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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 2/7/2009 4:55:48 PM | I've dated Hispanic guys quite a bit, so I know that's to be expected. It did not bother me in the least. I just did not like when my Condo Association called a mandatory meeting (ran by Polish people) and they would only speak Polish. Then they had the nerve to tell a few of us, then we need to learn Polish. I had such a headache that no matter how mandatory, I won't attend another meeting.
As long as I'm paid up, what are they going to do to me? | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 2/7/2009 6:18:28 PM | Threatened no .. Intrigued yes....I am fascinated by languages and some languages just sound very sensual to me... I dated a German guy and could just listen to him speak German all day.. mmmmm
In college I dated a guy from Iran and I actually learned how to speak and write Farsi..
It's a benefit when you can learn from a relationship and I am not one to feel paranoid or threatened by a person speaking their native language anymore than they should feel threatened by me speaking English! | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 2/7/2009 7:27:43 PM |
I wouldn't be threatened. I think it's rude to speak a language for a long time in front of someone who doesn't understand it, though.
Pretty much this. I know English, German, some French, some Italian, some Farsi and very little Spanish. I'm also in the process of learning Arabic. I know how it is(ESPECIALLY with Spanish) to be immersed into it and how awkward it can be. So I'd try my best to refrain from speaking much in a different language of someone I'm with. If I go to a different country with a different language, I'd try to learn their language if I didn't already know it and use it. I think that's just courtesy. For me, though, knowing a different language isn't really a "turn on." | |
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reni22
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Joined: 9/13/2008
Msg: 55 | |
| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 2/13/2009 3:42:26 PM | | No, not at all 'sometimes it sound's sexy.But when they talk a lot to other people using a different lanuage,it is rude.If your their date,u should be involved in the conversation's,if the other people don't know english,let your date set up a time when thet could get together 4 a chat or bussiness meeting. | |
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Landra
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Joined: 9/10/2007
Msg: 56 | |
| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 2/13/2009 3:45:12 PM | It's considered rude to converse in a language in front of non-speakers of that language.
I never do that unless I explain to the other person (you for example) that the person I'm speaking to doesn't know English- though where I come from, that's very rare. | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 2/15/2009 6:00:09 PM |
Would this upset you? Does this eventually cause a rift in a relationship ?
Should a person attempt to learn this second language? Or, would it seem like you don't trust your partner/friend?
I have had that situation before and it did not really bother me. Weird, but everyone there but me used that language as their primary language. I would just try to learn some of it so you could roughly follow the conversation. Wasn't too bad with Jamaicans and some Europeans, but totally lost when it come to Tigrina (Eritrea) and Bagandan (Uganda). | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 2/16/2009 9:08:55 AM | | Not threatened at all. Dated a guy where it was annoying. He learned Spanish in his later years, and he was constantly saying things in Spanish. He would say a phrase, and I'm like, "What?". He knew I didnt speak Spanish. Must have been an ego thing, or trying to impress me. why say anything you know your date doesnt understand? It was irritating, but in hind site, it was his ego. | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 2/16/2009 12:11:05 PM | Not threatened at all. Curious. I speak three languages, English is my second language, and I'm always looking to learn words and phrases in another language. Most of my friends speak another language in addition to English and we always switch back and forth.
Now, if I my friends and I find ourselves in a company of people who speak only English, we'll speak English even with each other. I think it would be rude not to. | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 2/16/2009 8:07:14 PM | | It use to not bother me but this is what happened, I was dating a man who spoke another language and he would often talk o the phone late at night . soon i started understanding what he was talking about.. I realized one night he was talking to another female and found out he had anther girlfriend.. and right in front of me he would do this and say it was is sister.. And it happened with another guy too.. so you have to be careful when your dating outside your race. I felt used and thought that maybe they wanted to take advantage of me.. I don't date anyone who speaks another language anymore.. | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 3/25/2009 5:22:07 AM | i'd take it as an opportunity to learn a new language - fun!
if they always talked in a language i didn't understand, when they could talk so that i could understand, then i'd consider that disrespectful... but it's natural that they'd chat in their first language sometimes together (just remember for those non native english speakers when they're speaking english *that* is the foreign language to them) | |
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| Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language?
Posted: 5/10/2009 7:21:31 PM | I am not at all threatened by a second language. I live in New York where a LOT of people are bi-lingual, and I have many friends, and some past boyfriends who are bi-lingual. The only thing is that it can be a little rude if they start carrying on extended conversations in your presence. But if they're aware then it's not a big deal. I've had friends put on a foreign-language TV program with me sitting there; it's more that they forget that you don't speak their language.
I would definitely consider learning the other language if things became more serious. | |
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Joined: 4/21/2009
Msg: 69 | |
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