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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 1/18/2008 9:57:32 AM | Lord, save us ladies from all these men who want a woman who is a size 2, with size 32DDDD breasts, who makes $100,000 a year without ever leaving the kitchen or the bedroom!
It's true! AMERICAN MEN WATCH TOO MUCH TV, AND/OR TOO MUCH PORN, AND LIVE IN CRAZY FANTASY WORLDS. BRING ON THE EUROPEAN MEN, WHO I HAVE HEARD ARE MUCH MORE PROGRESSIVE, REALISTIC, AND DOWN TO EARTH! | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 2/1/2008 12:28:47 PM | I have to agree with "BRIZO", that our lives are just way more complicated the older we get. Its difficult enough having a relationship under the best of circumstances, but then add to that, the challenges of adapting to each other's many acquired ongoing relationships.
Plus as we age, I think we're often just so much more fussy about what we want and more set in our ways. And dunno about what the female side encounters, but it seems to me that alot of older women aren't really looking to start a genuine intimate relationship, so much as they want a sort of glorified "roommate" or "accessory" who can effortlessly adapt to their current life and commitments to kids, grandkids, ex-husbands, pets, etc.! | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 2/1/2008 12:38:15 PM | Chochlade Brownie
Lord, save us men from all these ladies who want a man who is built like big Arnie, , who makes one million bucks a year without ever working past lunch for it. And who devotes the other 20 hours in every day to the little woman.
It's true! AMERICAN WOMEN WATCH TOO MUCH TV, AND/READ TOO MANY WOMENS TRASH RAGS, AND LIVE IN CRAZY FANTASY WORLDS. BRING ON THE EUROPEAN WOMEN, WHO I HAVE HEARD ARE MUCH MORE PROGRESSIVE, REALISTIC, AND DOWN TO EARTH! | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 2/1/2008 3:59:09 PM | | I totally have to agree with you. What is a picture anyway. Is it what the person is like .Not like. .Its inside the person that counts. Those that are going just by the pic. yes will be lonely old people . Maybe some of them need to look in the mirror . | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 2/1/2008 5:32:48 PM | That's it. For me as i am older (51). I know now what i want and would like in a relationship.And also know what i don't like and want. I think one should never give up.You never know when that person, you have been looking for may come along. At least that's the way i try to think. And i have been single for over a year now. And i have also been asked out on many dates. But as someone said on here. If i dont find the first picture or pictures attractive.Than for me i dont see the need to take that any further. I mean lets get honest. We all look at the outside first. Don't we?
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 2/4/2008 5:38:03 PM |
And folks, it won't get any easier[/qu0te] how true! I'm always amazed at how middle aged people, 50's, even 60's never seem to think about the 70's or when they aren't "60 but feel like 40, act like 40, look like 40"..........  The truth is that after 55, we are all going to get sick at some point, we are all going to slow down to some degree.........even if it's at 75.............so what matters is whether we love a person, whether we have fun together...........would I still love this guy when he's 80 and walking with a cane? That kind of thing! | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 2/4/2008 7:34:28 PM |
BRING ON THE EUROPEAN MEN, WHO I HAVE HEARD ARE MUCH MORE PROGRESSIVE, REALISTIC, AND DOWN TO EARTH!
Now that's funny! The typical Euro guy is into something something on the side (progressive), and will hook up with anything breathing (realistic) and will tell his wife or SO that it's just the way of nature (down to earth).
You might have "heard" so, but hearing don't make it real. '' | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 2/5/2008 5:09:07 PM | It seems we're all heading down the same road (some faster than others), so let's enjoy what's left of the journey. If someone makes you feel good, makes you laugh, and is there to listen to you when times gets rough... don't let him (or her) go!
Appreciate the friends and family in your life, even the animals, and appreciate the qualities of anyone you meet. It doesn't need to develop into something more. Sometimes all you have is the experience of a few hours, or days, of being with someone.
Don't hold out for perfection - it doesn't exist. But know when your heart sings and stay open to love.
If we find ourselves spending more time on our own as we age, let's accept it gracefully and show more compassion towards others who seem lonely. We're all in this together. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 2/6/2008 11:23:48 AM | | nowhere man has it down,,,plus add,,,forced retirement ,declining or fixed income,,plus everyone i meet has hepitiis C,,,then add heavily tattooed,,,then say you are an artist and watch em back off... | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 2/7/2008 1:46:40 AM | Wonder what was wrong with "till death do us part " sticking together and making a go of life ,,,,,,,, seems not too many interested in that any more ,,,,,no wonder it's difficult to find a relationship ,,,, just when you think you've got it right , you lose out because someone else comes along with a better offer ,,,,,,, so , what's the point , we might as well all just have a bonk from time to time , then we can do our own thing in between ..... seems the way to go in the modern world ,,,,,,, not very conducive to long lasting stuff , but hey ,we are all living for the moment ,,, no??  | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 2/7/2008 3:31:29 PM | yo yo yo...I started a thread on why it is sooo easy to find a relationship when one is middle aged & voila- it disappeared! If you think it's hard, say it's hard, it will be hard, BUT if you say it's so easy to fall in love, it WILL BE so easy to fall in love....
I think THERE are many REASONS WHY it's easy...
Today, I saw my travel agent- paid for my next cruise- her 88 year old Dad died last month BUT after being widowed for many years- he met a woman & fell head over heels w/o even looking- she was in her early 80's...
so FOLKS, if some 80 something people can fall in love, what is wrong w/ the rest of you???
We choose to love, or we choose to live alone | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 2/7/2008 8:21:09 PM | I still believe in the old fashioned marriages, loyalty and sticking with each other until death ......... And I think there are others out there who do, too. In fact, I think the major frustration that I hear is that people who DON'T want any more committments have a hard time finding others who are sincere and not players.
And I agree, Angel, I have friends in their 70's and 80's who very easily found a second mate when they lost their first one.............because they weren't expecting Barbies or using the excuse that old women just don't "turn me on"........Those men saw their ladies as beautiful and managed to get turned on just fine......... | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 2/8/2008 2:11:54 PM |
so FOLKS, if some 80 something people can fall in love, what is wrong w/ the rest of you???
Well, because the 80 something fear is dying alone.
The 40something fear is another bad situation.
if you say it's so easy to fall in love, it WILL BE so easy to fall in love....
you damn betcha. I fall in love every day of the week and twice on Sunday. Too bad I can't get them to fall in love with me. And I won't force myself to be with someone that wants me but I don't want them, just to have a "relationship". Nor would I expect that of a guy. Pfft.
Oh it is very easy to make yourself be with somebody and pretend it's love if you value having a relationship over being truly in MUTUAL love.
Cindy O | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 2/8/2008 3:13:46 PM | because most peoples minds are stuffed from all the garbage they have gone through in their lives
that's why the older ones get new relationships , they are done worrying about the garbage , and realise life is meant to be enjoyed , without a million issues to deal with over petty things that don't matter .
I have a 35 yo nephew getting radiation treatment on his brain every day to try and stop the tumours from killing him
When I come here and see the childish nonsense going on with people in the middle age bracket , I wonder what sort of a world we have created , when so many people cannot find enjoyment in just living /
One thread alone " what do men want from women other than sex " has 177 pages ,
and they still have not figured out why ,,,,,,,,,,,!!!! the mind boggles .
Perhaps this is just a place for people to hang out who don't want a relationship , or anything to do with anyone ......
Life is simple folks ,,, stop making it so bloody complicated | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 2/8/2008 3:28:15 PM |
I have a 35 yo nephew getting radiation treatment on his brain every day to try and stop the tumours from killing him
Wow man that is a " so you think YOU have troubles" situation for sure. May the treatments work,work well, and work soon.
because most peoples minds are stuffed from all the garbage they have gone through in their lives
that's why the older ones get new relationships , they are done worrying about the garbage , and realise life is meant to be enjoyed , without a million issues to deal with over petty things that don't matter .
I think I already said that but maybe your statement is easier to understand.
For myself, I will keep looking/hoping but without getting my knickers in a twist over the situation, because I've come to accept that men my age are more interested in safeguarding their emotions and finances than they are a meaningful relationship. And I don't want a committed relationship bad enough to go looking for the elderly men who've gotten over themselves.
Cindy O | |
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