| If you had no STD's,Would you consider dating someone who did?
Posted: 11/17/2006 11:51:18 PM | | Probably not. I would have to choose between, not being with them, or potentially contracting something I may not be able to shake. But stranger things happen at sea. It would depend on what the STD was and wether it was something we can work around. | |
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| If you had no STD's,Would you consider dating someone who did?
Posted: 11/24/2006 12:29:12 AM | NOOOOO way, if you know someone has an std, well unless sex never entered the seen well i guess it wouldnt be an issue there but otherwise, even if you wore three condoms (lol incase one tor and the one fell off) i still woudnt, why ruin your health your body is your temple so why destroy it.
I guess you must really like this person for who they are if you would even consider this, it is unfortunate that they are infected, but in the most of cases people end up with diseases becuase of there own poor choices.
I know that for a very small number of very unfortunate people they become infected even when doing the right thing ( use condoms, pick partners wisely etc) and for those people i have the deepest amount of sympathy, especially when there are so many people that sleep around not use condoms and get away with it as healthy as a horse, and thats were those things arnt fair.
No way would i consider this and i would strongly recommend against it, there chances are that this person belongs to the majororty of infected people ( the ones who made poor decisions) and if this person truly cared about you they would not share there suffering.
Dont destroyer your life becuase you have sympathy and feeling for someone, but i beleive at the end of the day, for the most of these people i dont hold sympathy. | |
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| If you had no STD's,Would you consider dating someone who did?
Posted: 12/22/2006 9:51:09 PM | IF i had no std's?...
well since i have none.... and would rather not have any... then adamantly no!
if you don't speak german would you consider dating someone who did?
no offense german speakers it's an analogy. and i don't mean german as well as english.
std's are kind of a deal breaker for me. they are unfortunate but they still are preventable so it tells me something about the person. | |
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| If you had no STD's,Would you consider dating someone who did?
Posted: 1/29/2007 4:50:40 PM | I applaued your reply--Supraman187
I met someone who likes me for me, aside from my STD. This guy cannot understand why I will not just date him, and is patiently waiting for me. The reason for this is because I want to make sure he is a good match for me before diving in. If someone is going to take such a big risk to be with the one that they love, then I want to make sure of things as best as I can, to prevent further heartache if things do not work out. If I passed my virus along to him I'd feel guilty enough, never mind if we were no longer an item....It is hard to accept the fact that he accepts me as well...apart of me says...."don't date him because you might pass your virus along, even though there are precautions you can take".
I am not afraid of who I am now--but I did go through the whole period of "who is going to want me now"--, and to my surprise several guys were still intreseted. I have decided to tests the fish land out, with this one special man because he is AMAZING!!--I just have to wait until we meet in person in a few months :).....not that I have anything against the dating before meeting deal, but I'd prefer to meet my mate before he becomes my partner....sadly there are a lot of liers out in fish land, and elsewhere, and as much as I believe this guy is who he says he is--I have to follow my heart, and await the inital meet :)
I want to leave this forum by saying to everyone BE CAREFUL; LISTEN TO RHONNA (she is a lady on the radio--sorry forget the station), AND WEAR A RUBBER OR STAY UNDERCOVER LOL....Really though, I meant a guy, and thought he was such as sweetheart--gave myself to him much to fast, and ended up with this herpes virus--what's even worse, he will not admit to it, but there is no doubt in my mind that he knew he had this all along--as he did the whole avoidence thing when I proved for information. I told him that he needs to let his last girl know, and go get tested--because he did not believe that he had virus. The virus will only show up when in the active phase, and the nurse said that there is a 99.9% change it was from him, and I could safely say it was because of how soon after we were together I reacted with virus...but for the "actual proof" testings would of had to be done with the both of us, and like I was going to be able to get him to do this right....as far as I know he never did go get checked. This guy said he'd telly me with the results afterwards but I still have not heard back...It amazes me some people, especially this guy, and his profession--he is an ambulance, and you think he would be more concerend with his own body. I feel sorry for all those people he is going to infect--so please, be smart people, and if you are intrested in getting in a relationship use precautions, and it's not a bad idea to get your potential partner & yourself to both get a physical, and check things out before sexual contact. With this being said, some people are still going to lie till their faces turn blue, and some results will not show up as positive unless in the active phase...so you never can be certain....Thanks for taking the time to read this, and take care you all
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| If you had no STD's,Would you consider dating someone who did?
Posted: 1/31/2007 9:37:00 PM | millwrightpaul,
No need to apoligize sir :)....it's understandable. I mean I don't know anyone that actually wants to be infected.
I met someone in past--that had virus like me, but in a different area, and I was contemplating starting a relationship with him because of this...I feared getting a double wammy--you know.
I felt guilty for feeling this way, but I shouldn't off..cannot stop our feelings--personally I did not know how someone without an STD could risk being with someone that had one. It was not until I got herpes myself..that I was able to put myself in another's shoes to understand this fully--and since learning to cope with this "new me"....have come to the conclusion that I would date someone that had a STD....depending on the severity of it, and what precautions I could take to hopefully not get it. And I'd have to really really love the guy an awful lot to be able to do this too!!
I cannot speak for my past---but I am a lot different from many people I know, and I have a hunch that before my diagnoses...if I did meet someone with an Std...of, course depending on what it was--I would be their mate if I loved & cared for them enough.
I don't suggest that anyone else does the same--just follow your hearts, and do what you feel is best :)....but I do suggest not to risk your health....but I also understand that sometimes "true love" is worth the risk!
And be careful out there...lots of nice faithful people do exist, but lots of untrue ones also exist.
Take Care (parisem inna)
Buddusarani :)
Lv. J
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| If you had no STD's,Would you consider dating someone who did?
Posted: 2/1/2007 6:34:47 PM | rigwidow,
I am old fashioned now--was not so much before.....dating means having sex depending upon who you ask--we all have our own interpretations for what words mean to us. To me dating can mean sex, but can also mean the opposite.
I also have been on many dates, and just chit chat--nothing more :)
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| If you had no STD's,Would you consider dating someone who did?
Posted: 2/1/2007 9:57:29 PM | I get the feeling by all of the responses that people who start talking about curable STDs aren't terribly educated on the subject.
If its curable, and the person knows they are infected, then they get it treated once they test positive for it. Why would willing transmittal of a curable STD seem like a plausible scenario?
I would be interested to find out which STD we are talking about. Are you going to tell us? | |
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