| | Is the fairytale impossible after 30? Page 13 of 18 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18) | | i actually believe that we are prepared for our fairy tale in many different ways, and that perhaps going thru a bit of "fire" (with a variety of different partners, some more challenging than others) helps us appreciate and truly be ready for our future prince/princess. I have finally found my soul mate at age 40...lotta destructive and damaging relationships prior, bad choices, lessons learned... all in preparation for HIM. When you least expect it, the white horse shows up carrying an absolutely splendid rider! | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 11/25/2009 6:13:05 PM | | I think love is hard to find at any age....Impossible after 30? I don't think so, it's out there for all of us. However, after 30 most of us have a lot more responsibilities and it is hard to find the time to put into a relationship to help it grow. Also, being older we know what we are looking for and become more picky....theres nothing wrong with this in my book... if you are willing to date with an open mind and give someone a chance, even if it's not the type of guy/gal you would normally go out with. Dating can be fun, and it should be...in time you end up meeting someone special and find that special spark. I wish we all could just find it "now, in our my time frame" but life just doesn't work like that; so for now try just having fun with it. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 11/25/2009 7:46:18 PM | There are no such things as "Fairy tales". This is the real world, fairy tales only exist in Disney movies.
Young girls watch these fairy tales and they see Prince Charming coming to a young girls rescue and they live happily ever after. Then these young girls grow up and they expect their fairy tale to come along which won't happen. There are no fairy tale endings. There are no Prince Charmings.
This is 2009, almost 2010. This is the real world, not a fairy tale. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 11/27/2009 10:08:35 AM | I have an idea. Why don't all of the men and women who post in the over 30 message boards get together for coffee? :+} | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 11/29/2009 8:50:35 PM | "When I was a child, I thought like a child, I spoke like a child. When I became a man I gave up childish things".
Fairytales are for children. Magic still happens for adults, at any age, even 80. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 12/5/2009 11:51:58 AM | after reading some of this i must say....i think fairy tails do happen. and if they dont happen with you....keep positive. for a fairy tail to me is somthing you hope for, you dream about. so they is no wrong in a fairy tail. unless its a dark fairy tail.(witches, leather wipes..blonde girl)
Also i read some girl on here saying love at first site does not happy.. and its only two people who need each other who are desprate and its there pent up emotions making them feel thay have an instant connection. i disagree. that may be the case some times. however when i was 8 years old. i feel in love and she loved me. they was no despration in that romance. and that was a fairy tail for about 2 years.
so the fairy tail does work in my view. | |
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Wiyan
| | Joined: 12/8/2008
Msg: 308 | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 12/9/2009 12:01:37 AM | read a good one the other nite
The prince had ventured from a far away land to seek his treasure and to find a fair maiden to help rule his land. He travelled over the seven seas, and past the ten verst fields, upon which he found himself upon a golden gate. Upon the gate was the inscription, "All that enter here shall find the wealth and happiness to the end of their days" The brave prince pushed upon the gate, it did not budge. He stabbed at the lock with his sword, it did not budge. He tried to climb over its height, he could not manage the height. Finally in defeat he rest his head and fell to sleep to try again in the morrow. In his dream he lept over the fence and found the maiden of his dreams. She was a beauty that nations would launch ships and declare wars for; fitting for a crown indeed. He awok with the sound of a crowing c0k cackling to the sun rise. The Rooster spoke to him the answer of the gate. "Only the pure of heart shall enter, you must cast off all of your worldly doubt." The the bird burst into magical flames. Renewed and encouraged the prince sparked on an idea, he stripped down naked and smeared his body in morning dew from adjacent leaves... and at last he was able to slide through the bars of the gate and to champion his cause... to rescue his maiden. as he stood triumphantly, and quite naked, he crowed a thanks to the rooster. he was pierced through the heart with a bow from the house on the knoll. all that could be heard, after the dogs has quite barking.... Damn pervert, it s c0k a doodle doo, not any c0k will do
Tip your waitress, I will be here all week. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 12/9/2009 5:22:24 AM | | no, i don't believe in fairytales being one relationship is hard work and alot to maintain. there's no such thing as a perfect relationship... | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 12/9/2009 3:41:42 PM | just yesterday, I met a fair maiden and we rode off into the abyss on my luck dragon.
We got back to the hobbit house and I sat her on my unicorn. I brushed her golden locks and she gave me her heart in a crystal.
I then went out, slayed a few ogres...
If you want a fairy tale, just play world of warcraft! you can have IT ALL! and never have to meet anyone EVER! totally safe sex, a mouse click away. fun!
Or dream yr 9th grade fantasy of being a super model artist photographer who doesn't work, is born rich and has a castle in the sky with the perfect mate who never dies or snores.
Gimme reality, the smell of feet... arguments at 2am! mis-matched bra and panties and a sink full of dirty dishes.
And me smiling with it all. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 12/11/2009 2:44:35 AM | Absolutely NOT impossible! ... the extra years are just added seasoning. It's got nothing to do with being older, either. It's a state of mind & heart: if you give up and get jaded, you can't enjoy the giddy anticipation of such little things as hearing the train's whistle just before it barrels down the rails .. watching the feeder for the hummingbird's morning visit .. wondering what's in that lovely gift-wrapped box!
'Getting old' isn't about gaining chronology, it's about losing one's wonder and appreciation of all the sweetness in this world. When the eyes get dull and the mouth stiffens with bored resignation, when bitterness erodes the spirit like moths in a closet .. then you won't know a fairytale-come-true even if it stands right in front of you.
Miracles happen all the time! We see them if we are willing to believe them first, not the other way around!
Have a glorious Christmas, and may you find yourself noticing the beauty in everyday little moments.
Today, even, may you become surprised by Joy.
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(Luke 2:11) | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 12/11/2009 1:56:09 PM | | Yes. But it doesn't have anything to do with "after 30". Fairy tales are for children for a reason. Real relationships are real work, and each relationship is a tradeoff (let's face it, there are things about being single that are much better than being married, and vice versa). And having a preconceived notion about what a "perfect" relationship would be like is dooming yourself to failure. Just in case you think I sound bitter, I assure you I am no - I've just learned to be realistic about life and to try to see things as they really are and not just as I want them to be. The world (and relationships) seems to work much better that way. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 12/17/2009 6:23:42 AM | my advice
watch less television
and try and get a sense of reality......
mind you on the pother hand father christmas is going to give me lots of presents in a few days! | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 12/18/2009 7:49:10 PM | Absolutely the 'fairytale' is possible!
Though, even if the Earth turned under me and the Heavens opened, I would NOT immediately marry any woman I met and quickly fell deeply in love with. If it's real, it will last. It is just good to give things some time. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 12/19/2009 8:28:23 AM | | Yes. It isn't so intense a month or so afterwards. That means you have been dating a dud all along and you have invested said time that you will not get back. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 12/19/2009 12:38:33 PM |
I think love is hard to find at any age....Impossible after 30? I don't think so
I think the OP was asking about a fairy tale, not love. You can end up loving someone that's not right for you... or is right for you, but how things unfold isn't fairy-tale-ish.
I think a few years after 25 or so, people have a harder time denying reality. :) Or in other words, a harder time looking at life through fairy-colored glasses. They've been inspired by romantic comedies & dramas on the screen, and have their views based on that... or old stories about relatives or someone who knows someone that sounds magical (stories hollywoodize themselves).
I think when we become non-rookie adults, we find the greater substance when it comes to actual reality and how things work, despite the sting it can bring when accepting it head on. But for some, they're not ready for it, and they become cynical. Heck, once you're 30, it is harder in general to find a great match -- so that really gets fairy-tale-hoping people even more frumpy.
A similar situation would be the gals who "chase butterflies but not men". They NEED butterflies. They get excited about the flavor-of-the-month guy, butterflies abound... but when the butterflies aren't fluttering so much, they move on, disappointed. They're torturing themselves, because they think that life's depressing if it's not a highlight reel, like a 2 hour sappy/funny movie can bring. I actually find that point of view depressing! | |
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mggie
| | Joined: 7/15/2009
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 12/20/2009 9:45:31 PM | I hope the fairy tale is still possible after 30.........................
I also believe that two people can have a unbelievable connection even after meeting just once, the sexual attraction is there and for some reason personality wise it just clicks...
and if that fairy tale is not possible...Dam Walt Disney for making this little girl believe in prince charmings and for happiley ever afters...lol | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 12/22/2009 5:20:04 AM | I wanna believe.. there is a saying ..Impossible is nothing.. sounds naiv?? yeah maybe ..but I do believe ..is it possible..finding love ..no matter how old you are ..
of course the older you get the difficult to find it ..or ..dont know ..whatever .. | |
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kkenr
| | Joined: 12/8/2009
Msg: 322 | |
| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 12/22/2009 4:04:31 PM | | Ok so i am new to all this i can put my profile up yes thats fine and it is honest my problem is what do i say to the women whos profiles i like i think i have prob made a mess of it already either that or i am just not that attractive . I rally struggle with this whole dating sanario and dont know how soon to ask out on a date or just to chat for a long time i am probably one on those blokes who is looking for a long term relationship and who does want the loving caring stuff that goes with it you know the holding hands and the smiles . I am the unlucky sort that doesnt have a circle of friends to go out with so tend not to are my expectations to high or are a lot of women just scared off with what i am looking for ???? | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 12/22/2009 7:36:39 PM | Well I am not sure about fairy tales, but i believe to each there own.. one day we will meet someone who means the world to us..
Clifford
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 12/23/2009 2:32:32 PM | Fairytales were, are and will be impossible.
Just as fairies aren't real, neither are FAIRYtales. A "tale" is a story. (Thus, fairytales are make-believe stories.)
It implies a perfect relationship, a perfect situation and perfect people. How unrealistic is that? Exactly.
The best we can do is try to prioritize and get our most important needs and wants met.
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 3/8/2010 9:04:08 PM | Aww Too many people are getting hung up on semantics! LoL The responses with people using the term 'magic'.. are missing the context in which the thread starter uses the term "fairytale" His "fairytale" and your "magic" in this case are actually different words for the same concept. .
K. That gripe aside, I KNOW the magic can happen after 30. My last serious relationship.... Felt like a dream I never knew I had coming true. To me it was magic, and felt real. (I'm 33) The gal in question.... Was and is a very sick and mentally ill individual. To HER it was a fairytale
The nutshell? I'm over 30, and was passionately, head over heals... so yeah. It can happen. We're more likely to see B.S. for what it is though, so are.. less susceptible to fantasy/delusion. | |
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