| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 10/30/2006 10:34:45 AM | It depends on the situation:
It's always rude to exclude someone by speaking in another language but..if the person you're talking to doesn't understand English..by all means "interpret"...and then go back to English.
If the person is here on holiday..there's no reason for them to learn English, however if they're immigrating here, then it should be them that learn the language of the land.
Of course if you chose to learn their language..that's your choice and could come in handy.
I wouldn't feel threatened by my partner speaking to friends or family in their native language in my presence...under the right curcumstances as outlined above. | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 10/30/2006 10:45:06 AM | I say majority wins, for example 4 anglophones vs 1 other language, english wins,
however, 2 francophones vs 1 english, well if I say a comment, it will be in english, but if i ask the other francophone for something then I will say it In french. It's logic. | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 10/30/2006 11:23:36 AM | An addition, knowing, at least the basics, of your partner's mother tongue, might help you to understand better his/her way to construct, to see this world, aka to understand better him/her. (A language carries a world view.)
Otherwise, I agree with EB1 what becomes to politeness in company. | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 11/3/2006 11:21:37 AM | Threatened? Never. Just watch their faces, their eyes ... sound of their voices ... it does give away quite a lot  . And why to let a foreign language upset and cause a rift in a relationship?!  On the contrary. You embrace a person, you embrace their language, their accent, their root of origin. One of those two will learn another's language eventually. Talking from my personal experience, "our" language was French for time being but in due course was replaced by the language of the country we both decided to live in. The same tune, the same caliber, the same softness.
Tact and respect play a major role when it comes to using native language in company of other people.
Finally, there is a saying in my native language and it goes like this: "How many languages you speak, so many times you are a man." | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 11/3/2006 6:07:14 PM | whats wrong with someone who speaks another language?
it would give you the chance to learn a few words, or language -- which is always fun :) (and an asset)
and if you trust her, why would you even think she would be saying bad things about you to her friends? | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 11/3/2006 6:31:26 PM | Wayyy back in the late 70's I dated a wonderful man from Afghanistan. Zahir could speak english, german, russian, pashtu and farsi. I loved to hear him speak to his fellow countrymen. I heard the "home" languages so much, I began to understand them and was picking up a word here and there. It blew him and his buddies away one day when they were all talking about the dinner I had made the night before. I turned and told them how rude they were to compliment me to my face in english and then deride it in farsi infront of me to each other. They were very careful what they said after that! You understand languages before you can actually speak them.
I also had a relationship with a fellow from west LA. He jumped at every chance to speak spanish to someone. They would hesitate and apologize. But I insisted that they carry on. If I started feeling left out I would let them know.
Doesn't intimidate me at all. | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 11/4/2006 11:48:51 AM | I must say I’ve always been threatened by the language barrier when it comes to dating..no matter how fluent I think I may speak a language , if it’s not my native one, sometimes I feel like I’m not being completely understood ..and there are these damn phrases in ones language that lose all the meaning when translated  and American slang I never seem to get 
..guess I have to try harder
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 1/2/2007 2:24:21 AM | I once dated a guy for 3 years who spoke no english at all. All communication was done in Indonesian.  I could speak Indonesian before I met him however it certainly ironed out some of my sloppy language problems!
When we both went to korea for a few weeks, I could not speak korean at all but he already could, and I found no koreans who spoke english apart from 1 at the airport and 1 drunk guy who wanted to tell me all about korea and practice english on me. (good on him!) Because of this, whilst in korea, if I wanted to communicate with the locals, I had to speak in Indonesian to my partner who did not speak english, and then he would speak in korean to the locals and translate it back to Indonesian and then my poor brain would finally get it into english. Although pretty quickly I could think and even dream in Indonesian without needing to put it back into english.  | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 1/2/2007 2:33:07 AM | Threatened? No way.
If you're worried if people are talking about you in front of you in a different language, it sounds as though you are insecure of yourself.
As a person who speaks 4 and some languages I find it fascinating to meet someone who speaks something I do not. Although conversing for long periods of time in an unknown language around someone who doesn't know what's going on, I consider rude. It's like whispering among company. | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 1/30/2009 8:52:06 PM | | I dated a girl for a while there who only spoke spanish as I only speak english.. Was it hard.. Somewhat but it made me use my mind alot and I was kinda fun... we broke up for other reasons but to answer your question I don't belive it should stop you if you really like someone!! | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 1/31/2009 10:36:11 AM | | English is not my first language and I would never speak German to someone else while there are 'only English' speakers around. It's rude to cut people out of the conversation like that. It's like 2 people whispering to each other , to the detriment of whoever else is with them. | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 1/31/2009 4:01:51 PM | not at all
i've been around many people who speak a foreign language... in fact, i even married one
but i quickly learned the meaning of certain words and the equivalent word in english:
pavement for tarmac.... pants for trousers... swimsuit for swimming costume......
it was confusing at first and i do still sometimes get the languages confused... but on the whole, i think i've got that whole americanish thing down okay
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 1/31/2009 4:59:40 PM | After 33 years of living in I'm-so-great-because-I'm-a-Foreigner Toronto, I learned not to be offended by the rude use of an exotic language.
Most of the time, the participants are heard discussing one of the following topics:
1) Who's having the biggest wedding and getting the most gifts?
2) Who's ripping off the government the most?
3) Who won the war?
4) Which soccer/cricket team is the best in the world?
5) Why things were "better" back home
6) "My people" or "my country" so-and-so
7) There are "too many" immigrants in Canada | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 1/31/2009 5:27:27 PM |
When she is conversing with her friends, there is no way to know what she is talking about, and to me, though, it seems rude when they do it in my presence.
Speaking English in front of you does not mean they can not go to another place to talk about you.
Anyways, if the conversation does not include you, what reason is there for you to hear this? If your own insecurity causes your mind to worry of what is said, this is a problem in yourself to resolve. I can understand if you wish to be involved in this conversation, but you must understand if I or my friend simpley wish to take a break from speaking English for a few minutes. Do not enter the room if this bother you. To expect two people to change behavier because of one person is rude in itself. | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 1/31/2009 7:57:53 PM | Well you should be worried if people said they are;
-talking and stopping when you come in
-talking and stopping and laugh when you come in
-talking and smile weird when you come in
-talk and just stop talking all together when you come in and give you weird looks
Those are the signs when people talk about you or about your business. I think it is rude when people speak other language in front of you with ANOTHER person and you are excluded out of the conversation. But since I speak another language and I can probably understand 3 languages then it doesn't really bother me. If you don't trust a person much then there is a problem.
Of course you should attempt to learn the language just for your own personal growth as a person. I want to learn another language its better for you anyways and it'll give you more opportunities then ever before! | |
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