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| How many dates have you had of the Internet and still remain single?
Posted: 10/17/2006 1:36:08 PM | I have been using online dating for about 5 years....In the first 3 1/2 years I had 100s of first meets, and 5 "clicks"....3 of those were married, 1 moved to California and the other fizzled.
In the year and 1/2 I have been here, I haven't had very many guys who actually want to meet face to face. In an experiment running for 4 months, I had a "dating" ad up and talked to literally 100s of guys, was on 200 favourites lists etc. Not even ONE of those guys would meet in person.
It is pretty easy to remain single when no one will meet in person. | |
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| How many dates have you had of the Internet and still remain single?
Posted: 10/17/2006 3:17:56 PM | Well I am still rather new here and have not yet had a first encounter never mind a "date"...lol
I have to agree with a previous poster who said
It is pretty easy to remain single when no one will meet in person. I am still single/alone but deffinately not lonely. | |
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| How many dates have you had of the Internet and still remain single?
Posted: 10/17/2006 3:32:09 PM | | I've met one woman on this site, and her schedule is so off-kilter, we may at times chat, but I don't consider really having a date with her. Not much chemistry between me and her. The others I've occasionally e-mailed who just want penpals if it is long distance. No one else local has ever contacted me back. I've written a good 30 women who seemed interesting, and none ever respond to their e-mail. It is like they are here just to have fun on the forums, even though their profile says they want a relationship. Oh well, I won't stop looking, but it is discouraging there are so many who seriously have no idea how rude they are. I'll remain happily single until something changes. | |
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| How many dates have you had of the Internet and still remain single?
Posted: 10/17/2006 6:35:15 PM |
I just worked out that I have had -
26 first meets (stood up once),
11 second dates
5 went to third dates (you can usually tell by date 3 if it's going to work eh?)
2 that I dated longer
one of whom turned out to be married (a long & not very pretty story)....
the other has become a really good friend.
Total 44
I think this is consistant with how things generally go with dating. It shows how darn difficult it can be to meet the person who is "right for you"...add to this the other challenge: they have to also be into you as well... | |
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Joined: 10/12/2006
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| How many dates have you had of the Internet and still remain single?
Posted: 10/17/2006 9:10:56 PM | I met a guy the first day I started my profile from POF. This was the first time I ever met anyone like this, We are now very much in love and plan on moving in together very soon. We want the same things out of life and couldnt get along better. Hes wonderful to my kids and so wonderful to me also so my advise would be to stay on this website and good luck to everyone. | |
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| How many dates have you had of the Internet and still remain single?
Posted: 10/18/2006 12:18:59 AM | | No dates from POF. I was single for the first time in many years in 2001. I started dating in late 2002. I entered a long distance relationship with an incredible woman I met online but things ultimately did not work out. After that ended I've dated off and on in spurts. I've had four dates in the last six months. Things have been slow lately... | |
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| How many dates have you had of the Internet and still remain single?
Posted: 10/18/2006 5:55:42 AM | If I remember correctly, I first joined this site around this time last year.
In that time I've had four dates... Two didn't get past the first date, one made it to a third date (I just wasn't feeling it... we still keep in contact and are friends, though), and one will be making it to the third fairly soon.
I could have gone out with more guys, but I just seem to attract a lot of ones that aren't very smart and that's my number one turn off. | |
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| How many dates have you had of the Internet and still remain single?
Posted: 10/18/2006 6:30:48 AM | I've met 3 people over the last 12 months off various dating sites, and NONE of those dates came to anything. Reasons being that they A: were NOT really over their ex! B: Very insecure and jumpy, and C: I wasnt the only guy they had going on the side . And the rest have all been players who just love attention from more than one guy, you know the kind that says she wants a guy but then leads on about 100 lol. Dating online is very real, and they are some great people out there, but sadly this is a world full of fakes aint it? Which means logically that you'll get more online than what you'd usually get in your own offline life. Gotta be so careful, and I'm still looking for someone online. Maybe oneday I'll get what I'm looking for? | |
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| How many dates have you had of the Internet and still remain single?
Posted: 10/18/2006 4:29:57 PM | Thanks everyone for the Input. At times I start thinking Its Only me who's found this
But I know Its not really as you talk to so many on msn ect and everyone has the same tales to tell.
Fieryredhead - Yes mine have pretty much all been one date wonders as well, and I know from the first minute this Is not where I want to be  | |
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Joined: 9/22/2004
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| How many dates have you had of the Internet and still remain single?
Posted: 10/18/2006 4:41:56 PM | Long ago when I was interested in dating I met about 7-8 guys in person (not sure exactly). Most were ok guys, just no mutual interest in a 2nd date. a couple I did date twice, but kinda wished I had stayed home to scrub the toilet instead.
One guy was a LUNATIC.
And I dated one for almost a year.
Since I've been on this site 2 yrs now, I'm not looking for dates, only fun friends around the world to chat with. | |
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| How many dates have you had of the Internet and still remain single?
Posted: 10/18/2006 4:57:43 PM | 7 all from another site.
1 was a drunk who lived with mom and dad.
1 said everything would be his way or the highway.
1 has no time for me.
1 wanted to get married after 1 date.
1 was cute, a little short but we hit it off but he never called again like he said he would.
1 became a great friend.
1 only wanted money.... you have my heart but you can not afford to keep me..... lol
Still single, but enjoying it more. | |
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| How many dates have you had of the Internet and still remain single?
Posted: 10/18/2006 6:34:50 PM | So far no action on this site other than a few messages.
In general, over the past six year maybe a dozen or so dates and one rushed marriage that lasted ten months. You don't abuse my daughter and get another chance. (Well you don't abuse my daughter for several months and get another chance and now you do it once you'll have a restraining order.) Most of the dates have been positive, some are friends but no perfect match yet. I go through stages. Sometimes I want to date just to date and nothing further. Other times I'm ready to get serious but haven't made the connection. It's no different than off line dating except that there are more trash pros working the sidelines. | |
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| How many dates have you had of the Internet and still remain single?
Posted: 10/18/2006 10:40:37 PM | Wow. Not sure if I should put the info out there or not? I do not want to scare off my true match due to my stats.
I am upper middle class across the range of looks, income, intelligence, and stature. I have a passive personality that makes me get along with anyone. So I seem to be able to attract and date most women I have an attraction to. (less the ones that are in their own little worlds) I have dated from the Internet dating sites since March 2003 and dated someone new once or twice a week and sometime less for a few years or so. (and a lot less lately) Most were in the same age range as me. Some older some younger. Out of the 100 dates or so I met only one or two who were not up to parr. The problem seems to be issues such as distance. I live in Indianapolis. Most are Chicago, IL, Louisville, KY, Cincinnati, OH, most are 3 hour drives. I noticed that long distant connections have sex on the first date. (lol) and good for 3 or 4 dates before the distance issue becomes too much and not enough commitment on either site to make a full commitment. At that point you become an IM pen pal. With the occasional tease of them driving up or down. (I had one or two of them who booty call me at 3 am in the mornings and drive 4 hours to hook up for a night) I have dated Doctors and Surgeons who always seems to be 8 to 10 years older than me but are still absolutely trim and gorgeous. But something makes me do the math and not take too seriously but not totally count out. (usually I wait long enough that some other guy a few months later does take the bait from them) I would not had any problem marrying 75% of the women I have dated.
Women come and go..... They date others.......... They date others and then run back to me for open dating when they break up two months later? There is a lot of women who love the fact that I am not clingy and not a stalker type. The more I date the more I figure out what I do and do not want out of a relationship. I look back at my past to maybe figure out the future. My first wife was identical in looks and mannerisms to Shannon Tweed (quasi married to Gene Simmons of Kiss) and my marriage was great for 10 years or so. My second wife was similar to Brook Burkes (VH1 fame) and things were great for many years. (Both later an after the divorce wanted to come back. I have a solid rule that I do not let 2x cheaters return) So a attractive woman with personality would top the list. I have dated one woman now for some time who is quite attractive and is as sweet as can be: but is addicted to prescription drugs to an extreme level that keeps me at a distance at most times. (she can do a real life drugged up impression of Anna Nacole Smith during the awards show saying " IIImmmmmmmmm Bbbbbbbbbbeeeeeaaaaaaaaaatttttttttttttttiiiiiiiiiffffffffffuuuuuuuuuulllllll) Bottom line is I do not know how people ever found a mate before the Internet? Truth is I get the feeling they made a lot more compromises that we are unwilling to do today!  | |
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| How many dates have you had of the Internet and still remain single?
Posted: 10/18/2006 11:27:03 PM | Been dating online since last July. I have only met 12 people. One I dated for 2 months in a long distance relationship and the rest were just the wrong people. Some called and showed interest and one actually dumped me via email because he felt by our 5th date we should have been sleeping together.
Like you OP, I go through dating phases. I will go out on a few dates and then take a break for a few months, then get back into the dating game again. | |
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| How many dates have you had of the Internet and still remain single?
Posted: 10/18/2006 11:27:50 PM | Ok, first of all, I am a BBW, I make no secret of that, all my pics are current. Because I am big, I'M NOT unlovable, although I know everyone has preferences. OK, now having said that....I am on this site, as it is free, and a BBW lovers site, that I pay for. I have done the online dating think on and off for a few years. I update my profile, get interested again, and jump in feet first! So I date for about 2 or 3 moths, get disappointed, stop for 3 months, start again, get disillusioned again... u see the pattern.
I start by chating online a few times, giving a few my e mail address and Yahoo messenger name so we can chat. Then phone calls, for awile, which graduates into a meeting for coffee or a drink in a mutual place where we both drive ourselves, so no one feels obligated, as I understand, not everyone has chemistry, so even if it is all good, it just might not click.
I have been on at least 75 internet dates, in about 4 years. That may seem like alot, but in the grand scheme, it's really not.
There is the first category, those who either don't post a picture, or those who post a picture that is more than 5 yrs old. These are in the same category, because it is almost the same offense. Who doesn't have a camera phone these days? A digital camera? A FRIEND with one, c'mon, step into the new millenium!
The second category is the people who are using the web as a new way to cheat, or at least an added tool in their a***nal. These people are offensive, because it isn't fair to either party involved to be a "third" of a relationship. Make a clean break and date, of u can't for WHATEVER REASON, don't leave, suck it up, and stay in there. U can't have it both ways.
The third category is the workaholic. They are so busy, they don't have time to date, so they look online between clients, or when they are alone in thier office at 9PM, sending u a great e-mail, but realizing they aren't dating because they are married to their job. This isn't fair to anyone u may date, because u will without a doubt, have to cancel or reschedule your date, and expect your partner to accept a date that starts at 10:30 on a Tuesday nite.
The fourth category is the honest person, who may be a little shy, a little less gorgeous than others, but because of the other three categories, they get passed by. They have a recent picture, they are truthful about what they want, no hidden agendas. They are honest with u when they talk to you, and they seem like fun.
CAN I PLEASE MEET THIS GUY?? I MEAN REALLY, I KNOW U ARE OUT THERE.
BUT SERIOUSLY, what has happened to our society that has made it OK to lie, cheat and steal to get laid, then move on the the next victim? | |
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