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Posted: 10/26/2006 5:22:19 PM | | Wow it sounds like someone has a Napoleon complex. Maybe it isn't your height that's the problem but rather your attitude BECAUSE of your height? Get over it OP you aren't going to grow any taller so become secure and confident with the height YOU DO have and maybe more women will say yes to a date. Women can spot a man who isn't comfortable WITH HIMSELF from a mile away and THAT is the turn off. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2006 5:26:11 PM | I didn't read the whole thing. I have heard of little people going threw that when they are young, so they will be taller. There is lots and lots of operations to get to a point that they are tring to reach. normaly they do fine until they get older, then they are affected by it. So in my best judgement I would never put a child threw it if all was wrong was they were short.
If people fall in love then that person past operations wont afect them any. It will affect their kids. I would talk about what they would want to do to their kids when they are born. The thought of putting a child threw that would be skare me off. Sometimes you have to look at what your mate would do if you were to die tommorro. In order to make a good desision. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2006 8:40:37 PM | Quote: METALLlC BLUE
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Posted: 10/26/2006 8 18 PM
I personally find circus midgets to be very sexy.
Actually, I'm starting to think 5'5 ft is circus midget height. :( | |
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Posted: 10/26/2006 8:45:43 PM | everyone around me is minimum 5'8.....5'10, 5'11, 6'0, 6'1, 6'2 and even a few extreme 6'4, 6'5, 6'7.
Dont believe me? Look at the height descriptions of many profiles on the personals. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2006 8:48:37 PM | | Personally, if he's an attractive person, AND has an absolutely amazing personality... who cares. As long as he never lied and told the truth. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2006 9:01:34 PM | I think I know about these surgeries. Learned it in some psychology class and if it's the same one I learned about than no it's not the same as plastic surgery in order to just have a bigger breast or penis or what ever.
It's for people who for some medical reasons are unable to grow their own heights they should be able to reach. Like, they are given cat scans and x-rayed and etc. and should be able to grow more; however, for some reason due to problems in their endocrine system or something they can't grow...so a male would be about 4 foot 6 inches or so. In order to fix this situation they would do the surgery that you talked about and allow him or her to grow the bit they missed out due to organ problems or etc.
What's wrong with that? I don't see anything wrong with it. In fact I would commend the doctor who found out the problem in the first place or what ever. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2006 9:03:24 PM | [everyone around me is minimum 5'8.....5'10, 5'11, 6'0, 6'1, 6'2 and even a few extreme 6'4, 6'5, 6'7.
Dont believe me? Look at the height descriptions of many profiles on the personals.]
Yes, and they also say they are of the 'average' body type, which honestly, is not true, if you look at quite a few of their pictures.
I've met a couple of men who said in their profiles they were 5'10"...NOT, more like my height 5'6" or 5'7"...
I think instead of spending 'his' money on some surgery that will be quite painful and no doubt expen$ive, 'he' should find a good therapist and deal with 'his' issues of self confidence. As much as there are numerous women out there who want a 'tall' man (I am included in that), there are many women out there where height is not an issue with them. He should just look for someone like that! | |
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Posted: 10/26/2006 9:03:36 PM |  This is in response to Napoleon's syndrome. 
Napoleon was actually average to above height for his era. In fact he was taller than I am now. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2006 9:18:37 PM | my first answer or I should say question to the guy is "Why did you think you had to cause that much pain to your body?"
then I would say to myself "do I like this person or not?" It honestly won't matter to me if he is ugly, short, fat, than or etc. if they make you happy and make you smile then they are the person you should be with. No one (and even if they are the most perfect human being in the world) has a perfect child. honestly the perfect child is the child you love and respect and they love and respect you. but in this world now not too many child can trust they parents because their parents are too easy to judge.
some people forget what it is like to be in jr high and high school. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2006 9:46:39 PM | um ok they typically only do that to people afflicted with dwarfism.Otherwise tons of people would be paying to sprout up (me included!) And if he has dwarfism,or any other affliction that would affect his height,there would be no doubt facial characteristics giving this away (very few people with genetic abnormalities look completely normal-just a matter of nature).
I'm not calling you a liar,but this does sound strange.I cannot see a random,normal guy 5'5 getting this type of surgery just to be taller. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2006 10:18:14 PM | I saw a special on TV about this procedure being done in China. The procedure itself originated in Russia, but was further developed in China. What they do is put screws in your lower leg bones and use a stretching mechanism to lengthen the bone. It takes a year to recover from the operation, but a lot of Chinese men have had this procedure done because the girls in their lives left them for taller guys. So women liking taller guys is not just a Western thing.
Not every woman is so fixated on height. I know a young woman whose husband is 5'8" and she said he was the tallest guy she had ever dated. And she's not bad-looking either! 2 of my former girlfriends were about 5'8" and 130 pounds. So if some women will not go out with you because you're not 5'10" or above, then there are some who will. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2006 10:29:14 PM | OP......
This is a very common subject ....if I see on more thread about guys getting themselves artificial leg stretchings.....I think I'll .........LOL
I have actually heard that this is one of the most common "stretching" the truths for guys on their profiles ....I'm 6 foot ....not short ...but not super tall ....I knew a guy in college who was 6 ' 8 " and skinny as a rail who could eat 10 big m*cs and did since we agreed to pay for them if he managed to ...this is not totally on subject but whatever......it's an "interesting" side note...(-: | |
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Posted: 10/26/2006 11:42:47 PM | Dash Toronto
Here in Australia all around me in my town the guys are 6 foot plus
Wanna see very tall averages - white guys from places like south africa and zimbabwe those guys usually hit 6 foot 6 120kg plus in size -- must be the outdoors lifestyle good clean food etc - they grow up on farms working hard eating well etc etc - but then again in my experiences in Africa - everything grows fast and big | |
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Posted: 10/27/2006 2:23:26 AM | | Meh, don't worry about height. I'm not very tall, my father is 5'6, my mother is 5'4, my brother is 5'7. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2006 4:36:17 AM | Thank G*D doctors in Canada will not do this surgery unless the medical condition warrants a drastic step like this is needed-- ie: cases like deformed legs which need to be straightened. I worked with the special needs for over twenty years and in that time only worked with one individual who had this procedure done.
It was NOT done for cosmetic or aesthetic reasons. When the individual was a toddler (somewhere around two years old)-- the father decided to break his son's legs. The reason was that the child was climbing onto the couch. That said-- the fractures (multiple and happened on more than one occasion) were never treated medically. When the boy entered school-- it became apparent what abuse had occurred. Thankfully the boy was removed from the home. BOTH legs were horribly deformed to point where walking was an extreme challenge and climbing stairs was out of the question. However-- he had to wait until his growth had stopped (think he was over 21 years old before they would even consider it). They rebroke the legs and used some kind of extension devices to allow the bone to "fill in". he underwent a number of these procedures over the next few YEARS. The operations had occurred years before I met him so am unfamiliar with some details.
It is NOT cosmetic surgery-- the scars are in no way pretty.
To me-- if you are wanting to undertake a surgery like this-- for cosmetic reasons-- you are using up valuable medical resources that should be directed to the individuals who really and truelly need it. What you need is psychological counselling to come to terms with the fact that you are short-- you are NOT in need of surgery-- you are NOT a medical NEED.  | |
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Posted: 10/27/2006 5:31:37 AM | Now-- to answer your question---
I am uncertain HOW the individual would "hide" his scars. The scars in the story aforementioned in no way resemble any scars that could go unnoticed. If he lied about them-- it would set up HUGE questions with me as to what else he is lying about.
If the person needed the surgery for medical reasons-- they would without question have my support. I tend to look at a person's character more than their "presentation package". Everything about the body changes. That is part of life. Personalities and character do NOT change. I am tall for a woman but would not consider for a heartbeat undergoing an operation to remove a couple inches of height-- it just does not make sense to me. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2006 5:33:10 AM | Say you come across and meet a guy who's 6'0 - 6'2 at work or online, or through friends. Struck with incredible luck, you ask him out or he asks you out and you start dating. The first few dates are wonderful and he seems so into you and treats you like a princess. Meanwhile, he's really tall, takes goodcare of himself and is built. Takes great care of his looks. Not a slob, abuser, jerk, manipulator and works out. So his physique is rather above average. Muscular. Nice abs. etc etc etc etc. He also has an amazing personality. Makes you laugh all the time etc etc
My head doesn't turn simply because of a guy's height. So far, no brownie points.
Almost everybody treats each other incredibly well on the first few dates. So far, no brownie points.
I'm also not a fan of hard abs ....
Now, struck by even greater luck. You find you have been in a relationship with this guy that lasted over a year and a half or more.
If a relationship lasts a year and a half, luck has nothing to do with it.
Then one day, he says he has to confess, share, tell you something...
And hasn't felt comfortable doing so during the first year and a half? What happened to it being a great relationship?
So on your next get together...You're anxious to know what is the big secret he must tell you. That's so hard to share. Since you noticed he is troubled over how you will take it and he says it might affect your future with him and that you might even reject him for it.
Its his one flaw.
So you meet him and he confesses.
He is not naturally tall. He got his legs surgically lengthened. (There is a procedure which they break the bones and when it heals, they can use a devise that makes the bones in his legs grow, so when the bones heal, he can end up with 10 inch taller legs.) Its a rather extreme procedure...
Now, knowing he isn't genetically gifted with such a glorious height...
Would you still feel the same way about him?
No. I think he's stupid for having had such an operation, and I feel that within a year and a half we should have reached a point where there are no skeletons in the closet.
Will you still see a future with him? Just as before? With a family and kids, etc etc..
Or will you start having doubts and not see him as being as beautiful as you used to see him before?
I'd start to see him more for the incredibly insecure individual he is. He'd have to be in order to have the surgery, keep it a secret for so long, and be so worried about the effect it would've had on the relationship had he been honest earlier.
Will you dump him and move on for a naturally genetically tall guy?
I'd probably dump him because the past year and a half of my life had been spent with someone who wouldn't be completely honest for fear of losing a relationship.
I've just never had a thing for insecure doormats.
As for moving on, I would eventually. If this relationship scarred me, I'd be more likely to move on with a shorter guy though ... at least I'd know he wasn't going to tell me this particular secret in a year and a half, right? lol
I know this sounds crazy. Ladies, what are your answers?
Yes, it does sound crazy. I highly doubt that it's your height that's standing in your way. It's more likely to be your insecurities and the way you obsess about other people's height. Walk with your head held high ... you'll appear taller / bigger. It won't be the height that attracts people, but the fact that you're confident in your own skin.
Edited to say: I just read your profile. Apparently height isn't the only thing that bothers you about other people. Are you seriously concerned about bling and how many times a person's cell phone rings with calls from the opposite sex? And the way they wear their hat? C'mon ..... How did you get to be 30 yrs old and still care about these things? Look inward. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2006 6:11:37 AM | Who really gives a crap about leg extensions? If i was with him for over a year, he must be doing something right. What if he were in an accident? Would i leave him if he lost both legs? I think not, so an extension of the legs would not be an issue. Now if he told me he was born a woman......  | |
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Posted: 10/27/2006 6:29:25 AM | Are you serious?? Like really.....you're just messing with us right?
I think you are WAY too obsessed with this dude! I mean, the post you made with all of the height stats!!??!! That's crazy! Who gives a flying **** what the average height is anywhere!!?? LOL
I honestly think that if someone is willing to go through such horrifying extremes just to find love than they need to check themselves into a hospital right quick....in the pshyc ward! I'm not kidding! This is something beyond the pain of "implants" or "dental surgery"....we're talking about BREAKING LEGS to attract someone!!
When you find the right one, she will love you for YOU! She will not care how tall you are, she'll love everything about you!
PLEASE stop obsessing over this! It's really unhealthy, in my opinion!
You'll find the girl of your dreams, I promise!
Until then, leave your poor legs alone and get on with life! 5'7" is nothing to be worried about!
To answer your original question....if I fell head over heels with a guy, then found out he had done what you are suggesting....I wouldn't think "Oh no! Now our children will only be about 5'5", holy crap!"
It would be the furthest thing from my mind because I'd be more concerned about the guys mental health first and foremost. To do something sooooo extreme to be happy with YOURSELF is one thing, but to do it for the sole purpose of pleasing *some* women's views about height is utterly ridiculous! | |
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Posted: 10/27/2006 6:35:02 AM | If I loved someone their height doesn't matter one bit. I've dated men who were considered above average height and below average height. Average is just a number , I would really wonder why someone would go to the extremes of that surgery to gain some height though.
Then again I'm only 5'2 so I guess I'd be a hypocrite to rule someone out based on his height. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2006 7:43:39 AM | I have to agree I have never heard of such a question, but yes I would still love him. After all we have been together by this time for over a year & everything was going great, why in the world would I want to leave? It is about what is in the heart that makes a person, not what is on the outside. Me, I would be there to stay. | |
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