| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/7/2008 8:06:58 PM | It depends upon how attached I was to him.
If it's somebody I wasn't falling for, that's fine, move on. There will always be another e-mail.
If it's somebody that I cared for, I do get hurt. Having spent too many years with NO self-esteem, I find that I still play the "there must be something tragically wrong with you" tapes in my head. But I'm getting much better at accepting it. And I'm still not mature enough to pass up the single angry "stick it where the sun don't shine" e-mail. But if he's man enough to let me know that it's just not working for him, I take it much better. It's those that just dissapear in the night that throw me into a tailspin.
But at least I'm past the liquor and firearms stage. I've matured, and I'm in the chocolate and "Must Love Dogs" stage.  | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 7/7/2008 8:24:33 PM | | Oh well is what I like to say....So he didn't like me....Plenty more out there....Somebody who will | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 10/8/2008 1:35:11 PM | Hi OP,i must admit i take it pretty badly especially if that person means a lot to me and so i end up in the doldrums,my present home.lol.
You did everything right and she was way out of line.best wishes for the future.
Lustre
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 10/8/2008 8:01:05 PM | I handle rejection in a graceful manner, they are very polite and upfront ,that if I am in their town they really would like to take me to a coffee/ lunch/ dinner date. Long distance date is not what they have in mind. I just say something nice about their profiles that is all. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 10/8/2008 8:05:11 PM | I'm all good with it! Just because someone doesn't see what they feel they need in me doesn't mean everyone in the world feels that way!
I am perfect for someone out there. It's all about finding that someone! If they are rude and nasty, it actually helps! It shows what kind of person they really are! | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 10/9/2008 8:32:19 AM | Apparently, I wasn't their *Cup-of-Tea*....
No worries . . _Their_ Loss..!!
But... if they reject me because of 'Distance' . . . it's a Cop-Out...BIG-Time!!!
What a Feeble Dodge..!!
 Casting Again... | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 10/9/2008 9:12:08 AM | Anyone still enjoy the simple pleasure of Bazooka bubble gum with the comic strip.
The one this morning made me thing of POF immediately.
Mort, What are you doing?
I'm practicing being rejected by girls, Joe.
Why are you doing it bey yourself?
I asked a girl to help me and she said no.
Gave me a half laugh. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 10/9/2008 10:36:23 AM | Ya know, whatever happened to just read/delete? I'm cool with getting that alone as a response to my messages. So you're not interested? hey, thats cool! no worries!
Ive had so many horrible experiences with guys calling me names, saying some the most discusting things I've ever heard... then saying I'm fat and not worth it anyway and so forth.... I mean.. why did you contact me in the first place? Clearly there was something about me that you liked?
Trying to explain this to the person just makes them angrier...... (this is my opinion alone, but people like this scare me since they probably beat people up for no reason, generally their gf/wifes) Clearly they have anger issues that are not being dealt with..... I usually get these kind of responses from meatheads....not surprisingly.
Message to all those losers who cant handle rejection like a real man: You suck, accept that you are being rejected like a real grown up, move on, and leave me the hell alone!
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/21/2008 8:30:03 AM | I received several emails from this one person asking me if I was interested in talking. Finally, after about 5 of those I wrote saying, "Thanks, but I'm not interested." He writes back, "Really? Ok, but that's hard to believe." Hard to believe??? This person must be dumb as a rock! I didn't reply to any of his emails and didn't look at his profile again after his initial contact. Which only proves my instincts right: He isn't exactly the sharpest tool in the shed. 
I just wonder how many more nasty or doubting emails I'll end up getting before I find "him." When someone doesn't reply to MY advances, or sends ME the "no thank you," I don't go ballistic like some of these men do. I just figure I'm not his "thing" and move on. We are not all each others' "cup of tea," as someone else mentioned in the thread. If we were all THAT compatible none of us would be here! 
A word of advice to anyone who sends out nasty "why don't you like me" emails. Please don't do that. Remember there is a living breathing human being on the other side of that computer who will read that. I understand rejection hurts, but rejection is part of everyday life. If you can't handle rejection, then you have a much bigger problem and you should probably think about seeking help  before you set foot in a new relationship.
Thanks for listening to my rant. 
I'll step off my soap box now. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/21/2008 8:42:16 AM |
To me, if someone is classy enough to take the time to reply in a civil manner, I'm grateful. I'm aware that I'm not everyone's cup of tea. I usually respond by saying thanks and wish them good luck.
I'm the same but they don't usually send me a message, they just drift away and I get the drift kind of thing.
I send messages just because I know it's not fun to wonder what's going on in another person's head. It gets a mixed response. The ones that make me want to turn around and lecture the person (but I don't) are the ones who can't take the rejection and say things like I didn't give it enough time. We went on one date, we didn't click, why do I need more time here? | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/21/2008 10:05:30 AM | Ummmm wow....I don't see how people do that.
I handle rejection well, I just move on....nothing to it.
Infact if you are not interested, I do not take offense to you simply not responding. I prefer that. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/21/2008 10:23:30 AM | Having a good attitude is very necessary when dealing with rejection and your perception of it.....
You are very young still, and the toll that it can take over years and years might make you look at things differently, 20 years from now.....
OT.....Self confidence, perception, and resilience, all are factors when dealing with rejection in many ways, and on many levels in life.
The point is that of believing that you are more than worth the effort, and that you leave those around you better off than when you first arrived, and that goes for every situation possible.
Maybe the largest compliment one can give you, is to say that they are better for knowing you, even if not with you anymore......
Just my opinion......   | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/21/2008 10:44:47 AM | WOW! OP Crazy b itch is all I can say in regards to that one!
I don't always answer emails if I am not interested, as I have sent first messages and got no response! Sometimes I do send a thanks, but no thanks message, which can open flood gates of unwanted messages!
As for me, I look at it in the sense that not all men are of my taste, therefor I won't be everyones flavor so to speak either!
I know who I am and what I have to offer, but its no skin off of my nose if someone turns me down!
My thoughts,
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/21/2008 11:49:43 AM | I get really pissed off when a vending machine thinks that it is too good for my money!
WTF????
Use Correct Change??
As if there's a change machine anywhere around here that ACTUALLY works!
I mean, c'mon!
I put my dollar in and say that I want to be lighter.
And what does the f@cker do??
It spits out three quarters!
What kind of shyt is that??? | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/21/2008 12:08:43 PM | | I guess it depends on the situation, but basically I want to say something like, ``Let me know if you change your mind, because I find you attractive and interesting.'' While I don't expect her to change her mind, I do want to complement her on why I wanted to date her. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/21/2008 1:28:49 PM | Your case is very unique. You actually did a very polite rejection.
In cases of rejection... Well, just move on to the next fish. That's why this is plenty of fish. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/21/2008 6:09:51 PM | | well I just keep it pushin lol meaning I don't take it personal you were into me it's k=cool. But intresting happend to me the other day I was trying to be polite with a guy I had no intrest in and when I responded to him it was to 3 letter words lol I wasnt paying attention while I typed and i responded the correct way 5 words lol he says you have no personaility and you are stupid I am blocking you.. I couldn't help but laugh at how I got blocked when he contacted me lol but thats life and when gently trying to reject somebody you may be get rejected first lol. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/21/2008 8:30:50 PM | | Usually most times I say nothing and I move on but I would just say nice talking to you and gracefully bow out. but if it's someone that I'm not attracted I give em the thanks but I don't think I'm the man of your dreams message. And the rest is up to them weather they want to take it in stride and move on or be armshouse about it. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/21/2008 8:34:33 PM | I get the name, address and license plate number...
oh, wait. um...
I get the name, address and send a little ticking gift. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/21/2008 8:49:43 PM | | I typically feel a brief moment of disappointment and then move on without further hesitation. If, on the other hand, I am faced with a series of rejections over a short period of time, I mope around for the remainder of the evening. As for actually dishing out the rejection, I've found that because I have become very relaxed around here, I will talk a little before I realizing I probably should have avoided them. Curse my friendly side! | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 11/21/2008 9:08:15 PM | I cry a lot
Sure sounds like its more easy to not reply at all. Damned if you do damned if you dont. | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 12/4/2008 5:28:27 PM | | Get back out there! That is how you handle rejection... or you drink it off. My friends drink it off. Its great :-) | |
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| How do YOU handle rejection?
Posted: 12/4/2008 7:35:46 PM | | very well i think, i realize that not everyone will be attracted to me and that is there chocie,not mine,,,,,,,,i also realize if they got to know me they would find me more attractive,but if they arent smart enough to know that ,then they probably werent right for me anyway | |
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