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| what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you
Posted: 10/16/2006 7:48:35 PM | imjust me
Are you seriously asking this question? So somewhere in your brain you believe that if you don't want to move in with a guy after knowing him for 5 hours that means you are emotionally closed off?
Who planted the seed in your mind and why did you water it and allow it to grow? I know you are a lot smarter than this and I don't even know you.
Here is a quote from your profile
i also want it to lead to marriage if you just wanta have fun and play games dont waste my time
But yet you entertain such thoughts as to let some stranger move in with you?
Totally defies logic. | |
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| what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you
Posted: 10/16/2006 7:48:49 PM | 5 hours Is ridiculous for both parties to even entertain the Idea. Id delete him ,and Id seek counselling for yourself as you state you've never been alone which makes It sound like youd grab anything rather than learn to be.
You will probably be alone for years unless you settle and divorce down the track as It seemed easier at the time than to stand alone. Most of us are single for years at this age untill we find the right one. If you need counselling to face this do so, theres no shame In seeking help.
But to even entertain this Idea or take It even somewhat like a serious option Is a severe cry for help. | |
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| what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you
Posted: 10/16/2006 9:24:52 PM |
what if you met someone who after 5 hours was talking about moving in with you.saying that he has feelings for you and so on.do you take this seriously or am i just emotionally closed off.
Pretty sure he's clingy... Ooor looking for a place to live. | |
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| what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you
Posted: 10/16/2006 9:40:08 PM |
what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you
Be thankful I never give out my address so readily.
But if I happened to give it out because... oh I don't know, let's say I was excessively intoxicated, then I'd have to get plastic surgery, change my name, consider the witness protection program. One way or the other, he's not finding me again. | |
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| what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you
Posted: 10/16/2006 9:52:00 PM | | THANK YOU for saying this......Why would a grown azz woman ask a dumb azz question like this. I ain't mad at him.......SHE is the one with issues for not cussing him out as soon as he formed his mouth to ASK!!!!!!!!!!! Lord have mercy woman....you make it bad for the rest of us. GEEZZZZZZ! | |
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| what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you
Posted: 10/17/2006 10:32:48 AM | what if you met someone who after 5 hours was talking about moving in with you.saying that he has feelings for you and so on.do you take this seriously or am i just emotionally closed off.
Closed off?? Maybe to oxygen 
Seriously, I'd freak if a guy start talking about moving in after 5 months... just hope I might be a little more open after five years.... but five friggin HOURS??? You wouldn't see me for dust 
Stay away from that guy - if he does have a brain, he's using it to take advantage of you, if not, well I don't know how you feel about brainless men.
The biggest problem here is that you would even question whether there is something wrong with YOU. I would also wonder why this would not be a major turn off for you.
I'm sitting here hoping this was a joke and she's laughing her butt off somewhere. Was thinking the same... | |
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| what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you
Posted: 10/17/2006 10:37:12 AM | | Being controversal as I can be at times . I am going to play devils advocate here. Maybe the guy truly has deep feelings toward you that go beyond lustful urges . True most great relationships are based on friendships . This could be the one that is truly a shooting star . That said if you do not have that type of feeling for the gent than all bets are off. But in cases where these relationships might have happened [ i am sure they have]. Who are we to judge . Some may have flourished some may have not | |
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| what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you
Posted: 10/17/2006 10:44:13 AM | Devil's advocate! Even if he were to have been totally love struck and fallen in love at first sight... and whatever, you do not meet a woman and the same day talk about moving in with her... that is totally and utterly crazy. He could also be some total weirdo of a nutcase taking advantage of an innocent, soft-hearted woman. RUN lady RUN!
BTW, are you REALLY the Devil's advocate because you're doing an excellent job | |
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| what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you
Posted: 10/18/2006 6:21:52 PM | I would say it's a mixture. He's jumping the gun & maybe you are a little closed off.
Difficult to say, since I don't know you, but for you to think of this, rather than just
blame him, leads me to suspect that you are subconciously aware that you might
have a problem there. He is probably just afraid you'll get away, if he isnt quick.
Do you remeber the first time you fell in love?  
It's like being struck by lightning! And I'm sure you heard many well-meaning idiots
telling you to slow down. But, you knew it felt right.
But now, as an adult who has undoubtedly had your heart broken, you have
to some extent, learned to insulate your feelings. We all do it, out of self-
defense. But, unless you learn to let those shields down, you will never be able to
recognize love, when you are lucky enough to find it again. Walls are very good at
keeping things out, but they can't differentiate. They keep out EVERYTHING.
Pain, sorrow, sadness, but also joy, happiness & Love.
I read your original post & then went back to it, after reading all the responses.
I think you know what is really in your heart & how you should respond in this
situation. But you are unsure of yourself, which is why you asked for other
people's opinions. But you are the one who will have to live the consequences
of your actions, or inaction. It's easy to be objective, when it ain't you!
Good luck to you, whatever you decide. | |
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| what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you
Posted: 10/19/2006 6:50:21 AM | But, unless you learn to let those shields down, you will never be able to
recognize love, when you are lucky enough to find it again. Walls are very good at
keeping things out, but they can't differentiate. They keep out EVERYTHING.
Pain, sorrow, sadness, but also joy, happiness & Love.
Yeah Michaelann, and some walls keep freaks out appartment walls for example! Doesn't it strike you as a tad .... even a TAD **inappropriate** (putting it mega-mildly) that a man even CONSIDERS moving in with a woman five hours after meeting her?
If the guy suddenly fell in love with the woman, wouldn't he want to romance her, get to know her, get close to her, yes... even dream about her... why would one of his first objectives (after 5 hours of meeting her), be to LIVE with the lady... whether he's homeless or not, he's definitely lacking something vital to mental health... this is NOT normal behaviour!!
I think you know what is really in your heart
I don't, but I certainly hope if you desire to stay with this guy, you'll follow your head instead.
It's easy to be objective, when it ain't you!
Exactly, and we ain't you, so follow our heads instead!
And as for Mike919etc!
Nobody ever said he's not "the one", did they? Huh? You're reading much too deeply into these here posts  | |
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