| | Is the fairytale impossible after 30? Page 17 of 18 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18) | Gag me with a spoon. Fairytales are fantasies for immature minds and hearts. A lovely romantic story, a white wedding, a happy forever after? Buhbuhbuhbohorrrrrring.
A best friend, a partner, a plan the two work actively upon? What's wrong with that? You want infatuation and promises no human could keep? Have at it. I want to grow and my partner to grow. I want to share in struggles and triumphs, trials and tribulations. I want it all, and that includes the bad and the ugly along with the good and beautiful.
The original fairytales were like that, both beautiful and beastly. We've corrupted them by accepting only half of what they were really meant to be. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 3/14/2011 1:01:53 PM | | I agree. I'm not looking for any sort of fairy tale. If the good Lord gives me a girl that's nice to be around, that's good enough for me. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 3/14/2011 1:31:37 PM | Having witnessed the death of a child, depression, illness and such befall my grandparents and parents up close, I never had the illusion that it was a fairy tale.
I always knew you had to put in an effort. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 3/15/2011 3:41:44 PM | I don't think it's impossible. I just think that not everyone is going to get one. And 'fairytale' is a different thing for each person. Just because someone else wants something, doesn't mean it's what you have to want as well.
I see people on here saying "I don't want a fairytale - I just want to meet someone that'll love me and we'll be happy" - well guess what dumbass - that's a friggin fairytale. It just happens to be YOUR version. Fairytale = happy. That's what it means. Not a castle and all that crap. Good Lord.
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Posted: 3/16/2011 3:42:32 PM | Don't be a dork, java we aren't idiots. We understood the question, the OP definately meant fairytale as in traditional happy ever after soul mates love at first sight we become one with a white wedding and picket fence to frame it all. And we answered quite appropriately.
No, my ideal of contentment is NOT defined by me as my own "fairytale." I would never use that to describe my romantic desires. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 3/16/2011 5:01:58 PM | Java:
I went out with my friends last night for a beer, and I was happy. That means I was living in a fairy tale last night? Makes perfect sense. "The fairytale" is supposed to mean some charming/romantic guy appears in the woman's life and sweeps her off her feet (or vice versa). This is different than meeting someone who is a decent human being and you start having feelings for them. A fairytale romance doesn't mean a castle, nor does it involve slaying a dragon. It's metaphorical for being swept off your feet and meeting someone that exceeds all of your expectations. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2011 8:40:50 PM | I'll be a dork if I wanna! 
If you understood what I was sayin', then it obviously wasn't directed at you..... not to put too fine a point on it. But it probably WAS for the chick that posted directly after you.  | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 4/1/2011 3:16:51 AM | I think it is possible but by then you have learnt harsh reality so may not feel it as deeply or be more pessimistic because you have not experienced a fairytail you imagined one and then lived a break up so know its possible for things to not last even if you had feelings not enough to last.....once you know whatever you feel and dream of doesnt always last
forget going back to dreams ... you are now on the doorstep of reality it would take a brick to your head and memory loss to forget it and pain.
Its a shame its lovely when you are young optimistic and hopeful...shame too many people knock it out of you...in the most dreadful ways. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 4/12/2011 12:26:15 PM |
Do you believe you can have an intense connection with someone you barely know...after meeting just once or twice? Do you believe you can meet someone incredible....and its not complicated or difficult...you can just fall for each other right away ....after 30?
I know in my early 20's I believed in all of the fairy tale...but then kids, marriage, divorce, and reality sort of had me thinking that it would be less perfect...i would have to accept that it wasnt the guy i imagined.....and then recently I am thinking maybe there is a guy i can be with and it could be what i always wanted.
(I know life isnt all smooth sailing I am talking about how difficult it can be to start)
So what do you think...is the fairytale possible still?
I've got no idea as I have zero experience. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 4/12/2011 12:51:42 PM | Actually, I just finished reading an article on this very subject.
According to scientific study, it is impossible once you reach the age of 29 years, 8 months, 3 hours.
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 4/13/2011 4:44:27 PM | We never did hear the end of that 'fairy tale' where Snow White met her prince, and it turns out he farted a lot, had a drinking problem, and was jealous and controlling over the horny dwarves hanging around her. 
"Perfect" is the fairy-tale... nobody is perfect. And the worst part is that in many ways the person who is looking for 'perfect' is the person who will face a lot of disappointment in their relationships. Maybe rather than thinking "it could be what *I* always wanted", it should be more like "*we* can make it what *we* want, with compromise and communication". | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 4/14/2011 12:17:52 PM |
So what do you think...is the fairytale possible still?
Yep!! I have "fairied that tail" out of here in many occasions, even after 30!! | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 4/23/2011 10:41:44 PM | Gretle, its whats for dinner.
Remember in the originals, the Witch usually gets to eat or kill the lead characters. I would seek another fantasy to emulate.... maybe world of warcraft ? or IMVU ? | |
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Posted: 5/4/2011 10:43:02 AM | | valencia: I've never read a version where the witch ate Hansel and Gretel. I'm sure there are plenty, though. I spent most of my studies on Little Red Riding Hood and Cinderella, | |
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Posted: 5/7/2011 4:33:49 PM | I believe it is possible because I know people who have met and married their soulmate, and had children, and lived happily together for many years.
My parents have been married for over 40 years. My grandparents were married, for 55 years. Several of my aunts and uncles have been married for over 40 years, as well.
I lived the fairy tale for 15 years, myself. My husband and I met and fell in love, married, had 2 wonderful children, and, yes, even a house with a white fence.... (I still have the house...)
When people marry , most do believe their marriage will last forever. But, noone
can predict the future ....
In my case, for instance, I had no way of knowing, prior to my wedding, that I would
develop a medical problem that would cause a lot of weight gain and change my appearance.
After many years of being happily married, my husband still loved me but found me physically repulsive. We both still had high sex drives, but his physical aversion to me made mutual satisfaction impossible . At first, we decided on an open marriage .
That might have worked - if we had both found someone else. He did. I didn't.
It became a very emotionally stressful situation to deal with. Eventually, the divorce
was in both our best interests.
He was free to marry his newfound love interest and I was free to find someone who can accept me for who I am now...
Just because sh -- happens doesn't mean there isn't someone for everyone.... somewhere. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 6/10/2011 6:15:07 AM | | yes I think a fairytale is still possible. I'm 22 have a kid been married. &nd afte that I thought it wasn't possible@ all, until I meant this guy he's 35, & we jus click I feel things I never felt before, he's sweet pulls out my chair for me when we go eat opens doors, unlike the younger men today. I'm so attracted to him, at anytime of the day I'm ready to jump n bed that's how attracted I am. I never felt that attracted to someone before. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 8/7/2011 6:37:41 AM | Hansel and Gretle were not in the kettle pot for a refreshing steam bath.
They were for dinner.
And they are indeed eaten; unless you follow Disney or Warner Brothers Looney Tunes. That witch is the classic 'boogey man' iconography that we adopted here in the states; and if she never ate them= nobody would care.
And the notions of Aloysha the Dyrna never end well either.
classic tales of failing, dying, graft, trickery to warn kids to pay attention and avoid danger - and of course every town has the old man stinson house that is 'haunted' it is the lore of the small communities.
Fairy tales are often Grimm , and most effective when they are dark. | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 8/7/2011 9:32:54 AM | I think the fairytale is possible but in the now its like starting the dating game again with all the knowledge that would have been useful the first time round, add in a feeling of being potentially a little 'jaded' about love in general and there ya have it a possible recipe for thirties dating?
I hope you find someone that wants to share your fairytale,..., after all I believe that's what we are are all here for, for ourselves to find someone to share our dreams with :) | |
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Posted: 8/18/2011 10:48:49 PM | | i absolutely think its possible to connect with the right person almost instantly! i sure hope the fairy tale is possible after 30! now i dont believe in movie love! real fairy tale is finding someone who knows everything you are, and everything you are not.....and loves you anyway! | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 8/20/2011 3:52:01 AM | Yes you can, in my opinion, however it all depends on your approach and idea of a relationship. It always follows stages, such as,,,
1, initial attraction
2. getting to know butterflies
3. feeling vomfortable
4. looking from the inside out
A relationship is a partnership that two individuals agree to a common goal. It all depends on if you are willing to work at your "fairytal" | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 8/21/2011 11:19:56 AM | Op you do now what a fairy tale is right ? Now you want to know if ones possible ? Did you think this question through before you asked it ?
"i dont think fairytales ever comes true tho.... it is just in the book.... but you know what, its not bad to dream and hopefully to live with that dream someday.. it a bonus...."
Why is dreaming and hoping for a fairy tail to maybe come true a bonus ? Stopped dreaming for and hoping for impossibilities along time ago .So I shouldn't of stopped because maybe they might have come true ? Am I the only one that thinks this is a little insane ? | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 8/25/2011 8:55:37 PM | | It all depends on one's definition of a "fairy tale". For a man like myself who has never married (or lived with a woman) and has no children, my fairy tale is to do all of that with a woman. If she's divorced with kids, then my fairy tale goes bye-bye. But there are true romantics of all ages and walks of life who still believe in the concept of true love of all ages. | |
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