| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 4/17/2008 8:04:32 PM | Thanks, Ann Marie........ I know a lot of men and women who have no problem finding happy fun relationships when they hit 65, 70, and even 80. It's the ones in their mid 50's to mid 60's who seem to be having the problems....... And it's mostly expectations that cause the problem. No women or men they meet are attractive "enough". They are still looking for what they had when they were in their 30's. Or they are just freed from bad relationships and aloneness is a blessing after that but there comes a time when men start to see older women as attractive again, when playing and laughing and having someone to do things with becomes the definition of love again instead of sex, skydiving, and rock climbing or kayaking........... | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 4/17/2008 9:49:30 PM |
I know a lot of men and women who have no problem finding happy fun relationships when they hit 65, 70, and even 80. It's the ones in their mid 50's to mid 60's who seem to be having the problems.......
I think you can chalk alot of that up to the "frisky fifties" phenomenon!
LH | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 4/18/2008 3:06:51 PM | moraima you are so right!
especially that line about "better to be alone" than lonely with someone else...I am , like you single and have been for about 6 years after a 10 year relationship which ended badly. It took me a while to find my footing again and finish (are we ever?) raising my then teen age daughter before I decided i was "ready" to look for someone who might be "the one"...and
like you..I look around and see people in relationships who are miserable but somehow "proud" or something that they are 'not alone'..wow..is that sad or what?
I'd like to think that I have lots of love and life left in me..i know I do..however the right person who is not intimidated by me, who is kind and interested in life has yet to show up!..ha ha..oh well..
Hope springs eternal I like to say and I will enjoy my time nevertheless..
Never give up! but ..don't give in! | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 4/18/2008 4:10:31 PM |
I think you can chalk alot of that up to the "frisky fifties" phenomenon!
Oh, I love that........."frisky fifties"
I caught my 80 year old neighbor kissing his 81 year old wife in their hallway and they were pretty frisky in their eighties! Frisky is fun! | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 4/19/2008 5:50:45 PM | | I read further back in the post about marketing. Too honest for my own good but I'm not going to exagerate to "sell myself" so to speak. I'm in decent shape, work hard am very open with not alot of "issues" but still get no response. Ah well, sometimes like said before btr to be alone than with someone and lonely. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 4/20/2008 5:34:14 AM | | The responses I get seem to be from men in other countries or African Americans. OTA student you sound great, a lot has to do with where we live it seems, and maybe too many women like men who have a lot of issues who have a lot of money and no substance? | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 4/20/2008 5:51:59 AM | When the relationship you seek is 'fairy tale' it's difficult.
When you need to dominate the relationship, it's difficult.
When you need to be dominated in the relationship, it's difficult
When you act like people that don't think like you are inferior, it's difficult
When you act like you have superior 'values' than others, it's dificult
When you need to find someone to blame for not finding relationships, there's only one place to look,
The mirror | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 7/26/2008 5:26:16 PM | I have found it hard to find a man that looks human!! They lie about their age, weight, height and their photos, in some cases, do them no justice and I think a man who bears a naked chest or wars dark glasses or has a blurred photo has something to hide and has to be one of the untouchables. I do not want a man with chins that fold down onto his chest!!
In my area they all look like a sack of potatoes and if I am going to date, this time he has to be right in as many ways as possible.
It is hard to find a date when you are nearing 60 as you do not want to waste your life ever again on "no hopers"
I know I maybe picky but at my age I will not settle for less. I am beginning to think men prefer their relationships with online dating rather than doing the dating in the flesh, so to speak.
Surely I am not on my own with these thoughts. | |
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