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Posted: 5/12/2007 8:20:09 PM |  holy shyte
Dude is SCARY!
You are seriously still IN this relationship? seriously?
I don't know who has more problems, him for being totally weird, seriously angry, OCD, bipolar, and DESPERATELY in need of MEDS,
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Posted: 5/14/2007 3:01:09 PM | Hey becketlady
am glad I made you laugh....I once had a boyfriend like that dude...it's what I did to him...needless to say we didn't last...but his parents still tahnk me for loosening him up a bit!   | |
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Posted: 5/14/2007 6:52:54 PM | | Well it clears up one thing. If he didn't want "your" towel to touch "his" towel, he sure would not want "your" body (any part of it) to touch "his" body. Don't take any chances. Dont touch anything that "his" body has touched or you might get some "germs" or something else.................................................. | |
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Posted: 5/15/2007 2:37:38 AM | Hello princess3,
I am still laughing and even told my mother about it. I cracked up so hard........ I told her boy, wouldnt it be fun to have popcorn all over with all the ladies there. I know this is not nice, but this guy have serious problem. I think he is afraid to leave female scents around and afraid to get caught.   | |
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Posted: 5/15/2007 6:39:19 AM | | I think he is just a phobe...germ phobe...or some kind of phobe...either way it's entertaining to push their buttons... | |
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Posted: 5/15/2007 3:34:09 PM | Run like the wind OP. You said it yourself - he doesn't have a hygene problem with having sex with you, but he does with your towels touching. O-kay then...
One possible explanation is OCD, but any way you slice it it's extreamely controlling, even neurotic, behaviour. His rant comes across as angry and demeaning. I work for the Police - I can tell you this kind of thing is an indicator of a person with a heightened likelyhood to turn to violence to settle disputes. Cut all contact with him - I don't mean to frighten you but this guy could be a real danger if he roots himself into your life. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 5/15/2007 5:32:10 PM | Passing knight,
Thanks for the warning. I hope she got your message. Someone need to look over her shoulder. This dude is really something else. yes, maybe a danger or threat to ladies.   | |
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Posted: 5/15/2007 5:50:07 PM | | I'm suprised he doesnt ask you to bring your own bar of soap when you stay over. arent you already clean when you towel off? never try to argue with an idiot, they'll always beat you on experience, and never have a battle of the wits with an unarmed person. never a fair fight. give him a box of clear garbage bags to keep his towels in next time he has guests, wish him luck, and leave him cursing your tail lights. no good can come of someone that freaky. exit, stage left... | |
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Posted: 5/15/2007 6:24:05 PM | Alright, this does definetly smell like an OCD problem to me.
But at this point I do have a similar strange story to add to this:
I was in a relationship with a guy I was dating for several months.
Then one day he was at my place and got furious at me because I was making him a nice dinner (or I thought) on a Friday night. Steaks, potatoes, veggies and a beautiful salad. But he was still crumpy...
Come to find out after some probing that he was mad at me...because..I didn't changed my clothes from taking the 10 minutes Ferry ride over to my place. In his mind '
Public Transportation' therefore, I was full of little germs on my clothes that would have jumped into the food I was cooking!
And let me clarify something to you. I thought I was the worst for germs...i.e...please wash your hands before you touch any foods. Wash you veggies...and don't eat anything that is in the fridge for more than 2 days!!!
Needless to say...it was the end of him....lol
I said bye bye! This is too weird!
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Posted: 5/16/2007 6:17:08 AM | Okay, if Mr. Wierdo is worried about germs and hygiene, why does he use a towel twice? Air drying a towel does not remove hair and dead skin cells from it. I hate to be gross but it's the truth.
I agree you should plug his toilet and use his towel to dry the floor with and watch his head explode. he he he... | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 6:33:19 AM | A towel is something you use after you are CLEAN!!! All it has on it is a few CLEAN hairs and some CLEAN dead skin cells.
The issue for those who think that she should apologize, is NOT that he has a problem, but that he's actively making it hers in a way that does NOT recognize that the issue is HIS and is NOT based on fact but on a PERSONAL phobia. A reasonable person with a phobia would simply have thrown BOTH towels in the wash and not said a thing. HE is making this a huge problem and is making it HERS. HE's WACK! Get him help or leave him. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 6:51:38 AM | Seven months and no clarification about the definition of casually dating someone for a year and a half, at writing of the original post, relative to the intimacy or whether she still dates the OCD towel man.
Some people have hot buttons. I have towel issues because I prefer them folded a certain way and after several years of employing assistants that also did light housecleaning, I have yet to find someone capable of folding a towel properly. Not difficult, corners matching up, stacked neatly in the closet, sigh. For most people I'm sure I appear insane but in a house that is destroyed by three children on a regular basis, apparently I find it comforting to look in my closet and see order among my towels.
If the OP had really sought advice, which is questionable considering the failure to return to the thread, I would say that although his reaction was a little nuts, if this was the only issue he seemed to have, blow it off and be more careful about how you hang your towel on the rod. She didn't seem to seek anything more serious with the man so it was not like she was going to find out that she couldn't put groceries away properly or any of the other issues brought to light by some posters and the film industry. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 7:31:43 AM | It is completely absurd to me, for the way both parties are bhaving. I personally, can't stand the thought of someone else's sloughed off skin being on me, it's one thing for a few stragglers floating in the air, but I refuse to dry myself with a towel that has been used by someone, else. I also have a fetish about the wash clothes that I use on my face. They must be white and have absolutely no stain on them. Weird, I know. Can't help it. I know there are tons of germy thingies out there and most don't bother me. This is one I can't get passed.
But this is ridiculously out of hand for both parties.
My question is this...
How many other quirks, in the past year and half does he have, before you diagnose him with OCD?
If this is the only thing he baffles you with, then by all means, patch things up. And maybe next time bring your own supplies and throw them in your bag when you are finished. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 2:48:51 PM | | Okay, I can only assume that after 1 1/2 years of dating, that you guys are sleeping together.... and im sure in doing that a whole lot more of your stuff was touching his stuff than with the towels.. what a crazy ass | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 3:03:39 PM | | I think the best thing to do is take your body away from his and don't even go near him, he needs to be by himself, if he can't handle your towel near his, how does he treat you, does he wear latex gloves around you, did you ever kiss, have sex, all that stuff that goes along with a relationship, how does he act then. Anyway thoses are my thoughts, maybe he lives in plastic bag. GJJ | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 3:05:18 PM | | Sorry but I think this guy is an absolute control freak, and you need to get rid of him asap and find a normal guy. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 3:16:23 PM |
OMG I'm sorry but I can't stop laughing about how SERIOUSLY ABSURD this is!
This guy must be off his meds.
He must have OCD or something!
First of all what is a bathtowel used for?
It's used AFTER a bath when one's body has been cleaned and one needs to dry the remaining water off themselves.
It's not used to clean a dirty body?
You don't take a bathtowel and use it to scrub yourself while your dirty!
It's used when you're clean!
This guy seems to have some mental issues!
As for he was upset about me using his hand towel but when he brought it up to my attention, I apologized although it seemed weird, I let it go. I mean when you wash your hands in somebody’s bathroom, isn’t that what the hand towels are for?
What does he do when he has guests over? Follow them into the bathroom to watch whether or not they use his handtowel?
THAT'S WHAT IT'S THERE FOR!
Maybe next time you shouldn't use his handtowel. After washing your hands in the sink just sprinkle-dry your hands over the bathroom floor.
Since you're not supposed to dry your hands with HIS handtowel what other choice do you have?
SPRINKLE-DRY YOUR HANDS OVER THE FLOOR!
LOL
Maybe you shouldn't use HIS sink either. *rolls eyes*
You're good and clean enough for him to share a bed with and have sex with but not use his handtowel?
What a moron.
Dump his ass! | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 5:53:41 PM | Hey if you like the guy, and this is his only issue, buy paper towels for the bathroom. It's not like he has foot fetish, wants you to stand on his face or is cheating on you. I guess I'm just saying it could be worse.
Unless of course, you're not happy in the relationship and looking for permission to get out, then drop him like he's hot. lol... | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 6:49:48 PM | | WOW!!! There is a lot wrong with this. Even if he had said something about having issues about towels touching, which is kinda strange in itself, but whatever....but then he called you a &^%$#, stated that, "you messed up--again....." I would leave him quickly....if two towels touching set him off into an rage, what would his reaction be if your toothbrush was to close to his. I would run, FAST. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 8:11:07 PM | | Oh wait , bath towels? Don't you wash them after you use them? I thought you meant a hand towel. I guess you can't dry your whole body with paper towels, eh? That would really freak out an obsessive compulsive person. That and smearing them in jam.! I suppose that takes me back to the fetish stuff. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2007 10:19:25 AM | Wow, my advise to you.. Do not reply to him by mail, do not accept phone calls, and if you see this person on the street.. turn around and run.. very fast.
You did not do anything wrong.. Please, Please tell me you stopped seeing this person. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2007 12:10:07 PM | | K I also think that after a year and a half the honeymoons over, people get bugged by little things they may normally not be. And maybe too because the relationship is still casual after that long, there's no feelings to spare. | |
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