| What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
Posted: 5/31/2007 7:35:56 PM | | When I say in my profile that I don't look my age, feel my age or act my age I am being honest. I have had many people guess my age as being in the mid to late 40's, that makes me feel fantastic. I don't feel my age. Why should I lie or hide the truth. As for acting my age, well, I don't. I'm not ashamed of it. I don't say all this because I am after a younger woman. I am after a woman I can connect with. I have many friends who are in their mid 50's and I don't act like them at all. They are amazed I am still doing the things I do. Construction work, coaching 18 to 22 year olds in football and playing touch football in a fairly competitive league. | |
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| What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
Posted: 7/7/2007 12:36:10 AM | Nishma, I am going to take a try at this question. This one take a bit of deep thought though. I will skip the "excuses" and try to figure out why I wouldn't be acting my age.
I have never as an adult looked or acted my age either. I don't hang with anyone my age. Never have. My friends have always been much older or much younger. Most of my friensds wives either put me on thier shit list worrying that I would be taking thier hubbies out to chace other women or they came on to me. (I don't fool around knowingly with other men's mates especially best and oldest friends). I respect my friends too much.
Am I a bad person because I am graced with good genes and work very hard to stay healthy? Does it make me undesirable as a mate?
One day a friend who also happened to be near 20 yewars my junior tells me that women are intimidated by me. (I still don't fully understand that incident). That girl wanted to fool around too and once again (because she was attached) I said no.
I am going to avoid becomming defencive about it. I have no reason to be comcerned.
Gee I had on person at work today get upset because I can put away a lot of food without putting on weight. This was a person who was taking a lot of suppliments to beef up (unsuccessfully). So what. Should I be appologising?
I refuse to behave "like". I am an individual. I am not a clone. I am a frustrated kind-hearted decent compassionate individual and I am not boasting.
But the fact remains that I am single and have been for some time. Looks can work for or against you. And it is not a laughing matter because Everyone needs someone to love and care for them and someone to love and care for.
The blind are not blind because they want to be. | |
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| What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
Posted: 7/8/2007 8:10:37 AM | I have read most of this thread and only have this to add. I think and act my age, but I have no control over the way I look. I have a 27 year old son who, when we're together in public people either think he's my spouse or my brother. When he was 14 his friends used to hit on me, thinking I was his sister...it grossed him out and flattered me, however; now I am a grandmother of a two year old and I'm not too flattered when people think she is my child.
Not too many 50 year olds hitting on me when they see the car seat in the back of my vehicle.....  | |
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| What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
Posted: 7/8/2007 9:42:33 AM | I always try to think and act in a manner that's true to me! If others perceive that as younger than my age, because it is not typical (of others my age), that's their perogative......I could give a rat's a$$, I do what's right for me. Ironically, it's thinking and acting young, that keeps us young. My grandmother, who was my hero, drove across the country to visit me in a tent trailer no less, when she was in her eighties (and yes, she always looked young for her age). I've always said I plan on dancing and having sex when I am ninety, cause otherwise, what's the point......lol.
As for looks, I've been lucky to have been blessed with good genes and if I dress in a younger manner, it's not that I am trying to look younger, it's that I love to dress sexy, because it makes me feel good, but unfortunately society views sexy as young! | |
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| What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
Posted: 9/10/2007 10:09:10 PM | | I think the explanation is as following. Men and women naturally (since the ancient time) are interested on opposite age range. Men are interested on younger women because of higher fertility. Women are interested on older or mature men because of more security and stability. That has a lot to do with evolution and what we really are deep inside our mind and desire. Unfortunately or fortunately all those ancient needs are being challenged by the new style of life, culture, media, belief etc. So as you see that is not strange to find these guys, who think they are mature (naturally attractive for women) and are interested on younger women (naturally attracted to younger woman) who have not much chance to get what they like, because of the limitation in age difference which is recent criteria for choosing the mate among women. I don't honestly know who to solve this dilemma, I mean, to be mature and in the same time young. The problem is that we are not physically and mentally evolving as fast as our understanding improves. I believe that ancient people had harder life but they knew what they want and perhaps they were more happier than us!? | |
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| What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
Posted: 8/2/2009 9:12:45 PM | | Well I am blocked from replying to your bio because of my age. I am all of 55 (3 years younger than you). I also have been taken for in my 40's and am very young at heart and active. Why would you limit your possibilities? I know I haven't. I think we could have interests in common. I'm not heartbroken - just confused. | |
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| What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
Posted: 8/2/2009 9:28:09 PM |
Why is it then, that I read so many profiles of men who seem to be mature, accomplished people, and all they can talk about is how they look / think "younger than their age"? Do they think immaturity is attractive? Am I supposed to be attracted to a man who wishes he is other than he is, is longing for a time past, and can't recognize the blessings of wisdom and sagacity that come with life experience?
Ladies, gentlemen - explain this to me, please???
grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr ---- okay, so here I go. We live in a society where ageism is prevalent. While sexism and racism are declining, ageism has not. So it is now our fight.
I cannot see anything wrong with thinking and acting ones age. This is not the problem unless people are thinking that once you are over 40 you develop various types of dementia.
Now, this is the tougher part of the battle --- looks! I think it is in our hard wiring to be attracted to people who look fresh and healthy and as we age, our skin and what not looks less healthy even though it might be.
Think of a rose. Are you going to cut the smoother or more withered one from the bush? Think of fruit. Will you pick the just ripened one from the tree or the one that is starting to wrinkle and shrink?
These are just my opinions and not intended to be offensive.
Sweet Jane
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| What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
Posted: 8/2/2009 10:36:10 PM | How does a person "my age" supposed to look, think and act anyway?
Age may not have much to do with decay, neither does maturity.
I've seen some very immature "old people", also some very young people who are falling apart and appearing very inflexible in their attitudes!
Ideas that are pre-conceived regarding age need to be recycled and re-thought.
To remain flexible in mind and body is as essential as continuing to learn new things every day.
I have no problems with age. To me it does not equate with decay. Time is the canvas on which we paint our choices to either fall apart, get bitter and set in our ways or grow stronger and sweeter, and get better in every way as we learn from our experiences!
I like to think we are more like trees: with time we grow stronger and bigger, more generous and giving.
And my wrinkles, you ask?
That's just bark!
MN | |
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| What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
Posted: 8/3/2009 9:52:58 AM | Today is my birthday.....Yipppeeeeeeeeeeeee!
and the age on my POF profile is incorrect!...............oops!
I only started celebrating my birthday since I have had kids....they make a big deal about it and love to make cards and stuff for me....all which I keep btw...the kids and the cards.....lol
age...well I understand that saying now...."it's just a number''......I certainly don't consider myself over the hill yet.....been over a few bumps and hills and peaks over the years but I am still kicking about and have life in me to go a few more rounds.
I'm 48 today btw.. | |
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| What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
Posted: 8/3/2009 11:06:45 AM | How I or anyone I know acts for a certain number that is their age varies greatly!
I find what we have in common is the humbling and life altering incidences coming from simple wear and tear on our bodies after the decades accumulate.
How we handle anything from minor aches and pains and increased memory loss
to debilitating mobility and brain deficits is what determines our outlook and how others perceive our "agedness" or not.
Happy Birthday WWR!
And....many more!
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| What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
Posted: 8/3/2009 1:06:24 PM | Does anyone really know how they are supposed to feel at a certain age?
I'm 47, and I don't think I'm doing anything different from what my parents were doing when they were 47. Dad was working alongside the contractors, building our house on the sunshine coast, playing golf, curling and a whole host of other things besides working a full time job.
Me, I'm out in the yard, digging garden plots, doing some landscaping, playing golf, hiking, working on renovations to my house, raising kids and working a full time job.
Each decade has had it's ups and downs. I'd hate to be a teenager again. I live through their angst on a daily basis thanks to my daughter and her friends. I do know this though, as I am getting older, and have more free time now that the kids are older, I am far more active and am willing to try something new. You never know if there is some sport or activity that you'll find enjoyable if you don't try it. Only thing that would be better is to have someone to do some of them with.
And Happy Birthday WWR. Have a great day. | |
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| What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
Posted: 8/3/2009 1:25:58 PM | Glad I'm not celebrating my birthday............. my dates ditched me today!
ya...last minute thing....the kids ditched me for a day with their dad.....lol...not by choice..... a visitation thing.
so...just me and that great bottle of wine I have been saving for years.... oh well.... I think I will be 25 today!
thanks for the birthday wishes everyone. | |
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| What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
Posted: 8/3/2009 5:40:19 PM | ^Happy Birthday
I believe that the OP objected to people who were trying to make themselves sound younger in their profiles by using certain phrases like "look younger" or "think young."
These statements imply that some people are not comfortable with their chronological age.
The OP asked why do people write profiles to make themselves seem younger. The answer is easy: Youthfulness sells.
Sweet Jane | |
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| What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
Posted: 8/3/2009 6:50:13 PM | I think it's like this. Some folks age quickly. Usually smokers or highly stressed people. Sometimes it's genetic. Other-wise the new fad of working out, has built up the looks of the average person. I think women are generally getting prettier.
MAYBE it's the beer!!  M | |
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| What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
Posted: 8/3/2009 8:32:19 PM | Ohhh . . . and he is another pet peeve that comes to mind. To me this is the most misleading thing a person with a profile can do, posting a picture of yourself that is 15 years or more old.
It is okay to do this if you have photos of yourself at your current age that are clear. It is not okay when this old photo is your only photo. It is sooooooooooo misleading.
I don't really think the OP's original post has much to do with rate of aging but it is more about trying to make your self seem younger. The examples she gives have to do with the wording people use in their profiles. You really have to read her post closely to see what she is getting at.
Sweet Jane
And because I am so nice, I will just say it. Most of you are really not addressing the OP's questions. Read the last paragraph carefully. She wants you to explain something. | |
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| What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
Posted: 8/4/2009 5:54:09 PM | There is nothing wrong looking, thinking, and acting ones age.
It is just that after a certain age most of the faculties leave people and they see a much younger person in the mirror; infantilism returns changing the thinking and acting.
OK, in all fairness, prior to that happening individual vanity was conquered by commercial interests dictating what needs to be done to redistribute wealth from those who were well on their way to the retirement home after ...ahmm.... thirty was it????? | |
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| What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
Posted: 11/5/2009 4:24:27 AM | well guess what!
<div class="quote">What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
^^^ well ... worry about this no longer, peoples!
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That's what I hear rumored Due to virtually no long-term testing
of the vaccine, you're gonna die within the next 10 years.
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| What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:21:46 AM |
What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
Depends what your real age is.
For someone that is less than 18 to look over 18, that only benefit gets them into drinking early. For someone that is older than 18 to look younger than 18, leads to a lot of harassment from trying to enter such premises (I was carded till I was 25, even though I haven't even ordered.) Acting ones age didn't even factor into that.
The "Look your age" comment tends to be directed at how people conform to clothing fads. I can't really think of anything that would lead me to believe someone is younger or older than they are. The only thing that comes to mind involves how low or tight peoples jeans are.
Thinking your age might be directed at "acting" your age, again along certain trends or stereotypes for the time. What about adults who still collect barbies and hot wheels (believe me, they exist, and I think it's strange.) Just what defines "act your age?" Someone who isn't your age? Are we supposed to accept that we should conform to their stereotype? The colourful metaphor usage tends to give me more an idea of someones maturity, but not their age.
What I've noticed, at least with people on the internet, they are very quick to ask ones Age, Gender and Location. If you happen to be interesting, then you're asked for photos or video. This is the internet version of judging a book by it's cover. You can be talking to someone who is 10 years older than you and acts 10 years younger. Acting your age and Looking it does not matter except to someone considering you for long term relationship material. | |
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| What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:38:10 AM | I have recently encountered a relationship where the male was about 60 years old and his wife is 97...and guess what...? She is healthier in mind and body than he is...
Who the heck knows anymore what age is supposed is supposed to act like what? | |
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| What's wrong with looking, thinking, and acting your age?
Posted: 11/10/2009 7:29:13 PM | what's wrong with letting people look, think and act any way they choose? that gives everyone the space to be comfortable. age is a number defined by a million different people and perceptions - if someone's not your style (or you not theirs) why not just acknowledge same and move on to more suitable potential partners? (sounds dangerously like sour grapes to me...hee hee hee...
The PMS "I Know You Are But what am I?" Cosmic Brat  | |
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