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| If you had no STD's,Would you consider dating someone who did?
Posted: 4/19/2007 11:26:15 AM |
Msg: 52 -- id say always get a test,both of u b4 doin it without a condom
I won't use a condom, so it goes without saying that the test comes first, and only at the beginning of what is presumed to be a LTR.
Obviously, the presence of a STD would definitely be a deal-breaker.
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| If you had no STD's,Would you consider dating someone who did?
Posted: 4/19/2007 11:38:44 AM | Many of you have probably already dated someone with an STD. 1 in 4 people have hsv (herpes simplex virus) 90% of the people that have it, have no idea they have it, due to lack of symptoms or a misdiagnosis.
I have it, it's stated in my profile. One man that I dated told me- "I'd much rather date someone that knows they have it, so I can take precautions, than to date someone that doesn't know they have it, and pass it on to me." The standard STD screenings don't test for HSV, you have to request it specifically. So, yes, even though you wouldn't want to date someone with an STD, you probably already have. | |
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| If you had no STD's,Would you consider dating someone who did?
Posted: 4/19/2007 11:46:54 AM | | With a username such as you have here, I'd also be concerned for my own 'willy' if I knew that a woman had an STD ...before I possibly befriend her further. That she is candid for her situation would not exclude her from being one of my best friends ever, even if I'd have to consider 'gloving my love' and praying that this might keep me from catching what she might have for an affliction. There are some damned good souls who've made some unfortunate mistakes in their lives before I care to be one as well for them, even if I do have to take myself and health into consideration for equating sex into who we are together. | |
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| If you had no STD's,Would you consider dating someone who did?
Posted: 4/19/2007 4:53:44 PM |
With a username such as you have here, I'd also be concerned for my own 'willy' if I knew that a woman had an STD ...before I possibly befriend her further. That she is candid for her situation would not exclude her from being one of my best friends ever, even if I'd have to consider 'gloving my love' and praying that this might keep me from catching what she might have for an affliction.
"Gloving your love" won't keep you from catching HSV. If a woman takes valtrex every day, avoid sex during outbreaks and you use a condom, there's still a 4% chance of you getting it. There is no 100% foolproof way of not getting it, unless of course you never have sex again. | |
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| If you had no STD's,Would you consider dating someone who did?
Posted: 4/19/2007 6:42:20 PM | I had the pleasure of chatting with a very nice man while on a dating site. Through time we had decided to meet....the very night we were to meet he had told me he had STD.
I commended him for telling me ,said he had caught it from a woman that did not tell him.Went through some personal sole searching once he contracted it and then decided to let anyone who he was going to become intimate with know.
For me... although he was an amazing man...and it meant so much for him to tell me I just couldnt' go through with anything although he had sent me numerous pages of info about it....still couldnt' bring myself to meet...fear of *what if* I guess it would all depend on each individual and how educated they became and if they thought it was worth the risk.....for me it was not. | |
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| If you had no STD's,Would you consider dating someone who did?
Posted: 4/20/2007 3:31:36 AM |
why would I want some dirty things cos someone didnt have a brain to use protection?
There is no reason to be insulting people. Did you ever take into consideration that there may be people that got an std due to a cheating spouse? Or how about the women that get raped and had no choice? Or the ones who were molested as a child and received it that way? Get your head out of your A**. You had better hope that you meet someone that is upfront about it, or even KNOWS they have it. Because a condom won't protect you and then YOU'LL be on the receiving end of comments such as yours. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2007 5:42:31 AM | Hi whitetigeress,
what is the difference between the two?? Whether she has it before you or during dating you? I dont see the logic? You may as well dump her althogether.Seems to me you judged when she already had it.
So dont look at the disease.. look at the person.
I can understand some of what you are saying but there is no way I would have sex with someone who had an STD before I met them. Would you stick a loaded gun in your mouth? I hardly doubt it but thats what you are doing in a sense. | |
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| If you had no STD's,Would you consider dating someone who did?
Posted: 5/12/2007 7:54:59 AM | !!There is no reason to be insulting people!! I thought this site was for mature people, some people can just be so rude. Oops my mistake maybe they actually aren't people. I agree 10000% when so called people are posting opinions on here you absolutely don't have to be childish, mean or cold hearted about it. Grow up!  | |
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Posted: 5/12/2007 3:41:20 PM | | stangsnthangs. You are right. And hey people,,, how do you know who has std or anything? I mean like the lady said dont be judgemental or insulting it might not be the persons fault they have it/. Dont be rude. I would date a guy that has it IF he takes care of it & is careful/ By the way yes a guy ccan be raped as easy as a female can. Just because you are bigger than the female doesnt mean she cant rape a guy. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2007 3:57:23 PM | dianoor,with all due respect, you and your date might have been declared "clean" and yet still have herpes, because most doctors do NOT include it in routine STD screenings, and what about HPV - women are not screened through blood tests and men CAN'T be screened by blood tests.
And, as someone else has pointed out, condoms only provide about 60% protection - you'd need a body condom to be really safe.
The bottom line is - lots of people have no idea they have HSV or HPV, they are not included in screenings, and condoms don't help much. And these are the very same people who say "EWWWW" - no, of course I wouldn't consider dating someone who has that.....
Up to 90% of the ppl. with herpes don't know they have it. Then there are all the people who have it, but would never tell a potential sex partner. Which is exactly why a lot of people have it.
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Posted: 5/12/2007 5:15:38 PM | ^^^So what? Atleast, we made an effort to go and get tested and I'd rather believe the tests than some person who posts on a dating site forum with all due respect back to you. Some people are promiscuous way too much and don't even make the effort to know if they are clean or not.
BTW, I was not the one to say eww, I just said I would not date an STD infected person because I don't want to jeopardize my health. | |
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| If you had no STD's,Would you consider dating someone who did?
Posted: 5/12/2007 9:38:33 PM |
A friend of mine with Hep C married a woman without the disease. Blood born pathogens, for the most part are blood to blood transmitted and just the act of sex doesnt mean you will contract it. To date she has not been infected.
That is because it has been proven that Hep C is not contracted through sex. Up until the past 1-2 yrs, it was thought to be contracted that way and also leading to death if one didn't receive a liver transplant. It has come a long way now. There is no cure but treatment and early diagnosis has led to remission now. I know this because I have to ultrasound Hep C patients every 6mths and we have two doctors who specialize in it.
As far as a person having an STD... no I wouldn't if it was an incurable one like Herpes etc. If it was a curable one.. then obviously you would wait until it was treated and cured and you wouldn't have to worry about it. | |
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| If you had no STD's,Would you consider dating someone who did?
Posted: 5/12/2007 9:45:41 PM | Just because one gets tested today and it comes out clean doesn't mean they still don't have one. It can take 3-6 mths for some to show up. Especially HIV.
The best advice per a Doctor is.........
Get tested. Use a condom for 6mths. Get tested again. If it still comes out clean. Then you can decide to quit using condoms. | |
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some ppl just dont' seem to think before they speak nor care who they hurt in there selfish immature comments. Perhaps they should take a deep look at themselves.
