| Why Do Women Do Stupid Things During Breakups???
Posted: 10/26/2006 11:08:06 AM |
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When you say that you are putting all of us in the same box. Try saying why is it that "some" women . Generalizing usually leads to "bashing" . So perhaps you should watch how you express yourself. Try using the proper placement of words. | |
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| Why Do Women Do Stupid Things During Breakups???
Posted: 10/26/2006 11:11:53 AM | | you're right in a mean way that is funny however it's not right...i had a girl break my heart and 4 days later sucked some guy off, did i break into her place and destroy any of her property. No. i sucked it up and moved on...that shit happens....the point of this whole post the reasoning for why this stuff happens and i'm sorry for generalizing women in this category when men do things like this too...i heard a story of a guy coming home one day and found his gf ****ing some guy on the couch and then he went to key her car...it's not right at all...but just to make everyone happy i'm sorry for generalizing i should've said "people" not just women...there i said it...but i laugh at how "some" women can make threads like "why do MEN run away" and things like that when yet again it goes both ways...and nothing is said about generalization... | |
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| Why Do Women Do Stupid Things During Breakups???
Posted: 10/26/2006 11:46:03 AM | A man was cheating on his girlfriend and went off on holiday with the new woman. Whilst he was away she let herself into his house, turned on all the taps and then sprinkled cress seed throughout the house on the carpets. When he returned the cress had sprouted throughout the entire house.
That's not stupid, that's a stroke of pure genius!!
holy crap, female ingenuity at it's best
seriously though, I think that living well is the best revenge, cry or scream when you are alone or friends, but put on a "Life couldn't be better" game face in public | |
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| Why Do Women Do Stupid Things During Breakups???
Posted: 10/26/2006 11:50:37 AM | They do it for the same reasons that those men cheat. Because they dont act responsibly nor consider the other people involved, and its all about SELF.
I guess if you are gonna cheat on your wife, be prepared to lose your good chit.... | |
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| Why Do Women Do Stupid Things During Breakups???
Posted: 10/26/2006 12:53:50 PM | Heh, well, ok, after one of my GF's cheated on me, I'll admit the thought *did* cross my mind of tossing all her stuff on the front lawn and saying "come get it before it rains", but needless to say I had a lot of emotions going on at that moment.
However, she had this idea that she could stop over every other day and leave with one box of clothes or something, and leave the rest for "another day"... and I didn't see any value in continuing my own "torment" for months on end, so the first thing I did was take friday off and change all the locks on the doors. Then I went out saturday with some friends (who let me "dump" my feelings and took me out for the day to help get my mind off of it, as much as that was possible at the time), and apparently she tried to come over to get more stuff, left a nasty msg on my machine ("my car title, birth certificate, blah, blah, blah"). I called back and said "tell me when you're coming over with a U-Haul to get all your stuff". She flipped, "I can't get it all in one day!" - I just said, look, I know all your friends, have them come over (anyone but *him*), I'll even help load the truck, but you made your choice, I'm not letting you drag it on taking one box here and there, one day, take it all, get it out of here. (And I did help, with her friends).
Face it, especially in the case of being cheated on (ie, *betrayal*), it can bring out a lot of very strong emotions. I didn't ever consider breaking anything, but I'll admit the tossing it in the lawn idea was strong. But I didn't see that being vengeful really would accomplish anything other than making me look bad to her friends (all of who, a year later, still liked me, and wanted *nothing* to do with her, partially because of what she did to me, and partially because they detested the new guy, who pretty much had ended every relationship in 8 years by cheating on them with the next, and she basically alienated all of them for it - and oh yeah, Karma is a b**ch, lets just say their eventual split involved him and a newly pregnant 24y/o...). | |
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Israd
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Joined: 10/10/2006
Msg: 34 | |
| Why Do Women Do Stupid Things During Breakups???
Posted: 10/29/2006 1:07:33 PM | I've had plenty of men do stupid psychotic things during break ups. I once had an ex who felt necessary to call my mother and discuss our sex life, and another one make it his mission to get me fired from my job. Both I now have restraining orders against.
I've had a few also think tryin to sleep with my friends after was the way to go, thinking it would make me jealous. Though my friends aren't much for pickin up my trash.
Trust me it isnt just women who go mental during a break up. | |
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| Why Do Women Do Stupid Things During Breakups???
Posted: 12/4/2006 3:00:03 PM | Yes, people have emotions. They can feel betrayed and hurt.
Guess what?
They still don't have the right to harm other people.
They still don't have the right to destroy personal or public property.
These poor hurt people still don't have a right to break the law.
Being a victim never gives you the right to make someone else a victim, no matter how
they made you feel.
Taking the moral high ground is not only the right thing to do, in the eyes of the law,
it is the ONLY thing to do. Two wrongs don't make a right.
Don't do that, and feel free to enjoy the jail time or fines you may incur as a result.
Not to mention you will have soiled your diginity and self respect in the name of revenge.
Revenge is never "understandable". | |
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| Why Do Women Do Stupid Things During Breakups???
Posted: 12/4/2006 3:44:48 PM | It's called "Anger management", some people know how other's don't. It's not about what gender you are, it's knowing how to manage anger in a healthy way rather than a destructive way.
"When embarking on a journey of revenge; dig 2 graves" - Confucius | |
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| Why Do Women Do Stupid Things During Breakups???
Posted: 12/4/2006 6:08:07 PM | One of my friends found out that her bf was cheating on her with a girl named Wendy.
So she kept calling his pager and leaving phone numbers for different Wendy's Restaurants all over the Province.
Every time he called the number, someone would answer "Wendy's"....I thought it was hilarious and clever. | |
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RJB888
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Joined: 11/23/2005
Msg: 39 | |
| Why Do Women Do Stupid Things During Breakups???
Posted: 12/4/2006 6:43:14 PM | Pinkwinecats:
Girl you said it right, well Andy Rooney said it right. I am going to print this and give it to every idoit man that I date. Then give to my younger brothers who chase after 20 year olds.
I love it!!!!! | |
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| Why Do Women Do Stupid Things During Breakups???
Posted: 12/4/2006 9:41:13 PM | My ex boyfriend broke my sterio when I left him, he also wrecked several of my cd's,
he also didnt return my address book I had for 7 years, nor my work key, he erased an home video of mine because there was a short part in there of my ex before him,
he also bad mouthed me all over and in writing, and sent a girl he knew after me,
this was all because I broke up with him after he cheated and was a complete ass in many different ways. So yeah men act stupid too. | |
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| Why Do Women Do Stupid Things During Breakups???
Posted: 12/4/2006 9:53:06 PM | like when my ex-boyfriend said he wanted to be friends after the breakup,and told me i could keep all the things we went halves on,and even keep the things he himself brought into the house,yet not a month later turned around and demanded that i pay him 150% of the two major items we purchased together,when i already paid for half,and would be legally obligated to pay only 50% more.Then talks to MY best friend and calls me crazy,when i didn't do anything to him.
Or my boyfriend's ex girlfriend, who slapped him, got restrained by him,yet he gets charged because she manages to get a bruise on her wrist.Then proceeds to call him after all this begging to get back together.
Both sexes can be psycho. | |
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| Why Do Women Do Stupid Things During Breakups???
Posted: 12/5/2006 10:45:20 PM | Hey River Lady I agree....I have recently experienced a situation that was most bizarre. The guy who I had lost interest in...turned into a dramatic almost stalker. I am not certain he totally understands or accepts that it's over.
I have blocked him from all electronic sources, as he continued to email me...one would be kind...explaining his feelings, then the next would be cruel and very "angry".
Some people can't handle rejection at all....both men and women. I think it largely depends on their emotional maturity or lack thereof, and underlying, issues.
I have had to let my work know about him, in the event he shows up, and or calls. It's totally annoying and embarassing.
Get over it!!!!!!!!!
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| Why Do Women Do Stupid Things During Breakups???
Posted: 12/6/2006 6:36:57 AM | It seems that there's two sides to every story, in some cases. Her side and her side Some women are such "Drama Queens"!! Well, there is an advantage to break-ups this time of year...Xmas won't be as expensive!!!
I went through this not too long ago. The bottom line is.....
THEY'RE JUST NOT WORTH IT!!!
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| Why Do Women Do Stupid Things During Breakups???
Posted: 12/6/2006 7:01:02 AM | | When a man/women finds out their partner has cheated if can be a devastating blow. I guess they aren't thinking rational at the time so they fly off the handle. When respect is lost in a relationship it's time to move on. Especially, in a marriage. I think they do it as a pay back. They know it will hurt them. | |
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| Why Do Women Do Stupid Things During Breakups???
Posted: 12/6/2006 8:33:55 AM | With all due respect to the applogists in here, but revenge is neither defensible or justifiable.
You never have the right to seek out your own justice. If you commit a wrong in the name
of trying to seek revenge against someone who wronged you then you are just as bad, if not worse, then the person who wronged you.
Not only that it doesn't help you deal with the emotional pain. Not really.
Only through forgiveness does one ever truely become free of the pain that someone caused by wronging you. I'm not saying you have to be arround someone you dislike, you don't have to be arround that person anymore if you don't want to.
Just that you need to forgive them and move on because if you keep the bitterness about whatever they inside you or you act on it with a negative action instead of letting it go it will eventually destroy you.
We are human beings, we make mistakes yes, but we are capable of being noble and rising
above our impulses because we have intelegence. | |
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
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| Why Do Women Do Stupid Things During Breakups???
Posted: 12/15/2006 4:30:10 PM | Oh boy, you need to realize the philosophy of "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned". Oooh those twisted knickers, sounds like a wedgie gone bad 
Hmm, this brings back memories of 19 years ago, when I was 31 years old. Ex hubby had an affair (after 10 years of marriage). In 1987, the movie "War of the Roses" came out. People magazine had a feature about how couples sought "revenge" for cheating, etc. One woman was so pissed, she cut off all of the legs on her ex's suits! Another woman was so pissed, she had called a business in Tokyo and ran up the ex's phone bills. Me? No real revenge against his personal items. However, I took some sweet revenge against the pics that had the 2 of us. The night before the divorce was finalized, I drank several beers. After reading the revenge article in People, I got up and got my scissors out. I cut up our entire wedding album, all photo albums, etc. He had a shirt and a few other items in the house (he'd already moved out). We met at the court house the next day. I took the shredded pics, put them in the pillow case, along with his shirt, etc. I dumped all of that crap out in the parking lot and told him "this is what I think of our 10 years of marriage, have a nice life".
Lordy, my Mom was beside herself. To this day, it felt good!
OP - I do agree, it is stupid and it's not right. | |
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| Why Do Women Do Stupid Things During Breakups???
Posted: 12/15/2006 4:40:47 PM | I just think it is an emotional release. Women are normally more emotional then men we express pain differently. I know, I feel after a break up that I wasted so much time with someone that didn't really want me. Women have very few years to really find someone. I mean after 30 we're considered washed up. So anytime we wasted with someone is time we can never get back. I think thats why we get so crushed when a relationship doesn't work. We invested time and effort into something with no return on the investment. | |
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