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Posted: 3/5/2009 7:47:07 AM | so many people willing to cast the first stone,personally i have never been with a prostitute
as for dating , it would depend on if i liked, loved her or not......everyday is a new opportunity, one of my friends at work was an alcoholic, over 20 years ago he stopped,got help, and now he is a great father husband, and friend....some of the posters are just hateful, judgmental , and just plain cruel, having said that i have much more respect for a prostitute ex or otherwise, then those common criminal types , that have stolen and are still robbing on wall street, or tacking money from the poor in the name of god | |
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Posted: 3/5/2009 7:31:42 PM | | Everyone who said he would NOT date an ex-prostitute yet also said that a woman's past is her past in the other thread, please raise your hands. I'd like to know how you would know a woman is an ex-prostitute if you don't ask about her past. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2009 8:45:05 PM |
lol guys im highly offended! i wrk n manage a massage parlour 4 madam becky n the gals ther r sum of the nicest gals ive eva met! they r also the cleanest! how many ov u can say u ave a check up once every 6wks!! how many ov u ave unprotected sex..... still!! these gals dont n that makes them o soooooo bad!!! lol men r the biggest dogs ov all n u no it!!xxxx
Please note that this quote was from message #151. Her personal profile states that she is 38 (yes that's right thirty eight) years old. Need I say more?
Okay, I will relate my own personal experiences.
I used to play with the hookers back when I was drinking. I cleaned-up and I don't do that stuff anymore. I did run into a woman in my early years of recovery who used to be an ex-prostitute and former heroin addict. This woman lived most of her life on the street, in prison, in juvenile halls, grew-up with a father that killed her own mother right in front of her eyes, was adopted, emancipated herself when she was a teenager, etc., etc., etc. If you've ever seen the movie "Monster" with Charlize Theron, she was very similar in appearance and many of her personality quirks. She cursed like a truck driver and yet dressed and carried herself like a lady in social situations. I mean for the most part, this was a very hot looking woman. Natural Blond, Blue Eyes, Tall at 5 ft 8inches, very long legs. Could almost pass for a super model. Certainly not the type you'd think lived that kind of life on the streets of New York City. She was cleaning-up her act, going to college to be a nurse, renting an apartment. living a seemingly normal life. I chose to only base my judgment of her character on who she is now, not where she was.
In time, I became attracted to her, mostly to her personality and mainly because of her time in recovery. She told me all about her past when we first started hanging out and I just chose to ignore her past and judge her based on her present life. That proved to be a very huge mistake. I developed a real mental and emotional connection with this woman like none I'd ever felt with any woman I'd ever had physical relations with before or after then. She told me we could only be friends, and that was that. We never did get physical, even though I definitely wanted to. We got very emotionally close over a 5 month period of time. Now keep in mind, she spent nearly 25% of her (now) 41 years on earth as a junkie and $20 prostitute in Washington Heights NY and now she's been in recovery for nearly 11 yrs. When she'd tell her story sometimes she'd make sure she added in the fact that she was "the BEST deep throat in washington heights".
She had a laundry list of mental and emotional problems. She also acted like a child. She'd even wear footie pajamas and watch cartoons all day. She was married to one guy who tried to rob her and is now in jail. She told me they only ever had sex 2 times in the entire 4 month long marriage. She told me she is disgusted by the idea of a man even touching her and that sex disgusts her. She said she'd just allow her husband to sleep with hookers if he needed sex that badly and she'd even put in in the budget. She displays pictures of this marriage on her wall like it was the greatest accomplishment of her entire life. I could not handle it. This woman had the most terrifying borderline personality disorder you'd ever experience. She was manic depressive/bi-polar and not taking meds or treatment for it.
She may have appeared on the outside to be living a normal life, however she was far from normal on the inside. That sick twisted part of her never left. She never knew safety and security, she never knew what normal is. It's not something you can just teach someone either, believe me, I tried. The only thing we had in common was that we are both in recovery and she used to be a hooker and I used to solicit hookers. That's all we had in common. I grew-up in a safe secure home, with loving parents and brothers and a sister. I was in a relationship for 10 yrs and married to her for 3 of those years. I mean, I know what normal is. This woman has no conception of it. The irony is she now works as an RN in a psychiatric hospital. When she told me she was bragging about "finally being around her people". I mean she even took her adopted mother into her home to care for her and even the mother had to get away from her.
I've known a few other women in recovery who used to trick, they're also all pretty messed-up in the head. I prefer normal women. Those women are actually very frightening to me now. At that time in my own recovery I still had lots of my own unresolved issues to work on. I was still very attracted to "glamor" "excitement" and "drama". This woman certainly provided all of it and then some. She was just deliciously nasty, and at that time, I really liked that.
Anyway, that's how I learned that I could never date a prostitute.
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| For The Guys- Would you seriously date an ex-prostitute?
Posted: 6/19/2009 4:37:06 PM | Yeah! I would... If she was brave enuff to tell me? If it was in her past? Why not? After all, let he without sin cast the 1st stone,and all that?
We`ve all pasts-surely?
We`ve all done something we regret?
So why not, if the love,trust is there, not a problem? | |
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Posted: 6/20/2009 6:16:33 AM | | I have already,though maybe it wasn't really dating. She was an FWB,although we went out to dinner and movies a lot,but a relationship wasn't in the cards as we were looking for different things. At any rate,she'd worked as an escort about 15 years before that,for an agency. It didn't make any difference to me. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2009 6:41:19 AM | Yes I would i wuld never judge a person on morals or culture i always jundge a person as i find them not what or who they have been , after all i am sure those that do have somdark secrets of there own kept hidden pete | |
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Posted: 6/20/2009 6:48:22 AM | | sure. I've done it before and would do it again if I met the right girl. We all have pasts and mine is certainly not so pure that I may look down on others. And for all you who stand with indignant judgement, do you claim your lives are without fault or sin? It is so easy to judge others while ignoring your own deeds but I do hope to be above that. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2009 7:24:14 AM | Yes. If I even knew about it, then it would show honesty over and above that of many women!
Not all prostitutes/escorts are drug using, ill educated types; some are well educated and business minded.
Plus, you could be fairly confident she'd be sexually experienced!  I'd probably be more concerned about making sure she was STI free though..not really sure why, as you can never know many women's sexual history, by payment or otherwise!
Many relationships wouldn't exist if the man had no money anyway (ie, are essentially prostitution). Prostitution is a more honest approach than gold-digging.
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Posted: 6/20/2009 10:36:00 AM | | i would. the past is the past. if she an ex prostitute yes. whats the differnence between an ex prostitute ex stripper or ex porn star or ex exibtionist? yes i would date them all. the past is the past. some are crack whores yes. but also some pay for school that way so they can get out of that trade. some are single moms who until someone comes along can only put food on the table for the kids that way. some just like sex so why not get paid for doing what you enjoy much like a doctor or lawyer. all people need respected as people. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2009 10:52:05 AM | Who is anyone kidding, we as humans are all prostitutes i some form, trading something for sex. There are health risks involved with dating someone who has actively participated in the sex trade and hopefully this person was careful. To become serious with such a person would be ok, however such as in all sexual contact and emotional relationship safety and honesty would be best to observe. Learning of this act before being serious would be key. If this woman is willing to reveal that she has participated in ac`ts in the past that she isnt entirely proud of and being open shows that she is serious about trusting the person she wants a relationship with. Dont punish a person who is not only willing to admit their past mistakes but trust another with their private shames.
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Posted: 6/20/2009 2:10:57 PM | | A persons past is their past, I am not the person I was 20 years ago, and would really find it odd of someone judged me because of something I did a long time ago. Therefore while I might have some concerns about STD's, I would not have any problem dating a women with some bad things in their past. Is an ex-prostitute any worse than a woman that cheated on her husband? Would it be ok to date an ex-slut? Is it that you're afraid that someone you know may have had sex with her? At our age the chances are pretty slim that anyone is a virgin, why would anyone spend time thinking about the past? Today has enough troubles on it's own, let us be done with what people have done in the past. | |
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Posted: 6/20/2009 10:57:32 PM | There is a deeper level here than the physical and mental, that's the emotional.
What is the difference between a man paying for sex and a woman seeing a narcissistic man who only wants to get his end wet?
Is it the disillusionment?
It is amusing that people go into a short term relationship then surprised that that's exactly what they get. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2009 12:20:30 AM | | well said watzizname i couldnt have put it better myself. its not usually a career choice is it, for the judgmentals life has a quirky way of teaching us all lessons, 1 minute life is looking good & e,thing hunky dory then bam ur on ur arse thinking where did it all go wrong!! can b a long long emotional, financial struggle back 2 normality (whatever that is lol) and who knows what methods u turn 2 to survive, so the answer is yes i would | |
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Posted: 6/21/2009 12:33:55 AM | | Men can be such morons.... first of all not all prostitutes get or have diseases or do drugs and drink. 2nd of all you'd probly have no idea that she had been unless she told you. There are exercies to do that keep the vagina tight. DUHHHH Like that would be any different then fukkkkn some chick that has had several partners and just not got paid for it. | |
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