| Is Anyone Seriously Looking 2 Meet & Date On Here...?
Posted: 4/27/2007 9:41:30 AM | | I believe woman are absolutely not ready to meet right off because they already have there mine set that all men want is sex and if they get that out of there head they might actually meet someone nice. Yes sex is always in the back of our heads for most of us men in general and it always will be but don’t be so judgmental and you may find someone nice. Just my option but you know what they say about options so I guess it makes me one an A-hole for saying so......... | |
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Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 252 | |
| Is Anyone Seriously Looking 2 Meet & Date On Here...?
Posted: 4/27/2007 1:24:43 PM | | Everyone has a right to their own opinion and that doesn't make you an a$$. It's when you refuse to allow someone else to have the right to their own opinion that makes you hypocritical and an a$$hole. That said, I have to agree with justaguy. I would much rather meet someone in person sooner rather than later idea being that sometimes I'll click with someone online really well but in person it's a different story. The trick is to be careful about it. Meet someone for the first time in a public place with plenty of people around make sure a friend or family member knows where you went. Also set up a check in time so that you can call that person and let them know that you are ok and things are fine so the other person knows that no funny business will be tolerated. This should be the same for guys since females have known to be stalkers also. As long as you use your head when planning a meeting it could save you a lot of time in making your choice and maybe that person could just be "the one" and you find out a little sooner. | |
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feesie
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Joined: 9/26/2005
Msg: 253 | |
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| Is Anyone Seriously Looking 2 Meet & Date On Here...?
Posted: 5/8/2007 12:17:11 PM | | Unfortunately Feesie and Justaguy, not all men think like you two. Dating sites have become the "bar scene" of the current age. Especially free sites like this. THey take less time, less money, and no tell tale signs for wifey to find. There are a lot of creeps on here. Married men looking for relief from their boredom in their marriages, men that can't commit so they go from woman to woman and various other game players, users, losers and creeps. As hard as it is for you guys, it's harder for women. Date rapers and other sickos also hide within this site, and unfortunately, they don't have scarlet letters tattooed on their foreheads. I'm not saying that there aren't women that use men and play games, it's just that women have a lot more danger to look out for. | |
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feesie
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Joined: 9/26/2005
Msg: 255 | |
| Is Anyone Seriously Looking 2 Meet & Date On Here...?
Posted: 5/9/2007 10:30:16 AM | | ur right artsyladee it is true women have to watch to well were im from there was a news reel about a woman on a site just like this and she met someone and was married and didnt tell the guy well her husband found out and killed the guy so its scary for us t lol well just take ur time really get to know someone dont meet in a private situation and people like me get screwed because all the ass wholes out there it sucks | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 6/18/2007 10:36:14 AM | I am in the ultimate search for a decent woman who really wants to settle down with a nice guy who would always treat her right. I am not sure she exists but I have met a few on here that could be very close. in the mean time I am making friends along the way. I have been on at least 12 different dating sites with nothing but alot of games, but will not give up.
Jerry | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 6/19/2007 1:26:07 PM | At one point, I WAS seriously looking to date someone from this site. That has changed. I am tired of emailing (and maybe even talking) with a guy for weeks, and every time the subject of actually meeting comes up - they are always busy. I've told both of them that they can't expect to meet someone on here (or anywhere, for that matter) if they are not willing to take the time to even meet. Like most of the people on here, I am busy too - but I know that if I want to meet someone, I have to make an effort.
Also, I noticed that one of the posters mentioned how some women think that men on here are just looking for sex. I used to disagree completely with that, but now I agree.
I met a guy on here about a month ago. We emailed a few times, talked on the phone, then decided to meet on the spur-of-the-moment. (We live only about 10 minutes from each other.) Well, we seemed to hit it off. I wasn't 100% attracted to him, but did like his personality and sense of humor. We hung out and talked for roughly two hours; he even asked at one point if we could get together again. Well, I was glad that he wanted to see me again and glad that he didn't ask me to come home with him.... until, that is, he walked me out to my car and asked me to come over to his house and sit on the deck. I told him "no, thanks.. maybe next time... it's late and I need to get home". He seemed to take it well, we hugged, and he said he'd call me. Two days later I got an email from him saying that he didn't think we were a good match, but we could be friends. Now, call me paranoid/jaded/whatever - but I truly believe he did that because I shot him down! | |
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Joined: 1/1/2007
Msg: 259 | |
| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 6/19/2007 2:34:20 PM | harley,
Maybe, maybe not -- that one's a little difficult. Maybe, he wanted to show you a little part of his world? But, not knowing anymore, you did the right thing - to remain safe, really.
From a man's viewpoint, I had just the opposite happen. I started chatting/emailing a lady a few months ago. We exchanged emails and IM'ed throughout the day, everyday. We knew what was going continually with one another. Due to work schedules and distance the weekends were the only time to meet. I tried repeatedly to meet for dinner or coffee, knowing it was 75+ miles away. Always, there was something, but the IM's and emails continued ... I finally throwed in the towel. A conversation w/o meeting to allow more of a chance of something to develop was not what I wanted. | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 9/8/2007 12:50:49 PM | There seems to be alot of the same going around.
I have met a hand full of ladies in person. They say they would like to go out again, but has not happened. Heck one was frisky with me, and she was not looking for a sugardaddy, she was a proffesional working person.
The e-mail thing I am not into either.
Yes it is good for breaking the ice a little, but why waste time with it.
As with others in this thread, I would like to meet a special lady to cheerish and treat like a queen as an equal. Why is it so hard for that to be understood, especially if you don't want to take the time to meet. Long distance relations are not ideal, but you gotta try. | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 9/11/2007 8:03:37 AM | To be quite honest, I am finding that this IS more of a friend site than a dating site.
For example, I hosted a get together last Friday night - out of the whopping twelve or so people that showed up, only three of them were men - and one of them was with a date!  So, fellow fishies...  let me ask you this.... How the heck does anyone on here (especially men) plan to meet someone if they don't come out to the planned events? Yes, we girls had a great time and are planning to get together in the future... that's why I think this is becoming more of a friend site for me..... but it would be nice if some of you men would get up off of your couches (or whatever) and come out to the events!!!! Another thing, while I'm on my soapbox... please, please, please don't complain that there are never events in your area then not come to the ones that are held! Also... don't complain about there never being any local events and not plan some! I've had three in the past six months.... and I am quite willing to post an event for any of you fellow fishies!! 
One more thing........if you have a profile on here and seriously want to meet someone for dating or more, you really do need to make an effort. Don't tell someone that you want to get together if you really don't. If you work a lot, make time in your schedule to meet someone. If you have young children and need a babysitter, make arrangements BEFORE you ask someone to meet you. For Pete's sake, if you don't have time to just MEET someone, how the heck will you have time for a relationship?! | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 9/13/2007 2:53:30 AM | harley.......I totally agree with you about people (both male and female) needing to make more of an effort to meet one another.
I have attended a few of harley's meets (all very nice btw), and as a result, have developed some truly nice friendships (both male and female).........BUT...... I have also met a wonderful gentleman, whom I've been dating for the past 3 months! We didn't rush into anything.....lol....we were friends for 3 months before that first date! Initially, we weren't what each other was looking for.......he wasn't tall enough for me.....I was 4 years younger than his 5 year age swing. We didn't compromise, we challenged our thought process! Sometimes when you don't get what you want.....you get something even better!
It's all about putting yourself out there in a safe environment, being true to and about yourself, and listening...... really listening...... to what the people you communicate with are saying.The events I attended provided a wonderful opportunity to get out, meet people and have fun in a non-pressured environment!
The end result is.... I have ended up with MORE than what I was originally seeking when I posted a profile on POF. Ultimately ANY site is what you choose to make of it!
I'm now off my soapbox! | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 9/13/2007 2:46:03 PM | Hey, Babs... glad that someone understands where I'm coming from! 
In case I haven't told you...I am so, so, so happy for you and Hunter. 
You two make a great couple and I'm thrilled that you met at my events! 
Remember at Cheeseburger that I told him that he should talk with you?!
You are right on the money.... while you don't need to compromise, you do need to
challenge your thought process and reconsider what you really want and/or need.
You do have to put yourself out there in order to meet people... that is why I'm going to bite the bullet and come to the pig roast! Sorry that I missed Barnaby's today, but I am getting over a very bad cold!!!
Anyway.... sometimes I think I just want to date different guys and have a good time, but that's getting old very quickly................. | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 9/19/2007 8:05:18 AM | >> How the heck does anyone on here (especially men) plan to meet someone
>> if they don't come out to the planned events?
From a man's point of view, when you contact someone, and they don't even reply, or the mail sits "read" and not even deleted, what's the point?
Not every contact is going to lead to dating/romance, but if you don't reply, and don't interact, then you aren't going to meet anyone. You talk about men not coming or interacting, that's because you are female. The men have the opposite problem.
So, maybe you should find someone (a guy) to plan a meeting/event, and you plan an event, and the two events should be next door to each other (or the same location) and maybe it would balance out by accident.
I'm on a number of sites, and send a lot of messages. I rarely get any replies, even "not interested" and 90% of what I send has nothing to do with meeting or linking up, it has to do with something interesting in their profile.
People are simply flat out rude, self-centered, and unless they are looking for something like sex, they aren't willing to even put up the effort.
I had this problem with dating services in the 90's. I met a few nice girls, we weren't matches, but most never replied to the contacts.
So it works both ways, and is probably simply human nature in the current time. | |
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| Does This Seem More Of A Friend Site, Then A Dating Site 2 U...?
Posted: 9/19/2007 12:53:28 PM | Okay.. first of all, a lot of the emails I send do get read then deleted. As for there being a point... I don't really know. Like someone has mentioned, it's a numbers game..the more you put yourself out there, the more responses you are likely to get.
You're right, not every contact leads to dating/romance... I've mentioned this before, but I've made more female friends on this site than I have found guys to date.
And as for a guy planning an event... good luck with that. There are not many men that are willing to attend an event, let alone plan one! Since April, I've planned four events, and I've seen only one man plan events - three of them. (Hats off to Hunter, and yes, the pig roast is still on!) I am not one to make a big deal about an event... I post it and if people show up, they show up. I go to have fun with my friends, and if I meet someone, that's a bonus.
Yes, many people are rude, self-centered, and just looking for sex.. but many people aren't. And it's not just people on singles sites... it's people in the real world, too! | |
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| Is Anyone Seriously Looking 2 Meet & Date On Here...?
Posted: 9/30/2007 4:16:07 PM | | Well I was wondering the same thing, but you cant meet anyone if know one replies to your email either. So if you don't reply to emails, you might just be losing out on that special someone. | |
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feesie
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Joined: 9/26/2005
Msg: 267 | |
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| Is Anyone Seriously Looking 2 Meet & Date On Here...?
Posted: 11/27/2007 11:16:29 AM | | ld did you read lexi profile? i would say sex on the first date would be a turn off for most ladies. and it looks like he is married to. when its perfer not to say. i think he would have better luck on 42 street. but he would have to pay. I think ,most guys on here are just looking forsex on the side. and nothing more. | |
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| Is Anyone Seriously Looking 2 Meet & Date On Here...?
Posted: 11/27/2007 4:46:37 PM | | omg read his profile........lol.....lets be discreet.......hmmmmmmm we dont want wifey finding out.....this is where most men and women decide to not try these sites because of people like him........im still sitting here laughing and disgusted....lol | |
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| Is Anyone Seriously Looking 2 Meet & Date On Here...?
Posted: 11/27/2007 8:31:51 PM | Well Hildy.. I truly know want I "Need" for Christmas.. without cross threading here..
it's glasses.. oh my..Laurie we didn't see that coming at all, ..
Lexi, sorry to make you the blunt of this thread.. but you sure are.. | |
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