| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 12/14/2008 8:20:12 PM | | Stay classy, and don't let ignorant people like this put you off. The only behavior you can control is your own, so keep your head up that you took the high road. Not everyone can attain that. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 12/14/2008 8:24:59 PM | | I handle it by accepting that something somewhere along the lines doesn't make us compatable and move on. I had a guy once demand an explanation when I told him "thanks, but I don't think we're a good match." Some people seem to think they are owed more than that and some don't. Personally, I think a simple thanks but no thanks is a sufficient way of saying "I'm not interested in you". Accept it and go on. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 12/15/2008 7:27:41 PM | Rejection is relative to one's perspective. I cannot take it personal as that would be unrealistic. It is impossible to know what's going on inside a person's head let alone trying to figure out the person "behind the keyboard". Like you, I realize I am not everyone's cup of tea and by the same token, I am also very picky.
I've never delt with "real" rejection until I visited this site. When I go out with my friends I attract all kinds of attention and meet men but have had no luck.However, I can at least say no on the spot w/o that person knowing anything about me. But I find this can be a little harder with all the instant messaging popping up and messages in you're box with the other person knowing if you read their message and wether or not you deleted it...this is crazy! So I can truly see how brutal this can be for someone.
Point being, there is no easy way to deal with rejection other than not taking it personal. We all are here to weed out the nonsense and find what we want. So folks should not be offended as I'm sure everyone's been rejected by somebody or has rejected someone else at some point.
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 12/15/2008 9:04:40 PM | Run into a wall headfirst. Hit myself with a rubber mallet. Slam doors. Scream uncontrollably. Flail my arms wildly in the air. Basically just carry on like Jim Carrey in "Liar Liar" (the washroom scene near the end where he is in court).
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 12/16/2008 7:37:03 AM | OP wrote:To me, if someone is classy enough to take the time to reply in a civil manner, I'm grateful. I'm aware that I'm not everyone's cup of tea. I usually respond by saying thanks and wish them good luck.
How do you handle rejection? I agree with the OP on this one. I'd like to know if they're interested or not. If they're not and say they're not. That saves alot of time for both of us and I thank them for being honest and up front and then move on.
There has been a couple cases where someone's responded back with something off the wall garb pointing out something in my profile info they didn't agree with bashing me. Then I might pick a flaw or two out and point them out to their attention before moving on. People are people. Some people are rude. Sometimes it's nearly impossible not to give them some of their own medicine. I normally treat people slightly better than they treat me. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 12/16/2008 8:47:52 AM | | Well the email sent to me by someone who I didn't think was a match would get the same response you sent and how do I handle rejection? Simple...move on! | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 12/29/2008 5:32:53 PM | I usually curl up into a defeated ball and cry myself to sleep. 
It depends. I can feel kind of bummed out if I've been rejected, but my attitude is usually, their loss, not mine, and I move on. No point in dwelling on it forever. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 12/29/2008 5:38:37 PM | It is becoming more and more difficult for me to bear.
How will I ever hide all these bodies ?
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 1/8/2009 6:37:58 PM | | I just take it in stride. Sometimes Im just not what somebody is looking for....no biggie, it's nothing personal | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 1/9/2009 4:54:50 AM | Rejection is all part of the dating game online. It's very easy to reject someone online. I never take it personally since the woman who rejected me hasn't even met me in person.
I do think that it is very rude if a woman writes in her profile that she would like a message with some "meat" in it and not some one liner only to read and delete my message, a message that I took the time to write and ask her sincere questions in a respectable manner.
Very rarely did I write to a woman and received a response stating that she wasn't interested. Women usually don't write back. They either read your message and don't respond or read and delete the message. At least that's the case with my rejected attempts to communicate.
I always have complete respect to women who politely write back, no matter their answer to my mail. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 1/9/2009 12:10:18 PM | Just keep on fishing!! It's not like I met the person anyway. No biggie to me. Nothing gained, nothing lost.
If someone is going to get all defensive and you haven't even met them, be glad and block away my friend | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 1/9/2009 5:04:36 PM | How do I handle rejection? With this attitude - who cares! Honestly, rejection is part of life. While it may sting for a brief moment - i truly do not dwell on it. I beleive there is so many beautiful things and men out there that I don't need to cry over what i can not have.
If a man rejects me, I just move on. I don't need to say anything mean to him - I just move on. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with me - it just means we weren't meant to be together. Who cares! | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 1/10/2009 3:25:40 AM | If someone isn't interested in me, I would rather he be mature about it and simply let me know.
It is so frustrating when, rather than being honest about it, the guy makes up all sorts of lame exuses about not being in touch. Trust me, the avoidance game is really irritating.
Just like pulling a bandage off, do it quickly in one shot....it's less painful that way!! | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 1/10/2009 9:33:51 AM | There are a lot of people who can't handle rejection that is why they act all stupid and immature. Those are the people who think the world evolves around them which is pretty sad. For me I rather you tell me upfront that you are not interested in me than lead me on because that would be pleasing to me. I have had instances where I would send a message to a lady and if she doesn't respond back to me right there and there I know she is not interested so I just move on with my business...There are plenty of fish  in the sea so I am not worried at all. One has to be matured and civilized to accept a rejection...Put it this way if their reason is a good one then I respect that if it is a bad one it's their loss and my gain. Not everyone is going to like you because that's how life works. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 1/10/2009 9:42:27 AM | Well I've lived a weird life. I don't like school, I don't hang in big crowds, I'm going after artistic ambitions and blah blah blah.
i learned I'm not in the norm, even though I look like the boy next door. This is why I prefer the city of Los Angeles over Toronto. A free loving dream go getter city versus a what's your background better get a job everyone else is getting city.
Rejection comes often to people like me, so I accept it and just think that the girl IU do land is probably a better person than most. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 1/10/2009 9:44:38 AM | OP did you find out where she works?
I may need to invest in a bulletproof vest..... | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 1/10/2009 10:27:12 AM | | I've been a salesman for close to 25 years. I experience rejection every day. The best way to deal with it is to smile and move on. Each rejection brings you one step closer to the one you want. You may have to get rejected quite a few times but I would say to myself, "One more closer". At least that is how I get through my day. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 1/10/2009 1:04:39 PM | I've only gotten the silent treatment to the few ladies I've shown an interest in (desert wind blowing), so, if that's "rejection", I handle it in stride. If she's not enthusiastic about me, it ain't gonna work anyway. I just shrug my shoulders, laugh it off and forget about it. I acknowledge that I don't look like Brad Pitt and accept my lot in life LOL. If any of these ladies met me in person, I think they'd be impressed. A profile pic and a couple paragraphs only does one so much justice.
From what I've been reading in the forums here, some people insist on SOME kind of reply, instead of no reply at all, and then, when they get a rejection reply that isn't absolutely to their liking, they get pissed! WTF? I'd just click "block user" to those who make a federal case out of your reply. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 2/9/2009 9:42:18 PM | | i expect rejection... i totally expect it but at the same time i keep going, get back up after the pity party and start going and going again!! | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 2/10/2009 4:23:58 AM | I get rejected all the time... I just move on to the next one. ..If I get rejected really bad, then I just go deep sea fishing in the ocean with my relatives and friends....Being out on the water in the mighty Atlantic Ocean makes me feel happy. Sometimes being rejected can be a good thing, does not always have to be bad. The one rejecting you could be doing you a favor. ..of course my glass is always half full not half empty anyway.  | |
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