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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 7/17/2008 2:38:44 PM | Real men have passed the high school value system and moved on to women who are beautiful inside, who do what they can to be well groomed, who are not abusive, complainers, whiners, or bankrupt morally...They know people come in all shapes and sizes and don't focus on what changes in time for most of us. If they are perfect themselves, maybe the rules change, but I haven't seen anyone who fits that bill yet, and besides, I have also passed the high school value system of judging men by what they have and what they look like. Look at Pierce Brosnan, James Brolin, Gerald McRainy, and other men who fell in love and stayed in love with their famous wives.
They could have anyone they wanted, but something beyond the outside layers attracted them or kept them happy at home.
I find men usually gravitate to women who are achievers, who are intelligent, and who have the attitude that they are attractive.
Oh, by the way...the others don't count anyway! Who wants a man who can't see your good qualities because he's so hung up on your outside appearance?
Sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs before your prince shows up.... | |
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| Do women ever fall for BBM?
Posted: 8/1/2008 8:51:11 PM | Im going to have to agree with you , you have to love yourself before anyone else will. I was married 10 years in the course of that I have gained alot of weight having our children . So when I came back to the dating scene I tended to be attracted to guys who would have loved the old me (pre-children) lol . But now wow, I just want a good guy no matter what his weight is! But he cant be breakable lol  | |
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| Do women ever fall for BBM?
Posted: 8/1/2008 8:57:57 PM |
Im going to have to agree with you , you have to love yourself before anyone else will.
I disagree completely and I have my reasons and can support them. and No I dont even qualify as a BBW unless it means big belly woman.. I am woman.. BBW means well most BBW have large chests.. I'm not one of them so Im just a short fat gal.. let see if POF puts that on the choices.. SFG! LOL
so anyway.. my joy comes from giving.. im not all about ME and nor will I ever be.... and since everyone loves them selves so much.. why do they want/ need another? | |
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| Do women ever fall for BBM?
Posted: 8/3/2008 6:55:31 PM | Yes, women DO fall for BBM's too! I for one am a BBW (and it does say that on my profile--not "average"), and I have always liked to be with a man that is a little bigger than me. Now that's not to say that I have not found smaller guys attractive, and have dated several. For me, it all comes down to a connection, whether that attraction is for a big guy, average guy, athletic guy, a guy with a few extra pounds, or a downright skinny guy. Personally there are several BBM's in my celebrity crush list including Kevin James, who I think is cute as a button and if he wasnt already married with 2 kids...I might become one of his stalkers lol 
When I'm interested in a guy and he doesn't reciprocate, I don't get too caught up with "oh he probably doesnt like me because I'm a BBW", because that is how we tend to develop that emotional baggage that a lot of the men have mentioned on this thread. I just try to have a good time, be myself, slip in a few witty & sarcastic comments now and then, and go with the flow! We'll either hit it off, or get stuck in the friend zone. Worst case scenario, if the guy has hang ups with my weight he will probably never contact me again. And if that's the case then the loss of contact is for the best! Like others have mentioned I am very upfront with my physical description and like to post a variety of different AND RECENT pics. The last thing I would want to do is mislead someone. | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 9/1/2008 5:24:31 AM | All the time!
I am a big time admirer of BBW. I am always visiting BBW sites on the internet. I am never afraid to come out and tell people,especially my co-workers that I admire BBW. While most guys I hang out with are whistling at,talking about,staring at, all the slim ones in public places,my eyes are always focused on the bigger women. Nice hair,eyes,and a beautiful smile are important things that grab my attention as well. Plus,the wardrobe. Nice clothes,business clothes,uniforms catch meals also.
Overall,looks aren't everything. It is what is on the inside that counts most. | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 9/1/2008 10:49:31 AM | | Yes, i do date and have relationships with bbw ladies. The one thing i notice about bbw ladys is that they don't dress right. Most not all dress like a slop. The way a person dress is how people will see you. You dress like crap no matter how big you are people are going to think you are. First impressions are evrything. Now if a BBW dresses sexy and smells good, i would bet she does get dates from guys. I personally like a lady in a short skirt and a nice shirt. So many just have to change style and maybe they can get a man that they seek. Think sexy and you will be sexy to most, not all guys will give you the time of day, that is just the way it is. | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 9/1/2008 12:04:08 PM | So thanks for that fashion lesson, but the reality is it's difficult for larger ladies to find sexy clothing. It can be done, but well it's not easy or inexpensive. This problem is being fixed slowly but surely, however, just because one guy likes short skirts doesn't mean others will.
As for sexy being the way to attract a quality male - uh no I doubt that. Truth is personality is way more important. I have dated any number of guys in all shapes and sizes, and the common denominator was they all liked my personality - some liked the way I looked and that brought them close enough to get to know my personality, some just saw me interact with other people. If you like yourself and are comfortable in your own skin, no matter what size you are, people will like you too.
Then again finding the right mate/partner has little or nothing to do with looks - looks fade, compatibility doesn't. | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 9/1/2008 2:11:23 PM | Hell yeah, personally I think skinny (under dress size 10) women are not that pretty. When I'm carressing a woman, I don't want to feel your bones (EEEEWWWWW-lol). I want a woman with substance, not some skinny little thing that is maintaining a 1,000 calorie diet. I've acually got slapped once cause I told a woman "you would look cute if you gained a 100 pds".
So, to answer your question; yes, there are men out there that enjoy a fuller woman, not all mind you(most still have the programming of slim to win) but, I personally know a few guys that only date larger women.
steve | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 9/1/2008 4:29:45 PM | So refreshing to hear something positive about the BBW! We are people too you know! I am beautiful, dress well and I always smell good....and the best part? I know it! Self-esteem and positive self-concept is key! Keep looking for the one who appreciates you, ladies. I did. I have several men who like me just fine....curves and all! Good luck to all of us! | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 9/1/2008 8:31:08 PM | Interesting thread ... yet I still don't know which thing to pick! Am I a BBW or a Few Extra Pounds ... sigh.
I like Shende's thought ... we need more descriptors ... I'm not all that short or all that fat ... but I am too short for my weight according to industry standard!
I'm just me ... and there is NOOOO danger of me causing your waterbed to spring a leak w/ any of my protruding bones ... nope! Look at it as a perk of sorts!  | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 9/1/2008 9:24:39 PM |
I like Shende's thought ... we need more descriptors ... I'm not all that short or all that fat
oh no .. no no.. dont do that to me Ponytail.. im just me and I dont fit the norm or most.. im old fat and ugly and im ok wiht that.. i hve friends lissted for a reason.. Im not lookin for love.. I had it.. knew it and its water under the bridge... gone.. you cant and should compare to me.. you are goegrouis and have potentiial | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 9/1/2008 9:34:15 PM | WHAT????
I didn't do nuffin to you woman ... Giggles ... I just meant I agreed that there need to be more descriptors for body type you goof!
I have more than a few pounds but not sure I'm a "BBW" ... capish?
As for me being gorgeous or having potential ... you are KILLING me here girl! I think it's not good to "look for love" ... but, I'm not sure I ever had it so, not sure how to know if it finds me!
For now ... I'll have to just be too short for my width and a safe bet for no poking holes in anything w/ me bones!
PS ... you are NOT old ... or ugly ... or fat from what I can see ... chin up chick ... I may have to make Strat spank you for this outburst if you are not careful! | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 9/5/2008 12:17:30 PM | I myself am a bigger woman. Some say BBW, some say fat. I am the first one to admit that I do have a self-esteem issue. I am learning, but it has been a slow process. And the guys that I have met, for the most part don't help anything. So for about a year now, I haven't dated anyone.
And I am very active, I do lots of walking, bike riding, horse back riding, boating.
But I also know that men do fall for bigger women. Just gotta have some patience and weed through em. | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 9/5/2008 3:45:06 PM | The weeding takes forever, but the results can be awesome. That's the case for everyone. The real problem I have faced is not judging every guy by his predecessor's actions.
I have been out with several men who fooled me for a short time into thinking they wanted more than sex. I have been told outright by several men that they want to date a BBW because (to quote one) "all big women are desperate for attention and they will do anything sexually" He was quite surprised when I told him to get to steppin cause I am not one of those women. So the crap we have to weed through can be a little more obnoxious.
Men do fall in love with BBW's, sometimes even when they never thought they would. I can only say what I know to be true - grown men fall in love with the whole person not the package. | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 9/6/2008 9:29:35 AM | Well of course there are, but I think its the whole package not just size that people are drawn to. I'm a big girl, and in saying that I also work out, eat right, have confidence, take care of myself and such. I played basketball in school and was in gymnastics when I was younger, but I was always on the chunky side. I have pics of me close up and far away, and they are all recent... and I also put on my profile that I'm a very curvy girl (which they can see in my pics) and if that isn't your cup of tea, then good luck. It's a non-issue.
I get contacted, and I contact a few myself... I like being thicker but I do have my preferences as well. And at the risk of sounding too discriminatory here goes, I prefer a guy that is taller than me, and matches my body type or a lil bigger. I'm not "romantically or sexually" attracted to guys with a big belly, conceited, shorter than me, small framed, cowboy types... lots of other things I can say here. Also, I don't have a race preference, but not all white guys attract me, and neither do all black or latino guys or whatever... so I guess I don't expect anything different from the male gender.
I too have had the messages from the twenty somethings and being 42 sure its a compliment. I also remember what it was like being 20 something and hormones haven't change, so I take the compliment with a grain of salt... lol
I think its all about personal preference... And no matter what the case, CONFIDENCE IS WHAT MAKES A PERSON SEXY... :) | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 9/6/2008 7:13:15 PM | | Me myself, I have a body type I prefer. I hae had fiends in the past date bbw only for sex. They never took them out on real dates and just used them for a quickie. Not realy my style. | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 9/12/2008 10:34:52 AM | well there is a lot of good things said in this forum about dating bbw. Some of it was just that online nice talk, some of it was truly good advices.
What I would like to say is that self confidence is truly important thing. No one will love you if you don't love yourself. Also i've met many full figure people who is very unconfined with their body and they was like almost asking about it all the time, regardless what i say to them or what im trying to talk to them we somehow always were ending up talking about people being overweight and get in argue. Just dont think of yourself as different person, just because you overweight. Sometimes even make jokes about it, so people will see that you are realy confident with it.
I do think that full figured people do have harder time finding mr. right. There is a lot more overweight people in USA and quite a few men who likes that kind of body. So the ratio of men and women are uneven in this case, but as some one said earlier, dont try to convince some guy who likes skinny girls that big girl are better, it's not going to work, instead try to atract men who does like big girls. You would have a lot more chance.
Also, i dont whant to make anybody upset or anything, but have you tried to loose some weight? Like go to the gym or something? Healthy lifestyle is totally different, and you actually might enjoy it. Go to classes to gym, meet new people, new friends there. Discover whole bunch of new restaurants and places to eat and so on. You know, weight it's not just about how it looks, its also about health. Over weight people have like triple chance to get sick or damage back or knees.
I think if you will try to do something about having extra veight (unless you truly want to keep it) you will see some result, and men will see it too! You will have more attention and more self confidence and more motivation to maintain healthy lifestyle. You will fell and look better.
Also I whanted to notice that I think a lot of guys will give extra credit to overweight girls in the gym, simply because they think you doing something about it.At least I do.
Once again,, im not trying to convince anybody to change themselves or their lifestyle, im just giving my point of view. Hope I didnt get anybody upset, and thanks for reading | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 9/13/2008 10:45:23 PM | | I have discovered that even the overweight men want the women who are not overweight. I know that many men have posted on this forum that it has to do with a woman's self estem and they feel that most overweight women are unhappy with themselves. I am overweight and I love my life. I am happy with the accomplishments I have made. I have lost 40 lbs since April 2008...I still have some more to lose....but men only seem to either want to be my friend or they are looking for things on first dates that I am unwilling to provide to them. Men say women lie in their profiles about their weight...men do also...and men also lie about what they are looking for....I know there are good, honest men otu there that prefer BBW's....I just am not finding them. | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 9/28/2008 6:27:16 PM | | I will not lie, I love and tend to have a preference for BBW. I like them for that reason, cause they are more honest with themselves as well as with others. Also on a physical aspect I personally love the way they look and on that as God as my witness may he strike me dead if I lie. It's just on how people perceive others is all. Some people don't mind and some do. | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 4/27/2009 8:12:39 PM |
Do a search for BBW and you'll find this same question asked a million different ways here. The answer is yes of course there are plenty men out there who are attracted to heavier women. What they are not attracted too is women who sit around whining that they can't get a date because they are fat. If you think there is beauty within, then it will show to the men here and they will be drawn to it. There are even dating websites specifically designed for BBW's. I'm not sure where but read about it in another forum.
Don't just post your picture here and sit around waiting for them to come to you. Most men that want a skinny chick say so in their profile. Things like looking for an athletic woman or height and weight proportionate. Ignore those. Write to the rest of them and let them know if you are smart, funny, caring or what ever other good qualities you have. If they look at your profile and then answer you back, you've at least got your foot in the door. If you see that your message has been read and deleted, do not take it personally, just move on to the next one. Men like women who are confident in themselves, enjoy their own company and are willing to meet them on their own terms. Show a full body picture so men have no doubt what they are getting. Too many heavy women show a pretty face, but not the rest of it and men feel as if they've been tricked, even though if they had seen the full body, they probably still would have gone on the date.
I'm a full figured woman. In my profile I put in there I am short, fat and blonde. I show a picture of my whole body so there are no surprises. I get regular emails from men of all ages and from all over the world. This morning I even got emailed by a 33 yr old from Italy who thought I was sexy. Naturally I have no interest in someone that young and so far away, but it feels good to get those type of emails. If you present yourself as worth having, then you will have no problems finding men who want to go out with you.
thank you for this answer! I have asked similar questions before and never seem to get an answer good enough.... it's kind of inspiring to me!
and you're very pretty... had to say! | |
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| Do men ever fall for BBW?
Posted: 5/23/2009 11:06:35 PM | To answer the question, absolutely! I won't lie, I'd prefer a size 10 or 11 to a size 21 or 22... but looking back on most the girls I've dated and/or chased is like paging through a Torrid catalog. I'm not sure about everything that's been said since this post has gone on for so long, so forgive me repeating someone else. However, I think I'm a fair judge of what makes BBWs so desirable.
Curves! Give me something voluptuous over something skinny ANY day of the week. There's nothing like gripping into a nice set of... hips. Isn't that what most guys are attracted to after all? No hills means no thrills, Miss Six-O-Clock! The other more popular quote, albeit a somewhat juvenile one: More cushion for the pushin', definitely applies.
Personality. Plenty of speculation can go into why bigger girls are nicer or more fun, and perhaps all this mistreatment everyone's mentioned is an influence. Some size two model might get away with being superficial due to being so desirable, but that doesn't give you the RIGHT to be superficial or shallow and inevitably makes you less attractive and more spoiled. I think growing up in a world that doesn't always open doors for you or shower you with gifts means you've probably got more character than those always getting what they want. Chances are you'll be sweeter and even more loyal to whoever you're with as well... the end result of having a good heart.
Indulgent. Silly as it sounds, being able to enjoy something delicious puts you in a frame of mind to enjoy all of life's pleasures. Not saying every BBW is a foodie, but they almost always seem to kiss with more passion, embrace with more eagerness, and... you see the direction this is going. Aside from that, I'll -never- forget seeing two very thin, very attractive girls spearing a piece of cheesecake with their forks like it was the first meal they've had in days, and they were constantly talking about how they'd have to get on the stairclimber or do pilates after that... they were downright guilt-ridden about it. I thought the whole purpose of dessert was to enjoy something that's bad for you. Jeesh... enjoy yourself, already!
Of course, there's some cons along with the pros. Self-esteem is obviously an issue as indicated here, that can lead to being clingy or distant. Just like I don't want to date a princess, I don't want to date someone who I have to constantly pull out of self-loathing. Hate to admit it, but the term BBW seems to be used a little more freely, not every big girl (or any shape) is beautiful, sorry. I don't want to generalize on fitness either, but there are some that feel just because they're a certain size means they simply can't do this or that... whereas others are just plain lazy. I think a healthy attitude and a healthy lifestyle are things we should all strive for, but thinking that equates to a certain size is just nonsense.
My advice to a BBW isn't much different than my advice to anyone dating: No one is liked by everyone. Think of all the people you work with and how many you actually like working with, the single's life isn't any different. Dealing with those people is just part of the process, and if the first words that come out of someone's mouth is rude or shallow, they've done you a favor by showing you how ugly they can be. Forget 'em... and move on to someone who appreciates what you've got, inside and out.
*sigh* I could go for a set of easy-grip love handles right about now. How about you? | |
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