| Saving yourself for marraige!
Posted: 10/3/2007 12:57:13 AM | I totally respect you for that. That is actually how we were raised in my family. However, we don't make choices our parents dictate sometimes. Actually, that is why I find priest attractive. :) How many people can sustain from somthing so pleasurable? That's hot.
Excuse me for that...but yea, it is respectable and your choice of course but really no reason to look down on other people that don't choose to sustain. And, I am not saying this because I think about having sex before I wake up in my dreams, after I eat, while I eat, in the shower, driving, and every waking moment of silence that may be attributed to my ADD and hormones being that I am in my prime. Howeverm I remember being a very horny kid (and played with myself often) and even fantasized about sex before I ever even had it.
But, have you thought about some of the ramifications? And, yes it is absolutely romantic but is it realistic? Kids are having sex at 13 these days.
What if you were to have sex with your husband and found that you were incompatible after a couple of years and one of you guys go exploring outside of the relationship and found someone else that either one of you were more compatible with due to the lack of experience. Just being the devils advocate.
But rest assured I a have a cousin and both her and the husband are pharmicists, my age, 33-34ish, 3 children, both virgins when they wed (regardless of whether my ex believes that or not) are still together and happily married from what I heard last. They must have been married for about 8-10 years now.
However, my youngest sister was a virgin until a few years ago, she is 22 or 23. The girl is safely exploring the enjoyments of intimacy as we speak. I'm sure she doesn't sleep around but given the right dude she may jump his bones.
Other than cooking for him, and everything else that is involved in intimacy this is a way I show a guy I am dating my affection and love. For me it takes time to get to know someone, and before I marry the dude I also want to make sure we are compatible if I were to be with him for the rest of my life. Sex to me is very important in a relationship. How would I know if we were compatible in this area if we didn't do the deed?
Everyone has a right to live the way they choose as long as it does not harm anyone. So kudos to you. Good luck though.
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| Saving yourself for marraige!
Posted: 10/3/2007 1:38:59 AM | | nice idea but reality is no one waits til marriage nowadays surely not? what if you find out your not compatiable? | |
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| Saving yourself for marraige!
Posted: 10/3/2007 6:30:07 AM |
as for that sexual compatibility crap, me and my wife will have a whole lifetime and marragie to work on that! Love conquers all my friend...that may sound sappy or cheezy but I really feel that way!
ryu979 I agree 100% with you. It may not be amazing the first time (most sex isn't) but you become more compatible as you go. You get to learn your partners likes and dislikes. It takes time but it a lot of fun learning  | |
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| Saving yourself for marraige!
Posted: 10/3/2007 6:54:15 AM | | Better try the milk before you buy the cow. What is your new partner doesn't do it for you? Only setting yourself up for a potential dissapointment. Your also missing out on some great experiences everyday right now. Now is that living life to the fullest? | |
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| Saving yourself for marraige!
Posted: 10/3/2007 9:34:09 AM | | I think the thought is nice, but it would never happen for me. What if you wait and you aren't compatible? Yikes! | |
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Posted: 10/3/2007 9:51:58 AM | Never to marry,
Never to wed,
I guess I'll stay single,
Until I am dead.
So, I should save myself for marriage? Seriously, I think it would be sad and creepy, if I were a fifty-something virgin. | |
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Posted: 10/3/2007 10:14:51 AM | nice poem magickman. i think i'll get it tattooed.
ok my only question relates to the OP from 2 years ago...
He reckons his parents waited til they were married before they had sex. He is 23, and his parents have been married 17 years? so when exactly were they waiting? wtf? am I missing something here? News flash: babies don't drop from the sky.
My family was (is) very religious and I was always going to wait until marriage. Gave in one day and haven't looked back since. Now I'm just saving kids for marriage. | |
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Posted: 10/3/2007 10:34:17 AM | I have this vision of two blind people trying to put a puzzle together!
I have been discussing this with a girl in one of my classes, she is waiting til she is married for any contact other than kissing. She is 19 and very religious, she just started dating this guy about 3 weeks ago and they have both agreed that they think they will get married. I've tried to reason with her but she has googly eyes for this guy and swears he is the one. She also said they won't live together until they are married, which I find silly. I respect her point of view but I still think she isn't being very realistic and is going to find out that they very well might not be compatible in the bedroom as well as out of it.
My favorite question to ask these people is "Would you buy a car without test driving it first?"
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| Saving yourself for marraige!
Posted: 10/3/2007 10:35:37 AM | | I know some people who were engaged after knowing each other only a couple weeks (2 or 3). Still married 20+ years later... | |
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Posted: 10/3/2007 10:12:13 PM | | This is easily the single most FOOLISH decision a person can make in their life. What are you going to do if sex with your spouse is horrible? I'll tell you what you'll do...suffer for 12 years then finally succumb to somoene who touches you on an intimate level and commit adultry. That is the fate of people who hold this silly notion of saving themselves for marriage. Beyond that, the idea that you would only have one lover your entire life is insane. Would you only try one cut of meat? One kind of cereal? One candy bar? Would you only try one single...anything...for your entire life? Having no basis for comparision is the very definition of mediority. Have fun with that. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2007 12:55:47 AM | I'm sorry, but I think you're a dope.
So you will present the lucky bloke who's jumped through all your hoops to finally make it to the wedding night with your much-prized virginity?
What he will get will be a naive, inexperienced woman with no idea about the sexual act... maybe?
Too late to back out if you are totally sexually incompatible? Do you grin, bear it & lay back & think of England for the rest of your life?
And what of him? does he have to be a virgin too?
I'm sure you're a nice person, but give me a sexually experienced woman anyday. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2007 10:50:31 AM | I'd never buy a car without taking it for a test drive? Would you? I'm personally looking for someone with more experience than my hand.
Your values are fine...for you. IF there is romance in the risk of a lifetime sans satisfaction then so be it. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2007 10:51:17 AM | Nope, don't agree at all. My wife was my first and only for many years. But once we opened up the marriage and I've been with a wide variety of partners, I must say I was *really* missing out. There is as much variety in partners as there is in types of cuisine. I wouldn't be experiencing life to the fullest if I limited myself to one type of food my whole life, I certainly wouldn't want to limit myself to one partner. We're a lot happier for it too, and we've been married now for over 10 years.
But, ignorance can be bliss. If all you know is the one person, and you're not an inherently curious person, then that can work out. You can't want what you don't know about.
I'm just not that person. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2007 11:45:51 AM | | It is a romantic thought if only it worked out that way, I saved myself for marriage and so did my husband we were married five years and after five years of him insulting me about the bedroom life he went and found several other women to cheat on me with,Then he wanted to come back to me because he found out the problem was his due to ED now I don't want him back because I can't trust him but if he had found this out before we got married by being with other women I think we could have had a great marriage, But at the same time I admire anyone who chooses to wait. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2007 3:47:45 PM | I wish I would of saved myself but since Im wishing, I wish I wouldnt of married my unfaithfull ex wife | |
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Posted: 10/4/2007 6:15:36 PM | Not once in my entire life did I ever think that I would save myself for marriage. WHY? Because I wanted to test my own sexuality - be confident in what I had to offer and to experience what I could in order to make a firm decision on who I would marry. I wanted to test drive my ride before purchasing with my life!!!  | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 12:21:08 AM | you can save your self for marriage but you should see each other naked before you get married.
Don't want any surprises....
seriously: you should know if they have any functional problems so your not like "oh god, I gotta spend the rest of my life with...." | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 12:56:58 AM | | nothing wrong with it! no need to care about what other ppl think..just do what u think is comfortable with urself n that's all good!;) | |
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