| Flaky men and women?
Posted: 10/25/2006 3:36:11 PM | Ok read the comment again....If someone's cancelled 4 times that's more than enough chances - 2 cracks at the can should be enough - just put the ball in her court and move on.
That's one thing that hasn't really happened to me much - cancellations or no-shows - can only recall it happening once. | |
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| Flaky men and women?
Posted: 10/25/2006 4:03:28 PM | Hasn't happened to me either. Thought it did once, turned out the guy was there and for some ODD reason didn't come up to me. Flaky, I don't know I told him he was strange, though. And obsessive, told me the minute he arrived and I mean TO the minute and the minute I arrived. I'd said I'd meet him at the bar at the Applebees, he got a table and watched me sit there. Eventually an older man sitting next to me chatted a bit, apparently this put him off. Ahh...the oddballs we let slip through our fingers.  | |
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| Flaky men and women?
Posted: 10/25/2006 4:20:09 PM | ^^^^This reminds me of two women I've met in the past----missed meeting but in the same place, etc.
With both I'd agreed to meet them in a known restaurant where we'd talk or have a drink of whatever and possibly lunch/dinner if time or interest permitted. I arrived just a few mintues beforehand and waited patiently. About 15 minutes after their arrival time I called only to get a voice mail but not them directly. I left messages I was waiting at the restaurant and hoped they weren't unexpectedly delayed by anything serious. Another 15 minutes and I left thinking or assuming I had been stood up.
Each subsequently contacted me saying I had stood them up!! LOL As it turns out they both arrived even before I did BUT asked to be seated instead of waiting for me near the front entrance. When I questioned them why they'd not told me of this or MAYBE look for me they said, in effect: "well, I just figured you'd come inside and look around for me---what's so difficult about that?" Hmmmmmmm Not a thing really----IF I were a mind reader OR they'd simply informed me this was how they normally did things like this? MAYBE they could have left a message at the front desk for me or come out at some point seeing if perhaps I'd arrived? Didn't occur to them it seemed.
I don't know that that's flaky but it sure was confusing! | |
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| Flaky men and women?
Posted: 10/25/2006 4:41:39 PM | I like to wait at the bar only because it's smaller, and don't have to walk around looking for someone. That's awful...AKK, won't do that myself. Applebees is a decent place, the bar is small. I was the only woman there, only redhead, kinda hard to miss.
I waited an hour, only because he was driving two hours so I gave him the benefit of the doubt on that. The older gentlemen just struck up a conversation, didn't see the harm in chatting. If some guy gets put off by that, then he's a flake, corn maybe. | |
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| Flaky men and women?
Posted: 10/25/2006 5:36:43 PM | | I have never had a cancel, once or even twice....... but I would never give them a chance to cancel a 3rd time! Thats just glutten for punishment! Dont do that to yourself! | |
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| Flaky men and women?
Posted: 8/23/2008 7:51:30 PM | It is such a PET PEEVE of mine when i run across a flaky man...you know the type..
-cancels the plans at last min
-tries to make plans at last min
-says they are going to call..then dosent & if you do the same..then YOU have a problem.
-says one thing does another
-has an overall overly lacksadasial attitude about them...takes nothing seriously..
-thinks something is wrong with you if you call them out on this inconsistent behaviors..
ugh!
stay the heck away from me plz...seriously. | |
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| Flaky men and women?
Posted: 8/23/2008 8:02:12 PM | Something I learnt by pure chance... if someone stands you up or ignores you, ignore them totally just as if they never happened. Give it maximum a month and guess what.... They come back asking you what happened and why you stopped contacting them (yeah.. right!). They treat you with disrespect and when they get the impression you were not even bothered enough to notice their sick personalities start itching for attention from you again. Then revenge is sweet when the rat comes back to play.
If you sit long enough by the river, you will see the corpses of your enemies flaot by.  | |
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| Flaky men and women?
Posted: 8/23/2008 10:08:12 PM | | ooh ive had that happen to me in the past. if ur not interested then they shouldnt make plans with u. there was plenty in the past i had to curse out and they got mad at me like i was the one flaking out! i have flaked out, after i realized how disgusting the guy was. i dont like when ppl flake, if u wanna plan somethin, do it ahead of time. i dont like making time for ppl who dont deserve it. | |
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| Flaky men and women?
Posted: 8/24/2008 7:08:20 PM | OP
Sometimes "flakes" live on your side of the fence. I cancelled a meet a day before because his last email indicated that he was the flake. Cripes, we agreed to meet for a hockey game and he responds that he is so ready to fall in love, write poetry, buy candy and all that jazz. If you keep running into this, *you* might be the "flake". | |
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| Some experience I had...
Posted: 1/11/2009 5:47:23 PM | Women are definitely flaky... at least to me.
1) I had six dates with one woman, she was ga-ga over me, and then cut me off because I would not sleep with her right away.
2) I slept with this woman twice (dated her 4 times) and she subsequently ignored my calls.
3) Several instances where the woman is ga-ga and then completely ignores me.
We live in such a disposable culture where no one gives a hoot. But the way things are going, I am going to have to approach dating like a robot. And if that is the case, where is the fun in it?? | |
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| Some experience I had...
Posted: 1/11/2009 6:35:50 PM |
2) I slept with this woman twice (dated her 4 times) and she subsequently ignored my calls. maybe you should improve your "sleeping" skills
1) I had six dates with one woman, she was ga-ga over me, and then cut me off because I would not sleep with her right away. it might be not because of what you think...maybe you are boring? 6 dates is a huge investment of time....so, on the good side, you might be not boring to death...she'd quit it sooner | |
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| Some experience I had...
Posted: 1/11/2009 6:44:17 PM | 2) Well if she dumped me for that than she has some fouled-up priorities.
1) If I was boring she would not have gone for 6 dates. | |
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| Flaky men and women?
Posted: 1/11/2009 8:24:26 PM |
I've never had a date cancel but some of them I wished they had.
Now that's funny | |
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| Flaky men and women?
Posted: 7/29/2009 4:44:54 PM | i have definitely met some non comital men since i started this site.
oh most definitely. | |
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| Flaky men and women?
Posted: 7/29/2009 6:57:59 PM | Flaky busy or drama is all life can anyone honestly tell me they have not met people like that in real life. If people spent half as much time on there issues instead of pointing out everyone elses issue we wouldn't need dating sites at all. JMO feel free to flame me for it I just don't have a lot of time to b##ch about sh*t too busy living my life.  | |
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| Flaky men and women?
Posted: 7/30/2009 12:04:04 PM | | I am not a flake. I always show up for a date and if it's not going well I bail and I let the guy know I'm not interested. I have been flaked on once and I was super pissed; mostly because he tried to lie. I would have respected him had he said "I'm sorry I am nervous about meeting you and I don't think I will make it" but he didn't he just lied and I caught him in it. So blah!! Don't get discouraged just move on and don't make plans with some one who flakes. 4 times is rediculous. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2009 12:09:28 PM | | Um no my friend. Nothing is worse then bad sex. Bad sex with some one you love is tolerable but bad sex with some one you just met is unforgiveable. I don't think my priorities are messed up and I just know I can't live with out my "O" and I shouldn't have to. Why should you be the only one having a good time? | |
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| Some experience I had...
Posted: 7/30/2009 12:16:48 PM | | If someone cancels more than once, chances are he/she is not interested. Best to move on without much thought. | |
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| Flaky men and women?
Posted: 7/30/2009 2:04:07 PM | | it has happened to me...they tell me they call me and they do not...i give them one chance then if they do it again...i am not interested...it shows they are being inconsiderate and disrespectful....i move on...i do not treat people like that , so i would not tolerate that behaviour...how can you tolerate somebody cancelling you 4 times...after the second time...move on. | |
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| Flaky men and women?
Posted: 7/30/2009 2:17:38 PM | Whether it's a potential date, a spouse or just meeting with friends, one thing that irks me are people who won't meet their commitments once made.
Unless it is something you can't get out of (sick kid, you went to jail, boss is holding you hostage, you caught the ebola virus), people who are serial cancellers drive me up the wall.
The worst are the ones that have no excuse at all, and just don't "feel" like it or have made multiple plans and try to squeeze you into them (oh, I just made plans to meet my (whiny) girlfriends, wanna come along and get some Cosmos?).
I don't think so. | |
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| Flaky men and women?
Posted: 7/30/2009 5:50:05 PM | ^^^^^^^^
Clever!! Ha, ha.
OP perhaps those "flaky" people changed their minds after thinking about it. Or perhaps their nerves got the better of them.
I am much better with meeting guys I know I'm not as interested in than meeting a guy I know I am more interested in. I did this to one guy on here who I really liked alot and just didn't get back to him and I know he was confused by my actions but the closer it came to us meeting the quicker I realised I couldn't go through with it. I guess I was worried that he may not like me as I'd hoped and all these concerns came flooding into my head. | |
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| Flaky men and women?
Posted: 7/30/2009 6:04:27 PM | | unfortunately some people just don't want to meet, no matter how much they profess they do. you just need to move on. | |
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| Flaky men and women?
Posted: 10/31/2009 4:11:48 PM | | Men can be just as flaky, too. Met and have been talking online/on the phone with a divorced 39 year old. He says he's a pilot, and on call, but I don't even get a call or email saying he won't be able to meet up. He's made plans twice that. .we were actually going to meet up. The first time, he didn't call. .and just responded to an email I left . .because since I hadn't heard from him, I assumed he wasn't interested. So, I'm not falling for it the third time. He should just say he's not interested, instead of not even calling. I thought it was common courtesy to call and let someone know. That seems to be sorely lacking today. | |
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