason a yapping irritating little lap dog doesnt get respect. if you act like an animal that deserves respect youll get it. goes for men too. | |
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| Why can't ment show respect for a women
Posted: 10/23/2006 10:27:08 AM | That is the 1st time I've laughed all day so thank you for that!
Men can't show respect for women cause 90% of them don't even know how to spell it much less show it! | |
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| Why can't ment show respect for a women
Posted: 10/23/2006 11:26:33 AM | | Agreed Not all men are ***holes. There are nice compassionate guys out there. I agree with you fully, needs to get rid of the bitterness first. She needs to meet the right guy! | |
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