| Saving yourself for marraige!
Posted: 3/23/2005 10:06:06 PM | Sex and marriage is like buying a car.
You wouldn't buy a car without test driving it. And I would NEVER marry a guy without test driving him. | |
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| Saving yourself for marraige!
Posted: 3/23/2005 10:16:34 PM | i had every intenion of waiting until marriage, but i ended up dating someone much older than me. basically, he convinced me that he wanted to marry me, and would wait.
then my 18th b'day came...and he felt the time was right...and i was too naive to know better.
that plan went out the door that night
he went out the door the following night.
in hindsight, i'm glad i didn't wait. i know many men who shy away from virgins...they can't be bothered with teaching her how to please a man. | |
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| Saving yourself for marraige!
Posted: 3/23/2005 10:19:15 PM | a wise man once said, "Your honeymoon is not the time to find out your lover only gets excited when you dress like a pirate."
cars don't last forever, but we take *them* for a test drive... | |
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| Saving yourself for marraige!
Posted: 3/23/2005 10:23:47 PM | Trust me...I was married for years and years and years ....Never had sex before him...And I regret it........... | |
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| Saving yourself for marraige!
Posted: 3/23/2005 10:30:33 PM |
yeah, imagine only ever having one flavor of ice cream.
I think I could truly be happy never eating another flavor of ice cream if it was Ben & Jerry's Karmel Sutra.
how can you go wrong with a solid caramel center? I ask you.  | |
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ryu979
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Joined: 3/17/2005
Msg: 39 | |
| Saving yourself for marraige!
Posted: 3/23/2005 10:36:09 PM | | Its is so sad to hear that sex is being compared to test driving cars and crap like that. Our whole mentality needs to be changed in my opinion. Even on marragie...yeah marragie doesn't last forever...but it SHOULD! To many people dont take it serious...and when the tough gets going, they scream divorce. Whatever happened to for better or worse. Of course there are extreame situations that are beyond your control (finding out your new wife is really a man on your wedding night)..but besides that and abuse...whatever happened to real true love! Sry, its just fustrating how the human mentality is these days to me. | |
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ryu979
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Joined: 3/17/2005
Msg: 40 | |
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| Saving yourself for marraige!
Posted: 3/23/2005 10:41:30 PM | | I have a very dear friend who has only been w/her husband and he w/she. They have 2 beautiful children and a wonderful marriage. But she admits she has come close to cheating before, because she knows nothing different. more power to you if you can hold out and give your partner that special gift. But me, I want to know what I am in for. I don't want to find out on my wedding night that I just married some freak beyond freakdome, some sexual deviant nutcase. Or on the other hand, a 2 pump chump! | |
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ryu979
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Joined: 3/17/2005
Msg: 43 | |
| Saving yourself for marraige!
Posted: 3/23/2005 10:42:36 PM | | I know im the minority in here..but thats life. Hopefully i will find a woman who waited also...but thats hard to find these days! | |
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ryu979
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Joined: 3/17/2005
Msg: 44 | |
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| Saving yourself for marraige!
Posted: 3/23/2005 10:48:12 PM | | Ryu, funny maybe, ridiculous...I wish. I am sure I am not the only woman here to have experienced this...come on my sisters..testify | |
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| Saving yourself for marraige!
Posted: 3/23/2005 11:01:56 PM | | Good for you if you can do it. Personally there was no way in hell that I could or would even if I had my life to live over and know then what I do now. I want to know that the woman I am going to spend my life with is just as good in the sex department as she is in other things. Too many marriages break up cause of poor sex. If the sex is bad then there is a good possability that one or both will look for it elsewhere and once that happens the marriage is over. But to each his own, I do wish you all the best. | |
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ryu979
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Joined: 3/17/2005
Msg: 47 | |
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longte
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Joined: 10/18/2004
Msg: 48 | |
| Saving yourself for marraige!
Posted: 3/24/2005 12:08:39 AM | There is a HUGE difference between SEX and Making Love
You have decided to not do either until you are married COOL
If that works for YOU | |
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| Saving yourself for marraige!
Posted: 3/24/2005 12:12:08 AM | | Yeah, but if you get married and find out that neithr one of you is satisfied by the other in bed, you'll both be f.ucking around. So what's the point in waiting? | |
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| Saving yourself for marraige!
Posted: 3/24/2005 2:23:50 AM | Well I think that of all the things one should bring to a marriage such as trust, respect and commitment virginity is pretty low on the list.
Also, why single out virginity for special treatment? If you want someone to be your "one and only" then why not choose some other quality such as "the one and only girl to whom I've given flowers" or "the one and only girl to whom I've said 'I love you'"?
I think focussing on your virginty gives undue prominence to sex and overlooks the many other aspects which go to make up a relationship. | |
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