| The ONE that stands out among the rest.............
Posted: 10/29/2006 6:30:42 AM |
Original: One Step At A Time
What was it that made him/her unique in your eyes?
Everything; actually- but isn't that true of everyone? She told me I was arrogant on our first date. She had an iron will, intellegent, passion and poise. And the most beautiful curly hair.
Original: One Step At A Time
Is it one thing or many that you simply cant or have not found yet in another?
That would be replacing her; which isn't really possible, nor is it desired. Oh, I'm still attracted to strong women - the conversations are better - but I'm looking to discover an entirely new combination of traits... | |
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| The ONE that stands out among the rest.............
Posted: 10/29/2006 6:40:49 AM | I can unequivocably say that the man who stands out from all the rest is my current partner. I have never felt such a strong intellectual connection with a man. We are kindred spirits.
This does not necessarily make us life partners (as there are so many factors involved), but connecting with a kindred spirit is...well...hard to put into words. | |
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| The ONE that stands out among the rest.............
Posted: 10/29/2006 6:49:10 AM | Since you said "Lovers", yes there is one. One who set the standard by which all others are measured, and none achieve. One with whom every desire is read as though you had a mental link of some kind, then that desire was immediately fulfilled. One who I also sensed her desires and eagarly fulfilled them. One who threw my libido into super-overdrive, and I hers. It was absolute perfection in every physical way that either of us were ever able to think of. Sadly, she was an angry crank junkie so I had to walk away. Since then, just give me really great kissing, and I'll work with the rest. | |
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| The ONE that stands out among the rest.............
Posted: 10/29/2006 7:30:46 AM | Well the plain truth of the matter for me is the one that stands out...I mean really stands out would be the person I spend the rest of my life with. However with that being said, there are many people that stand out in my life, good and bad, and not just with regards to love & relationships. The people in our lives and the experiences we have is what really makes us who we are. That and how we chose to either learn from it & move on or dwell on the experience. I don’t think that reminiscing about past experiences is negative unless it diminishes your ability to find happiness elsewhere.
I find it interesting that so many profiles posted are asking to meet someone without any "baggage". Baggage is perceived as such a negative term. Call me crazy but I think there is good & bad baggage and we all have it. The real name for baggage is life. Its how we process the past and understand that past is just that....the past. The real trick (or treat lol) is to learn how to pack it away neatly, learn from it, and move on with life.
I have loved, I have been loved, and it was beautiful, but it was obviously temporary, not to say that it wasn’t amazing, but thus it still ended for 1 reason or another. Life is an education, into ourselves, into the people around us, there is no final exam, only the gift of learning who we are and what truly makes our lives worth living. And sometimes we are just lucky enough to meet that person, the ONE that stands out from everyone else.
Good luck to all of you in finding all that makes you happy  | |
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| The ONE that stands out among the rest.............
Posted: 10/29/2006 8:45:06 AM | After reading this, you will have a hell of a time finding someone else that can measure up. I hope you can find that someone. If not, well.....
There is always one, in every thread, that needs to be a critic. This thread was a nice trip down memory lane. I should have known someone would have to get nasty simply because it's what they do.
To respond to your nice little ditty here ~ he is still in my life. We are friends (I know you may have trouble with that, but it does happen for some) and we value who we each are. The memory of him is much more functional in my life than he could be, so I opted to leave the relationship while those memories remained wonderful instead of tainted by the reality that he and I were not meant to stay together. I left him, doesn't mean I need to leave the fond memories. Nor does it mean I'm comparing, looking to replace, or otherwise determine the worth of someone else based upon who he once was in my life. Truthfully ~ I know a LOT of amazing people, women and men. I just choose to write about ONE of them.
I believe that "verygreeneyes" by making that statement realizes that it is a thing of the past, but that it is also a precious memory to her.
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| The ONE that stands out among the rest.............
Posted: 10/29/2006 8:46:25 AM |
Call me crazy but I think there is good & bad baggage and we all have it. The real name for baggage is life. Its how we process the past and understand that past is just that....the past. The real trick (or treat lol) is to learn how to pack it away neatly, learn from it, and move on with life.
I couldnt agree with that statement more, we all have pasts and with that some may perceive things that still affect us as "baggage" but simply it is my little things that make me who I am today. I know where they belong and how to deal with them so that they don't affect my present.
On topic , I just believe that it is magical moments shared togethers that are not always found with another that make these certain ones stand out to us.......face it you just dont find magical connections with every person you meet correct? | |
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Posted: 10/29/2006 8:52:19 AM | Actually, each man had a quality that made him stand out in some special way. Each person is unique, I can't compare them. I have a good memory for every relationship and the good stands out in my memory of them. I do remember the bad, but the good is much more fun to remember. Sometimes a person's little faults become quirks one grows to appreciate and love as they are part of the person.
In the end though, I want the person I spend the rest of my life, give my heart to and possibly have children with to be the one that stands out for me. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2006 9:08:54 AM | Oh there is one thing. He had the most amazing overall persona. He just emulated all sorts of amazing things at one time. He was definitely stare-at-material. And when he spoke, it was this calm, thoughtful, patient type of thing ~ he was just overall amazing. (verygreeneyez) Greeneyez, I didn't think we'd met yet, and I'm quite sure I'd
remember.
One that truly stands out in my mind was this slinky, sexy thing who just oozed eye candy. Yet, she was so well versed in dealing with men, of every calibre, that she would control situations very subtly; a bank executive, her mind was as sharp as her smile was inviting. One might be thinking they were getting a massage and pedicure (figuratively) , but instead, she'd be working you into submission for the financial breakdown of her next foray of events she had in mind. Iv'e never since met such combination of beauty and brains. 
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Call me crazy but I think there is good & bad baggage and we all have it. The real name for baggage is life. Its how we process the past and understand that past is just that....the past. The real trick (or treat lol) is to learn how to pack it away neatly, learn from it, and move on with life.
I agree everyone has baggage. It isn't that we don't have it because it's a part of life. The important thing to know is "who" deals with their baggage. We, as humans, have this amazing ability to reason and deal with past situations that might otherwise impeed ou abilities to function healthily in life. We have an ability to compartmentalize or bracketize "baggage" in our own life, just like committing it to memory on our computer. It's there, but it's not active in our everyday lives and if we need to use it for reference, it's there if we need it. Anyone capable of this is capable of leaving their past where it belongs...in the past... and to truly be able to give another person a clean slate to work with. | |
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| The ONE that stands out among the rest.............
Posted: 10/29/2006 9:47:26 AM | | I pride myself on being "the one that got away". I see old boyfriends now, and they say things like "you know you were my first true love" or "whatever happened to us", and sappy stuff like that. I am the women they will forever compare every other woman to. Being kind, generous and thoughtful really adds up if you count your karma points, and it's easy to do. That said, knowing instinctively the right moment to walk away can be difficult, know what you are all about and willing to put up with, and don't try to change the other person, fall in love with who they are. All the Exes were great guys for different reasons and they all inhanced my life, hopefully I contributed positivly to theirs also. But.....I am still looking for the next great guy.........and he will be judged on his own merits..... | |
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Posted: 10/29/2006 2:05:47 PM | It's a great thing when we can be remembered fondly by a past love and that again regains my belief that some people just simply stand out to us in life and it may not necessarily just be how great they were as lovers but the mental connection we had with them as well.
Their smell, the locking of eyes, the natural progression that ensued while making love, the romantic gestures, and most importantly the overwhelming desire to just simply be with them whenever possible.
Seriously folks , you don't find that with everyone do you? | |
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Posted: 10/29/2006 3:17:08 PM | Yes, there is one. He will never be replaced and I am not looking to replace him, the memory of him will always be have a safe and special place in my heart. He brought out the very best in me and made me remember how a relationship should be, he set the bar if you will. It's been over for about 7 months and has little chance of resuming but I think people come in and out of your life for a reason, maybe not forever, but they are there for a reason and the very special ones will never be forgotten nor will the lessons they taught you. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2006 3:45:34 PM | | Ooooooooh, the one that stands out the most is the one that ripped my heart out years ago when I was just a young young little puppy. Im 41 now and NEVER forgot that one. I fell HARD!! | |
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Posted: 10/29/2006 3:59:37 PM | | From when i was small my dad was the one whom always stood out among everyone,each and every person whom has come into my life have all stood out in my eyes i carry everyone close to my heart so there is not just ONE persay there are many whom stand out in my life | |
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Posted: 10/29/2006 5:22:02 PM | There is so many people who have come in and out of my life and all had their own special qualities that made them who they are. I have learned much from them.
There is ONE who does stand out. He honestly taught me the true art of "love making". (EX was NOT good at that..) This one person was giving, kind, gentle, and always made me feel good about ME and truly cared about and loved the person I am. Thought I always looked beautiful even if just wearing sweats doing yard work. He showed me the way love and a relationship "should/could" be and what true romance was. I learned a lot from him. He was a special kind of person. We had a bond and connection as well outside the bedroom. He had so many good qualities all wrapped up into one person. We were friends as well and for me personally that made all the difference.
I never compare anyone to him and he is part of my past, BUT I will always have fond memories of our time together. Will I ever find that again or maybe even better……I don’t know….only time will tell. I can and do want something like that again…..maybe even better and make new good lasting memories with some one I will spend the rest of my days with. | |
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| The ONE that stands out among the rest.............
Posted: 10/29/2006 5:36:13 PM |
I can and do want something like that again…..maybe even better and make new good lasting memories with some one I will spend the rest of my days with
I believe that is what we all search for truly and it is my hope that we can find that kind of magic that we once had again in the future but as you mention it didn't last and if we can find that magic and it lasts us until our last breath's we are very lucky indeed.
It's nice to have fond memories of someone really and although they are in the past, we can bring them up from time to time and smile for they gave us something that stirred our hearts and our passions.........yeah passion being stirred up is a good thing!
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| The ONE that stands out among the rest.............
Posted: 10/30/2006 10:42:25 AM | One_Step, I think the trap you are inclined to fall into with this concept is getting lost in fond memories or comparing the ones in your life now, to the ones in your past, neither of which is a good thing. The thing is this, every person who enters your life is "unique", each in their own way, for their own reasons. While strolling down "memory lane" is a wonderful thing when you are single, and in need of a "happy place", it can also become a problem if those memories interefere with the here and now. One needs to remember why it is you aren't together anymore when you are relflecting on what made that person "special" at that time in your life. Afterall, as someone else put it in another thread, short of death, all past relationships, are in fact, "failed" relationships. It is all about balance, and learning experiences, and most importantly figuring out what we do and don't want out of a relationship. So taking away something good is great, so long as you remember the other part as well.
Have fun ;)! | |
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Posted: 10/30/2006 10:47:43 AM | Purely as a lover?
Professional Modern Dancer...amazing flexibility, totaly comfortable w/ her body, bit of a wild child & loved a physical challenge. It helped of course that we were totally gaga about each other. Final love of my 'youth', went to her wedding a few years back & the love/friendship was still there. Amazing woman....now she has an equally amazing man. Nice to see when it works out like that. | |
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| The ONE that stands out among the rest.............
Posted: 10/30/2006 11:15:20 AM |
It is all about balance, and learning experiences, and most importantly figuring out what we do and don't want out of a relationship. So taking away something good is great, so long as you remember the other part as well.
Yes, being the positive person that I am I will always walk away from any relationship even when it failed with fond memories for that is an important part of who I am . Meaning these relationships help us grow, learn, and essentially provide us with little pieces of who we end up being.
The trip down memory lane is great at times and I believe it is part of inner reflection as to why things did fail, so in that sense I dont see it being a bad thing at all. I realize that it is the past, and each new partner is the here and now which means he has my undivided attention point blank.
Those that believe that this is a bad thing are ones I believe are just burying the past and not dealing with the issues that they have in their life.........no? | |
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| The ONE that stands out among the rest.............
Posted: 10/30/2006 11:47:54 AM | More than likely he stimulated my mind with intelligent witty conversation that was non sexual....and realized that in order for anything else to follow............that's where he had to begin!  | |
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Posted: 10/30/2006 1:18:26 PM | | Each love we have is new, each love we have is unique. It builds us and brings us closer to the one when that one arrives. Every failure is a stepping stone to new friendship, every friendship makes the foundation of who we are stronger. I shall not remember those that have failed with regret, instead I will remember the love they gave me in kind. | |
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| The ONE that stands out among the rest.............
Posted: 10/30/2006 1:29:23 PM | Perhaps it might be refreshing to some of you for this answer to the OP'S Q :
I still remember a lady who , for me , had perfect breasts. I could only look at them while she was on top because touching them put me over the edge, so I saved that for when she was ready for me to explode.
GOOD TIMES !
Unfortunately, outside the bedroom was a different story and NOBODY'S breasts are THAT perfect !  | |
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