| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 2/6/2007 11:36:08 PM | | Yeah (I would give up the personals)! Wasn't that the original purpose? Find the perfect match, have fun together, be totally "compatable" with each other, spend quality time and finally fall in love with each other...? Or am I the only one who is "delusional"??? LOL! | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 2/9/2007 3:12:38 AM |
if you feel the need to keep looking at the opposite sex on this site then obviously you are not totally happy with who you are with and are hoping that maybe someone better may come along, if thats so then you are not being fair to yourself or the person you are with.
No I would not remove myself from here - and it is not because I am looking for somebody better. I have met lots of interesting people through this site and I would not cut them off just because I had entered into a relationship.
There is also an issue of trust here..... My partner will want me to trust her and so she will have to trust me! I have alot of female (and male friends) and I would not give any one of them up for a partner. If I am in a relationship, I am committed solely to that relationship and my partner would have to trust me. If she couldn't......... well you know the rest!
Who knows what the future holds??? You could meet a future business partner, or drinking / golf buddy through here.... No-one said that this site is solely for dating. | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 2/9/2007 3:38:33 AM | The issue of trust is interesting....say your online with a friend you have been emailing since before your current relationship..
Then all of a sudden this old friend makes overtones that they would like to begin a more meaningful relationship with you. You have know them long before you met the love of your life...if the current relationship is work ........yet you don't want to blow a wonderful relationship online by rejecting their invitation...
What do you do?
(not happening to me but a friend of mine} | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 2/9/2007 4:23:40 AM | | If I found the right one to be with and the one for me,I would definately give up the personal sites that I am on.I think that alot of people stick to them after finding someone because they are insecure or thinking that it isnt gonna work out.So instead of working to make it work out,they just keep the personal site too.That isnt good. | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 2/11/2007 1:01:12 AM |
Then all of a sudden this old friend makes overtones that they would like to begin a more meaningful relationship with you. You have know them long before you met the love of your life...if the current relationship is work ........yet you don't want to blow a wonderful relationship online by rejecting their invitation...
What do you do?
This is an easy one - If I was in a comitted relationship, I would deflect the advances of the second person, (note I said deflect, NOT reject). If this online person was any sort of friend then they would know that I was in a relationship anyway. And the chances of "blowing" this friendship are fairly remote if the frienship is "wonderful" as you put it.
This has actually happened to me (not online) and to this day I am still close friends with the girl who made the advances, but she knows that whilst she can have my attention some of the time, (even though I am now single) she will only ever be a friend. If they are a true friend, then they will understand and remain a friend! | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 2/11/2007 1:50:41 AM | | I probably wouldnt give it up.. but I may change the "looking for" space to friends or email/chat not dating or anything else. that way you stil have the option of meeting people, your just in it for different reasons | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 2/11/2007 5:28:02 AM | If I find MISS RIGHT (C) then I would absolutely leave POF (assuming she asks me to be her boyfriend, of course). To do otherwise would be disrespectful. I don't need to chat or engage in forum events so leaving POF would be easier then when I had to quit my heroin, absinthe addiction-but that's another story.
If a woman I was seeing at POF asked me to be her boyfriend and later on I were to see her profile up in POF or Match or Eharmony or any of the other dating site, she would be Terminated for Cause (tm) (preventing her from collecting benefits) and history. Once its over, its over. She only gets one shot in her life with me (the reverse holds true, as well). | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 2/11/2007 5:40:06 AM | I sure would,,I would say bye to my internet friends on here,,,and my life would begin a whole new chapter,,,any friends will be our friends together,,,not singular.... | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 2/11/2007 6:22:56 AM | Yeah...I wonder how many online friends are THAT close anyway..we all say the same things..daily life activities..the weather..where we have traveled...when you do find that great person that enters your life....suddenly, it's not really that important to keep up with the weather..the routine of back and forth banter amongst us...and that's why some people on here AND on the paid sites wonder off into the cybermist. It's just passing time....BUT if I had special friends ..I would include them in my circle of lifetime buddies w my special guy in my life. Happy Valentines week all......... | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 2/11/2007 6:27:21 AM | | Absolutely yesterday! There are not enough hours in the day for quality time with my two beloved children (one out of state at college), phone calls and an occasional visit to my widowed mom (out of town) who's not getting any younger, my full time career, and the lifelong friends -- who received their Christmas cards last year on Groundhog's Day this year! Oh, and then there's my house with its beautiful yard that has beautiful growing stuff of all colors to mow, weed, trim, fertilize, rake etc. Can't leave out my 5 AM everyday running/fitness workouts, and those other nice to do things like cook a real meal, shave my legs, dust under the bed, fill the car with gas, and watch something on tv without falling asleep in the middle of the grand finale. So would i leave my cyberspace world, if i were blessed enough to find My Man? Did i say, "absolutely yesterday!" ? | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 2/13/2007 5:40:26 AM | YES! No question about it! I do like the forums so I might stick around for those. I'd be more than just a little happy to change my profile to reflect the fact that I have met someone or totally delete it.
Why look for a LTR if you aren't willing to give it 100%?
I did meet someone from here, if she tells me that she wants to see things between us work and knows I am the man she chooses to be with and hopes we can have a good relationship that is fit for the long haul? Damn right, I'd leave the dating pool in a heartbeat!
One final post though, would have to be in the success stories forum, when the day comes for that post, I will be proud and happy to make that one! | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 2/13/2007 6:12:38 AM | | Well seeing as how l'm not really looking anymore yes l could do it...l have as a matter of fact...Met someone on here and dated...as soon as we agreed we were l deleted my profile...l think these sites are a bunch of bull anyway...ls anyone really ever honest?..To me this is just a way for people to get some...But l have made some pretty good friends off here and that's not bad at all...And well l'm sure l'll meet someone one day...Kinda have my eye on someone now...But we'll see...Anyway l'll probably always stay here for the forums...and you have the option on this site for just friends and thats good cause some people just like to chat and meet new people and hey there's nothing wrong with that... | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 2/13/2007 6:20:04 AM | | I believe I would....but I find with most people its like a drug. Its just toooo easy. You don't have to hang out in bars anymore...just walk into a room and push a little button. How many married people have messed up their marriage with this? If you are truly with someone, you don't belong at a singles gathering.......OR on a singles web site. Why tempt faith? Your partner should be more important than your profile.....If he/she isn't...than be honest about it....you're still fishin'!! | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 2/13/2007 9:40:21 AM | If I found the one I most definitely would stop using online personals. What's the point? If you have made friends here there's other ways of keeping in contact with them besides coming here.
This is a site for dating purposes. If a person I became serious with was still using the site even if it's for friends it just would bother me a little so I wouldn't do it to them. | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 2/13/2007 9:53:40 AM | Personally, I can't wait to find someone special so I can leave this site once and for all !!!!
Advice for people "seeing" someone who is still on this or some other site : they are waiting for something better to come along. If you're ok with that, perhaps because you are also doing this , fine, otherwise...
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 2/13/2007 9:59:06 AM | | Found the one that sticks for sure. I am on here as my profile states " not looking " as I am very happy. I enjoy the forums at times to pass the boring days away and a bit of adult reading...he still has his profile up but it is worded to the extent he has found me so I am assuming he isnt looking anymore. | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 2/13/2007 10:04:36 AM | | Glad I'm not the only one who thinks about this. I met a man on here. I'm crazy about him, want to get to know so much more. I know there is a lot that needs to happen before we are "a couple", but when I'm interested in someone my focus is on them and getting to know them. We have went out, talked on the phone etc... He tells me he loves me but yet he is still on here. I had pulled my ad when I met him, I just put it back up because he is still out there. I'm not talking to anyone. I have no interest in anyone but him. It hurts because he still is out there... I guess looking. He tells me he is not, but how do I know? It is hard to trust especially since we are 2 hours away from each other. | |
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