| 80% admit to supplying false details on their profiles
Posted: 7/23/2009 5:23:07 AM | | Wow so much deception. I have uploaded real pics of me in different poses , they all look like me but then I guess we all form opinions don't we. We women will always chose the pics that make us look 10 lbs liter than we are, but then I guess men do to. I am no barbie, but I do want people to want to meet me for me not for looking like barbie, so please read all of the profile and look at the pics. | |
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| 80% admit to supplying false details on their profiles
Posted: 7/23/2009 5:55:45 AM | Hahaha, this post makes me laugh, why do people bother with details anyhow?
I need to get a new picture, i just shaved all my hair off in a desperate bid for catharsis...
Is it wrong that we don't mention every change in our daily lives to a dating site profile?
Haha i love that this thread, it is so antediluvian. | |
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| 80% admit to supplying false details on their profiles
Posted: 7/24/2009 2:54:40 AM |
People will subconciously choose pics in which they look the best, forgoing other factors. Like you I think many people will unwittingly put up old pics.
I consciously choose pictures in which I look best, but I have not and will not post an old picture. I don't think posting old pictures is largely unwitting; I think people have the theory that once they "hook" someone with a picture, then charm them with their stunning personalities and wit, the picture deception will be forgotten.
Hahaha, this post makes me laugh, why do people bother with details anyhow?
Beyond what is being discussed here, details can become needles under your fingernails. Ever been in the first blush of love where her laugh is so delightful? Then, when you get to REALLY know her, the laugh sounds like a bray? If you haven't had this type of experience, you are a better person than I am.
On a dating site, details can also become big-tails. Why would a man or a woman be deceitful about their ages? To target a certain audience, obviously. Some of the men whom I have seen lie about their ages have desired younger women; the man of whom I spoke in an earlier posts has his profile settings so that a woman his age can't email him, and then he lies about his age in order to target younger women.
Instead of being a year older than me, he was six years older. If he wants younger women, maybe I want a younger man. If I had the same type of filters on my profile that he had on his, even lying about his age wouldn't have gotten his email to me--yet he ASSUMES that younger women want him.
If we ignore lies about age, height, weight, or anything that seems trivial, why should we care about bigger things?
I am just of the opinion that if people are deceitful in small things, they will be deceitful in big things.
Is it wrong that we don't mention every change in our daily lives to a dating site profile?
Six years, three inches, 50 pounds are not changes in our daily lives, dude. | |
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| 80% admit to supplying false details on their profiles
Posted: 9/10/2009 11:19:35 AM | | Lies permeate every aspect of life, from job interviews to doctor's appointments, politics, news broadcasts, if most people lie on the cv's they make why would they not lie on a dating site, the better profiles make the tastiest bait here and the ones that are full of lies are usually the best looking ones. | |
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| 80% admit to supplying false details on their profiles
Posted: 9/10/2009 7:52:14 PM | I'm not surprised on the 80%. While everyone declares honesty, there are alot of threads on the forums that with themes like....
"why do fat people list their body type as average?"
"why do drama queens often list "no drama" in their profile?"
"why do people put pictures of themselves from 10 years ago as their main shot?"
"why do men who say they want a long term relationship want one night stands?"
While some of it is lying, I would hazard to say that alot of it would also be people with different self images than what other people perceive. | |
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| 80% admit to supplying false details on their profiles
Posted: 9/11/2009 11:25:55 AM | For a while, I considered fudging those last two inches in height. Big difference between 5'10 and 6'0. The problem is that eventually, the truth comes out and you have to deal with the fallout. It's not cool. I hope any woman has the decency to be up front and honest with me. So I owe the same courtesy.
So tempted to, but no lies here. | |
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| 80% admit to supplying false details on their profiles
Posted: 9/11/2009 1:10:28 PM |
Is it really as bad as the survey found? Reading the forums on here, it seems like many of us had a date with someone, who bears little or no resemblance to the person we were expecting.
What's your thought on this? I don't see why it's not true. My younger brother used to tell girls he was an airline pilot, back when he was 19 or 20. People will fall for anything that sounds like what they want to believe. | |
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| 80% admit to supplying false details on their profiles
Posted: 9/12/2009 3:58:33 AM | why is it that men always say that they are 6 ft and then when you meet them they are only 5ft nothing ,2men that i have meet up with were not as tall as me and im 5ft 1 ,please gents tell the truth about your hight | |
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| 80% admit to supplying false details on their profiles
Posted: 9/12/2009 6:06:49 AM | understand this is not a blanket statement that covers all but does covers quite a few
The internet has become a place for alter egos to roam free.
Not all people are guilty of this but there are more out there doing this than are not.
This is just stuff they blur the line on.
age
body type
hair
jobs
then there are the people who say
i want a nice person who's employed and that will treat me well
What they really want is a person who could be written into anyone of the romance novels/tv show or movie that has polluted society.
These are the worst of the worst....just say what you want people ...that goes for the men too.
If you want a size 2 then say it. For the ladies if you want a maximus(the general from gladiator) then say it.
Your entitled to want what you want (we all have our preferences) but by saying it out loud you get to hear what it sounds like and if it sounds shallow then maybe it is.
(this is an opportunity that most wont take to grow as a person)
There is a third group of people out there. They set up profiles as traps for those who are out there. I know two who are doing this as i type. When they find a guy to date they use the fake profile as sort of a test to temp the new guy. (so sad and i've told them as much but they don't seem to care)
I'm sure someone is writing a doctorate on this group subject right now.
There are many more groups out there i just named three that came off the top of my head.
Is it really as bad as the survey found?
to answer your question...i think it is far worse than this survey found.
The survey only touched on the first group i mentioned.
I can handle bluring of the lines...as i am an outside of the lines kind of guy it's this out stuff that makes me giggle.
At then end of the day these people existed way before internet dating. The internet and it's anonymity just seems to attract posers and the disingenuous.
I have met some that are the real deal but as the count stands the number of the dishonest is still higher. | |
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| 80% admit to supplying false details on their profiles
Posted: 9/12/2009 4:43:24 PM | | Why on EARTH would anyone lie? Guess it's insecurity. I'm 67 and made sure I got a CURRENT photo. My profile is all fact because I wanted to find someone of similar character and interests. I probably left a lot of valuable, fun things out because of space and writing an essay would appear self-centered. Why waste your time and theirs with faudulent "appetizers" and lies? It's a whole lot more fun doing it right and possibly finding a beautiful match. If there's any truth to the "soul mate" theory then why not find out by being honest. If someone plays games here, they will play games everywhere. | |
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| 80% admit to supplying false details on their profiles
Posted: 9/12/2009 5:09:03 PM | | my profile is 100% honest and correct. y would people lie about their profiles? what is it they get out of it? and email? a phone conversation? does a woman think if she says she is 120lbs and she is really 140lbs-does she think this is a plus and the man wont notice? call me crazy but what is the benfit of lying? | |
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| 80% admit to supplying false details on their profiles
Posted: 9/14/2009 9:29:32 PM | OMG! I was just discussing this with someone today...
My experience has only been with men, so I can't tell you the "white lies" told by women, but here is what I have found with a few men.
1. Lie: Height is frequently 3" shorter than posted. Now, don't you think we notice this when we meet? I met a guy in heels once, expecting him to STILL be taller than me, even with the heels...he wasn't, even when I took my shoes off. Now I have no issue with men shorter than me, but really, don't you think this is a silly thing to lie about?
2. Lie: (deception, anyway) Objects in photos appeqar 10 years younger than in person...perhaps you thought I was BLIND as well as stupid?
3. Lie: Weight. Now, I really want to say something...along with the fact that I just pointed out that we WILL see you in person...please give a girl credit for being a little more accepting about who you are, rather just what you look like. MEN are mostly visual, women are more interested in WHO you are.
Of course that is a sweeing generlization; there certainly women who want a good looking man at the risk of missing out on a KIND man.
So, what do women lie about?
Christine | |
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| 80% admit to supplying false details on their profiles
Posted: 9/14/2009 10:06:46 PM | i have noticed that from the men that i have actually met, that they have lied about
1. age 2. employment history 3. relationship background 4. past sexual infidelity 5. height
6. waist belt size 7. if they want an ltr or fwb 8. going to church
so..............where are the good honest real men?????  | |
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| 80% admit to supplying false details on their profiles
Posted: 10/5/2009 12:25:53 PM | The one thing I find most that men lie about is their height. It doesn't matter to me how tall, but when they say they are a certain height and I meet them and stand about three inches taller, don't they think I will notice they lied??? what is up with that? | |
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