| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 5/22/2008 9:04:34 PM | What the hell. It's not how big one is, Girl, It's how you deal with it. I think you are doing well with it. I know one thing, and that you are ready to go tubing. You go girl. Your going to have a good time. Nothing like tubing down the river.  | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 5/23/2008 2:53:15 PM | Thanks Joe!
I meant to include the fact that I not only have dated several very attractive men as well as getting married all while being a BBW, so yes men do fall for BBW's. | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 5/23/2008 8:42:46 PM | | Whyspr ... I used to a lot less confident ... then I started pretending I was more sure of myself ... and suddenly I started to believe it. Once I started pretending the positive reinforcement (male attention, less hanging to the side of events, actually going to events) made it easy to believe that my confidence was truly deserved (and well it is) | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 5/24/2008 1:49:47 PM | | I figure its apples and oranges...If you like apples ..,pick um...If you like oranges Im a pretty sweet one! | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 5/24/2008 9:28:36 PM | Hey greeneyedgirl,
I would guess it depends on where they like their apples or oranges. As for me I never claimed to be sweet but people tell me I am  | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 5/25/2008 12:15:44 PM |
A person 6"1 weight 230 is overweight. But men that have muscular looks weighting 230,250 with height being 6'0 6'1 or 6'2 is overweight
Secrets,
That reminds me of a story about one of the Mr. Universes. He wanted to get life insurance and was informed by the insurance company he was too overweight and they couldn't insure him. So, he flew to NYC and went to the insurance's office, walked in and said, "Tell me I am overweight and you won't insure me".
They quickly signed him up for life insurance and appologised profusely.
Just thought I would share that story. :-) | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 5/26/2008 8:57:07 AM | Hey there Whysper:
Koko--- i dont think they do. I think some men say it doesn't matter but the minute you step off the internet into reality they change their minds. -- please allow me to expand upon your comment ...
I've always dated beautiful women -- being an active person, these women were usually fit. I believe that you establish a body-type preference early on in your life, but that's not to say that it can't/won't change. About 15 years ago (while out dancing), I met this incredibly beautiful woman who, by the standards I'd always had on body-types, was about 40 lbs overweight ~~ (if I remember correctly, she was 5' 6", 185 lbs, and I think she was a size 14). Anyway, I dated her for about 3 weeks, but it was her "Mental Baggage" about her weight that caused me to break up with her. She refused to do anything active with me because (according to her) she didn't want to risk losing weight. Rut Ro Shaggy, better hide the Scooby Snacks!
I'm convinced that there is someone for everyone, but it really confuses me when I meet women online who say they're looking for a man who takes care of his body, yet they have let theirs waste away -- the same thing goes for men who want the "Hotties", but can't see their shoes. I don't see anything wrong with a person saying, "Hey, I've taken care of myself, and I'm looking for a partner who has done the same with themself. | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 5/26/2008 1:53:42 PM | I totally agree that everyone has the right to like what they like Shane. What I have a problem with is men who say it's ok and don't stand by their words. Not only men but women too I suppose. I don't assume it's a one sided issue.
Don't take this next part as an attack Shane, it's totally not ment to be one ok? *smiles*
It might be kind of hard to explain to someones feelings about their weight . The perceived "mental baggage" could of been caused by any number of things and, unless you know what may be behind that low self esteem, you cant always know why we react the way we do. It's not always just being heavy that tugs at our hearts and minds when we hurt. People can be very cruel to over weight people. Perhaps the attitudes we bring off is a form of protection, or an attempt to try to save ourselves from being embarassed in certain situations.
In my case, I was a size 13 when I got married. I got very depressed after the birth of my 2nd child and I turned to food because I was in a non-supportive, and actually, abusive relationship. I would of loved to get out and do things, but I couldn't even get my ex to go to family reunions with me. I tried walking and other forms of outside activities to get some exercise, but was harassed by guys because of my weight. Their cruel words and picking on me made it so I didn't want to leave the house anymore. Things got out of hand and now I'm struggling in ways I can't explain. It's a vicious circle.
On that note, it's also a struggle I am not willing to give up on. So, I work on my self esteem and I work on my weight and people who love me and friends who care about me say to me.. it doesn't matter, or won't matter to the right guy. You start to believe that and have hope and finally put the pain aside. Then you meet someone who says.. its ok, weight doesnt matter..but it does... and that I guess is the point of my whole long story, lol.
Like what you want, but be up front about it please.
and as always, thanks Shane, for the comments and maybe making me think a little deeper on the topic. Take care. | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 5/26/2008 7:22:51 PM | I completely agree with you Whyspr.
The hurts are not always about weight but sometimes about feeling unloveable because someone lied or left. Fortunately what doesn't kill us makes us stronger - which unfortunately makes us strong women, which scares the heck out of some guys.
While I am losing weight, and trying to be more active, etc. The truth is I will never be skinny/thin. I may become skinnier but genetically (and yes I can show you pictures of several generations of my family to prove this thank you) I will never be skinny.
However, I also determined that my attitude is MUCH more about liking me and who I am as a person (not my size or my weight). So yeah I can be a b*tch and I can be a flirt, and a lot of other things ... however, I would be those things no matter what I weigh.
I say these things as if this peace with myself was easy to achieve, or as if I was always this way. That is not true, the hardest acceptance to win in this world is our own. Especially when other people are telling us just how unacceptable we are, but it's worth every stumble and bump to get there. | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 5/27/2008 8:11:26 AM | | Justa fun comment Girl Texan...Not really claiming anything but the idea that we are all differant and beauty (Or Sweetness) is indeed in the eye of the beholder. | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 5/27/2008 10:46:12 AM | Hey greeneyedgirl,
I was just trying to make a fun comment in return.
I agree that we are all different and each person has something beautiful about them
In some cases - like people that are mean to others - it's really hard to see the beauty. I have however been assured that it's there
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 6/2/2008 10:51:54 AM | I just want a guy around who makes me feel smaller than him!  I sure don't want a guy who's perfect, because that would just make me feel...uh....less than perfect!
Speaking of BBW, I wasn't sure what to put on my profile...They need to put one on there that says..."Pleasingly Plump" perhaps? I love that most folks put "A Few Extra Pounds" (I started with that one)...hee hee I guess a few extra pounds is in the eye of the beholder!
Any way, I don't want anyone to like me because I'm plump, but I don't want anyone to not like me for the same reason. I mean, jeez...I'm 49, looking for someone in that age range. Don't we all have some flaws????
Perhaps we should all look in the mirror. Is that a flawless, hot, sexy, rich, perfect fish staring back at you? I think folks shouldn't be looking for perfect if they can't offer the same.... | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 6/2/2008 7:04:22 PM | Life girl - you and I think very much a like ...
I don't want someone who thinks they are perfect - been there married him, got the divorce papers to prove it.
But I do want someone who is perfect for me.  | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 6/2/2008 9:25:49 PM | | Yeah, I was married to perfect once as well. Problem was, lots of ladies thought he was perfect...hee hee After 18 years, I gave him to one of them, and he and I are great friends now! I don't think she likes me...hmmm....... | |
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| Do women ever fall for BBM?
Posted: 6/4/2008 10:01:40 AM | Let's see...as a novice in the social world (Im 28 now...didn't have my first "official" girlfriend until I was 22)...
I've had what some could call 4 serious relationships in my life. Though none of them were long enough to really fit that description..the longest running less than 6 months.
None of the girls I've dated would be considered petite by any means and 2 of them were BIG girls. Unfortunately, all of them were rather psycho...crazy internet women!
I am, by no means, athletic or fit or skinny. I'm a big guy weighing in at over 300 lbs. I'd like to reverse the question of the topic.
Do women ever fall for Big Beautiful Men? To those BBW that are so adamant on the subject of whether those hot guys would "lower" themselves to date a fat girl. I pose this question! Are y'all as open-minded and flexible in your visual standards as you want the guys to be? Would you date a fat guy with a beautiful personality? Or would you pass him by for someone who was thinner?
It's a 2-way street and you should NEVER ask for or expect something that you are not willing to give of yourself! | |
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| Do women ever fall for BBM?
Posted: 6/4/2008 1:35:19 PM | You'd have to read my next to last post...I like teddy bear guys...the ones who always make me feel smaller! I wouldn't look to date another "perfect" guy, because it would just make me feel fat...ter......lol Now, I wouldn't want to say that I would NEVER date a built guy (never say never), but I don't think we'd ever be attracted to each other...does that make sense?
Anyways...I looked at your profile...You're a nice looking guy! Just too young for me, by about 20 years! You hang in there! And watch those belly dancers! Cute pic! | |
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| Do women ever fall for BBM?
Posted: 6/4/2008 7:55:49 PM | | Well, thank you for the compliments! *laughs* now if girls 20 years younger than you would see it that way, too! :P o O (I'm really not that age specific, so long as you have a young spirit and we can find some commonality) | |
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| Do women ever fall for BBM?
Posted: 6/4/2008 9:27:10 PM | | You know I too was married to the cute skinny guy, and now all I want is someone with a little meat. I am not physically attracted to slim or slender men. I like to date guys who look like they wont break in half if we mess around. I totally agree that it is nice to have a man who makes you feel small. I don't want Mr. Perfect cuz like you said, that will make me feel that much more imperfect. I want someone I can be comfortable around. And yes there are men out there who like bbw's, you just have too look for them and learn to love your self first. | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 6/30/2008 12:48:28 PM | | Well if a man on POF if searching for BBW or few extra pounds he isn't going to find many women because the ladies on here put average or slim when they are not. If you state what you are you may have better luck. I'm skinny so I don't put average or muscular If a woman for some crazy reason is looking for a slim guy my profile will come up in the search. | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 6/30/2008 2:49:10 PM | ^^^^ Buddy you hit the nail on the head that time^^^^
I love thick women who have meat on there bones. I don't want some bag of bones following me around, I want so cushion for the push'n as some would say. Now of course we all see ourselfs different from others (slight variations) but there are WAY to many women on here that are 5'1" or 5'3" and have got to be 300#'s or more. And they put "a few extra pounds" come on!!!
I am not picky and I'm not saying these women are to big to date, I'm just saying be honest, and things might turn out a lot better. I'm by no means a hot looking stud or even close. I just looking for someone how can enjoy life and treat me right, cause that's what I want to do for her.... Always remember....looks fade and change... true love does not | |
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| Do women ever fall for BBM? Part 2
Posted: 6/30/2008 8:08:32 PM | As this topic has been necro'd, figure I'll throw another 2 cents at it. I really don't pay any attention to what girls put on their weight field. I search by other criteria (if I'm gonna narrow it down by anything other than age or location, it's usually by smoking, drinking, or kids...not that I have a problem with kids, but a 23 year old with 3 kids says volumes for the girl and I probably don't wanna touch that...unless she's divorced ).
My issue is this. I don't base search on size, I base it on lifestyle preference and common interest. I've messaged quite a few of those girls marked as "a few extra pounds" that easily tip a scale against my 330 lb mass...and something curious happened. When I removed MY weight and my pictures...I'd get messages back...asking for pictures...and when I sent them, I'd never hear from them again. Sweet.
There's a definite hypocrisy to a 400 lb girl telling a 300 lb guy that he's not her type 'cause he's not small.
So I repose the question to the BBW...would you date a BBM? Or keep shopping for someone 1/3 your size? 
My consolation for all the turndowns is that they passed up on a genuinely wonderful guy who happens to be a good singer, a romantic, a poet, a travel agent, and a trained massage therapist. And what did I ask for in return for all those perks that come with me? Just a positive response! | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 6/30/2008 8:32:16 PM |
but there are WAY to many women on here that are 5'1" or 5'3" and have got to be 300#'s or more. And they put "a few extra pounds" come on!!!
well.. just for the record.. at least in women's clothing.. it's height that determines "petite" not weight? I might be wrong since I'm not an avid Dillards shopper... Walmart doesnt offer it.. just like POF ONLY offers... " a few extra pounds.. OR BBW" well I'm neither... I have a lot of extra pounds.. just not in the chest area! What's a girl to do?
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| Do women ever fall for BBM? Part 2
Posted: 7/1/2008 8:41:01 AM | | I am personally not attracted to any particular body type, I like people for who they are. I Am a BBW and I have had long term relationships including a very long term marriage, none of them ending had anything to do with my size. I am a fun loving active person. I enjoy life and I like who I am regardless of my size. | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 7/1/2008 11:49:50 AM | | Shenede... I stand corrected !!! I guess they just have to pick from the choices they have. And Hey you don't need the weight in your chest you need it your bottom... to help keep your feet planted firmly on the ground. That's the way I like it. but that's just my opinion... and it ain't worth much... but it's all I got. | |
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