| | Is the fairytale impossible after 30? Page 7 of 18 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18) | I believe in love, but it is a different kind of love than what I thought I was looking for in my 20s. Instant physical attraction feels great and is fun, but it isn't going to carry you safely through life. Something in common, similar beliefs and values, and being grounded and respectful of each other is more likely to form a long-lasting , healthy and committed relationship. This takes months to determine.
I have also found that giving up too early because a little thing you can't put your finger on just doesn't feel right isn't necessarily the best course of action. Wait a week and see him agian to find out if you still feel the same way or if it was just because both of you were nervous. I have had first dates that were ok, but didn't wow me, but if / when I saw him again, we clicked much better. | |
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Posted: 1/28/2007 8:25:43 PM | I think it is possible....but it is like starting a book or a movie with great expectations..you are bound to be disappointed.
Sometimes it is the light read- or the sleeper movie you didnt really plan on seeing- that suddenly and surprisingly KNOCKS YOUR SOCKS OFF.
Just have fun, meet new people, be genuine and be open- you never know what will happen. But if you have no expectations- only great things can happen: | |
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| Is the fairytale impossible after 30?
Posted: 1/29/2007 1:01:32 AM | | Fairytale??? I would laugh at the concept if I wasn't so sad. I used to believe that there is someone for everyone. Now I'm not so sure. I have been single, desperate, and dateless for most my life. I would be would be happy if I could just find a woman who could stay interested in me for more than a few weeks. As the years continue to slip by, I slip deeper and deeper into despondency. I really wish I could believe in fairytales. Especially now that I'm over thirty and beginning to realize my mortallity. | |
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Posted: 2/5/2007 8:03:41 AM | I agree with you Kataklysmic ... I was looking for my complete mate for 16 years. The problem was my independence. I travel a great deal and never found anyone that could handle the fact we would be apart for two or three weeks at a time. It was very hard to have a serious relationship under those circumstances.
Then a met a terrific guy in 6/06 in Spain. We were inseparable for the two weeks I was there.
He had the same problem. He travelled a lot on business too and couldn't find anyone that would accept his travel schedule.
After we left Spain we lost contact with each other. Just before Xmas I placed my profile on POF. Two days later we both contacted each other. He had just split up with his g/f of three months. We both accept our travel committments. We make the best of our time when we are together.
I know this is the man I want to marry. I am 42 and he is 57. My carreer as I know it now will be ending soon. When that happens we will be together forever.
So in closing I do believe love has no boundries no matter what our ages. So keep looking and you shall find the man of your dreams without having to lower your standards. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2007 1:18:08 PM | I dont think fairy tales exist, at least to the non delusional person. A fairy tale means perfection and as human beings, we are not perfect that's for sure.
However, I do believe that as you age, you realize more and more that this fairy tale doesnt exist, you start to accept faults in yourself and others more readily and you are generally more relaxed about people. Keep in mind , one persons perception of a fault is anothers "must have".lol I for one am glad we are not perfect, how boring would that be? lol | |
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Posted: 2/6/2007 10:28:36 PM | I used to hope that it was possible, but more and more I just find men with too much baggage to have a relationship with. You end up with him, AND his ex, AND his kids, AND his past dates.. I have baggage too but most of the men I find dont' have carryon, they have world cruise luggage.
but the hopeful part of me hopes I am wrong and I will find my heart-mate. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2007 10:58:38 PM | double post here...I read somewhere that when people are in "love" that they omit brainwaves, or neural patterns similar to people who have "lost" their minds.  | |
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Posted: 2/7/2007 5:37:06 AM | Fairy tales are very possible. Think of any true fairy tale, they are not perfect. There are hardships, loss, and anger in almost all of them. But it is the end that makes the fairy tale. Happily ever after? probably not... but working through all of the hardships is what makes the fairy tale real.
To think that instant love, no conflict, perfect couple exists... THAT is delusional.
Either that or I just have read way too many of the old school Grimms Fairy Tales... | |
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Posted: 2/7/2007 12:12:57 PM |
To think that instant love, no conflict, perfect couple exists... THAT is delusional.
No instant love? How about true love after a month, give or take a few weeks?
It's all about the fairy tale in your heart. If you truly adore your prince and he adores you as a princess... anything is possible.
Take that love and remember it every day.. it will always take you through the rough spots that life sometimes deals us all.
J | |
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Posted: 2/9/2007 6:46:25 AM | I think that fairytale is avialable to anyone of any age. If you work at it. Nothing comes easy and theres no such thing as perfect.
Im 39 and had what I thought was the fairytale once. But man was I wronge. Back then I was worth 200 grand and had two cars the house picket fence and all. It went poof with her cocaine addiction and was lost forever. And THANK GOD.
Because now Im rebuilding my life. Im broke. Im busting my ass daily to get my business off the ground and running. I have piece of crap car. I live in a trailer. And I have a woman who loves and adores me. She stands beside me and is proud. NOW that is the true fairytale for me. Because when I have that material ability this time its gonna be with my Fairy Princess. No some fake. | |
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Posted: 2/9/2007 1:35:04 PM | I think you can have the fairytale after 30. I love to hear about couples who connect and love each othe and find each other after 30, 40 etc.
Love is love
Oliviabella | |
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Posted: 2/10/2007 12:08:01 PM | I believe that there is someone for everyone. Yes I do believe that you can meet someone just once and fall head over heels for them. I met my late wife and was with her for over 15yrs. after our first runin. I lost her, she past away on valentines Day of 04 and I am still looking for the one I want to spend the rest of my life with.Where is she. To answer your question, Yes I believe that it can happen, it is rare but it does happen. Kenny | |
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Posted: 2/11/2007 3:49:11 AM | | GAWD, this forum is starting to make me feel old. Is it really all over when you hit 30??? I don't think there is anything wrong with not being married and having children by now, my close friends have only really started doing things like that, guess were brought up differently. I would rather do those things later, than too early. | |
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Posted: 2/11/2007 3:57:59 AM | | i think a lot of you are dreamers. And yes i'm in my thirties. Quite frankly I would just be happy to meet someone who accepts me for my crazy sense of humour, can take a bit of sarcasm because sometimes i just can't help it, and can make me laugh, has a certain level of intelligence and can hold their own in a conversation. idiocy is not cute its annoying, however romance is a state of mind and it creates its own chaos, we only want it at all because we have been conditioned to believe that unless we wear the white dress and walk down the aisle we are failures. I have never been married and probably never will be, i accept it and move on, I don't spend fruitless hours searching for a certain someone, I talk to everyone and I don't put unreasonable expectations on them. fell free to disagree, i love a great discussion, keeps the brain healthy and soul alive, bye | |
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Posted: 2/11/2007 8:35:19 AM | Nile girl ..this like all other things in your life is totally about what you believe...wether conditioned to believe it or not..
this line to me says it all:
I have never been married and probably never will be, i accept it and move on, I don't spend fruitless hours searching for a certain someone
See in that scenario you have already decided that it wont happen...that is fine.
But what little i have learned in life is that we tend to find exactly what we are looking for..
Youre not looking for it and you wont find it.
While it seems unreasonable and silly for people to believe ...they still do..not any different than a faith in god or the like..
Kinda like a line i like:
"even though you know most relationships wont work out...you still want to believe."
That is where the "Fairey Tale" begins and ends...in your mind and your faith...
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Posted: 2/11/2007 2:47:24 PM | the panson hince post 30 tends to have receeding hairline ,wrinkles .. some have baggage others not (lucky frogs ).... only us rindycellas... forget we wearing polyfilla, have middle age spread and cellulite to die for !!! !!!!
I believe the trouble with fairytales starts when we kiss the pransom hince .... only it was a toad not a frog... wheres that leave us eh ;) ?
we all forget we were
children when fairytales were introduced... therefore even as we get older we see it through childrens eyes... nothing wrong with that as long as you can distinguish from reality...which most .. me especially seldom do ... oh well best go those sisty uglys will be firkin my wingers to the bone all night... uddy blell .. av i dropped a bolok ere | |
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Posted: 2/11/2007 2:50:12 PM | Hey Lori,
I believe it is completely possible to do just that...feel so completely drawn to someone you have never met, but have spent time online with. I sure did! And he made me feel like I was 16 again. Once we met in person, it took everything in me not to leap at him and throw my arms around him. I would have laid a big kiss on him, except we were in a very public place and he is verrrry shy! I think we are more experienced when we are over 30...more aware of our feelings, more aware of what we like in a person. God, we are all in big trouble if we can't have that fairytale just because we are "mature". Best wishes... | |
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Posted: 2/11/2007 10:05:12 PM | I sure hope that a great relationship of love & trust is still possible after 30 because I just turned 36 and have yet to be in LOVE, now don't get me wrong I have had loving feeling for people, but I not had the Chance to fall Head Over heels yet. I have not given up yet, hell the romantic fool that I am is ready to bless the right person with all of The Power and Light of my love.   | |
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Posted: 2/12/2007 2:46:23 AM | | this thread has depressed me. i feel like one of those females with a five year plan now. i can relate to the females in friends. lol! still glad that didn't get married or knocked up before 25 though, you spend so many years being old, that don't see the point in rushing things. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2007 11:35:29 AM | "Love at first sight" is the nice term for "we're both really desperate and don't want to be alone".
I believe love at first sight is the spawn of the FairyTale mentality. Some have a fantasy of their 'perfect mate' they carry him or her around ~ an image, framed in their hearts. They find someone who loosely matches the description and *boom* they're 'in love'.
Not only is this dangerous, it's the perfect formula for disappointment. Nobody can live up to preconceived expectations. Everyone is unique. Don't get me wrong, we all have our morals and know what we will or will not tolerate. I've just seen far too many women put up with crap from their 'soulmate' because they've convinced themselves that they've found their prince.
Keep it real, that's all I'm saying. | |
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