| Are there any men out there who isn't just looking for sex?
Posted: 9/5/2005 4:04:03 PM | Ive talked to quite a few girls online in the past few weeks of signing up here and a couple other dating sites and it seems that everyone has the same story about all the guys they have met all want to get in their pants as soon as possible. The big problem with that other than it doesnt make the girl all that happy is that it ruins it for the rest of us who arent looking for just sex. I just got out of a relationship about a month ago and in the past few weeks ive gone on dates with 3 or 4 girls who all wanted more than I did and I had to respectfully decline.
Im sure there are a lot of guys out there who arent just looking for sex but they may not be cool with admitting that here because "men" dont think like that. I have to say I didnt read the whole thread so maybe more people admitted to it than I thought would. But anyhow my story is I would much rather spend time cuddling with someone and watching a movie than I would having sex. I think the best part of the relationship deal is having someone to love, hold and spend time with and the foreplay and cuddling far outweigh the sex for me. And as far as things go right now im definitely not looking for sex because I cant see that it would be as worth it with someone that i just met and didnt really care about.
Before I ramble on too much lol ... I guess my position is that yes we are out there.
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| Are there any men out there who isn't just looking for sex?
Posted: 9/5/2005 4:23:15 PM | | yes , there are some men out there that think sex is not the # 1 priority in life !!!!!!!! i do think sex is important , but it has to be under the right circumstances aand only the right one....... there is alot more to life . i think it's important to build a strong relationship first !!!!!! ..... so, yes , there are some men out there !!!!!!! | |
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| Are there any men out there who isn't just looking for sex?
Posted: 9/5/2005 4:50:10 PM | "How can you spot a player...
He's the one who tells you "I'm not interested in just sex" or "I prefer to just cuddle""
This is half the reason you dont find guys that arent interested in just sex. People are ignorant and they think its what all guys are looking for and all guys are lieing just to get girls in bed. Possibly because they themselves need a ploy in order to get their girls in bed... who knows..
Theres actually a lot of girls that are annoyed with the guys who are just looking to hook up, the majority of the ones Ive spoken to are.
-Lou | |
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kirkey
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Joined: 7/5/2004
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| Are there any men out there who isn't just looking for sex?
Posted: 9/5/2005 5:12:43 PM | lol WEbbum u arent in it for the sex..stop teasing the poor girl..lol
but guess what fmales although different parts do think about the same thing.and on here hhmmm maybe a poll should be taken on how many fmales try to make the first jump ?????
But thats not the forum, sorry | |
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| Are there any men out there who isn't just looking for sex?
Posted: 9/5/2005 5:18:36 PM | ^^^and good luck to you Kirkey, at least you are honest
I think most people in here are in the same boat.
Personally, I'm only casually dating right now and I'm doing just fine Loun, thanks for asking. I'm all about laying your cards on the table right from the start. If I can scare a woman off early then I've saved us both a lot of precious time.
Instead of being concerned about what women want and manufacturing your posts to appeal to the majority of lonely women, just be honest. I'd like to think that women are too smart to fall for that crap but I know I'm wrong. They are suckers for it and that is why there are so many guys in here using lines like "I prefer to cuddle" etc. And Loun, when you post stuff about picking up teenagers at the bar in one thread and come in here and try to make yourself sound like Mr. Rogers without a penis, it kind of hurts your credibility. I'm sure you'll do just fine in here, women tend to only see what they want to see...my words are totally irrelevant. | |
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kirkey
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| Are there any men out there who isn't just looking for sex?
Posted: 9/5/2005 6:59:49 PM | Well since we are being honest here,I might as well too.I would like to have a hot girlfriend/or wife, and bang them hardcore all the time.I mean why not?What is it gonna hurt to get slammed real good all the time? | |
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| Are there any men out there who isn't just looking for sex?
Posted: 9/5/2005 7:05:24 PM | | I am for one, I'm not looking just for sex and I believe as you do. There needs to be a foundation to build upon and both people should really know each other a lot better before they take that next step. Sex, ya sure it's great, but it's a lot better when it's a part of a strong relationship. | |
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| Are there any men out there who isn't just looking for sex?
Posted: 9/5/2005 10:03:23 PM | "Loun, when you post stuff about picking up teenagers at the bar in one thread and come in here and try to make yourself sound like Mr. Rogers without a penis, it kind of hurts your credibility. I'm sure you'll do just fine in here, women tend to only see what they want to see...my words are totally irrelevant."
TDH I had no clue this was something that needed to get personal... I have no idea what you are talking about picking up teenagers at a bar with btw since bars dont have teenagers in them. Secondly I am 100% honest, right now I have more interest in making friends than I do looking for someone to bang. I just got out of a relationship a month ago and im not ready to be in a sexual relationship with anyone and not all guys are just out there looking for something to bang. That is honest open and all cards on the table. I have no need to lie to girls in order to get them to talk to me or in some way try to get them to have sex with me.
And just to help make some sort of semblance of what you posted abar a bar... I was at magaritas last night with 2 friends, I was so bored out of my mind being there that I sat in a comfortable chair in the lobby while they stood near two girls because they didnt have the balls to talk to them... could I have gone and hit on drunk girls, sure... did I? no because there was no point in me doing so I have no existing goals of trying to find someone to take home or get something from.
It never ceases to amaze me that when someone on here or in real life says something that is against the grain someones has to jump on the about it when they honestly have no clue what they are talking about. However thanks for bringing it up so i could be more clear with my explanation.
PS anyone looking for someone who is honest and up front to talk to hit me up.
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| Are there any men out there who isn't just looking for sex?
Posted: 9/5/2005 10:26:04 PM | ^^^Ok Loun, you be the nice guy who isn't looking for sex. fine. However, the post I was referring to mentioned girls that were eighTEEN and nineTEEN....there is also a saying that I heard many times while growing up and that was "If you want to know what kind of a person someone is, just look at who their friends are" another variation on that is "birds of a feather flock together". I could go on.
As for you being jumped on for going against the grain? Are you kidding? There are countless guys in here saying exactly the same stuff, some of them even say they are virgins or haven't had sex in years...etc. There is even a woman who wrote "If I hear one more guy say the words I prefer to cuddle, I'll puke"...LOL. You aren't going against the grain in any way whatsoever. You are playing (shall I repeat the word PLAYING) right into the hands of lonely women by saying what you think they want to hear.
Ok, I'm a bad person - I have wrongly judged you. You say you are honest and genuine, it's your buddies who go to bars and pick up teenagers while you wait in the lobby.
I think it's a bad policy to go around judging people by the way they look but if I was sitting near you at the bar, I wouldn't leave my wallet out. Of course it is entirely possible that I am all wrong about you and you are honest about not wanting sex.....but I doubt it. That is just one guy's opinion and that isn't really worth all that much anyway. | |
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| Are there any men out there who isn't just looking for sex?
Posted: 9/5/2005 10:39:46 PM | This is my last post on the topic but it still is amazing to me that you cant get through a post without A. giving more missinformation even after being corrected. B. without throwing more insults at someone you know nothing about.
First off the post that you have wrongly quoted twice now is the following and was posted in a thread talking about being attracted physically to younger women:
"I turn 26 in a month or so... a couple friends and i recently became single and have been "out looking for girls" and always find that the girls that catch our eye are like 18 and 19 years old. i know it may not seem like a huge age difference but often times the maturity level difference is huge (i know every matures differently based on what they have been through but overall..) And im at such a different place in life than most 18 - 19 year olds. So I think its something that we all experience on one level or another. As long as you can keep yourself out of trouble, more power to ya."
There is no mention of picking up 18 and 19 year old girls at any bars, theres no mention of picking up girls at all actually. In response to the thread I said that the girls I tend to be attracted to are younger 18 and or 19 which btw is legal... so wheres the issue there. I also go on to say that I consider it somewhat of a bad thing because they are not usually as mature or in the same place in life as I am... which yea both definitely sound like im looking for some girl to bang, if I was just looking for sex why would I care how mature they were or where they were in life?
Also as far as your sayings go, thats great but again you dont know me or my friends. All you know about them is that they would love to be able to meet a girl but dont have the balls to introduce themselves or talk to them.
btw these are two of my favorite portions of your post:
"You are playing (shall I repeat the word PLAYING) right into the hands of lonely women by saying what you think they want to hear."
I really dont give a shit about what people may want to hear, I tell it how it is, just like im telling you how it is so we can clearify some of this. So there is no playing, there is no need to.
"Ok, I'm a bad person - I have wrongly judged you. You say you are honest and genuine, it's your buddies who go to bars and pick up teenagers while you wait in the lobby."
I think the quote of that post should take care of this misinformation once again.
"if I was sitting near you at the bar, I wouldn't leave my wallet out."
So now im a thief too, the ignorance is running rampant.
"Of course it is entirely possible that I am all wrong about you and you are honest about not wanting sex.....but I doubt it."
Like most of what was in your other posts on this topic you are in fact wrong.
"That is just one guy's opinion and that isn't really worth all that much anyway."
I agree completely but where im still new here I care about what people think about me, not what you think about me but those whom I might have an interest in getting to know so I wanted to make sure everything was crystal clear.
Sorry to bore everyone with all that but im dont now. Sorry im so long winded, thats one of my downsides.
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| Are there any men out there who isn't just looking for sex?
Posted: 9/6/2005 12:25:23 AM | Look, Loun...I apologise for getting you all upset. That is just rude, especially in regards to someone who just came in here. You walked into a minefield and if you read all the previous posts you'll find that I'm not alone when I say that any guy who says he isn't looking for sex is probably lying. I won't go through all of the arguments for you again in this post, there are pages of it above.
The wallet thing was meant to be tongue in cheek comment on your appearance. If I was a dad and my little girl brought you home I would worry about her. Is that fair? Is that open minded? No, but it is the truth.
I'm not criticizing you for "being attracted" to younger girls, I mentioned teenagers you said it wasn't true....blah, blah, blah.
There are so many questions about your friends or the clubs you choose to go to or why a guy with your maturity level would go to such clubs anyway but what is the point?
I think you actually believe that you aren't looking for sex, so I'll apologise for the Player comments. It is kind of funny that you use the exact same language though....
How about a truce Loun? | |
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| Are there any men out there who isn't just looking for sex?
Posted: 9/6/2005 1:47:04 AM | reading this thread I find it amazing the number of guys who cannot beleive that some guys want more then just sex.
I'm willing to bet they are more willing to beleive that there are UFO's, Ghosts, Bigfoot, and the Loch Ness Monster. In fact, I'm willing to beleive that they are more willing to accept that these four are wroking togethor alongside the government which is, of course, reading everyone's minds, then they are willing to accept that some guys want more then just sex.
any takers? | |
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| Are there any men out there who isn't just looking for sex?
Posted: 9/6/2005 2:38:50 AM | Of course there are some men not looking "just" for sex. They either have low sex drives; are seriously trying to transcend their sexual drive through spiritual transformation of a sort (very rare); or they've bought into the (mostly religious) notion that the "mind" is above, and greater than, the "body", and so step up to the podium with self-advertising rectitude in order to denounce the "filthy heathens" and collective sewer-types.
Women place a very high priority on sex, not just in a relationship, but even in the early stages of dating (SHOCK and OUTRAGE ), but are much more in tune with the progression of their feelings and how to express them than are many of the men they're seeing. A temporary postponing of sex, for a woman, just means she keeps her obsessive shirt-tearing, screamin' n' moanin' sex fantasies to herself, although if the guy isn't completely clueless, he can detect more-than-subtle hints and suggestiveness.
In my more than inconsiderable dating experience, the women who have been most furious with me were the ones whom I cluelessly dropped the ball with on sexual initiative (my young years), or who I was unattracted to, and chose not to go that route. I immediately add that many women have not returned my amorous advances, either. Conversely, any woman I've expressed sexual interest in was either very flattered or at least curiously pleased, even if they turned me down. Women appreciate, even revel in, sexual attention, as long as it's communicated adroitly, and in the proper context. If they don't, they're repressed, or have "issues" with men in general. | |
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| Are there any men out there who isn't just looking for sex?
Posted: 9/17/2005 2:01:37 PM | | I wonder if there really are guys out there like this, who don't just want some booty. I'm at the point where I'm just frustrated, and so tired of getting treated badly. I am just getting plain fed up. Is it too much to ask for a man that doesn't treat me like a worthless piece of crap?! Someone who will stick around and who ACTUALLY want the same things and doesn't lie just to get some. This is just stupid and I am sick of all the games. | |
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| Are there any men out there who isn't just looking for sex?
Posted: 9/17/2005 2:30:47 PM | Sex is a want, not a need.
I don't care either way but maybe this will help:
I'd rather be with one woman, a best friend and to kiss and cuddle with every day for the rest of my life, then have sex every day with a prostitute or with different woman.
I think it's more important to just find one special person you can enjoy being with, too much importance is placed on sex, although I have some different kinks, it's still not the most important thing. | |
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