| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/23/2006 9:39:10 AM | I have read all of your replies to this question. And as I say in my profile. Show some class. We all have been on both sides.Nobody likes rejection, but we are adults it is part of life, deal with it, and it makes you tougher as well as appreciate it, when you do meet a wonderful person. And if you don't have 10 seconds to write back to someone and say "thanks, but no thanks or not interested" then I say you have no manners, period. My opinion.....
I guess it is all about how you were brought up? No matter what, I respond either way. I don't go on here unless I have some time.
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/23/2006 10:06:27 AM | I wouldn't have replied to her tirade the first time, you stated your case, you didn't need to give her an explanation. We're all grown ups and can handle any situation with class. Well most of us can, the freaks that don't know better? not so much. Forget about it.  | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/23/2006 11:05:28 AM | I usually laugh if I know them and they come to me later crying about some freak show they went for instead.
HER: "Oh, but he really understood me..."
ME: "What part? The part where he wanted to bath in your blood or the part where he wanted to make a pillow out of your hair?" | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/23/2006 11:47:32 AM | | I just let it go, she wasn't good enough for me anyways and I feel great after for not having wasted anymore of my time on that person. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/24/2006 10:22:15 AM | | I take it as Very charming, Im not an over egotistical guy here but, her loss. Im a guy who values freindship and freindship lasts a long time when its a good relationship | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/25/2006 10:51:32 AM | How do I handle rejection.........very poorly....
I actually get embarrassed for emailing the guy and then stay off here for a while, drink some wine, listen to music.....loud music, and then start feeling better about the situation and get back to things. All in all it lasts about an hour or so......... | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/25/2006 3:17:49 PM | I reload my sidearm, and screw on the silencer.
I honestly believe that if this is due to being stood up then there must be somebody a whole lot better out there for me, because this one simply showed me how immature and disrepctful they really can be, and has thus prevented me alot of future heartache. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/25/2006 4:30:26 PM | Everyone deserves the courtesy of a reply. It costs nothing to be kind to everyone....you may reap huge benefits in the end. Should the message be in an offensive manner.....then, I would just delete it..or block the person.
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/25/2006 4:34:15 PM | I also meant to say that if someone is not interested in me....that's okay.....because,
I believe everything happens for a reason....and, just go on to another person...In time, the right one will come along.......and, there is also no harm in just making a good friend, too. Friends are priceless....and, will always respond and will always be there for you. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/25/2006 7:31:19 PM | | Wow I had no idea so many people handle things diffenty. so far I have only emailed a few letters, I thought the girls had nice profiles, and I have had no feeling of rejection, granted so far I have mad a few friends, hopefully will get rejected soon so I can write something. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/25/2006 8:58:20 PM | i tend to think its a physical thing so i'll look in the mirror. i hate when i do that btw | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/26/2006 5:15:37 AM | | rejection is pretty hard and a very hard emotion to deal with. It comes in many forms I guess and I myself have been rejected here but more so from no replies than a straight thanks but no thanks. I understand I am not everyones cup of tea , and the same goes for them. Not every women here appeals to what I would want from a women. Its not to say someone else might think there the best thing since sliced bread. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/26/2006 7:53:00 AM | Depends on the situation. If it's someone I've had no prior contact with, and whom I'd lose nothing through the rejection, I just smile and chuckle, and get back to whatever else I was doing (or pretending to be doing). When it's from someone I've been talking to or hanging out with for a while, then it stings more, and I tend to over-analyze myself, and wonder what I did wrong. I need to quit doing that, because it tends to evolve into a short-term (few hours, up to a day or two) depression.
But were I in your situation, I'd just block her and remind myself that sometimes people need help logging onto the internet, and those people tend to be kinda slow, and usually have anger problems as well... | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 2/12/2008 8:36:12 AM | | OMG! I did not know whether to laugh when I read this or not. I could not believe the guy you went out on a date with would have the balls to even say something like that about your boobs! I mean, I can be brutally honest sometimes, but not like that. That was just low class on his part! | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 2/12/2008 8:40:54 AM | I cry myu freaken eyes out for a week then stalk the guy for 5mths making his life a living hell!!!  | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 2/12/2008 9:02:49 AM | | I wouldn't give it a second thought in the very least - I may even have a good laugh at how pathetic some people can be ... be a good girl *pat pat* and run along now is what I would have said to her - maybe she needed it dumbed-down a shade in order for her to understand through the hissy fit she was taking!!!! | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 2/12/2008 3:04:02 PM | I once saw a very inspirational sign in an office, which changed my life...it said
"If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours...if it doesn't, go out and shoot it down like a dog in the street".
I hope this has helped you.
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| In POF, lack of response... is an answer
Posted: 2/12/2008 3:14:41 PM | I happen to know I'm nice as hell. And I got me some fine manners, too. This notion that we're obligated to engage any stranger who approaches, is outdated and not workable, whether by internet, phone call, knocking on our front door.
Whereas an unreturned phone call might possibly mean s/he didn't get your message, a fish-mail status of "read, deleted" IS ITSELF AN ANSWER.
Kvetching about "lack of class," implying that only ugly women don't answer their emails, etc., are transparent attempts to smack back at rejectors.
And vituperative rejecteds can't abuse you by email, if-you-don't-open-their-emails.
When it's me being rejected -- I don't smile and think "so what." I feel bad for a time -- how much time, depending on how much contact we've had. Neither do I contact him to challenge his answer -- who gets to decide who he talks to? I think it should be him! | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 2/12/2008 4:08:56 PM | Well hon, that's just her, all people aren't that way. Maybe she has no social skills, yet wanted to know what she might be able to improve on...who knows? You didn't make a mistake, you had no way of knowing she'd go on a rant, and you did nothing wrong. In fact, sounds like you were as gracious as anyone COULD be under the circumstances.
How do I handle rejection...well, of course it stings sometimes, but hey, I think of all the people in the world and realize the few that aren't into me aren't really all that significant. They weren't a major factor in my life before....so why make them so now, just because I wasn't (as you put it) "their cup o' tea"? | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 2/12/2008 5:13:15 PM | I've just been rejected by a woman I though I had a future with. She has met a guy at her new job, 41 years old (she is 28). She likes his work background (much more interesting than mine) etc (proves job status is a big thing in what women want in a man).
She still wants to be friends and all, but I find it difficult at the thought of her with another guy,
I have upped my fitness program and am aggressively looking for a more interesting job to deal with it, eventually you overcome. Extra training is my substitute for moping around drowning in my sorrows.
I find trying to meet new women is the best way to go as well, once you find another you really like, the previous girl will slip out of your mind. Thats why Im active on this site again. | |
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