| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 11/3/2006 6:11:03 AM | | I have only had this happen once. I met a man who was MUCH older than his pic. The guy in the pic was in his mid 30's, and the guy I met was in his late 50's which is a BIG difference. This guy trying to pull one over because he had his age listed as 38 on his profile, as well as posting the younger picture. When I asked him about it he said it was a type-o. I guess he thought I was stupid because of the blonde hair, or that I would play nice, and forget all about his lie. I finished my drink, paid for it myself, thanked him for having the drink with me, and left. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 11/5/2006 9:30:21 AM | I've never met anyone from online yet but after reading these posts, I think I never will!! LoL If people can lie about something as simple as their picture or what they look like, what else are they lying about (being married, a stalker in the making, what?!) 
Ciao ~ Gina | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 11/7/2006 4:10:42 PM | I dated "extensively" (2-3 dates a month) online for over 4-years (And have recently returned to "single-doom" after a 2-1/2 year exclusive/committed relationship).
I've been a "Fish" for a few days and haven't had time to really pursue (or be pursued) by anyone. Though my experience over the years has been that 90% of the ladies that I met looked either the same or very close to their photos, I was never disappointed because I took the time to get to know the person before we set up a "date".
On my "myspace page" I've posted the dates that the pics were taken. I'm usually told that I'm better looking in person.
There are people out there that are deceitful in their photos, age, height, weight, marital-status, ect... My best advice; "If he/she appears too good to be true... " You know the rest…
Best wishes to all,
SC | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 11/8/2006 11:02:30 AM | I've had this happen a few times and I don't get it. What good can possibly come from it???
My guess is that there are some romantics out there that think that, once the person they are interested in meets them face to face and has a chance to experience the personality, they'll forget about the picture being old or doctored.
For me, it demonstrates deception. Anyone that would represent themselves in a false manner in order to promote themselves is kinda shady in my book. I may very well find myself attracted to her personality and I might not even find her to be unattractive, regardless of whatever it was that she thought of herself to cause her to put up the outdated or doctored pics. However, the one thing that would stick in my mind was the false representation and why she would do that in the first place.
Personally, I find this to be an unfair thing to do to someone. I, being the kind that hates to hurt people's feelings, will still keep the date. At least I have to this point. I'd imagine too many more and I may start calling her on the carpet immediately and then exit stage left. Still, the trickery is wrong because some of us are genuine people who aren't out to hurt anyone and feeling like we've been duped is almost enough to cause us to give up that quality in ourselves.
Recent pictures are not tough to get. Doctoring a picture for anything more than some kind of special effect or artistic design is wrong. In fact, even those glamour shots, I think, are a bad idea. Hell, my pics aren't all that pretty, but they're raw for the purpose of giving the viewer an idea of what I "really" look like.
Though, I think I look better in person, but that's just my opinion. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 11/13/2006 11:28:11 AM | I've been lucky enough not to have met anyone who wasn't honest about who they were. Normally I try to get pictures from them that give me a general view of who they are, and whenever possible if I know this person has a web cam then I will try to get them on. Yes, I also have web cam and we'll both go on together.
I also know pictures aren't always the best way to determine how someone *actually* looks like. Hell, I know I'm not particularly photogenic. But I do know that I'm relatively good looking. Comfortable with myself, my personality and who I am as a whole. If people can't appreciate that then they aren't worth my time. I've been lucky enough to have been told that I look better in person then my pictures, which means a lot... even if they're bullshitting me. haha.
ladywithapink -- and your plan is a good one. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 11/13/2006 6:03:46 PM | You know what? It doesn't matter. It hasn't mattered to me, whenever the person I've met through a singles site has looked different than their photo, because I'm not particularly photogenic and so I look different in person. Hopefully better looking, but it hasn't seemed to matter to those I've met either. I think we were just happy somebody showed up (haha).
Perhaps I take a different tact than some, in that I attempt to get to know someone - and encourage them to get to know me - while we're still talking online. I think it's stupid to make up stuff about yourself in order to attract somebody, they'll bust you soon enough and that kind of nonsense feeds the rumour mill pretty fast. So, I honestly talk about myself and ask questions, as though we're having conversations, but online. By the time we meet, they hopefully know enough about me that they're interested in more than just how closely I look like my profile photos. They at least see me as a friend who they're comfortable with, just as I accept them as being much more than just their looks.
And then we have sex... (just kidding) | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 11/13/2006 6:09:18 PM | i find guys lie a lot about their age and weight. they will say they are an athletic build but are really 20 lbs overweight. they will say they are muscular (yeah, under all those rolls). they will lie to seem younger/older...
it's all self esteem. i have pretty decent self esteem and i don't lie about my hair colour, weight, or age. if you are serious about meeting people offline, then you have to be honest. when i see that someone has lied to me, i have this YUK feeling and don't want anything to do with them. deceit is NOT attractive.
now, my question, what if you see your ex online and he is claiming to be a certain age/weight/marital status and you know he is lying.....what do you do in that case?? | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 11/13/2006 6:19:48 PM | "now, my question, what if you see your ex online and he is claiming to be a certain age/weight/marital status and you know he is lying.....what do you do in that case??" -- catlover73
This actually happened. A few months after I signed up with this site, I noticed that one of my ex-girlfriends was on here as well. Her photo popped up amongst my supposed matches, funnily enough. I left her alone - ex's are ex's for good reason, so good riddance - but, I did notice that she was lying about her age by a few years. Seeing that made me chuckle, and merely reassured me that we were definitely wrong for each other after-all. I wish her well, but silently and from a big distance... | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 11/13/2006 6:32:26 PM | | I would love to post my "Xena Warrier Princess" hallowe'en pic from 10 years ago as my main picture when I had 2 1/2 hours to kill at the gym but the reality is that girl isn't me any more. The spirit is still in there, just not the body! LOL I prefer to embrace where I am, not where I've been. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 11/14/2006 2:02:59 AM | | i met someone on here where their pics were pretty old. they were cute in the pics but looked totally different in person. but still cute so it was okay lol. almost makes u wonder if it was the same person tho LOL in some weird freaky way ha ha. like maybe they sent a friend! | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 11/14/2006 10:23:07 AM | | See I have a large amount of photes some looking nice, others not so nice, but silly. I hope that way they may see the real me. I am scared that someone may lie about their picture...but the true reason I havn't met anyone yet is because I'm so afraid They are going to not like me in real life and say these same things about me!!! | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 11/14/2006 4:07:47 PM | | Once i met a girl based on a blurry dark head shot. Downright bad. Will never make that mistake again. But i found a lot of girls actually do look much better in person than in their photos. Some even look way different-but much better. some the same. I just hate being called shallow when all i ask for is just enough visual to picture the person. And, helps to remove your beer goggles(ok this may have bothered me with somebody else but she's so nice it won't matter..blah blah blah. yes it will,so don't start anything if you have major doubts from the get go) I also have a bad self-taken head shot after kayaking 18 miles that i show people just so i don't have to live up to my better pics and its cool when others show the good and the bad. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 11/15/2006 12:32:53 AM |
I've never met anyone from online yet but after reading these posts, I think I never will!! LoL If people can lie about something as simple as their picture or what they look like, what else are they lying about (being married, a stalker in the making, what?!)
Ciao ~ Gina
ROFL, another satisfied POF customer | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 11/15/2006 4:26:30 AM | I had a little different story.
I have been fooled several (many times since 2000) times over the years by women that put up older pics instead of current ones.
Once I drove a couple hundred miles to meet a lady that had to of had a pic 20 years younger than she actually was up. Hey, I thought she looked good.
One time I was talking to a lady close by and she had an obvious older pic up.(compared to others) I had a pic that was at least 6 years older than all my current pics so I stuck it on the site. She told me she really liked it.
She wanted to meet for lunch or something so I agreed.
When we finally met, of course i didnt know her, but she told me I looked exactly like the older pic. I just about fell out laughing. She said, you don't look like your other pics (current) at all. Life is good.
Whew.........Go figure | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 11/19/2006 4:15:33 PM | Sorry Beau, I am old in numbers (wow) but not in figure and looks lol. I changed my picture almost every week to show my real age. Hope people in POF would be honest on their profile. I know what you meant had experienced the same, pictures they show is at least 10-15 yrs old. Keep looking my dear sooner or later you will find one who is honest about their pictures. luciloyu   | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 11/23/2006 10:38:17 PM | | I once met a guy that had posted a photo that was 15 years old....and the age that he had given me was the age that he was in the photo! When I asked him why he wasn't honest about his age, and why he posted an old photo, his responce was that if I knew old he really was I wouldn't have wanted to meet him. He was right! So not only was he older that what I wanted, he was also dishonest. How far do you think we went? And men complain women aren't honest! LOL | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 11/25/2006 11:31:12 AM | | I've had 3 dates online now since I've been back into the mix of things and I can say without a doubt that none........NONE.......NOT ONE.....of the women were anywhere close to what their pictures looked like online. I'm really pissed about it too. Ladies, it's not necessary to lie about yourself. It's only going to hurt in the end. If you have any doubts about your physical appearance take some really current photos of yourself. I can get by the weight thing or other issues if I'm not lied to from the start. It's hard to get by it though when you can barely recognize the person you've been chatting with. I did this online dating thing back in 2000,1 and it was bad then but it's much worse now than it was. I can tell you this, I'll take a picture of myself and send it to anyone, anywhere and get it there in a matter of minutes. Just tell me what you want. I am what I am and every women I've met has told me that I look better than my pic and that was without asking any of them. Isn't that what you would want? This whole picture thing is a huge issue for me and online dating. If I have many more episodes like the ones I've had so far I'm going to just go back to the bars. At least that way I can see what I'm getting into and I won't be wasting time on looks liars. I know that women go through this too but I don't think it's nearly as bad a problem for them as it it for the guys. I make that statement based on women that I've talked to that do online dating. Some have told me that they have never had any surprises as far as looks are concerned. It seems they guys always have baggage issues or some other freaky deaky problem or hangup. In closing I think in my particular case I need to start concentrating on the younger ladies. I have always had a thing for the older ladies and I guess I always will but they just seem totally incapable of telling the truth. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 11/25/2006 12:29:44 PM |
Allthough I like to pay moe attention to whats on the inside.It starts with honesty and from the start I'd say thats where the picture comes in
True, true!
I've had it happen....I walked past the guy 3 times...sigh. When he finally got my attention, I think my surprise was obvious. When I asked him later about the inacurrate photo (10+ yrs old)....he said he used it because he looked better then, lol! I did stick out the date, and he ended up being a jerk, anyway. I've also met people who just look different in person.....no big deal there. If someone posts a photo with deception in mind (old,etc)....I don't want to know anything else about them. Mine are current and I expect the same...... | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 11/25/2006 8:47:58 PM | oh my gosh...yes..it's happened....i have huge respect for all you nice people who could stay and 'be polite' to a liar...lol not me....even though i value personality way more then looks...if someone lies or deceives me...they are not worth my time...why would i sit there and let them get to know me???? i am an honest person...and i will only accept an honest person in my life...just my 3 cents..cheers... | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 12/27/2006 10:35:14 PM | | Don't give up hope people, as shown by all the people posting on here there are still a lot of us that believe in being honest about ourselves and how we look. I'm one of those who is not photogenic and i always get told i look better than my pics.. So i'm happy... | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 12/28/2006 12:07:53 PM | What's the purpose of a picture? Aren't we supposed to show someone what we look like?
What are people really thinking when they provide a false picture?
Don't they hope to meet you? Wouldn't they expect someone to feel they've been lied to?!
I won't pursue any woman who doesn't show a picture. If a woman lied to me, it's over. | |
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