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Posted: 10/20/2006 6:52:40 PM | | well said mate --- well said | |
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Posted: 10/20/2006 7:36:40 PM | wow .. one of "these" threads again ... time for me to go read something else; something along the lines of:
Lord of the Flies: William Golding
1984: George Orwell
Fahrenheit 457: Ray Bradbury
The Stanford Prison Experiment
Jane Elliott's 1968 Brown Eyes/Blue Eyes experiment
but not until I add some smoke to the fire, not much FUN otherwise, is it?
My opinion (am I allowed one anymore? or is this, too, banned from "us" dumb folk that insist on killing ourselves and others ) directed to those non-smokers who take the over-the-top offense to smoking: (I figured since you can dish the advice, you can certainly take it) you may want to stay away from countries that are very different from North America until Big Brother reaches them first; you'll probably find environments other than your own highly toxic, and also experience difficulty communicating with people who may actually expect you to have something to say about issues OTHER THAN WHY the rest of the world should help highly insulting individuals, and you know who you are, live to be 105! Lord help us.
and ditto on the "well-said" for Smiling Iz
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Posted: 10/21/2006 3:47:06 AM | i used to smoke, and i would not have changed for anyone but myself. it's just too hard. and if he's the right guy, if he wants to smoke, let him. on the inside, i may secretly wish for him to stop, but it's his decision to make, if and when he makes it. i would rather he smoke than other things he could do instead... - and i still love the smell and taste - i know, that's selfish of me... can't help it. i am only a weak & wretched human. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 3:57:16 AM | On my profile, it states that I smoke often.......Its my choice to smoke and I just don't wanna quit right now  Not ready yet.
I don't want some guy telling me that he'd date me if I didn't smoke....everyone has a bad habit or two............this particular habit just happens to be smelly, bad tasting and hazardous to my health.........BUT THAT'S WHY IT IS MY CHOICE 
Now would I quit for someone.......of course I would and I would also be quitting for myself. But if a guy demands me to quit.......I'll pass.....
That's what I had children for........to constantly remind me how bad smoking is for my health  | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 6:18:56 AM | | Please pardon me saying so - but I completely realize it is a damn near God given right of every soul on this planet to tar up their lungs with it, but to most people that I know and myself it is very, very, very unattractive in a woman (or a man) to light a cigarette. A woman could be gorgeous, but as soon as I see her light up, she is out - no flirting, no looking - never mind talking or any kind of contact. However, be really, really careful about considering changing your habits - I only dated a smoker once (unfortunately I did not know she smokes when we met) and, oh man, do habits come back with vengeance. So if you are going to change anything about you - do it for you and not for someone else. If you are just doing it do get the person - good luck with that. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 6:26:16 AM | | me ?..smoke?...never. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 7:56:40 AM | Quiting smoking for someone or to better your chances at dating?, won't work. The smoker has to find their own reasons to quit and want to quit!
Myself, I am a smoker, and have been trying to quit off and on for a few years now, trust me, not easy! Right now, I consider myself an occasional smoker, only smoke when I go out with friends, but I also know I could be 1 cigarette away from becoming a full time smoker again.
So in answer to your question, I don't think the person can do it as they really need to do it for themselves and want to do it, not for anyone else.
Hope that helps? | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 8:31:30 AM | I tried to stop smoking for someone else, a guy, once....and I'd never do it again. I've learned that kicking any kind addiction is best done for yourself and by yourself.
I think honesty is always the best policy though when you are a smoker. I don't smoke alot, and I would definitely respect the other person's breathing space if I was around them, but I wouldn't quit to make myself more attractive to them. | |
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Posted: 11/27/2006 2:07:44 PM | | Any changes a person makes, has to be because they want to make it. Don't change for anyone else, period! | |
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Posted: 11/27/2006 2:45:41 PM | | In life we all have choices and a smoker like an acholic made a choice to start ,both are very addictive .I myself am a smoker and i will quit if and when i decide to ,i would not quit to please someone else because you have to want to quit for yourself to ever really beat the addiction .I am a non drinker and i must say i don't like being around drunk people but that is my choice and if i was dating a woman that drank i would have no problem with it as long as it is not in excess as i don't want to be with an alcohloic ,again my choice .No One can change for anyone else it has to be done from within or it just becomes an issue down the road ,as it gets to a point where when you disagree about something up comes the ,oh i quit smoking for you so pat me on the back etc...,you either choose to smoke or not, as you choose to either date a smoker or not ,the same goes for anything in life ,your an adult it is your choice plain and simple .We all know the risks involved in smoking or any other additctive desease and we have the right to make the choice as to what we will or will not do . | |
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Posted: 1/16/2007 8:23:41 PM | | The question for me is what is occassional smoking. To me it is black or white, either you do or you don't. | |
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Posted: 1/16/2007 8:27:20 PM | | nope, that is non negotiable. | |
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Posted: 1/16/2007 9:32:29 PM | NO!!!!!!! If you don't like me the way I am.....move on.... | |
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Posted: 1/16/2007 11:00:35 PM | I selected the "smokes often" option, only because
"smokes like a freight train" isn't a currently available selection.
On topic:
I've never given a rat's ass if anyone likes or dislikes
me based on tobacco usage. So, I wouldn't change
to "be more desirable".
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Posted: 2/19/2008 2:48:44 PM | | my sons dad was a smoker but i blatently said i wont be with you as i dnt like smokers so the day we got together he quit for me and never looked back and he got his health back also so i guess people do do it to become what that person wants | |
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