| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/19/2006 9:37:20 AM | Good one OP! I haven't seen anyone complaint that the thread has been done before.
Ever since I've taken up photography I head out to take panoramic snapshots of the surrounding area. Another activity by myself is fishing, real fishing I tend to do better in the nearby waters than I do at POF, they are active. After I give them a stern warning about my hook and advice on how not to fall for such bait I release them. I enjoy observing other anglers reactions when I let them go. Then I take more pictures.
Most other times I'm with someone so, those are the only two when I'm by myself. | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/19/2006 9:40:22 AM | .
Usually I do almost everything alone and always have. Part of that is because when I “make the rounds” a couple times a week I go to many places and seldom stay any place more than a couple hours. Some people would be interested in some of the things I’m into, but I doubt anyone would be interested in everything. Yet, most things are often routed into the same trip -- so it’s easier to just go alone rather then have someone with me who may be bored half the time. Same with going out for lunch or dinner. I usually go alone because I often have something that needs reading, or other such work to do, and so take it along with me. Yeah, I’m supposed to be retired but keep busy, nonetheless. Companionship is nice, but I have no problem doing anything alone and am quite used to it.
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/19/2006 9:42:32 AM |
I know what you mean. Some people look at you as if there must be something wrong with you that you have no one to have dinner with. lol
And those are the people who will stay in a bad marriage or relationship, or "settle"...or else sit at home whining for family to provide them with fun...
Even when my husband was alive he encouraged me to go places and do things by myself, so yeah, I know how to read a map, hitch up and tow a camping trailer, pitch a tent, row a boat...
I might be fortunate in that my "microbusiness" also takes me out among people( I sell stuff at fleamarkets and indoor bazaars) so I'm always going to yard sales, estate sales, auctions, etc.
Benefit dinners! Church/organizational fundraisers( usually a dinner and an auction)
I've had some of the most interesting conversations and wonderful food at various fundraising dinners. It's a wonder I don't weigh twice as much as I do LOL!
Road trips and ghost town hunts! ( before I take off down a dirt road or 2 track I make sure that I can get cell phone signal, it IS very possible to get a 4x4 stuck)
I have some local bands that I've become (platonic) friends with, and I go to their gigs quite often. (I tend to NOT just go hang out in bars UNLESS there is some kind of entertainment or special event going on, or a band I know playing)
Luckily this area, even though it seems like it must be in "bumf*cked Egypt!", does have a couple of organizations that promote local country, bluegrass and folk musicians, and other"traditional" arts...so there are often free or inexpensive concerts or "jam sessions" going on.
I have to echo what some previous posters have said, if you sit at home because you are afraid to go out and do things by yourself, you sharply limit your opportunities to meet people and make new friends! As far as I'm concerned,that kind of thinking might very well drive you into one of the things most of us fear; getting into a bad relationship because loneliness, boredom and depression have skewed our judgement and selfconfidence!
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/19/2006 9:47:53 AM | FUNNY..I SOMETIMES FEEL COMFORTABLE BEING ALONE IN A RESTAURANT..ENJOYING A GOOD DINNER AND A GLASS OF WINE...AND WHEN THE WEATHER IS REALLY NICE,I DRIVE DOWN THE FJORDS AND GO FISHING...   | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/19/2006 9:48:49 AM | I forgot to add, that even though now( for the first time since I was 9 yrs old) I'm 'horse free", I still help out at a lot of endurance riding competions in the region, which affords me the opportunities for road trips and camping...and that particular equestrian "community" has for many years been very much like family to my late DH and I.
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/19/2006 11:22:04 AM | -Go shopping. Try every article of clothing on in the store.
-Go to the spa. - Get a pedicure, etc.
-Go to the bookstore.
-Do something artistic - paint, draw, write
-Take a class
There's so much to do! | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/19/2006 1:07:42 PM | Hit the local video store and rent a few dozen movies for the week. Then call my buddy up and do a Ebert and Roeper style review over the phone.
Stay up late and play MMORPG games... ( I'm such a nerd )
Look at the personals on POF... a few dozen times...
Occasionally I'll go to the bar on a Friday or Saturday and not drink just so I can laugh my ass of when people get to drunk and act crazy.  | |
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Sguss
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Joined: 9/6/2006
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/20/2006 12:08:26 AM | | I make the best out of everything, whether I am with someone or on my own. I go to the gym, running, swimming,a long walk in Whiterock or around Stanley Parks Seawall, rollerblading the seawall and around the false creek area, Mt. biking, hiking, indoor as well as outdoor rock climbing, see a movie, go to a concert, club or bar ( meet other people ), mural artworks ( love graphic desigh - drawing, sketching, animating ), airbrush and tattoo's designing, playing around with my car ( always cleaning my car or adding something to it, roadtrips, going for coffee and simply just watching people, sports events, joining some indoor or outdoor recreational club. Too many things to list....... | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/20/2006 2:03:25 PM | Sguss - good thread
When I became single, like most of you that are out of a long-term relationship, I didn't know what to do with myself. As time passes in a relationship you sometimes start to loose yourself. It's not a bad thing to do things as a couple, but many of us loose the "I" and only have the "we".
The more time I spent dating, out of relationships, the more I realized that when you are "alone" you go back to being you: you do the things you like, you are more free to make decisions and suddenly, you have a lot more time on your hands. I think it's a great time to recharge, to make yourself new again.
When you have all this spare time you start doing things that you are passionate about. Most of time we meet people that are interested in us because we are passionate about something, because we are out there and having fun.
Some of the places I like to check out are:
library, museum, park, coffee shop, shopping mall
and these are all great places to meet someone, the best part is that if you go there just for you, chances are that meeting someone will be more genuine, and thus more successful. | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/21/2006 8:43:49 AM | I mentioned that I like to take myself out to dine, in a previous post.
One way that one can identify a woman who is dining alone, is that she is generally carrying something to read. Sure enough, I had my reading material. LOL
I sat down, and waited and waited and waited. As the server saw me reassmbling my magazine for departure, she rushed over, and said I was "so quiet she had not realized I was there." However, she and I nearly bumped into each other when I walked in. That was her polite way of saying that she did not realizize I was dining alone.
Another unfortunate stereotype is that women who dine alone are reputed to be very poor tippers. Perhaps this is why I tend to go to the same restaurnants because I develop a rapport with the staff, and they treat me like a welcomed person, rather than a woman dining alone. | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/21/2006 8:53:36 AM | This one resteraunt I used to go to had a wonderful staff (who've all up and left by now so I don't go there as often). After going steadily a couple of months I found it cute on a couple of occassions that I came in to dine, they would sit me by someone else dining alone and vice versa.
While this may not seem stranger they would often then use that time ot initiate conversation and try their best to incorporate the other person in as well, at which point they would politely have to get back to work LOL.
Sometimes having a couple favorite spots is worth the effort if the waiter staff is top notch and personable. | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 10/21/2006 9:51:16 PM | - If I'm up in the nearest big City (toronto) I'll hit the private art galleries from time to time. They're free, close to each other (so you can get a sdozen or so in at one time) and occasionally have really neat stuff in them.
- cycle
- hit the antique stores
- read (though I've had no time lately
- gone on backpacking trips a few times to Europe, South America and Asia.
- occasionally take school courses | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 11/11/2007 8:24:21 AM | Alone vs. with someone?
I'd say photography, that is getting out with a eye to take the time to capture an illustrated feeling. Writing is a big one. Going out of my way to find films, presentations, resturants, views from discussion... but then few want to do. I like to follow through, have my objective and thoroughly enjoy it. Great thread. | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 11/11/2007 9:56:26 AM | | Walk - long and hard and sweaty walks - MP3 playing and myself singing along - great cardio. Drive. Find a nicely deserted bar and shoot some pool or darts by myself. Read. Browse jumble shops. Go out at night to look at the stars. | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 11/11/2007 12:35:25 PM | | I usually shoot some pool or go play poker these days. I used to play golf by myself, (although you always get paired up with someone when you do that. Last night I went out and sang karaoke by myself. | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 11/12/2007 6:44:25 AM | | I am rarely alone, but I guess mainly go to the library on occasion, or sometimes Target or Michael's or for a car ride. Usually any outings (or anything I do for that matter) has a purpose. This past weekend I went to a college alumni event which was different. | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 11/12/2007 8:17:55 AM | - Take dancing lessons.
A few years back I noticed I was becoming a couch potato. Someone suggested dancing as it was getting him out about 4 or 5 times a week, I didn't believe him then but now I do. I first took up Salsa because it was popular and the girls were dressed really cute. Later I tried Argentine Tango when Salsa was getting to be too easy to bother with dance lessons. However I stuck with it as more of an appreciation of dancing as an art, rather than an attempt to get out and pick up girls. | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 11/14/2007 4:46:28 AM | i like to walk and enjoy the immediate scenery, not matter how often i always enjoy looking up under overhanging trees while watching the sunshine dance thru the leaves of trees and the shadows play along the road surface..
scope out new flowers as the season progress and smell any blooms hanging out near the sidwalks. sometimes i'm so drawn to flowers i actually calculate the risk of taking a detour into a resident/commercial property just for a sniff. (yah..the city life is tough on ya if you're a tree hugger..heh)
~ears perked~
whats that? i hear the garden center flowers calling me..bbl
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 11/14/2007 11:59:06 PM | I try to find locations where I know I friends will be present. It's tough to meet total stangers without introductions.
Alternately, I'll take the dogs out for walks or Dog Agility Training. I'ts goosd exercise and a chance to meet other dog owners.
If truly alone, I'll go where there' songs and artists that I love. At least I know the band members. | |
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 11/15/2007 5:30:13 AM | Exercise
Go out to eat
Read
Shop ( for a variety of things from groceries to lingerie)
Get a manicure/pedicure
Have a coffee and people watch
Shred papers(lol)
Organize things
Clean House
Do laundry
Call friends
Write letters and or emails/send ecards
Work at my EBay selling
Cook
Sleep
Eat | |
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java41
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Joined: 6/10/2007
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| So what do you go out to do by yourself?
Posted: 12/15/2007 9:08:18 AM | | When no one else is around I've done lunch, and walking around the Mall, and even have walked around Arts and Crafts Fests as it's like you said waiting for someone else and there schedule doesn't work. I went alot of places by myself even when I was married so there isn't much difference. I enjoy it more since I've gotten older or just used to it I guess. I always run into people I know so it's fun to do this. | |
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