| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 10/23/2006 8:36:45 PM | If you can't handle rejection, then you don't need to be in this business!
If it was somebody you really liked doe sit hurt? Hell Yeah!
But I"m with the other guy, it's nothing a night with my bottle of Knob Creek and a shot glass won't cure! Get it out of the system and move on! Some hurt worse than others and require repeat treatments on ocasion, but I've never had one require more than a weekends treatment! Especialy if you knew them a while and then they dumped you out of nowhere.
Anymore if somebody tells me no thanks, I thank them for their time and move on! | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 10/23/2006 9:42:35 PM | The same way you do. Altough, I am not really as polite as you, and usually don't respond to e-mail if I don't feel a connection (shame on me). But I had the same thing happen, once I did respond. It didn't irk me that much, since part of the dating is handling rejection and you learn as you go. However, there are definitely people out there who take it way to seriously.
You didn't do anything wrong, just had a bad luck of running into someone whose manners are slightly askew. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/3/2006 4:19:44 AM | She does NOT sound normal...But since you posted the question of " How do YOU handle rejection ? ", well here's my two cents.
I have been rejected TWICE before in my entire life. It hurt....but all I did was basically put on a smile, a shrug and said, " That's ok...but thanks for telling me the truth ". They never heard from me again, not bc I was sulking off with my tail between my legs, but basically life is too short to sulk over rejections. In fact, I do thank my experiences of being rejected twice in my life. If I never got rejected then I would have a bigger head than I already have, right now! LMAO! On a more serious note, it's good to be rejected bc it helps you grow a thick skin......
Besides...right after I was rejected, I put on my sexiest dress, my ****-heel shoes, and armed with a martini on one hand, and a gaggle of my hottest friends, we hit the town, danced the night off and rebuilt a new list of admirers....:) Rejection? I even forgot what the word meant!  | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/3/2006 7:04:37 AM | I always say this, I truly believe it. I think anyone who approaches someone else romantically should really think about the mindset of what "rejection" really is.
In my eyes, you CANNOT really be "rejected" by anyone who doesn't know you fairly well. Most here haven't the slightest idea who you are...so it can't be personal because they don't have that much information. They are making a quick surface judgement and not an educated decision. BUT - that being said, they DO have every right to make whatever kind of decision they want to, and NO it doesn't make them shallow or cruel unless they actually insult you. No one is entitled to being known and understood by anyone. So don't dwell on it, there's always more people behind that person that might want to get to know you.
I would rather it be from a complete stranger than someone who knows me inside and out and THEN decides they don't want anything to do with me. Now THAT's personal. The rest is all - just people and life.
The longer you stop and think about it, the more personal you make it, and the harder it is to get past. Take no longer to get past it than they took to come to their decision. No more than 30 seconds. You chalk it up and move on. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/3/2006 7:16:53 AM | depends on when you are getting rejeted...
if is it no thanks for a date.. then it is ok... ciao for now... not a big deal
if it is someone who I have been dating for half a year and she drops me like a stone, for no real reason... well then that sucks rocks!
but for me... a none response or a negative response is not that big of a deal! | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/3/2006 10:36:10 AM | with rejection!
seriously though -
who gives a damn about it? it's a part of life.
if someone rejects me I just move along - it's no big deal. to each their own and all that - ya know? oh, and remember - f*ck em if they can't take a joke! | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/4/2006 9:35:28 PM | I think most of us have at one time or another been rejected. IT stings. I try to consider that maybe it is the distance, or religious background, or something that I cannot control or would change. I don't like hurting feelings, so I usually don't write back at all if I feel there is no chemistry, or I write and just say thanks.
Without meeting someone, I think it is tough to get shot down, when they havent even taken the time to get to know you as a person. There are many people I have sat and conversed with that I learned something from or really enjoyed, however I would not have met them just from their profile on the internet. There are nice people on the internet, guess you have to keep your head up, think positively and not take things personally. | |
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anth28
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Joined: 9/28/2006
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/5/2006 8:08:47 AM | | Yeah, rejection stings. I dont care who you are, we have all been rejected at some point, even though some folks here seem to act like it has never happened to them. Truth is, there is worse in life. Be happy you have your health, a job, a home, a computer to sit in front of and fret about rejection... | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/5/2006 3:02:25 PM | | I try to act with dignity. I don't get angry or persistant, I wish them well then I just walk away. I'll admit it took me years to realise this, but at the end of the day the loss is as much thiers as it is mine. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/5/2006 3:02:37 PM | | I try to act with dignity. I don't get angry or persistant, I wish them well then I just walk away. I'll admit it took me years to realise this, but at the end of the day the loss is as much thiers as it is mine. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/5/2006 3:28:52 PM | | Well, now this is sweet.... First of all, does it matter if someone rejects you that you have no emotional ties to ? Or if they reject you for because of some assumed reason ? Some people choose to flee because they have been burned so many times, and that can be understandable. I was recently "rejected", with not a word of explanation, not that I need any, but cmon peeps.. arent we adults?? Just say whats on your mind. Anyways... rejection can be hurtfull if you let it.. but take a look at "what" was rejecting you and wait for the one that wont be that stupid in the future :) | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/5/2006 3:54:58 PM | I recently met for a few hours with someone from this site in my hometown. We talked about all the things we had in common, our children, backgrounds, etc, etc...the conversation flowed very freely. I really thot we had hit it off then today I got this email from him
Sorry havent got back to you sooner, but just now came back from river. I dont know a good way to say this but, nothing clicked for me, u are a very sweet and nice lady and i hope u find someone. Hope u are not totally mad at me, but i have to be honest.
Yea I am kinda curious as to what the CLICK was supposed to have been....He didnt look anything like his pictures, not extremely good looking, but I was going for the personality. I do appreciate his honesty, just not understanding the CLICK thing...
So rejection for me, ususally tells me that person is looking on the outside and not on the inside....the emails and ims are just a farce...This man will never know what a great lady he is leaving behind... | |
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Smjle
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Joined: 9/19/2006
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/7/2006 6:18:30 AM | | For most people, it depends on the amount of investment. A rejection from someone you met a couple of minutes ago only hurts for a few minutes. A rejection from a long term wife or husband will hurt for a year and sometimes much longer more. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/7/2006 5:58:16 PM | Boy, I am with you on that one. First date, the guy says, your boobs aren't as big as I expected. I said I gave you the measurements, you knoew exactly what was up. He says boob size is subjective, I said numbers are objective. Guzzled my jack and coke, and walked away within 5 minutes of meeting him. Boy, we can be so wrong. Thought we would click so well based on hours of typing.
Only been on awhile, this first rejection really got to me but I think I maintained my dignity and let him know I'm more than boobs. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/7/2006 6:25:13 PM | | I think it's kinder not to send a rejection e-mail. It sounds as if some people are genuinely hurt by receipt of an e-mail saying that someone isn't interested, no matter for what reason. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/8/2006 4:57:54 AM | | I move on. I can't waste time mulling over rejection feelings. Whatever. Pack it up and move on to the next one - ha. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/8/2006 5:00:39 AM | | I don't think anything of it. I'm enough of a realist to know that I'm not going to be everyone's cuppa tea, and having them let me know is much better than stringing me along. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/8/2006 5:39:50 AM | | tobesure01, i dont understand that either!One minute your the best thing since sliced bread, the next minute your ignored or dumped!That can happen and has done ,even after several dates.I just tell myself they are the ones with a problem, not me.Never give up hope though. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/8/2006 1:56:15 PM |
how do you handle rejection
well it happened once and i just said... aahhh well you don't ask you don't get but i still hope we can be friends instead... and we are so i just moved on its all you can do!! | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/8/2006 3:04:54 PM | Well, nobody likes to be rejected,  but on a dating website any initial rejection would be from someone who doesn't know you, so it doesn't amount to much of a reflection on who you really are!
If I'm approached by someone who really doesn't seem to be a good fit, I will reply and give a gentle "thanks for your interest but no thanks..." unless the person is belligerent  disrespectful  or gives me an uneasy gut reaction - then I will block them.
For my part, I would rather have a polite "no thanks" than no response...I think it's just good manners.
We all are taking a risk by putting ourselves out here - we oughta try not to leave scars on each other!!!
I think there's at least ONE if not MANY somebodies out there for everyone - it's just a matter of showing who you are and doing some  to find someone who's a good match.
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/8/2006 3:11:02 PM | I have learned to not care.......
I have enough going on in my life.
now if we communicate for a while and I dig her, and she gets silly because of one misinterpretation of a particular email, then, yup, I care. | |
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Mynx43
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Joined: 8/30/2006
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/8/2006 4:22:13 PM | Well sounds to my like you handled the situation perfectly. I see alot of men I'd like to talk to and of course not everyone is going to be interested in me. But when i get a reply stating that they aren't interested, I usually reply one more time with a thank you for replying. I think it takes a real gentleman to even respond when they aren't interested. So I put my bait back on my hook and cast again 
The problem is we all "claim" we want honesty but it seems we only want it if it's working in our favor  | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/8/2006 4:23:01 PM | Rejection in some form or another is just the name of the game that is life.
We can't all hit home runs or make the grade in every situation.
It's not easy for most people... some people take it a lot better, that's for sure. But, you have to remember that rejection is not completely negative. It allows us other opportunities.
Being the lone figure on the horizon can be scary... but it can also be exciting.
the giggleparts -Where's the beef?
PS. I'm usually on the floor rolled up into a fetal ball... crying.... like with snot and stuff... got to keeps it real. | |
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