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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/2/2008 7:13:47 PM | I don't really get rejected - I simply deal with people who aren't a match for me - technically you can't be rejected based on 5 minutes of conversation and a look...
I just don't find it to be THAT personal. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/3/2008 7:43:46 AM | What is Rejection ????
I don't consider rejection as something that can be done by anyone I have never met in real life.
When I meet people in real life , they seem to be very impressed with my charisma..
Emails and IM just cannot go into that catagory.
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/3/2008 1:59:43 PM | A _LOT_ better than I Used to..!!!
Now . . I just say "No Accounting For Taste!!!"
*N*A*F*T*
Occasionally adding a few well-chosen *Expletives* ~under my breath~ | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/3/2008 7:52:14 PM | | I have been rejected a lot four times to day in fact apparently i am not pretty enough for most of them it does hurt whether you get a rejection letter or not. It always makes me a little sad but still thats the way it goes sometimes. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/3/2008 8:02:46 PM | you put too much thought into this lady....she is obviously nuts.
I have been rejected...I have also done the rejecting.....it is what it is....I dont let it bother me and for the people I have rejected? I happily send a thank you email back and usually they say thank u for response...men tend to take rejection better than women...
I would just continue to be the polite person you are and if people act like a crazy person than just block them! | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/3/2008 8:07:00 PM | I just look for the flip switch to flip on the blinking alternating from pink to blue to green neon sign that says NEXT CONTESTANT ENTER PLEASE. 
I think that life is too short to be dwelling on all the whys and how comes........ if one door closes, another opens and all that other zen like stuff you possibly could say to find positives in it all. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/3/2008 9:15:06 PM | Here's the thing about rejection. Everyone gets rejected at some point. Sure, a few folks will chime in and say they have never been rejected, but they're lying.
Secondly, everyone rejects someone at some point.
So, with those two things in mind, why on earth is the concept of rejection so difficult to deal with for some people.
If you're not getting rejected, then you're not trying. Getting rejected is good. It serves as a motivating factor to keep trying. And along the way, we'll inevitably reject some people ourselves. So, if we're OK with the idea of rejecting someone, it would be quite hypocritical of us to get angry or saddened when someone rejects us. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/3/2008 9:19:56 PM |
I take out my voodoo doll and insert a well placed pin in it.
Asking with some degree of trepidation and tears in my eyes but... please define 'well-placed'? lol | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/3/2008 10:07:49 PM | | you want honesty here?!!! lol ok, you asked for it!!! if i'm sufficiently annoyed (and that takes him doing something i consider lacking in integrity), i'll once in a while "get even!" ::evil smile:: ok, i'm controlled enough to do it in a limited fahion, but if i'm in a vindictive mood, watch out - i can get a little childish! usually, though, i try to be a little more adult (as that's what i am chronologically lol) and i'm very realistic and very practical, so i mostly just take it for what it is and move on. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/3/2008 10:21:25 PM | i know all too well, that we can't make people like us, much less love us. so i just let it go. what, talking to them will make them change their mind? i think not, only make a bad situation worse.
just my two cents worth. don't like it? you get your money back...how's that? advice is worth what you pay for it. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/3/2008 11:01:17 PM |
Ha! You guys think that's bad, how about some guy going out of his way to write you, INITIATE the contact, articulate a very long letter on why they THINK they are rejecting you, based upon your profile, because if you only wrote this and that, he won't reject you, but because you know what you want, and it's not them, YOU ARE REJECTED, got that?
I just roll my eyes.
But in real life, if you reject me, I'll drop kick you. 'nuff said.
I'm sorry Keats, I find a hard time believing that anyone would reject you no matter the reason. Sorry, not buying it. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/4/2008 12:01:03 AM | This is the internet, you can not be rejected on here.
Just because some girl did not care to write you back dose not denote rejection.
I know full well there are many "better sounding" guys on here, fighting tooth and claw for any girl I may contact.
And any girl who would chose the "better sounding" guy over me deserves what she gets....and she is back in less then a week..just a little more wounded then before.
I also know that if I were to meet the same girl in person and offered to take her out for coffee, she would have taken me up on it.
Not all guys are who we seem online....some play lame to see who is really interested, and who is just on here for fun.
Remember that the next time you delete a message without reading it.
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Posted: 7/4/2008 3:32:27 AM | rejection? what's that?
a better question might be how do i handle rude emailers.
call them hairnets then ignore them. don't block them, that just gives them satisfaction. just ignore them, and never open the response, thus rendering them powerless while they are well aware that you are online and COULD answer should you so choose.
slam dunk
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/4/2008 7:52:06 AM | OP: It isn't about handling rejection, it's about your own self-esteem and how you react (or not) to negative people that seem to make it their mission in life to degrade, gossip or just belittle you in general just because "you aren't interested." I'm not everyone's cup a' tea either, but I don't make it my mission in life to e-mail someone over and over again if he just isn't interested, yet I get many "hate mails" calling me the most horrible names...I'm still scratching my head on a few of them that I've never even heard of.  What the he!! is a "mush mush wan-bucket??" Is that "Thai???" yes, I was called this just the other day and am still perplexed on what it means. Alrighty, then. lol
Rejection is a part real life as well as online. Not everyone is going to like me nor am I going to like everyone that e-mails me and I truly don't measure my worth as a person because someone rejected me or talks badly about me online. As I said before in another post..what someone thinks about me good or bad is simply none of my business.
Sans | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/4/2008 8:06:57 AM | I had this psycho gal giving me hassles, at first before I found out how nuts she was, I fancied her, but that all changed. I finally had to tell her I didn't want to speak with her, and she didn't take that well at all. I tried to keep it civil, but she wouldn't have it. I finally said I'm done talking to you, deal with it, rock'n'roll. I blocked her, and haven't looked back. Nothing like having her getting jealous talking to one of my friends from overseas, who is a guy... A GUY.... | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 9:12:51 AM | I really don't care about rejection....if you don't like me....oh well....it means that we are not right for one another and the sooner I know that the better for me.
Forget that crazy girl....and just thank your lucky stars you never hooked up with her | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 6:06:53 PM | With dignity and crying... ... I was seeing a guy on POF I felt he was interested as he was attentive to me. He owns two businesses and during the summer seldom has time for dating. One week he called me and was calling me sweetie, honey and other very passionate names. I felt and could only feel he cared about me until one night I was rubbing his sore shoulders which he immensly enjoyed, his cell phone rang. He jumped up took the call out of the room. I heard it was a girl. He was talking kinda loud but, but cause the tv was on I could not hear what they were talking about. He had a room mate who was sleeping. This guy then took the call out on his deck leaving me in the room alone. Instead of confronting him, I grabbed my purse and ran out the door to my car. Unfortuneately we just got back from having drinks and I was pretty buzzed. I drove home drunk, and he knew I was drunk. On the way home my cell phone never rang. I cried alot. I guess that night I learned that it was only about dating... This is how I handle rejection. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/4/2008 6:28:05 PM |
How do you handle rejection?
Oh ok, well good luck and happy fishing. Most of the men who I've said thanks but no thanks to are about the same way. Can't figure out what would be so hard about understanding that they're just not into you and move on... | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/4/2008 6:57:42 PM | I handle rejection like anybody else.
Chainsmoking and drinking heavily.
What, that's not what everybody else does? | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/4/2008 8:33:08 PM | Well, a rejection can hurt anyone, but i personally don't get rejected.......ever......just blocked.
I would prefer to get a no, instead of a block. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/4/2008 8:34:00 PM | I don't handle it. It's barely an issue of great importance. I've accepted long long ago that I am going to be rejected and do more rejecting than I will the reverse.
When viewed that way, it barely registers. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/7/2008 2:35:02 PM | Forget that crazy girl....and just thank your lucky stars you never hooked up with her
My friend, you couldn't be anymore right about that. She was the type of girl who'd use a pregnancy scare just to keep me (I am smart about protection). | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/7/2008 7:29:04 PM | Re the Opost:
How do I handle rejection?
Next! Plenty of fish (in and outside POF). Life is too short to lose grey cells over those kind of things.
And on one should expect to appeal to all or most people of the opposite sex etc!
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