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Posted: 11/24/2006 6:01:07 PM | Run away from this ***hole as fast as you can!!!! There are a whole bunch of Men out there that will treat you the right way. Are you missing the bullshit detecting gene? This Boy you speak of is only intrested in what he can do too you not for you. sorry to be so harsh but i would rather tell you the truth just like you friends have but you never listened.
The best thing you could do is 1. call that male friend that wanted to go out with you but settled on your friendship (every women has atleist one). I'm sure your friends wants you 10x more than your "boyfriend" 2. drink alot
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 11/25/2006 2:01:19 AM | yeah you need a head doc alright,
if i had a penny for every woman who said "its deep love" you think people take abusive relationships because there not inlove?,........
the very fact that you would let him treat you this way tells me you have a problem
yeah he is right on the not calling not bothering him till he wants to mess with you
NOT,. but if you want to do this to yourself its up to you,........
but I wont enable you more,.........these men know a ringer when they see one and the fact that you are going for it tells me he found the right mark,.........
the fact that all these people tell you the same thing tells you nothing either huh??
there all just in line wanting this prince charming you have?,. yeah he will work it out Lady till he finds a better mark to use,..........
I guess if you want to make yourself a professional victim,.your headed right on course,...
you have two picks
get out of this bad relationship,.....or put up with this forever | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 11/25/2006 8:05:04 AM | Been there done that.
If he is the one for you he schould feel that in his heart as well as you do. As my good freind dennis says Grease his heels and slide him to the curb. Your better than that I don't even know you, but when you put your feelings on the shelf and wait for someone, you feelings become out dated. You have to do what is right in your heart of hearts don't settle for this you can find someone that is suitable to your wants and needs and will compliment your new partners wants and needs. Its all about TEAM WORK. Best wishes to a new road to travel, Jim | |
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Posted: 11/25/2006 6:06:22 PM | the worst part is we get along just fine if i dont ask any questions about us, hes on this site too and it isnt right i changed my profile to friends, he did not change his profile at all, and this is a year already.  | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 11/25/2006 6:30:13 PM | | Gee...maybe the reason you are not getting anywhere with him is because you keep posting stuff about him and since this revelation that he is on this site...maybe he's reading them??????? just a thought toots | |
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Posted: 11/25/2006 8:06:06 PM | okay, I don't know all of the details, but if a guy is with you, and you see that he hasn't changed his profile for some reason, especially after a year, there are two explanations, one, he doesn't get on here enough to change his profile, or two, which if he is using the site still, this is always the answer, it might not be that he is cheating on you, it may not be that he is playing you either, those are both probable answers, but what I think is probably happening is that he might not feel as strongly towards you as he says he does (that is if he tells you he loves you) but he may be with you specifically because he is so emotionally insecure that he cannot stand to be alone (that is the case with just about all guys)...... and he hasn't changed his profile because he's waiting for something better to come along...... I've got an idea for you, it is foolproof, it has worked for me multiple times..... make a new account and profile, get some pictures from a hot friend, or some pictures from a low profile website and post them on the profile.... then based on what you know he wants from a relationship, make that your profile description, make her almost the perfect girl, because if you make her too perfect, then he might see it coming (cuz everyone has flaws)..... anyway, what you do then, is play online detective, email him, and see if he replies, if he is a great guy he'll respond with something along the lines of "I'm with someone so we can be friends, but nothing more" but if he gives you some line like "I SHOULDN'T be doing this" then at that point, I'm almost 100% positive you can arrange him to come and meet you, and bust his ass then.... if he is, sorry babe, no decent woman deserves that, all the good people end up seeing all these bad people until they end up finding they're perfect someone. I know that I'm still looking for my perfect someone, and I'm only 19, so I mean, I don't know everything, but I'm not an idiot either, I am so determined to find my perfect someone that I haven't had sex in 3 years, because I don't like one night stands, because sex isn't that good when your partner doesn't know your preferences..... and I don't feel like having a monologue with a stranger before I f*ck 'em :)
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Posted: 11/25/2006 8:41:26 PM | | Oh ya...that's a good idea. Stop the games with more games. NOT! This is not the third grade people, and it isn't rocket science either. OP, you either A) leave and get some dignity back, or B) put up with it and don't feel sorry for yourself. It's really that simple. | |
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| HES SEEING OTHER PEOPLE AND DOESNT WANT ME TO SEE OTHER PEOPLE
Posted: 11/26/2006 9:30:50 AM | | I hope you dumped the Control Freak before your anniverary. Trust me, you need someone who respects you and gives your feelings consideration. It seems like you worry about him more that he worries about you. Obviously, he's a shallow, egotistical narcisist and you deserve better. Put yourself first and you'll be fine. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2006 6:30:05 PM | Okay, I haven't read through this entire thread yet, but I don't think I need to continue in order to be able to give sound advice here. YOU NEED TO MOVE ON!!!
I was with a guy for two years, and he was everything to me. I was deeply committed to him and I truly loved him. But, to be honest, when I thought about us spending our lives together, I just knew it wasn't right. Why? Because of the way he treated me. He treated me like garbage, and in order to have any kind of happiness with him, there were a whole lotta things about the way he treated me that I had to overlook. There were also a lot of things about myself that I needed to change in order to pacify him enough to stay with me just a little bit longer. Finally, I couldn't take it anymore. I knew I deserved better, and I broke up with him. It was painful...very painful...but looking back, I do not regret it one bit. I would much rather be alone than be with someone who treats me like garbage.
You need to get to a place of realizing that you deserve better. It wouldn't matter what kind of changes you made, he wouldn't be happy. And do you really want to marry someone that you had to coerce into marrying you? Wouldn't you rather that someone marry you because they love you, they want to be with you, they can't stop thinking about you, they want to build a life with you...etc...? The fact that he says it's all up to you to make it work speaks volumes. If that is how he sees the relationship now, he will see it that way when you're married...and for one person to be responsible for making a marriage work seems much to heavy a burden for anyone to bear.
Get rid of him. The sooner the better. He's just not that into you. It's a bitter pill to swallow, I know. But that realization can also be very liberating. You're never going to be able to meet a guy worthy of you if you keep yourself tied to the dead weight that you are involved with now. Get rid of him!! Free yourself from the trash you're tied to, and move on! :) | |
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Posted: 11/26/2006 6:36:25 PM | I would go further and say that, once you did ditch this guy, I would advise taking some time to heal and get yourself back together before jumping into another relationship. Otherwise, you're most likely going to be jumping from the fire to frying pan.
I have not dated anyone seriously since I broke up with Mr. Wrong. But, I have developed some amazing friendships with some wonderful men, and it is through these friendships that I have learned what I should be able to expect from any man that I date. My male friends treat me like a princess, and I now understand that I don't need to settle for anything less than that. I would not have this understanding if I had just kept going forward full throttle into another relationship, just so I wouldn't be alone.
Break up with the dud, take some time for yourself, and get yourself ready to meet someone amazing! | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 11/27/2006 3:18:58 AM | She isnt going to do anything but whine and waste peoples time who tell her get rid of him,..
1+1=2 she isnt going to end it,.........
I feel sympathy for those in a bad relastinship,.....
.I feel pity for those who wont do anything about it, what insecurity is there in her that she "cant" and Wont let go of some thing so bad for self. | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 11/29/2006 10:29:15 PM | Oakland County,
Love? Should love make you feel the way you do? Have you been in love before? Were you as confused as you are now? Ask anyone, anywhere, at anytime to define love or being in love and they WILL NOT DEFINE THIS B-O-Y or his actions.
Good luck to you dear. My therapist once advised me. "He who loves the least has the most control." His actions have shown that he has no love for you and, therefore, all control.
You can look for a lifetime of hurt with this boy and it WILL AFFECT your son. I am very very sorry for that.
Just one man's humble opinion
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Posted: 12/8/2006 7:15:57 PM | I know its hard for you to think about the whole situation clearly and heed everyones advice because you are so close to everything. Im just out of a manipulative relationship and what seemed "so subtle" to me- really wasnt. My friends and family members.. all referred to him as the guy with the big "L" in his forehead!..Yet, I would defend him. Do yourself a favor- read the book, "He's scared, she's scared".... its about commitment-phobic people and the things they will do and say... awesome read!.. It truly opened my eyes to a LOT of what was going on..... and made me realize that unless "he" wants to change- there's nothing that I can do or say and it was best for me to walk away and not be another of his victims. | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 12/18/2006 6:22:49 PM | | Hey great girl 62 I thought it was interesting this idea about not returning a call. It looks like this is basically an issue about confidence in a relationship and control. If the person doesn't always return your calls it only shows their lack of maturity and respect for you. Maybe you need to find someone more honest that truly cares about you and is not into teenage head games. I am just wondering why would you want to have a relationship with someone like that anyway? The other issue is control. If you truly care about someone why would you want to kick them to the curb just to prove a point? Trying to reel them right back in also sounds of control? If your relationship is centered around why someone did not call or return a call you need to move on to bigger and better things like a healthy mature relationship!! | |
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| HEY GUYS A QUESTION FOR YOU
Posted: 12/18/2006 6:42:11 PM | | Hey country sweety wake up!! If he truly cared about you he would respect you. Give it up before you have more to lose than 1 year. You think it's hard now, wait until you have wasted part of your life on someone who doesn't care about you, that's when it is really hard. There are plenty of men out there who are just waiting for somene like you. | |
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| HES SEEING OTHER PEOPLE AND DOESNT WANT ME TO SEE OTHER PEOPLE
Posted: 12/18/2006 10:06:20 PM | | take it from a man who has had 2 divorses from woman who thought it was ok to meet other men while i was at work to support them as softly as i can say this the world today is no plays to have a sexual partner shareing what should be yours for your sanity and safty i would advise to cut your losses before you get more than hurt | |
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| HES SEEING OTHER PEOPLE AND DOESNT WANT ME TO SEE OTHER PEOPLE
Posted: 12/18/2006 11:51:57 PM | Well honey, you wrote this post 2 months ago, and if your still with him, I am sure your in it for the long haul. If you thought it was ok, then you'd not have written, and I am sensing that you want someone to support you staying with him, and we arent blind like you are cause we arent in your shoes, nor do we want to be!!! Reread your original post and think about it as if someone else had wrote that and take your own advice.  | |
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