| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 10/31/2006 10:07:22 PM | | Well, I think if you and I lived closer, I would just ask you out on a date. I think you're pretty hot! | |
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| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 10/31/2006 10:18:39 PM | | No.......I very seldomly get INTIMIDATED on looks.Who knows,you might be intimidated by his looks now and then you end up meeting him and he might end up having a SQUEAKY,high pitched voice,or even worse,chew with his mouth open.lol | |
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| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 11/1/2006 1:58:41 AM | I once dated a girl for considerably long time but when we first met she had this weird (annoying) thing she did that I did not understand. Everytime she looked at me directly and I looked back she would quickly avert her face and make this funny sound with her voice (its impossible to reproduce in type how it sounded). I asked her later once we were close why she did this and she told me when she first met me she thought I was so handsome she had trouble looking at me directly in my eyes.
Now at first I thought it was cute but it always made me feel like she consistently sending out waves of "I'm very insecure and have zero confidence". It got to be an unattractive quality about her even tho I did find her beautiful and I was already her boyfriend.
I guess what I'm getting at is if your with someone for a long time eventually your confidence should grow around them since they are with you. Maintaining a low sense of self is not an attractive quality. You should be proud of who you are and not dictate what another feels about you. Otherwise it won't turn out good =/ | |
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| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 11/1/2006 11:45:05 AM | Looks don't work on me, sorry. but his 'wiring' could make me 'preoccupied' with some topics / tasks | |
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| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 11/1/2006 11:50:52 AM | Intimidated meaning "She lokos WAY too good and she'd never want a shlub like me" or intimidated ilke "She's so fugly I'm afraid to get close and risk some of it coming off..."?
Oh, and the answer is "No. Never."
The worst that can happen is she says no and I am back to the state of alone that I was before I tried. You don't get sent back in line or anything.
If you don't knock on doors, you won't make sales. | |
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| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 11/15/2006 4:06:44 AM | | only when i was like 14 yrs old. Now i walk up to anybody, as I grown older looks are less and less of importants to me. | |
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| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 11/15/2006 5:16:58 AM | Nope.
Been excited enough about someone tha I worried about lousing it up, or got butterflys waiting for it to go forward; but I've never found looks intimidating. Distracting, alluring, and capable of making me flub sentances; but not intimidating.
You have nothing to loose. You don't have him now, and the worst outcome is that nothing changes. Forget there are any other women in the world. For all intents and purposes there are not. It's you and him. You want him? Then go after him. | |
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| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 11/15/2006 7:22:35 AM | I get that A LOT. Too, F'n' much. I hate it. However, not much I can do about it. Maybe wear a pair of those big goofy glasses with a nose and moustache.
Hey, this is what god gave me - for better or worse. Wish I could change some things, but I can't.
Too, the really sad part - people that know me - know that I am not at all like they presumed from their first sight.
However, I do it too. I see a really attractive woman - I would never talk to her unless she were to talk to me first.
So - I guess the moral here is 'try' not to prejudge. | |
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| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 11/15/2006 8:10:10 AM | | I didn't contact someone from here because I thought he was out of my league, it took me a while but I finaly did and we have been talking ever since. Take the plunge and see what happens. | |
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| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 11/15/2006 8:47:36 AM | People are people and there's nothing to be intimidated by. If someone tries to be intimidating, they aren't worth your time anyway. Even celebrities are people. No need to be freaked about it.
If you see someone you like that's looking for the same as you - then say something, what's to lose? | |
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| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 11/15/2006 8:56:00 AM | | Only once in a while I will slip up and contact a woman because I like how she looks. It never goes anywhere. It's not that I am intimidated, just being realistic. Looks are the starting point and the other qualities go from there. Not having good looks myself, I am not eligible to date. Life is amusing, what can I say. | |
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| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 11/15/2006 12:30:11 PM | I think the premise is silly- "Oh he's so amazing looking, and he's actually writing to me" sorry if I'm a little tired and missed that he had other known qualities but that's what I got. I mean come on, I've been on this site long enough to know looks are important, I get that. But it seems to me the OP is getting way too wrapped up/excited about a guy just because he has model quality good looks or whatever.
This is just my own theory, but I bet a lot of others would agree, I think people on the far ends of the attractiveness spectrum rather than closer to the middle have a tendency (tendency not always) to have some negative qualities. Being that this is a post about good looking peope I will leave out the ones about bad lookers. Really good looking guys can pick up girls like a drop of a hat. I've seen it time and time again. They don't even have to have a great approach as long as they're not a real jerk. Girls with steady boyfriends will consider leaving or cheating on them if a guy of really superior looks seems to be giving them honest signals, and most single girls will not only say yes but jump for joy if asked out by this type of guy.
So what does that mean? He has a lot of options in the way he conducts relationships. He can be a player if he likes, and just hit a lot of one night stands, he can be a serial monagomist, or he can date woman after woman until he finds the perfect match. So basically, your odds of something lasting with a really good looking guy are grim.
That said, I have a good buddy that kind of fits this description he ended up settling down with an average looking girl, I was kind of surprised since his hook ups were always the best looking girls or close to it, and he said he had just gotten tired of playing the field and was ready for a nice girl to settle down with.
Anyway, I'm not saying don't pursue, but pursue with caution. This could just be me, but it seems better looking guys are smoother as well, as they don't get turned down as much and have more confidence, so watch out for possibly a false front early on.
Good luck,
David | |
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| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 11/15/2006 12:34:50 PM | yes i have...
been burned by looks or better yet thinking she was too good for me!
LOL
now not getting all**** about it cause I am a tuby guy who is cute (or so I have been told), but in the past I got my self out of more dates cause I was not good enough then I ever got in... and remember if you do not try you will never succeed! | |
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| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 11/16/2006 6:40:48 PM | I have had more compliments and confidence builders from gorgeous women on this site. Women I would be too shy to talk with in real life. I have had a great experience in that some hotties really do have brains.
HOORAY!!!!!
Just do what feels ok, don't be intimidated, just be yourself... | |
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| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 11/16/2006 7:27:59 PM | It has never happened to me on here, but definately in real life. There have been times where I thought a guy was so good looking I couldn't even make eye contact with him. But I have also had guys get all shaky and nervous around me, it seems silly, but it happens sometimes, you'll get over it!
Just think of the regret! | |
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| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 11/16/2006 11:52:35 PM | | Yeah i get intimidated a lot by some girls looks. It's can be a deal breaker for me wether I talk to them or message them. | |
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| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 11/17/2006 3:06:21 PM | as a woman who's suffered from an image disorder nearly my entire life-& suffered enormously just putting a picture on a website in the first place-& then getting alot of really sweet, and (most of the time), complimentary email-at least from alot of the men-
the women? omg-how "catty" can alot of them be? people should realize the impact they can have on others-someone doesn't have to be a "10" or think they are-but for people to go with "1"-that's just plain mean-spirited-wouldn't you have to be like, quasimodo's sister to be a "1"? women who do that to other women...um, um, um-watch out for that karma..girlfriend.
i can say, just because other people think you look okay (or even good), doesn't mean YOU do-listen to his words, & if you can feel him-then i say go for it-the outside is just the wrapper you come in-a result of the way your parents mated one night long, long ago-it's nice when people find you attractive-but it's what you make of yourself that's really you-i say give him a chance-and darlin' butterflies are a good thing................................. | |
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| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 11/17/2006 6:10:56 PM | A very good point. I Like it.
I have met some famous people, some gorgeous people too, both male and female in my travels around the world and we could include animals too, would a Leopard breathing on you intimidate you to a gibbering mess?
A lesson learnt from a long time ago, met Lauren Hutton (actress, model, superstar) when in London. Just on the street while wandering along, nothing special happening - you know what stands out - not her looks (although she is delightful), it's her personality, her bearing. To this day, I smile with that memory, all but a moment in time.
If you have someone who makes you smile, even a tinsy weeny bit inside - that is a good thing. If you turn to jelly because you find them gorgeous, bite your thumb and get on with it!
The people who are supposed to intimidate you are - Dominatrix, Russian mafia, coke-head with a 9mm.
- have a wonderful evening! | |
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| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 11/17/2006 10:06:41 PM | | why do women make things complicated? he likes u, u liek him go for it. its alot more simple then u make it | |
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| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 11/18/2006 2:55:02 PM | This reminds me of the opening of 'Must Love Dogs'.... LOL
All the single people having problems meeting other singles are talking about how/where to meet other singles and it is very humorous.
Then these two supermodels come on and say "Where do you meet people? I don't know. Why? Is there a problem?" LOL
I really doubt that Heidi Klum or Brad Pitt ever resorted to a site like PlentyOfFish. (sorry POF)
It is 'funny' that we (society) have turned to this and that it is soooo popular.
However, I am not saddened by such a change in society over the years. To the contrary, I have been able to meet some women that I would not have been able to meet were such sites not to exist.
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| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 11/18/2006 3:11:44 PM | I think the premise is silly- "Oh he's so amazing looking, and he's actually writing to me" Agreed. I'm a really amazing guy. Everyone should be writing to me. (half in jest, all in seriousness) | |
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| Ever been intimidated by looks?
Posted: 11/18/2006 4:20:01 PM | | I know what you mean. I have met a couple of men I though were too gorgious for me, and I held back feelin intimidated. It was so strange that he was likein me, I thought maybe he just didn't read my profile good, so I felt like it was my duty to fill in the gaps he didn't know for him. | |
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