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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 11/3/2006 9:48:13 PM | Because we are all so damm picky,pernickety,perilous,peripheral,perishable,perissodactyl,perky,permanent,permutating,
perpetual,perplexed,persevering,persistent,perspicacity,perspicuous,persuasive,pertinacious,
perturbational,pessimistic,and sometimes just damm perverse.....no wonder we are still alone. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 11/4/2006 6:22:48 AM |
Because we are all so damm picky,pernickety,perilous,peripheral,perishable,perissodactyl,perky,permanent,permutating,
perpetual,perplexed,persevering,persistent,perspicacity,perspicuous,persuasive,pertinacious,
perturbational,pessimistic,and sometimes just damm perverse.....no wonder we are still alone
Perhaps! | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 11/4/2006 7:09:08 AM | | I agree with the wall thing. Many of us single people at this age have been burned a time or two so its hard to let down the walls...........I tend to date younger men .........think sometimes i do it because i know it wont get serious | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 11/4/2006 7:19:08 AM | ^^^ And I read Playboy for the articles.
I like the idea though. I will now try dating younger women so I can keep my wall up. Oh look, there is a line forming even as I type...easy now, no shoving; I'll get to all of you in good time. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 11/5/2006 10:37:34 AM | I don't know about you, but I'd be looking for a relationship with a woman around my age.
One would think that many or most women in my age would be looking in their age bracket too... If they're looking for younger or older men, then that's their choice.. as long as I know. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 11/5/2006 11:31:03 AM | Well if you look at the age range that middle age women say that they are interested in.... usually they want "men" who are young enough to be their children. Us older men are automaticly excluded... so they end up getting what is left, younger men looking for a "sugar mama"... that will provide for them.
I think it would be interesting to see what would happen if someone ran two different profiles of themselves... say a age range of 30 years apart, complete with photos and the information about themselves at those points in time... no lies but just the truthful facts. I think it would be interesting to see the results. It might help a lot of us get a "gripe" on reality and see what we are doing wrong. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 1/17/2007 6:48:28 AM | | I'm sorry I don't want to be rude but you are out of your mind, sir. Woman my age do not want some young thing to take care of, I have been there done that with son's. I want a man in my age range which if you look is very limited, someone that knows what I'm talking about and can enjoy the same things. I'm not a history teacher and do not want to explain everything I talk about when I talk about the "old" times | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 1/17/2007 9:19:46 AM | When you are 16, you have not spent decades doing what you like and living how you like. When you are nearing 60, you have done so, and are usually loath to disturb you particular solutions to the daily problem of making yourself content.
All that means that you have to hook up with someone that will not only support mutual attraction, but fit into your life style.
Now, if you sell everything and move across the country, you will pretty rapidly be driven to look around for someone, and be a lot more adaptable. Unfortunately, not many want to suffer the pain of that approach. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 1/17/2007 12:08:55 PM | "Being single at 40 is different than being single at 20"
Indeed it is. At 20, you are always chasing the females, and there is a lot of competition for their attention. At 40, the females are chasing you, and there is a lot of competition for your attention. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 1/17/2007 1:10:43 PM | peresephone,with all due respect, it's not so much about MEETING people, it's about finding someone you can,well, for lack of a better word, "relate" to.
Now unless you want to seek a relationship with the very young, or very old, the numbers are not in our favor, because about half of the other middleaged people are already married or in some kind of committed relationship. OK, and probably half of that half are looking for an extramarital affair,( and some of us DO settle for that, sadly) So the first obstacle is finding someone who is even(truly) available. The next one is finding someone with whom we have some chemistry and compatibility. Compatibility is probably the larger obstacle, because so many of us have developed issues stemming from divorce, or we've been by ourselves long enough to have gotten sort of set in our ways...when 2 people are like in their 20s, they are still growing mentally and emotionally,and are capable of molding to one another. After age 45, most of us are who we are, and learning to get along with a new partner might look more like 2 strange tomcats in a burlap sack!
No, it's not making CONTACT, it's having the contact develop into a CONNECTION, and for that connection to grow into a relationship, that's were most of us get derailed...especially since a lot of us are BRAVE enough to NOT want a lopsided( one in love, the other desperate to be with SOMEONE, ANYONE!) or "settling" partnership.
Meeting people is easy!
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 1/17/2007 1:38:54 PM | I saw on the news last night. NBC Nightly news, in my area.
They were saying that the majority of American woman are now single. That 51% of American woman are not married. They did not say what percentage of American men are also single though, wish they had.
They stated that woman are not as quick to re-marry after divorce or widowed. And that some woman never get married and they spend their lives working to further their career. They did say some of those 51% do co-habitate with their partner, but never marry.
They also stated that woman focus on making their own home, if their perfect mate doesnt come along, and it is no longer necessary for her to be married to buy her home, secure her financial future and to have a full social life, as society once was.
Another fact they gave was out of African Amercan women, 30 % of them are not married.
That with the African American women the percentage per total woman population is higher than anyone else.
They said that this is the first time in all of history that this has been true, that the percentage has become the majority.
Just a few facts, I find quite interesting.
So it looks like it may be true, the majority of women are not married , for whatever reason. I wonder if maybe it also has something to do with the fact, though, that woman are living longer. That people in general live longer now. | |
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 1/17/2007 2:59:36 PM | "Compatibility is probably the larger obstacle, because so many of us have developed issues stemming from divorce, ....."
Well Lady C4 it is best to finish one relationship properly after a divorce before beginning another. This means resolving ALL of the issues or you'll inflict them on your next partner.
It can take a couple of years to do this. Some manage it more quickly and others more slowly. It all depends how good you are at saying goodbye and actualy dealing with your feelings. This means not being afraid of them and letting them go.
If you carry any excess baggage into your next relationship the chances are you will wreck it as in a way you will be living a continuation of the last one or you'll subconsciously see the mask of your old partner imposed on your new one.
All relationships are wonderfuly different and to get one going you have to meet lots of people to find a person who you like . There are lots of fun and lovely on the site out there. Go and meet them.........
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| Why is it so hard to find a relationship when one is middle aged?
Posted: 1/17/2007 3:13:05 PM | | Well, Ochun36, I confess to being leary of pre-menopausal women. I definitely am in a post reproductive phase of life, and I have experienced the transitional phenomena for both men and women. Best to find someone who has settled down, so to speak...:) | |
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