RJB888
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Joined: 11/23/2005
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Posted: 10/20/2006 10:18:18 PM | | I'm 5'7' and I have no problem dating a men alittle shorter than myself. The problem I have is they don't want to date me because I'm taller than them. I've actually have been told that I was to tall. Personally I really don't like to date very tall men. Had a relationship with a man 6'4', even though I really don't like tall men, I look for what was inside. We stayed together 12 years. Everyone has a slight amount of shallowness, some have alot. But he's not a drunk, drug user, abuser, convict. If he has a great moral fiber what's the problem that he had surgery. If a man told me something he felt was personal to him after dating for a while I would understand alot of people are private about certain things, This doesn't make him a liar. | |
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Posted: 10/20/2006 11:36:44 PM | Quote:Funme40
OP, whoever woman is so fixed on a man’s height to the extent of specifying a height in her profile can go **** herself in hell as far as I’m concerned as I don’t have a minute to waste with such an idiot. I wouldn’t even bother with someone that shallow and stupid even if I met her crazy standards.
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Says the 6 foot tall gentleman :). Even if she specified the height in her profile, odds are you probably could satisfy her requirements. | |
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Posted: 10/20/2006 11:51:46 PM | | MAN those are some dam good drugs! u should go onto the last comic standing,,,, that was great! LMAO | |
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Posted: 10/20/2006 11:59:11 PM | i would'nt stop loving someone because of it, and it would'nt stop me from falling in love in the first place. what the problem is, is that he chose to keep it a secret for so long... so i would be upset if we had been together for that long, and he had'nt trusted me enough with it sooner.
if you're with someone that shallow, then maybe they're not the right person for you, and you may have some trust issues to work on. as a side note, shorter men are fine, but they usually are not interested in me - 5'8". - met some really cute ones... | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 1:08:13 AM | As long as he is over 5'10, I would not care how he got there...
I think you better love her though before you go through all that...
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Posted: 10/21/2006 5:03:24 AM | I've heard of this surgery...but can they lengthen the legs THAT much - since it has to be done during the growth years? Chances are that the girl has seen the lil scars on his legs for where they put in the screws and equipment to DO this type of surgery...and has probably asked him what they are from...(I know I would)
OT: unless he lied to me about the above question...where'd ya get these scars? then no, I wouldn't feel differently. Planning kids in the future...I'd want to know WHY he had his legs lengthened...and beyond that I can't answer the kid question until I know that answer...
Yes, he would still be beautiful to me - unless he lied in the first place, and no he wouldn't be dumped for a "naturally genetically tall guy"...
...and like it was stated before...alot of work went into this hypothetical question | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 5:09:13 AM | | That is a pretty silly question. Most are going to say yes. Short, tall -- if they care about him, they don't care usually. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 5:09:33 AM | Legs 10 inches LONGER than before ?
It's hard for me to believe that much lenghtening is possible without weakening the bones.
Also I would think there would be an obvious disproportion between the legs and the trunk of the body.
One would look like a 5' 8" guy standing on stilts.
I know this operation is possible but 10" does seem a bit much.
There is also a reverse operation where the legs are shortened for those who think they are too tall. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 5:21:54 AM |
There is also a reverse operation where the legs are shortened for those who think they are too tall
Just so long as they don't take too much off and they end up draggin their knuckles on the ground!!!!!  | |
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kmhstx
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Joined: 8/23/2005
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Posted: 10/21/2006 6:52:06 AM | I don't think I would stop loving him, since most of that love was based on how we treat each other, and not his past. I would be sad that he felt so strongly that he had to change something so superfical,and go through so much pain to be attractive. Tall men are attractive...but thats just superficial physical attraction, thats not what would make me fall in love with him. I am falling in love with someone who is shorter than me...not an issue, because he is comfortable in who he is and has confidence.
Glorious Height? Really I don't think height is glorious, I think someones heart is what is glorious about them. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 7:55:42 AM | no no no i see what the OP is saying and identify with what posters are saying about said scenario. when it comes down to attributes of attraction. if the attraction in physical form isnt found in the start. then likewise it is thrown out. more times than not alot of women are about vanity (which goes for both sexes so dont think im bashing)....
lets say the same thing about a woman whom wasnt blessed with breast. thus in turn doesnt get any attention from men for said reason. so she gets implants and gets more attention than she could shake a stick at. she finds a dude and then in time tells him of it. then what of that??
just think neither side of the sexes had any luck in finding love or care. so both sides had to get surgical to have or become more.
so yes he has a point women often times find a taller man more attractive. just like some men like larger breast.
take this man say jake 6'2 physically fit wash board abs and built nice. a man say 5'8 just average joe, which one would a woman choose? now reverse all that joe 5'8 and fit with wash board abs, then 6'2 jake being average which one would a woman take???
it all comes down to which one the woman wants and feels that is attractive at that time to her. but you can bet the one that is fit will be her choice. but if he is more than 6'0 and fit she will be heaven.
this is no diff than hair color. blonde, brunett, redhead. some men look at hair color. some look at height. some look at structure. some men want a barbie built woman, and women want ken.
all i can say to all this we are adults this isnt highschool. true yes fantasy can be realality. so if either one can find fantasy in the real i just hope it works for you. what you think you want you may never find in the physical department. you may be better off looking where you wouldnt normally look to find all that you search for. in other words both sides need to stop being shallow.....
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Posted: 10/21/2006 8:29:47 AM | Ok, maybe it's time for a summary of the comments so far. These are my personal impressions and grossly generalized from the few posts on here. Nonetheless there are certain trends.
Guys of average and above average height seem to understand the least about this topic and either downplay the problems short men can have with women or just ridicule them. That's probably because men usually don't care much about a girl's height to begin with and secondly because they never had those issues. It's really difficult to comment on something that you haven't experienced a lot yourself.
Then we have women of somewhat above average height. Interestingly, this group of women seems to be the most tolerant when it comes to height. I'm sure most still prefer to date taller guys but often wouldn't mind if someone's a bit shorter (maybe their genetic programming doesn't require a very tall mate to produce strong offspring since they're already tall themselves). Fairly short women seem the most regid about height requirements (again from a genetic point of view to probably compensate for their own lack of height) and usually don't want to date a guy that's just taller but quite a bit taller. Ironically, this is the group most short guys would primarily target to find dates.
Also, age seems to have an influence on preferences. Not quite unexpectedly, older females usually have less issues with height and take more time to get to know a person before they make up their mind about him. It would be interesting to hear from some women if their "height requirements" changed over time.
Finally, we have the below average and short men themselves. I know everyone of them had problems with women because of their height, one way or another. An even bigger problem maybe is that, when they try to find out how women think about this topic, it often makes them look bitter, frustrated or whiny and consequently even less attractive to women. However, this is not inherently true. Just because you recognize an issue and would like to discuss it does not mean you are a complainer or insecure. Maybe they're just trying to figure out how women think and take some helpful advice from it. For example, from the majority of the female posts on this thread it seems obvious that women dislike secrets and dishonesty even more than a few kinks in the male DNA.
My question would be (to women) how a short guy should act, so the woman does not fixate on his height so much. I realize that being ****y about it doesn't help and that confidence goes a long way, but should you just ignore the 800 lbs gorilla when get to know a new girl or should you bring up the height difference once and then let it go. And what would be a good way to mention it without sounding insecure. Difficult questions, I know ;) | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 8:37:03 AM | I am not always attracted to tall guys so I don't think his height would be the thing that would attract me anyway!! I have always preferred men who are between 5'8-5'11. The exception to the rule was my ex-husband and we are divorced...and height had nothing to do with it! LOL
Here is a psychological fact you might be interested in!! How someone perceives your height has little to do with your actual height...People who are well respected are perceived as taller than they actually are...while those who are not respected are perceived as shorter than they actually are. Interesting...
To answer your question, no, I wouldn't dump him but I would feel very sad that he felt he needed to augment his height in such a way...just as I feel it is sad for so many women to use cosmetic surgery in the same fashion...Do what you have to do to assuage your own self esteem I guess!  | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 8:59:34 AM |
I am not always attracted to tall guys (...) I have always preferred men who are between 5'8-5'11.
Ok, 5'8"-5'11" is by no means short..lol.
I have to agree that a radical procedure like surgery indicates some serious psychological problems. While I believe that we can and should always try to improve ourselves (e.g., exercise, grooming, diet) it shouldn't go so far to pretend being someone you are not. For the same reason I would prefer a woman's natural breast, no matter what size, to an augmented specimen any time. If I want to play with salt-water filled balloons, I can go buy a pack for $2 at the grocery store ;p
PS: I can't believe they censored "b i t c h y' in my last post. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 9:10:33 AM | Tall or not.. who cares. I'm only 5' so everyone is taller than me.. but now i'm wishing I had done that.. then my legs would be longer. I would not need to use a step stool to reach for things and I'm sure I could think of a few other things that would be great having him around for.
Seriously.. beauty comes from within. Far more important how he would treat and respect me.. then how he looks. Accidents can happen and looks can be gone.. its the heart that shows through it all. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 11:08:39 AM | Dump him? NOPE
Feel the same wayfor him? Oh yeah. Actually would be impressed he went so far to get something he wanted like that. Not any different than any other cosmetic surgery
Cuz see, most women that are attracted to height are for the same reasons I am: I like to feel little and protected and whatnot. It makes u feel like that petite princess in fairy tales.
Height is not a requirement to to love someone. My exhusband was only 2 or 3'' taller than me.
But the height is a nice thing. It's attractive to me, not a requirement of course.
You are attracted to what you are attracted to. Same way some people like blondes or big butts. Shallow perhaps, but we all have a "type" that we go for.
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Posted: 10/21/2006 11:35:42 AM | Most men I have dated have been able to look me in the eye. I was married to taller men but they sucked lol. I think short guys can be incredibly hot. What is the thrill in having neck pain when you're dancing ?
Oh, and I guess I've realized from someone's statistics that I am abnormally short, lol. Oh, if I was a man.
This was a very silly thread. When people give up the "it's all about me" complex that most people seem to wear they will find joy.
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Posted: 10/22/2006 1:01:26 AM | message 68 and 70-you people said it best,cant believe this thread,had to say something...
if you go to great lengths to do a surgery like that,then there's major problems in your head... bottom line.you know how screwed up that would be to do something like that,just to make yourself more liked because as you state most women like tall guys...maybe alot do..but why would you want someone if thats their major requirement,is the height.
man oh man why cant people just realize everyone has a preference on what they like and it only takes one person that will like all of you.people have to stop trying to satisfy the ones that dont want us..your wasting your energy,big time.get over it....it is the way it is.
theres someone for everyone,have some fckin' patients will ya,everyones so eager to be with someone and then they wonder at the end what went wrong,when it all falls apart for whatever the reason may be.
your question shouldnt even justify an answer,its just too many other questions before you can even answer something like that.
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Posted: 10/22/2006 1:49:02 AM |
Can I have some of what you're smoking? Seems like a whole lot of doins for a "hypothetical" situation.
I'm doubting him already.
And I can't see it as incredible luck for a normal dude to ask a normal girl out.
Am I missing something here, or does this just sound retarded?
Fry
No you aren't missing anything, it sounds really retarded. Not to mention why is it so lucky to be date a guy that is tall? I am only 5'4" so I really like them a bit shorter than that.
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Posted: 10/26/2006 4:57:11 PM | for a guy to say struck with luck she asks you out.....sounds a bit self centered.......YOU are lucky to go out with ME.
Struck with greater luck you are dating him after a year..........if YOU didn't feel lucky with dating ME the first time......feel lucky NOW that YOU have dated ME for a year.
STOP THE PRESS
sounds to me like a guy so IN to himself he'd make love to a mirror if it was possible.
Good Grief Charlie Brown | |
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LNE
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Joined: 12/21/2005
Msg: 75 | |
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Posted: 10/26/2006 5:00:59 PM | | If i was "in love" with this man, then nothing to do with his appearance would turn me away from him. | |
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