| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 2/13/2007 12:40:40 PM | | I'd have no problems removing myself from the site if I found the right person. I have the MSN of most of the people I'd consider friends that I chat to on here, so it's not like it would really be any kind of a sacrifice. | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 2/14/2007 6:22:31 PM | | I met someone here on POF. She continued to log on daily. Sure I was looking too but not sending out messages. She told me that she liked to read the Forums. She also said that she does not respond to her messages from guys. I myself actually posted that I had met someone heren though she did not do the same I trusted her because it just felt right. According to my gut, that is. If she had ever asked me to stop the "Log On" thing, I'd stop. The person that you are with is more important at this time than these forums. But that's just me.... | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 2/14/2007 6:25:40 PM | I would probably drop into the site occasionally out of curiosity but my interest would simply fade if I met "the right person". Similarly if I did meet such a person on here I wouldn't lay down some law forbidding them from logging on. That said, I wouldn't hang around long if they started exchanging profiles and arranging meetings. I'm all for giving someone their freedom since it tells you what they are really about.
25 years ago I met a tremendous lady through a dating club. She closed her membership within days (unbeknown to me). I kept mine open through the entire 18 month relationship but I never contacted the agency in all that time. Should have married that one.... | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 2/14/2007 7:14:44 PM | well we are in a good relationship that has stuck this long.........but he does his thing and i do mine.......
i'm not all that interested when he his playing the ps2 so when he is playing it i go on here
but its all about trust ..........he knows i love the forums and he reads alot of what i say or........when i'm typing i sometimes say it out loud as i'm typing lol.............
being on here hasn't caused any conflicts though between us sometimes he says " what is the pofer's saying today " let's go check it out !! some posts have really made us others have made us cry ........... | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 3/10/2007 8:15:46 PM | This is the only site I have a profile on.
I don't think I would remove my profile if I found someone who was really interested in a long term relationship. So far that hasn't happened for me. What I would do though is change my profile to say I am not interested in meeting people other than for friendship. Should I be forunate enough to meet someone, he would know exactly what I'm doing on here.
I like reading and posting on the forums. It's interesting to read the views of others from around the world.
I have been to a few of the events that have been posted. It is a great way to see what events are happening in my city. I have also met some very nice people; females, single males and couples, who attend these events. Some that I have met I've started friendships with and hope they will continue.
I would not keep anything from my partner, honesty and trust are so important. I would readily include him in the events I would like to attend, and hope he would want to go as well. I would introduce him to the wonderful people I have met from this site. | |
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Joined: 4/17/2006
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 3/14/2007 2:18:04 AM | | 2 words for this post..... Hell yeah - I would.... I can multi-task many things but, men are not one of them... If you find someone who "sticks" it's best to close the portal and move up to the next step... Unfortunately - the 'sticky " ones are few and far between :~( | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 3/14/2007 5:38:36 AM | | My boyfriend just changed his profile/marital status to not looking, so I think him and I are that much closer to saying goodbye here....I do enjoy the forums though even though alot of the ones I go to in a certain province seem to disappear quickly. My b/f has full access to my profile here on POF as the only mail I seem to get are from women with questions about what I have posted, which suits me fine as my profile totally states I am not looking...youd have to be pretty illiterate to miss that one. | |
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reshel
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Joined: 3/10/2007
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 3/14/2007 6:43:09 AM |
I would give up the PERSONALS....but I would NOT give up the FORUMS. Too much fun and occassionally the advice can actually HELP you "nuture what you have."
It's not a problem as long as the profile says you are taken and not currently looking.
The forums are pure entertainment!
Thanks Athulatha, I think that is an awesome Idea. I met my man on POF in Jan 2007 and we are already talking about possible marriage months into the future.
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I was suggesting to him and feeling like we should delete our profiles because what is the use in having them up here if we are not looking to see or meet anyone else.
Although I do very much enjoy discussing religious topics and the bible like i do on my Yahoo 360 pages and blog with like minded people , men and women both but out here it seems its mostly men that are always contacting me to chat about the bible more than women .
because face it, the majority of people in general are out here to chat to meet that significant other.. but not everyone though.. I'm new to this state and know no one here,, so meeting a few friends would be nice...although possible not as probable, since most women are out here to meet men not women and im not looking for men friends to meet in person.
Just as you were admitting, my man also reads the forums frequently and says that is why he still wants his profile active so he can post.. although he has his profile hidden from the searches.. I find it hard to trust but I think that is an issue I have from men in my past relationships that have cheated on me so I agreed with him that I would trust him and he says he trusts me too..
What is a relationship with out TRUST? Won't our love eventually need to be tested to be tried and true? Anything hidden is meant to be revealed. And anything done in secret in the dark will eventually come to light and be found out.
Also you could change your options on the profiles to select as "looking for friends" or only "talk /email " or just "hanging out"..
I think that stating in the profile that you've found someone or at least you are only seeing that one significant person exclusively is a good idea.
I am going to suggest this idea to him and see what he says..
LOL .. well who knows maybe hes already read this thread and will do it with out me even asking..
what a sweetheart he would be to do that...
(I love you Sweet T. --muuuuaah--) 
blessings to all of you
Reshel~ | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 5/7/2007 8:19:01 PM | | Sure I would...more because I would want to spend more time doing real things outside the computer...most days I wonder why am I here anyways , cause I really dont like a whole bunch of guys wanting to have some one time sex, or hook me up with their cousins, or wondering if I would fly half way around the world, be there F buddy, or fubu, or friends with benefits...so yeah would give it up in a heartbeat lol | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 5/7/2007 10:50:02 PM | | I would have a discussion with the person and see what they had to say about it. I would have no issue staying for the forums and making sure my profile said I was taken and here for the forums... or maybe even the two of us making a profile together. I wouldn't spend as much time on the computer either if I was involved with someone, but sometimes it's nice to just veg out for a bit and answer posts.... it would have to be a mutual decision. | |
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| Will you give up the personals if you find one that sticks??
Posted: 5/9/2007 11:59:47 AM | Absolutely. In fact I did already once. She had insecurity issues as well, so I voluntarily took all my stuff down. Then she stabbed me in the face :P So back up they are.
But the point is, I'm on here to find that 'one.' And once I find her, why would I *need* personal ads anymore?
Now if I could only figure out how to get off 'Hot or Not' LOL. | |
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