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Posted: 1/30/2007 8:04:57 PM | | hes a wacko if you have had relations with this guy and then hes tripping about towels its time to seek a emotional healthy guy......not a fish head... | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 8:34:52 PM | | Either this is some kind of a prank post... or I have to wonder why any sane women... or man for that matter... would put up with a person that anal. | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 8:49:47 PM | I am the same way with my towels, actually - not to the point where I would get angry/start a fight over it though (I'd just get a new towel).
The way in which he spoke to you in that e-mail is unacceptable. You shouldn't tolerate that. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 1:56:56 AM | | Sounds like he has some OCD and anger problems. Dump he's ass. I'll share a towel with a woman and not think twice about it. Throw it in the floor and get another I must be rich I have a stack of them.....Good luck but you two should sit down and talk if your going to stay together. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 2:18:11 AM | I have read the posts and most seem to agree this man has issues.. OCD minimum... But there are a few here who think you should say your sorry.. in a year and a half this has happened THREE times and he blows up like this? Something IS not right, just as you accept his needs he should understand you are human and make mistakes. I would tell him your sorry it happened but I would also tell him that his anger is an issue... that is IF you want to pursue this.. I wouldn't advise it personally.. think about IF he acts like this for something of this nature, God forbid something really big happens!!!!!
Careful and all the best with your choice! | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 3:48:37 AM | Aside from his EXTREEEEEEEEEME obsessive nature,.. keep in mind that his inability to even let a thing like a towel get close to his is a sign of things on a deeper level. This guy will never open up to anyone. Very closed off emotionally and socially.
This person probably freaks at the smallest things, and you WOULD ALWAYS be on the hook for one thing or another. In his mind you would always be to blame for everything. This type of behaviour could lead to physical abuse too. He doesn't respect you. He treat you like a disgusting thing.
This is not a way to live, it would only kill your spirit to be in this relationship.
Seriously, get out of it an don't look back. Talking to him won't work because in his mind everyone else is the problem. He is a boy in a self made bubble, and I feel sorry for him the day it bursts.
Why do I get the feeling he is someone who likes to write with a ruler- too keep things straight? (handwriting analysis warning)
Good luck to you.
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Posted: 3/21/2007 3:48:53 AM | | Zoloft time. He's a nut case. If it were me I'd hang my towel at someone else's place. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 4:03:03 AM | I have been to medical calls for domestic disputes for the most minor things,he never picks up his underware, he won't keep his feet off the coffee table,he left the garbage in the garage again, my neighbour won't put his garbage cans away and the list goes on....we arrived on one call and the wife was beating her husband over the head with a shovel,,why,,because he would never pick up the dog crap...everyone has something that ticks them off,,, if some one cuts you off do you not get a little pissed,,,this guy is mellow compared to a lot of so called normal people out there...I never use the same towel twice. I yelled at my brother constantly for wearing my clothes....does that make me a nut case,,,I think not.. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 4:38:37 AM | You should have spit on his towel, then have thrown on his bathroom floor!
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Posted: 3/21/2007 4:48:53 AM | | My personal thoughts about it------he is crazy, obsessive. you just had sex with him and cleaned up afterwards. If he is worried about germs, he can NEVER contact another living or dead person. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 6:40:40 AM | | If he is so sensitive about his personal hygeine, then perhaps you must respect it and try to have a frank discussion about this topic. Try to understand his point of view and let him know yours if it is peeving you off so much, so that he can put himself in your shoe and vice versa. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 6:48:01 AM | I've seen alot of anal people who like their bathroom towels hung in a certain manner. Some towels are of course just for decoration. But for someone to flip out because your bath towel touched his? This guy has some serious issues. How do you kiss? With your elbows? Ditch the five year old biotch... | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 6:48:38 AM | RUN do not stop at go......do not collect $200.
OH, and do NOT look back!
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Posted: 3/21/2007 10:42:19 AM | I work in the hotel industry, and when our guest would bring their dirty towels to the front desk, I use to take them. It wasn't after a health related meeting, this issue was brought to everyone attention, on dirty linen, in using the dirty hamper bag. I now bring the bag hold it open, to let our guest put their dirty & wet towels inside the bag. When they leave, I will wash my hands and I now understand how towels can be a haven for germs to infectious bacteria.
I think many people never think about wet towels used by someone else, until they work in health, hospitality, medical and emergency services. I can understand where he's coming from, and when you stay at his place, ask him where is the laundry hamper to put your wet towels, so he can feel calmer and not be so obsessive. I don't understand how people can talk rudely to one another, but then, I'm not his friend and don't know if I would want someone to treat me insensitively.
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Posted: 3/21/2007 6:55:33 PM | This person may have Obsessive Compulsive Tendencies or Disorder - do you know, and if not, how on Earth not? This person may be overly controlling, anal, or other similar words. This doesn't mean the person is evil or bad or that your relationship is doomed. It means you need to understand what you're dealing with and decide whether or not your willing to find ways to deal with it. You will not succeed in changing him if he has no desire to change - can you accept his quirks or ways regardless? Or does your relationship mean enough for you two to work on these issues together (not to "solve" but to manage)?
The bottom line is, every relationship has its issues. And every person has his quirks, obsessions, baggage, or problem. Those who are searching for non-existence of those things are dreaming. We're human and this is the world we live in. So, yes, you are being insensitive if you cannot find the empathy to respect something that is important to him - no matter how ridiculous it may seem to you or 90% of all others. The question has nothing to do with "is it wrong for the towels to touch." It has to do with respect, understanding, and communication. But, none of what I said above means he should be abusive, violent, or cruel in how he deals with these issues. He clearly has work of his to do on these topics. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 8:31:36 PM | | I think there are much bigger problems then the towel. what does it take to get a new towel out if some one touches the one you have used. IF he can be intamite with you then sharing a towel should not be a problem. I wouldn't waste my time worring about this problem you are better off, especially if he can get so hot temppered over a TOWEL | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 8:53:17 PM | He would definitely freak out at me. I REUSE my towels. Lets see, I talk a steaming hot shower, scrub really well and get out to dry chlorinated water off my skin? WTF?
I'll use a towel for several days before washing it. Save the environment I say. I won't let the towel get a moldy smell or anything but I definitely have begun to watch my water usage out of respect for the planet, because the next major war won't be over oil, it will be over water.
However, I do like to take a shower before going to bed, something my Mom always did with us kids. You know the whole bath before bed because I am a dirty little boy pig...you know how we like to get dirty.
That guy has problems at one end of the spectrum...then there is the other end of the spectrum...the hopeless slob...who doesn't believe in changing underwear until it cuts off the circulation to his feet. The guy who thinks you can flip underwear when they are dirty from back to front, then inside out and repeat. The guy who believes the test of a dirty sock is throwing it against the wall and if it doesn't stick, it ain't dirty...and so on.
Definitely at least borderline OCD if he called and raged about it... | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 10:16:40 PM | Ask him if he knows how many skin cells are left after he rubs that towel allover himself while drying himself, there are skin cells on it..combined with damp/wetness must eventually be producing some kind of staphylococci, no matter how clean he thinks he is. Unless he's exfoliated down to the bone, and even then, he's going to use it again? How unhygienic is that??
He should wash it after every use, or use a new one each time if he's that worried about it.
On the other hand, if you knew this is something he has a problem with, and even if you did it by accident, I think an apology would'nt have hurt and most likely would have saved from a lot of argument and drama, after all it is his house and he's allowed to have his likes and dislikes as well....and from his response, it sounds like he's more upset that you dont respect his wishes and are not sorry about it, than the fact that you left the towel beside his.......BUT, I'd also at the same time demand as apology from him for speaking to you like that, there is NO EXCUSE for that kind of verbal abuse from either person and then perhaps dump him if he doesn't understand that.
I think there was a lot of room for comprimise on both ends in this situation, but neither one has enough respect for the other to go through the trouble, arguing is just easier...
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Posted: 3/22/2007 12:16:07 AM | Probably off topic, but this message made me want to listen to that I touch myself song. Played as loud as possible.
Actually, I have a vision of walking down the street with a boombox blasting this song as loud as possible in downtown DC. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2007 8:10:55 AM | Has he freaked over other little things? If not, then why can't you just deal with this one little neurosis. You indicate that he got extremely upset because you've done this more than once. If you are interested in this guy and would like to maintain this relationship, then just don't put your towel near his. You might even ask him what he would like you to do with your towel now that you are finished using it.
By not adhering to this one little request of his you are being passive-aggressive. | |
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Posted: 3/24/2007 7:44:48 PM | | I dated a guy for a while with OCD and it sounds like he might have a touch of it ( actually to be fair we all do in varying levels, so people just get to the point that they are compulsive over everything,and can't lead a regular,healthy life) what is more telling is his tone, Yell at you once shame on him, yell at you twice shame on you! I say kick him to the curb, he is not your parent, and you are not a child, there is a tone that Adult should use with one another and he didn't use it Bye Bye Mr Angry! ( is it just me or does this guy remind anyone else of American Physco?) | |
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Posted: 3/25/2007 1:11:26 AM | To me the actual issue of the towel pales into insignificance against the fact that, after 18 months, this guy thinks it appropriate to message you in such a way...
I only speak one language. Can you not comprehend the words that come out of my mouth?!
If you haven't moved on already - go!! quickly
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Posted: 3/25/2007 3:22:30 AM | | you have had sex with this guy i assume and he is freaking out about your towels touching!! boy what a freak . i like things to be tidy to but come on towels touching is unhygienic? you did just come out of the shower after all. we all wash in the shower thats the whole point . oh man this guy needs some serious help. i could understand him being upset if you left his bathroom looking like a tornado ran through but you really need to not see this guy anymore. | |
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