Sguss
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Joined: 9/6/2006
Msg: 26 | |
| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/18/2006 2:48:31 PM | Angelab said: "If you can't be comfortable with your own company, you can't expect anyone else to be comfortable with you either."
100% agree with!
I see it too often with other people who are single, saw it here in the replies... Single people who do things by themselves but don't go out by themselves...
Part of going out by yourself for me anyway encompasses a bunch of possibilities:
- I'm single, not dead. Why shouldn't I be out enjoying myself by myself?
- You never know who you might meet. Don't get me wrong I don't go out with expectation of meeting someone, but simple math = if you don't go out by yourself how will you meet anyone?
Verygreeneyez...
Awesome response and I agree with you. Funny in your reply you mention theater as I just ofund out today that in a few weeks Rent will be playing in my town. My first thought wasn't "who should I try and get to go to this with me" but "woot, about time, must ensure I get a ticket!" Which I think is a far cry form how some people think - and indeed how I once thought when I was younger.
Great posts by many others so far as well, keep 'em coming!
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/18/2006 3:05:30 PM | | Anywhere I want to....the beach, the gym, the movies, the clubs, restaurants, coffee shops, driving with no particular direction, the mall, traveling, the park, the grocery store, just wherever. I love it. Of course I love the company of friends, family, an SO too, but I never wait for anyone to do anything. If I want to go, I just go. | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/18/2006 3:30:58 PM | I used to go out to dance clubs to dance. Since my style of dancing is free style, I don't really need a partner to dance and I just get into the music and don't think about if anyone is watching me. It's great exercise. But I haven't done that in about 3 years, not really sure why.
I will just get in my truck and drive. Doesn't matter where. It's like I am just finding a new place to visit. Sometimes I stop at antique stores along the way or find a quaint town that has big old victorian homes to view, or even drive down some country road and see rows of corn stalks or cows and horses.
Or else just go to Borders or Barnes and Noble or even the library to check out new reading material.
I also will treat myself to a nice dinner in some nice restaurant.
Summertime I go early to the free concerts available in my area. I bring a lawn chair and read a book till the show starts.
Walk around in Home Depot or Lowes to get ideas for my home. | |
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Sguss
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Joined: 9/6/2006
Msg: 29 | |
| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/18/2006 3:44:35 PM | Ever notice how you get treated with a bit of suprise when you show up to a nice resteraunt by yourself?
Or even more so when you tip well? LOL
Sam | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/18/2006 4:32:06 PM | I know what you mean. Some people look at you as if there must be something wrong with you that you have no one to have dinner with. lol
At first, I did feel self conscious about dining alone. You tend to feel other peoples eyes on you. But I got used to it. I look at it this way, I am hungry, I can afford the meal, and my money is just as good as the couple sitting at the next table.  And yes, I usually tip way better than some of the men I have been on dates with. lol
I learned a valuable lesson about myself. When my exhusband and I were near the end of our relationship, both of us used to say horrible things to each other to hurt. Yes, it is childish on both our parts. It tends to be a human trait. Well, one night I suggested that we go out to dinner and since at that point he didn't really have any feeling for me, he said to me that I wasn't worth being taken out to dinner. That really hurt.
From that point on, I made it a point to treat myself to a nice dinner whenever I feel like it because I AM worth it. And I know I don't need anyone elses approval of my worthiness. | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/18/2006 6:10:51 PM | Because I work 'on the road' I have been eating alone in restaurants for years and I am totally comfortable with it. It is nice to eat without having to make small talk through the meal.
I will also see most movies alone - avoid the "who's he, what's going on" conversation while I am trying to watch.
Walk the dog alone, dog park alone, shopping alone...all preferred. I rarely do any of these things with the woman I am dating. | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/18/2006 6:26:59 PM |
I made it a point to treat myself to a nice dinner whenever I feel like it because I AM worth it
I feel exactly the same way! I figure I work hard for my money, so I'll treat myself to a fancy restaurant! In fact, I did it today, took a super long lunch break and had the best steak sandwich I have ever had! | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/18/2006 7:41:26 PM | | I like to kick back and read, cook a nice meal, watch my fish, play guitar, meditate. I just go with what feel is going to be the most interesting at the time. | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/18/2006 8:21:48 PM |
Ever notice how you get treated with a bit of suprise when you show up to a nice resteraunt by yourself?
When I was in London last month I went to one of the nicest restaurants in town (one of Gordon Ramsay's places, if you know who that is) by myself and the staff treated me like I was royalty. They seemed totally suprised and confused that someone would go there alone, but I think they were actually more attentive to me than all the little pairs around me. It was pretty fun actually. | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/18/2006 8:50:40 PM | I go flyfishing during the week and, when I have a big fish on, I grab the cell and call my friends at work (who all have real jobs) and haze them. I get paid to flyfish and talk about it - they hate me for it.
I take the dog to Sonic or McDonalds, go flirt with the 24 y/o hottie at the sushi place (and she always flirts back, god bless her) and, being an ex blacksheep just recently back in the will, go check on the parents.
About twice a month I get fidgety and take off on a flyfishing road trip to the Keys, mountains, AR, MT or wherever. Anything to get out of the FEMA trailer.
I have an honorary "uncle" status with the children of several close friends. Im the one that teaches them dirty words, etc. An hour playing and answering 1000 questions from a 3 year old will get your mind off anything. And I dont have to take them home... | |
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feran
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Joined: 10/14/2006
Msg: 37 | |
| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/19/2006 1:29:20 AM | This is a good one,
Have cappucino at marina overlooking boats and ospreys
Read a good book
If I am feeling particularly brave, go to a live band (don't stand at bar though cos they look at me funny) and mix with the 20 somethings.
Bike ride along the beachfront/ swim at beach
Shop for shoes
Go on internet
Visit the gallery/library/bookshop
Create a sculpture
(How do I get onto online Scrabble, I love scrabble)
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/19/2006 2:35:15 AM | When I lived alone..I took a painting class..that was fun..met alot of people so had alot of "new buddies...also took a first aid and cpr class.I use to go for walks around dinner time..when most people are home ..so when I walked..in the park or on a trail..I was alone..loved that!.Now that I rarely get time alone...I just like to stay in my Jammies...lay on the couch and watch a movie!..just chill. | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/19/2006 6:25:49 AM | | Well, I thought the thread was about going out, not staying in. I have the luxury of living next to NYC, and I work nights. So after a quick nap I can spend my next day off over there if I want. Jazz, dancing, eats, museums, browsing shops, indie movies that don't get played anywhere else, people watching just about anywhere, good food of every kind, getting beat at chess by people I don't know in the park, going to the library and reading all the newspapers, going to my model train club and playing with the trains, taking a ride on a real one from grand central or penn station, taking a ride on my motorcycle, go to a hotel with a pool and take a swim, put on a suit and crash functions for free munchies, and there's always the routine, book stores, malls, IMAX theaters, I could go on and on. | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/19/2006 7:29:37 AM | These days, I play with my dog, take her to the dog park, or a ride (she loves that!).
I used to go out to movies on the big screen, but the crowds in my city set me on edge, and most of the movies in the past few years have been canned crap.
I used to read a tremendous amount (I've probably read over 10,000 books in my life, at least) but with the internet, I have little time for that anymore.
So I watch movies from Vongo, or videos on YouTube, or music videos on Yahoo, or I play EverCrack II. It saves a LOT of money, which I save to go on nice vacations with.
I find my home to be my safe haven, but I also make a point to leave it regularly, lest I become agoraphobic. :)
Wendy | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/19/2006 7:36:18 AM | | I don't really take myself on dates, I much rather be out w/ people socializing and having fun. But when I shopping I like to go by myself, then I can take my own sweet time. | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/19/2006 8:06:24 AM | Things I like to do by myself:
Go to the bookstore...I can spend hours there reading.
Go to the gym or find an exercise class to join.
Go shopping.
Go to the spa
Go hiking
Walk by the water or beach
Stop for coffee at a cafe | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/19/2006 8:26:01 AM | I like to play with my cat. i talk to her and we hunt down all her mice from under the stove, fridge, dresser and such when she sees me with the hanger and flashlight it is pure excitement for her. If I want out I go to the no kill cat shelter which i help manage and volunteer at if I am not scheduled for a shift i just go in and do "cuddle" time which is petting and holding. It is very relaxing for me. The cats including mine aren't very demanding and don't talk back to you  I also love reading, going to the bookstores, and couple favorites are the museum and the Meijer Gardens.
In this day and age where we are all work and cell is attached to the hip it is nice to be alone at times. I am always around people and when I want to get away...it is almost like a treat. | |
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tj7
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Joined: 11/7/2005
Msg: 45 | |
| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/19/2006 8:43:57 AM | If I was near a beach............I would be there ALL the time. But beaches in Ohio aren't really all that special - LOL
If I'm not dating or at the local pof events:
*Take my dog to the doggie park
*Go to one of my children's sporting or acting/musical events
*Coaching my girls fastpitch softball team
*I'm a poor white single woman......I don't go shopping
*Crash on my couch, with a fire lit in my fireplace, just watching t.v.
*Take a nice long drive in the country
*Go to a park and read
*Clean my apartment - my dog parties all day long while i'm at work and he NEVER cleans up | |
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TishaG
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Joined: 11/13/2005
Msg: 46 | |
| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/19/2006 8:47:59 AM | | Lets see. Go to the gym, rollerblade, take a drive with the top down along the coast, go lay on the beach or take my dogs for a walk on it either at sunrise or sunset, go to Starbucks, get a latte and people watch, go shopping (I actually prefer this alone but occassionally I'll invite a galpal), take a beading class, walk around festivals, either go do my walk outside instead of the treadmill or ride my bike on a trail. I basically can do most things by myself, and I enjoy it..but sometimes it's more fun with a friend. The one thing I don't enjoy doing by myself is dining out. I like the conversation with dinner, and if I start talking to myself I'll get strange looks..lol | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/19/2006 8:53:13 AM | I enjoy taking myself out to dine.
Occasionally, I treat myself to a movie.
With my dog, I have a constant companion, so I am never really alone, and if I throw on the leash, he is always game for a walk. | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/19/2006 9:05:02 AM | [Ever notice how you get treated with a bit of suprise when you show up to a nice resteraunt by yourself?/]
I have no problem going to a resturant by myself. I just make sure to have somethig to read. Most of the time everyone is pretty nice about it 9Servers, etc)
Only time I ever had a problem was on what I call, Single Awareness Day (Valentines day) I was in Oregon, traveling by myself along the coast, and just got into a small town. It was around dinner time and I was hungry, so I went into a diner, (not even a fancy resturant) and was asked when my partner was going to show up. I siad it was just me, and was told that since it was v-day, only couples could eat there that evening, and I would have to eat elsewhere. I asked where the nearest place to eat was, and she siad it was the next town over, about 45 min away. I should have brought in the homeless guy I saw on the corner so I would have been a couple.
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aflynn
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Joined: 7/23/2006
Msg: 49 | |
| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/19/2006 9:06:09 AM | So true.... "If you can't be comfortable with your own company, you can't expect anyone else to be comfortable with you either."
Me...I like going to this park near the river, relax...listen to nature, kind of unwind from the hussel and bussel of the week. If I want to do something, being by myself won't stop me.... | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/19/2006 9:24:43 AM | Skydive!
Read (and in some cases reread) a good book.
Shop and try on things I would never (in a million years) buy.
Scout what is new at Home Depot, Barnes & Noble, and the MAC counter.
Hugs & Sunshine....Daisyrays | |
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