twbtin
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Joined: 9/26/2006
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 12/26/2006 6:37:10 AM | yes.........not all of us on this site are looking for multiple "friendships". My goal is to find a woman with similiar features as myself and the feeling of wanting to be together is reciprical at that piont I would leave.
Multiple "friendships" is complicated and in my opinion is still immoral, unless that is what you want and your partner(s) agrees.
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 12/26/2006 7:20:35 AM | Unfortunately that seems to be the case with both men AND women on these sites. No one seems to want to focus on the person they are with and nurture the relationship. They are always concerned that there is "something better" out there for them.
Honestly,....these types are very scary. These are the ones who say they want relationships and say all the right things, but they are always open to finding that "better" thing.
Personally....anytime I'm dating someone I focus on that person and give it a chance to develop. If it doesn't work, then I may resume the dating, but I always appreciate what I have. | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 12/26/2006 7:30:12 AM | I posted on this thread back in October. I would now like to crawfish on what I said then. Yes , I would still leave, if she required it of me. But, thankfully, I don't think she will.
Let me explain; I've met a lady on here that I really like, and she seems to feel the same. Too early to be sure,though,hence no change to profile yet. She really likes the forums too. I think that, if we do get together, look out forums. As we will be a formidable team. Anyway, I look forward to seeing what happens, with "Breathless Anticipation". Now she knows who I'm talking about, FOR SURE. | |
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kame
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Joined: 11/7/2006
Msg: 130 | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 12/26/2006 3:46:44 PM | | i totally agree that if and when you find someone you like, its time to come off the site, why would you want to carry on searching? surely you would want to devote all your free time and energy to the person you meet, if it doesnt work out then it doesnt take much to join again. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2006 4:37:32 PM | | Yep 100 percent gone forever. However that will also happen when I am with them everyday in person living together 100 percent. | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 12/26/2006 4:49:15 PM | | I think it would be a decision to be made between the 2 of us. I do enjoy the forums, so if he was 100% comfy with it, I MAY keep my profile but make it state very clearly I was taken. If it made him uncomfy in any way, I'd have no prob giving it up completely either. I also feel that if the profiles are kept, once in a while we should open it up while together so the other sees exactly what's on our page. Not so much a trust issue, just for that added security. If nothing wrong is being done, I see no issue with having your partner see your emails. As long as you both know it, not sneaking around trying to check on one another. I do pose a question though, well a couple questions actually. At what point is it appropriate to bring up the subject of being exclusive (ie: changing profiles)? One good date?...Two?...a Month?...what? Also HOW is the best way to bring up the subject without seeming as though you're pushing or accusing? Happy fishing!! | |
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mykewl
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Joined: 9/9/2006
Msg: 135 | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 12/28/2006 11:08:39 AM | god yes.. I would give up the personals. Why would I want my man to feel that I was still seeking others? I would want him to know that if I left the personals that he was SPECIAL and I want to invest ALL my time and effort into SOLELY finding out all about him and what we could develop. It is too easy to be distracted by the amount of mail that people recieve on here. You are pulled so many different directions. So many wanting to befriend or date you. I would give it up to let my heart have a chance to explore the possibility of ultimate happiness.
I have went off the site several times just to give that person my full attention. Not to give him any reason to question my true intention of getting to know him.
Sure it is tough we all like the candy stores. But when you find someone who is sweet.. you sort of don't need that variety of the candy store to satisfy you..
Here's to finding some real candy  | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 12/28/2006 10:33:26 PM | I'm with you MetalQueen!
I think us women will give it up in a heartbeat and some men are willing too but most men will not.
For some reason it is an obsession or they think it is the end, it will leave them. 
I mean if it doesn't work out we can all come back and run our ads again so what is the big deal with deleting the ads and giving the relationship a chance? I think it shows where their heart is.
I ran in to this problem not long ago, in fact 2 weeks ago and I dumped him! I know I made the right choice.
Funny it was him telling me how he wanted to be with me all the time, drawn to me always doing the talking.
I deleted my ad and I was told "I can leave my ad inactive and not go to it and it not bother me" Nothing about deleting it. Ok so I deleted him.
I refuse to play games with anyone and let myself get hurt so I got out and reran my ad.  I want someone who is real with me. | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 1/23/2007 11:10:20 AM | I have no problem dropping the personals for the right man question is Will He? So I will wait on Him, seems the men like to keep their ad going just to see what's out there always thinking they will find something better, they feel they will miss out on something if they delete their ad.
So in return why should we delete ours if he is not willing to delete his, just a bunch of games on his part. He thinks a fairytale princess is going to come along while we accepted his frog ass self and faults. | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 1/24/2007 7:14:49 AM | In reply to msg # 22
If you have to get to the point of delivering ultimatums...about anything...someone is not listening
Especially, that early on in a relationship.
Is not attuned to your frequency!
It ain't gonna get better with time!
Live love laugh n learn....heavy on the learn!!!!
Better luck next time.
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 1/24/2007 7:23:31 AM | "Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??"
It's not that simple. Rarely do you meet someone that just "clicks" for you in one or 2 meetings. Rather, you'll meet someone who is a nice hiking/activity friend and you'll go on outings and stuff for months. I think people (myself included) are just afraid to commit themselves so quickly. During that whole time you'll be wondering "does he like me?" and "do I like him as 'more than a friend'?" Various problems will manifest themselves, such as DISTANCE, so while you're seeing this person you'll be wondering 'what if there is someone who lives 5 miles away who is also a 'good friend'? | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 1/24/2007 9:44:02 PM | If I found a great dude that was %100 into me and I him... I love the forums here so I would ask if that was ok if I could keep my profile up....I would post who he was and how lucky I was to find him. I have seen profiles on here of others who have found an awesome partner and state that they are only here for the forums...and state who they are with...posting pics of each other....so cute and gives so much hope that you can find someone on here. I would love to share with the world my great find and pass on that inspiration. | |
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