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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 1/27/2007 5:45:28 AM | Seems to me you are asking the wrong question.
You should ask, "What do I feel like doing?" Be true to your feelings and everything will take care of itself. You should act; his reaction is still somewhat irrelevant. | |
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 1/27/2007 9:51:16 AM | I'm sure that if GIRLS/Women knew how to make a man wait more often then the women would know FOR SURE when the time is right...
Guys & or Humanimals know how to get to the physical stuff with women really fast...& women want it just as much as men do so the women cave into the idea---because they can not control their bodies (they get the shakes & quakes)...& down right demand it...
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Just wish that women made guys wait like 3 to 6 months before they caved in to the physical demands (of their own bodies that may ache for release).... & women bringing the best out in men would have the men
(or at least the good ones waiting & would enjoy the rewards of companionship & the ability to give someone multipul orgasisms for the next couple of hours)...
NOW the women would know then ----REALLY how INTO them they are....
(i'm sure there is another joke in here somewhere...)
If guys wait for sex for a while then they are into YOU....the person....
If the guy can not wait then he'll move on & then it would CONFIRM if he was shallow & just wanted the physical....
THEN all you ladies have to decide is WHICH do you want....Someone into "you the person" or "your BODY"..... (everyone wants someone to find their minds attractive-BUT out of all the women I've met NOT one really likes too much conversation & is more responsive to the physical...Not to mention that ALL the guys that I've heard stories from pretty much all say the exact same thing_ they know your weak spots)....
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 1/27/2007 12:19:23 PM | Ok so this thread was started 3 months ago. Enquiring minds need to know...was it just a booty call or more?
Hm the fact that your profile says you are single looking for an "activity partner" makes me think it was a booty call and you are looking for another one? LOL | |
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 1/27/2007 12:45:50 PM | I can't believe that if I am seriously dating someone and we are intimate that I would not call on at least a daily basis even to just say hi, or I'm thinking about you. If you see eachother only on the weekends and not at all during the week I don't get that. I work two jobs, one as a private Investigator the other as a bouncer in a club. I still find time to "date" (doesn't mean sex) and make a few calls a day. I try and meet for coffee, lunch, breakfast, dinner, drop of flowers, coffee, card if possible, work out at the gym what ever it takes if that one person is so special in your life...... you do what it takes so they don't have to question it.
Sounds like he is not that into you and and looking for the BBD (Bigger Better Deal)! You desirve better than that. | |
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 4/3/2009 12:34:43 PM | I agree justchipping! I have a problem with someone I am intimate not being in contact a few more times a week , if not daily at least once. Babyv, when I am involved, I usually make a point of calling/emailing her to let her know she is on my mind. If you are still having a problem with this, you need to address with him.
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 4/3/2009 4:51:18 PM | Hi,
How are you?
I'm new to this site only 3 days so far. I'll see how it goes. I notice that there are a lot of wonderful caring people on this site, it's good to know that still exist.
Regarding your situation, although you already have some very nice advice there, to complement all or most of them I'd like to share my opinion with you.
First of all, it seems to me that you're not quite sure if the so call "booty call " what "you" want therefore, in order for you to find the best approach with him it's important to ask yourself this question - at this point in my life, what do I need?- and be honest with yourself.
then ask yourself -what do I want?-
If what you want is different than what you need ask yourself -which one is more important to you to fulfill?- and to better answer that question you may want to consider the consequences of going with your need or your want.
----Consider things like time, dream, goals, and your image of yourself----- that should help you with your answers.
Now, once you've done that, you're now really to face him. When you face him keep in mind that you don't already know the answer because he's been burn before maybe he's now afraid of rejection or he could very well have been lying to get to the booty call stage with you, but you simply don't know.
So set up the mood for the conversation. The following is a mood idea:
Since you only see him on the weekend, choose a day on the weekend, tell him not to eat before he comes over
Prepare a nice warm dinner, set the candles and weare your hair, make -up and dress the best way you know how. Smell is very important-warning do not over do it because you want him to be able to listen to you and for him to be able to give honest answers so being half-naked will not help lol.
Do not start the conversation right away, when he gets to the door run to meet him, show him that you're happy to see him -if his behavior is cause by a lack of confidence that will restore his confidence in you-
Then hold his hand, ask about his week ..., when you get him to a confortable mood after dinner tell him how much you miss him and that you'd like it if you guys talk for a few minutes before we continue the evening. Then start talking............. tell him exactly how you feel towards him -don't tell him you're ok with a booty call even if you were, yet----- for the sake of not hurting him in case he had a lack of confindence because of the past .
But if you do need something better you can go ahead and talk first.
Tell him exactly what you told us, that you're excited about him and that you want to hear from him and that you'd love for things to go back the way the were before because you still feel the same way.
Now, you have to ask him if he feels the same way about you. If he says -yes -then things are nice again, but don't just leave it at that,
ask him how his schedule is and plan with him on the days that he can either use a few minutes to call you or stop by just to say hi,
Now, on the days that he can't, suprise him. That'll show him how serious you are.
Now, if the answer is that - he's not excited about you, he just want the booty call- if you'want that and you're ok with the consequences then the answer her e is totally up to you, but I will say this; if this is not what you want or need because you won't be able to leave with the consequenses then "DO NOT settle for less"
Good luck trying to read this LOL. I wish you the best. Rember this is just an advice, at the end of the day only "you" decides what to do.
P.S. I like to write but I never keep what I write anyway, mid-night last night I woke feeling inspired to write something and I post it on my profile. I figured I will give it a last touch but I'd appreciate it if you guys and ladies can read it and tell me what you think.
Thanks in advance,
later,
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 4/3/2009 6:59:09 PM | | Raretreaure01.........if you'd like your profile revieweded there's actually a spot for that, about 5 spots down from relationships. it is called, of course, profile reviews......good luck | |
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 4/4/2009 8:54:57 AM | Thanks parlabrea, but that wasn't my intent. I just thought that some of you may like poetry, since I'm new on this site I didn't yet know where to post it that's why I put the info. in case you guys wouldn't mind checking it out.
Thanks anyway. If I ever need my profile to be reviewed I'll go there.  | |
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| How can I tell If he Really IS That into me?
Posted: 4/4/2009 10:16:57 AM | Dear Babyy-
This is no darn fun at all. I think if you don't ask, you don't get so, ask for what you want. If you'd been dating for a shorter amount of time...well that's a different story. You have a right to know and if it's not what you want to hear, believe him and MOVE ON!!!!
As for him being burned, oh; boo-hoo. We've all been burned-tell him to grow up. It's part of life as an adult. If he's using being burnt as a crutch-he's not that into you. As for the new album....he could invite you over for a recording session so you could check it out. Also, phone calls can take a minute or two to say "Hi! I don't have a lot of time, I just wanted you to know you're on my mind." or he could text or email tot let you know you matter.
Don't give him your time if he's not cherising you. Next time he calls for a date tell him "sorry, I've laready made other plans". Don't be so available. Make him wonder and if he doesn't wonder well, he's just not that into you.
Life is short and there's many  in the sea. Respect for self is key. Don't put yourself on sale, Girl.
Good luck-
Karen | |
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