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| what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you
Posted: 2/5/2007 4:00:28 PM | Ok it's too tempting not to say something......what the hell are you thinking? Are you that desperate to have someone else in your life you consider it DIFFICULT saying no to someone you don't know?????
1) could pose a threat you and your family
2) have such low self esteem you'll consider doing something so incredibley stupid that the rest of the people on this site keep screaming at you to RUN
3) I really suggest you get some councelling and figure out why you would even consider this!!!
We are all strangers to you and yet feel compelled to help you sort this out...it's not the same thing as letting a stranger move in with you....please see the difference!!! | |
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| what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you
Posted: 2/5/2007 4:22:45 PM | I had to comment on this one.
For one or for me..................I'm like "ARE YOU CRAZY....HELL NO"
Lack of independency??? Your probably one of a thousands that he said that too!
Next word..............LOSER! I mean, if you meet a guy and 5 hours after! Come on now!
I think this guy needs to get a life and get a job! Sounds like he's a user and a loafer!!
Word of advice..........you should not talk to this guy anymore. I mean, if you are
a smart person. You should know that a relationship is a give and take situation! | |
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wink
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Joined: 12/3/2006
Msg: 180 | |
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j5rush
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Joined: 4/13/2006
Msg: 182 | |
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| what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you
Posted: 2/7/2007 9:55:48 AM | Talking about moving in w/me after 5 hours of meeting me, would do nothing but make me want to run (far!) I don't see anyone having strong feelings for anyone unless they are just wanting a place to live, a place to sleep, a place to get 3 meals a day and sex... emotionally unattached no matter what they say... if they are ready to move in after 5 hours, they are very ready to use you for all its worth...  | |
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| what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you
Posted: 2/7/2007 11:25:42 AM | I had a guy like that one time. As it turns out, everything he told me about himself (even what he was doing for a living-how many times he had been married-I'm not even sure he used his real name) was a lie so he had to get in quick before I found out. He just lives off women. Once he was in the home he could kind of control the woman and what she found out and then when she caught on, he would just move on to the next one. And unfortunately there is always another lonely woman to take advantage of. He went through several in my town until word got out and then he moved on. Got a call a couple of weeks ago from someone who was worried about their Aunt who was currently living with him. They thought he was trying to kill her for life insurance money.
This guy may be that way also. So run for your life. I never take anyone at face value anymore, until I know them a little better. That lady on the other thread who checks her dates out first may have the right idea. | |
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| what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you
Posted: 2/11/2007 5:02:49 PM | Well I think you are right on that one.. cause a friend of mine .. met a guy online. they spoke online and on the phone for about six months or so.. they never met in person.. and this guy wanted to Move from Arizona to move in with her.. ASAP ..  OMG .. I told her to lock the doors.. change her phone number .. and forget this guy .. | |
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| what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you
Posted: 2/11/2007 7:56:21 PM | | Couldnt have said it any better myself! GET A GRIP!My ex just let a "friend" she met on the net move in after I explained all the things to her in this forum. She didnt listen. Two weeks later he was arrested at her house on outstanding warrents. He was also approached with the warning--"could be armed and dangerous". She still insists he is a "great guy", and said that him and his family have not said one negative thing about him. DUH!!!!!!!! Trouble is ---my 4 year old son lives there--so now its my problem too. You're 39----act like it!! | |
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| what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you
Posted: 2/11/2007 8:23:19 PM | If you let this guy move in, you are going to miss out on Dating, the courting, going out, being taken to cool events and getting to know each other, it is going to go from a hand shake to you doing his laundry, cooking cleaning and shopping. You are not only short changing yourself, you are putting yourself at risk and your children. This guy might be a child molester and cant wait to rape your little ones.
Charm, looks, wit and all of the intelligence in the world can cover up a real criminal.
DONT BE STUPID tell him to get a grip tell him to ask you out on a date, then ask us if you should go, you could end up losing everything.
Besides the daing part is the fun part, once you move in together, all the romance fades and life can slip into a rut of work, TV, bills and errands with no time to go out somewhere nice.
Get to know someone first, dont settle, dont take the first invitation you get, have strength, dont settle... BIG RED FLAG, what is the big hurry? Does he have kids and need a baby sitter?
Take all of the advice you asked for and dont do it. | |
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| what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you
Posted: 2/11/2007 8:40:33 PM | | You're not seriously asking this question, are you??? Any man (or woman for that matter) that is talking about moving in after just 5 hours of chatting just got notice from their landlord that they're being evicted. Please don't allow yourself to be used. You seem like a nice person. | |
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| what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you
Posted: 2/11/2007 9:34:04 PM | | Having been in this situation i can tell you what I did. I told her no I did not know her well enough. And cut thing off right there. the next day I called her and told her that I did not feel the connection she did not to call anymore. After the third time she called me I told if she kept it up i would get a restaining order. then she left me alone. Not a fun position to be in for any one. Good luck. | |
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