| When she complained about the toilet seat, is it over ?.
Posted: 7/4/2008 3:51:11 PM | Re the Opost
IMO as long as the toilet seat/stool is clean, inside and out, there is no need to keep the cover/lid closed. A toilet is part of life!
If the toilet seat is up. all one has to do is lower it and sit!
Of course IME difference of opinion in matters like that can contribute or be used as an excuse/proxy for more fundamental divergence of "philosophy" between a couple. An ex used to say that Feng Sui dictated the cover to be closed! It was the Feng Sui and other such philosophies of hers that caused the eventual rift, not the cover of the toilet seat!
PS. One solution is for us men to start siting while we take a pee, so that we "equalise" things!! lol
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| When she complained about the toilet seat, is it over ?.
Posted: 7/4/2008 4:02:08 PM | Some guys live too long without being around women. But i have noticed with some of my friends that they seem to start doing the ol forgetting to put the toilet seat down trick when the relationship starts to wear thin, after all, a happy woman does not have a wet ass in the middle of the nite  | |
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| When she complained about the toilet seat, is it over ?.
Posted: 7/4/2008 4:54:59 PM | You know.....some people need to learn HOW to argue.
Also, BOTH lids should be down when one is flushing - so both people have to lift and close the lid anyway.
Sheesh.
And the fact that guys do that trick above just goes to show that they don't know how to communicate their issues (men are not the only ones who are guilty). I wonder if these guys also harp on how they want a woman that doesn't think he is a mind reader? Seems somewhat contradictory to ask for someone like that, when you're playing the toilet lid game....lol | |
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| When she complained about the toilet seat, is it over ?.
Posted: 7/4/2008 7:52:30 PM | I have a 14 year old son. When I see he left the seat up. I say that's my boy! At least he picks up the seat when he tinkles so his sisters do not have to sit on a damp toilet seat!
Arguing over a toilet seat which is either up or down 
How about leaving the seat down with saran wrap over the porcelain makes an interesting end to that topic | |
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| When she complained about the toilet seat, is it over ?.
Posted: 7/4/2008 8:22:28 PM | | I won't live with a man too stupid to put the toilet seat down. Babies have drown in toilets, that should be reason enough, but animals fall in, things like combs, etc. fall in...feces & urine spray out and get on everything in the bathroom, including your toothbrush and doorknob. There is no excuse for both men & women to not put the lid down on the toilet and open it when they need to use it then put the lid back down before they flush. Any child can grasp this concept. There are also Clorox wipes in the bathroom, if you miss or make a mess of some sort, clean it up and then wash your hands thoroughly, I have no time for a man so inept that he doesn't already know all these things and do them. | |
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| When she complained about the toilet seat, is it over ?.
Posted: 7/4/2008 10:51:08 PM | | Think about this. The seat has two positions. . Women need it for sitting,men for peeing. If the men are expected to have to lift it up to use it, then the women should be expected to put it down to use it. Only fair. | |
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| When she complained about the toilet seat, is it over ?.
Posted: 7/5/2008 4:35:05 AM | OBXchick wrote: "And FYI recent studies have shown that it's best to put both seat and lid DOWN before flushing, because flushing with the lid up flings all kinds of lovely bacteria into the air, which you are breathing."
^^^^^I think that's all that needs to be said. End of argument. | |
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| When she complained about the toilet seat, is it over ?.
Posted: 7/5/2008 6:42:10 AM | Guessing it looks tidier down, guess it does not splash when flushed if it is down (well that is what it is for afterall) for both sexes. (dont men use the seat when they are sitting?)
But there is too much going on in my life to give a dam.
So men if she is bored enough to be mentioning the toilet lid, then you just not doing something right in that relationship N E X T  | |
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| When she complained about the toilet seat, is it over ?.
Posted: 7/5/2008 7:20:37 AM | | A toilet seat is not the beginning of the end (unless it’s one that the aerospace industry creates for the government at six million dollars a pop). However, a lack of consideration for your partner can slowly ring the death knell to a relationship. We all must choose our battles wisely, but we should also rethink old patterns of behavior when choosing to live with another person. If frozen Snickers are his favorite treat in the world, then I am going to be considerate enough of him not to hog down the last one. If he enjoys puttering in the garage, then I’ll make sure I don’t pull my car up too close and block his tool box. He knows that I don’t appreciate a “splash down” into bacterial infested waters if I have to use the commode in the middle of the night, so he puts the lid down. Get it? It’s all about taking the other person into consideration. These are not dramatic life altering changes. They’re truly “the little things that count”. | |
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| When she complained about the toilet seat, is it over ?.
Posted: 7/5/2008 9:36:25 AM | I believe in equality between the sexes.
When I use a toilet, I look where the seat is, and put it up or down for how I intend to use it.
Since I don't consider women to be intellectually inferior to men, there's no logical reason they can't do the same, and to imply they can't, is sexist.
That said.
Have I ever needed to use the toilet when the seat needed to be down, but it was up, and I was too lazy to pay attention, and ended up in the water?
Yes I have. LOL
But it was MY FAULT because I didn't look to see where the seat was.
Not the fault of the person who used it before me. | |
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| When she complained about the toilet seat, is it over ?.
Posted: 7/5/2008 10:16:51 AM | | I think the issue of "seat up" or "seat down" is a regional one, as far as awareness goes. People in the North and Midwest tend to sit without looking, while I have noticed that people in the South always look before they sit. I'm talking in general, not that I have watched them do this on the commode, mind you. Maybe it's because scorpions are more prevalent here... | |
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| When she complained about the toilet seat, is it over ?.
Posted: 7/5/2008 2:30:58 PM |
^^^^^I think that's all that needs to be said. End of argument.
Yeah well I said that twice already.....
Logical answers don't fly on here. I post something logical on a thread and you can hear the crickets....no one has a response or a question - zip. | |
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| When she complained about the toilet seat, is it over ?.
Posted: 7/5/2008 4:21:26 PM | Great point wild heart!!! BOTH of them, lol
The OP's point of fatigue in the relationship first showing itself via intolerance of small matters is accurate IMO. The first thing to go in a relationship is our willingness to cut each other slack and flexibility in making small adjustments and compromises.
My fellow and I have no issue with toilet seats, however, I do notice potential incompatibility around how the T.P. is hung. He, being a bottom roller and I, a top roller. To acknowledge the time honoured tradition of coupledom bathroom wars, I began a subversive campaign of changing the T.P. around to hang the "right" way whenever I was at his place. Although he has commented a few times at my *giggling* in the bathroom he did not say one word about my territorial infringement on his toilet paper roll. This, naturally, frustrated me to no end and I was stymied by his stubbornness at not acknowledging my shenanigans. One day it dawned on me that perhaps, rather than showing superior and admirable restraint, it was that he HADN'T noticed. The more I pondered that possibility, the more likely it seemed. This is, of course, my feeble justification for why I blinked first and broke rank by ASKING him if he had noticed. Dayum, I hate it when I do that... now the joke's on me. | |
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| When she complained about the toilet seat, is it over ?.
Posted: 7/5/2008 8:35:15 PM | It's not necessarily a big deal to you, if you leave the seat up or down, but to a woman, its a respect thing. And to a person who is compulsively organized, its a whole different matter entirely.
If I go to a guys' house, a repair shop, or a place that is predominantly male oriented, after I lower the seat, do my business, I then put the seat to the position I found it in, which is usually up.
If your thinking says "if I have to lift and lower, she can too", then that shows a HUGE lack of respect. I can see maybe forgetting once in a while, but deliberately doing something like that is just a huge display of immaturity.
If that was the way you would have treated me, then I wouldn't have stuck around another 2 years. I would have bolted and found someone who was more mature and respectful.
Perhaps if you are that adamant about leaving the seat up, you should add a urinal to your next house...
CowTrucker
Chapman, Kansas | |
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| When she complained about the toilet seat, is it over ?.
Posted: 7/5/2008 8:42:19 PM | its a hygiene thing for me so the lid and cover is down here though im trying to teach my boys to not be so LAZY and put it down for hygiene's sake
but this isnt about up or down but more about how the communication about it is coming across
i mean if kept nagging and nagging in a rotten way, i wouldn't blame anyone for wanting to walk out! although usually if you bicker .. its a natural instinct for the other to bicker back
kinda like animals.. one snaps at the other and the other snaps back, it resolves nothing
so ask nicely and the other should kindly respect it
i can't believe some would fight over a freakin' toilet | |
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| When she complained about the toilet seat, is it over ?.
Posted: 7/5/2008 9:05:54 PM | It was a sign that it was over because it was a sign that you were becoming inconsiderate in the relationship. Some partners get lazy after they're sure that they've bagged the game. For these types, courtesies and extra efforts are a shallow plot to "win over" and are not inherent to their character. Did you bother to put the seat down in the beginning of the relationship?
I wonder if your ex had a voice on this forum, would leaving the toilet seat up be the only growing sign of inconsideration? Can you imagine how gross it is to have your most intimate parts immersed in foul toilet water? | |
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| When she complained about the toilet seat, is it over ?.
Posted: 7/5/2008 9:20:14 PM | I rate you as an inconsiderate clod.
Flushing a toilet with a seat up is disgusting. It throws water laden with countless bacteria into the air and onto everything within several feet. Please do not ask to use my bathroom y0u filthy pig. She is lucky to be rid of your neanderthal rearend. | |
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| When she complained about the toilet seat, is it over ?.
Posted: 7/5/2008 9:27:57 PM | Its is just being sweet, but not having been brought up in a family what fussed about such things ..... my entrance into the "real" world including sharing a b. room with women at work, was a rude awakening. I have been ****ed at so much for not always putting the seat down, although I do wipe up spots. Then some womans teenage son or nephew comes in and pees on the seat so I have to wipe and clean off if I want to use. What Ialso hate is the gal who dosent care she uses all the toothpaste in 4 days, t.paper a roll a day or more, and leaves everything a mess for me. Or throws out the t. paste cap so it dries out or leaves a quarter to a half inch of baby powder in the shower stall for me to slip and almost break something stepping on.
After a while ****ing and them not paying attention, I figure it is just a test of my faith whether to leave them over that, which it wouldnt be right and I would be wrong in the site of God for doing so...... And you just cant beat em either!!!! lol. | |
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