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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 1/13/2007 2:57:56 PM | I just want to say something to this one. All of you can talk quite happily about the downfalls of meeting up with someone who looks nothing or at least hardly like their photo, but can anyone tell me WHY people go to such great lengths to lie, not only about ages ect but about the more important things, I had one guy tell me he had a daughter,(all because I have kids) and when I met up with him the third time he finally told me the truth,well I don't need to tell you I left. But it's not only things like that, people lie about things that range from their interests, to things like what they are looking for and their marital status. So far since I have joined this site I have been contacted by three different guys who have all stated in their profiles they were single and then when you get chatting to them and arrange to meet up, that is when you get to find out they aren't quite as single as they think they are!!! Why do it people???? All it does is make you look stupid and untrustworthy! In my oppinion if you can't tell the truth, then maybe there is a reason your single afterall!! anyway to the rest of you out there, good luck hey and be happy.  | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 1/13/2007 3:14:18 PM | | So far I have been lucky ,,,they have always looked better than their pics,,,,but if it did happen,,,see ya!!!!! | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 1/13/2007 10:31:34 PM | | I met up with this guy once and his picture was from 10 years ago....and he was actually 20 years older than the picture.......I drank my coffee....was polite....then I said to him..."you are not who you said you were....you outright lied to me...I'm not interested..." and I left.....now, I won't meet someone with a picture and without seeing them on "cam"....too bad some people wreck it for the rest..... | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 1/13/2007 10:36:21 PM | Annudderhohummale..it's a shame that you live so far away...lol.
I am 1 of the good lady's that is left in this ole world....and very
honest, loyal, my picture is a recent 1. If u would rather have a newer
one,,,just ask...How far is your town from Columbus...just curious?
Just thought I would say how handsome u r....if you ever get down
this way, look me up! It is always nice to meet new friends.
Have a great time fishing!
Jude  | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 1/13/2007 10:43:33 PM | It's not really relevant to me, because I'm game for meeting friends or dates. Except for one (it might have been an old picture or a bad picture), everyone I've met has looked better in real life. I've also met one "no-picture" guy, and he was also very good-looking.
A couple of men seemed a little shorter (nothing drastic) than their profiles said, but I've said this before: a lot of men (especially in my age group) honestly believe they're taller than they actually are. It could also be a posture thing. People shrink a bit, and slump. No big deal.
Overall, I've had very good experiences. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 1/13/2007 10:59:32 PM | Mr. jjones,
I am sorry that you have had bad experiences with some older ladies...
But there are a few of us "older" ladies that are very honest, and very capable
of doing what ever we tell you. I am and always will be that way. my pic's on here
are recent and if someone wants one 5 minutes from now I have no problem with
giving them 1...I expect the same when I ask for a recent one. So don't put all of
us ladies in the same pile that u have met so far....I am sometimes to honest for my own good!
Have a better life,
***Jude*** | |
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Israd
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Joined: 10/10/2006
Msg: 110 | |
| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 1/14/2007 2:43:44 AM | i have yet to meet someone with a "fake" or old pic that is any different from how they are in person.. maybe I'm lucky...
and its true every time you look at a profile (especially a womans) you need to remember those pics were the best of folder... none of the OH GOD THAT'S ME pics made it up for your viewing..
I never understood why guys pic such awful pics of themselves to put up, but hey it's a pleasent surprise in person. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 1/14/2007 3:12:05 AM | Unfortuantely some people think that they are so charming in real life that you will just "forget" any variation in the photo from 20 years ago. This is just plain dumb.
There is no point in using old pics, pics of yourself as a baby, pics from your graduation / wedding / glamour photos etc if they are more than about a year old. (preferably no more than about 6 months old).
NO matter how stunning someone WAS in the past, what all POFfers are interested in is what you look like now. It does not matter if you are now average, a bit overweight, not stunning anymore etc... all that matters is that you are representing yourself truthfully. This way everyone knows what they are getting themselves involved in and no-one feels scammed or lied to later when you meet. Honesty is always the best policy.  | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 1/15/2007 9:36:53 PM | Oh, I've met several men who didn't look anything like their pics! Although perceptions do enter into the equation, here a just a few rules violations I've encountered:
1. Football player/wrestler physique = HUGE gut, man boobs
2. 5"10" = 5'8 at the most!
3. Dress like an average guy = mismatched clothes from the '70's or '80's
4. Regular guy = mustache untrimmed, same haircut from '70's or '80's or their heyday!
5. A few extra pounds = JACKED up shape = barrel chest/scrawny arms, super-long torso with a 10" inseam and no butt,
The worst was a guy who posted a pic of his head/upper body and said he was 6'6 with a football player body. He showed up to the coffee house wearing a Hawaiian shirt with polyester Sansabelt pants hiked over his massive gut. He had a receding hairline and hair like George Jefferson. Worst of all, he had the thinnest arms I've ever seen on a man. And he had very long, thin, ladylike fingers that he kept twiddling like a fly! Then he opened his mouth and his voice that could sing soprano rang out! Ladies, you can probably guess that this was a guy who, because my profile says I'm a BBW, felt free to drill me about my dress size, the size of my thighs, etc. I was nice to him but I left the date as soon as possible. Unfortunately, he had my phone number and called incessantly until I had another guy answer my phone and give him the brush off! | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 1/15/2007 11:52:28 PM | I don't think putting up glamour shots is a bad thing. I have them up on mine. But I think it's a good idea to have realistic shots right along with the glam shots. On my profile:
First two pics, home studio shots, with makeup.
Next two pics, professional glam shots, digitally edited.
Last picture, home studio shot, very little makeup.
I think it's a good way to put the best pictures forward without making myself out as more attractive than I actually am. Even though I don't meet people from here, I still want to give an accurate representation. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 1/16/2007 3:02:04 AM | | Hi lypiphera. I agree, your home studio photos are great. They are very natural looking and shows that you are naturally attractive without having to slap on a lot of make-up or use very bright lighting to get rid of skin flaws (of which you have none). Photos like yours are just what we all want to see. Nice and close up, natural and honest. I wish more people would use photos similar to yours. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 1/16/2007 3:24:57 PM | I have had the same experience with nearly all the dates I have had from online sites. I would rather post a photo that isn't the best (and I am not very photogenic) then have them comment that I am much prettier in person (which they have). I still do not know how to handle this without hurting a persons feelings. I wouldn't want to feel unattractive and like a loser. How can you politely say there is no chemistry? Sometimes I think "wow" he is handsome but when we meet it just isn't there. 99% of the men were very nice and complete gentleman, I need a way to ask to be friends. 
Then there is also the pictures that I pass by, but when I think of the men I have loved in my life I would have probably passed them by based on a photo online. I don't want to meet someone in a bar, but that is usually where I meet a guy. I find his personality is what makes him handsome. Does anyone else feel this way?
Also, does anyone have any suggestions on why some photos look fuzzy online? It looked fine prior to uploading and then when I reviewed my profile it is fuzzy. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 1/16/2007 3:28:43 PM | austral azn, thank you!
LadyLooking, it might be that the pictures you're uploading are too big. Try resizing them to make them smaller (close to the size of the pictures that you see when you look at someone's profile) and THEN upload them. Other than that, maybe the site's upload feature just automatically diminishes the quality of pictures. I don't know. | |
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djnick
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Joined: 11/6/2005
Msg: 119 | |
| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 1/27/2007 12:58:03 AM | I've met a couple people... usually it was great and am still friends with them, however there was one person that used their sisters pic for her profile, which is something pretty big considering if you ever met the truth comes out...
We met up for coffee and I obviously didn't recognize her as the difference was night and day. We had a quick coffee and I explained that I expect honesty and I wished her well and didn't talk to her again after that. It put me off for a while. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 1/27/2007 5:04:38 PM | I'm new to the forum I'd like to add a few words about the pictures and who they portay. I too have had a few meetings with folks here. I don't make it a habbit of meeting someone with out seeing them first.  I have had Men say, "Well, you've gotten to know me so far" "what is the difference?" then they say "oh, you won't be disapppointed." Now if that isn't a big red flag. When I again request a photo, so I can see who it is I am talking to....some folks get very upset I don't get it. If you have a photo, post it. What is the deal in making is current. There was another guy...Seemed great on the phone. I could tell he was a bit old school. I explained I wanted a photo. He had no problem and emailed it to my home It was somewhat out of focus and a bit far away( don't people know how to tell a good shot from a bad one?) The man had a suit on and looked from what I could see good. He told me I wouldn't be disappointed, he was very good looking, had long hair he kept in a ponytail. He was willing to drive to me so that I didn't have to drive a great distance. That was OK with me. It was about a 1 1/2 hour drive between us. he actually got himself a hotel room ( i wasn't about to sleep with him) so we could go have dinner, hit a bar and he wouldn't have to drive home. Sooooo, when I went to meet him, it was a SCREEEEEECCCCHHHHing halt on my part. Not only was he older looking then his picture, he had more grease in his hair then even jiffy lube stocks. His long beautiful hair (as he described) was about eh, 6 inches long and stuck out the back of his head. I mean it was gross. He smiled and I fell out. He had summer teeth. Some were going this way and some were going the other way ( at least he had all of them,lol). He told me how I looked just like my picture. I was floored I didn't know what to say.  So, we should all make it a point to present ourselves in the most favorable light we can. My photo is a year old. I still look like it. NE how, life's too short, gotta just keep picking through the weeds and it will happen  peace | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 1/27/2007 7:00:51 PM | | My opinion is that some people just don't feel they are photogenic and aren't into themselves and/or posting pictures of themselves freely as others might be.... good, bad or even indifferent, even as far back as 20 years. LOL. Nevertheless, some sort of attraction brought you to that person in the first place whether it be looks or whatever. Usually conversations take place prior to actually meeting them and at least personalities and sense of humors and other things about that person are being learned prior to meeting. A basis has been made and that is usually when a meeting is scheduled. Regardless of beauty, as it does fade at some point in our lives, sometimes standing back and being less superfical can benefit us all. I know it is easy to state but what I mean is that phrases have been made throughout time, such as, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, beauty is only skin deep, what really matters is what's inside, etc etc. But truth be told, outter beauty is what is judged about the human race first and what gets you in the door. No one really is interested in inner beauty if the outter beauty isn't attractive to them. It is all a shame really because after talking and dealing with someone through phone conversations and emails and even chat, and having a basis for feeling like you know that person, fnally scheduling a meet, there is always that moment of either sheer happiness that things worked out or there is sheer disappointment. Either way it seems like everyone loses at this point because the person you got to know and liked through conversations, etc. and even said to each other that it didn't matter what they looked like that they had already gotten to know the other, anything else is suppose to be a bonus.... it all just seems fraud at some point! | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 1/27/2007 7:21:35 PM | Good topic. I met with a fellow who said his photo was about 18 months old. I was aware that it was a professional shot so maybe he would look a little different. Whoa back up the truck! I walked right by him. He was hurt that I did that and didn't recognize him, but how is that my doing? The photo could truly have been another person.
I don't post photos on any site that are older than 6 months. Not fair. We all think we don't change very much or very fast, but we do - some more than others.
Question? What about the webcam thingy? I do not have one and don't want to spent the $$ to get one that I won't hardly ever use. I will hold the camera out and take a sanpshot and that will have to do. | |
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| When you meet up and the pic and the person you meet aren't too close
Posted: 1/31/2007 1:19:52 PM | i have had a previous experience with a friend that i met from here.... he has a pic of himself which is 10 years ago from what he actually looks like now. we met in person and hang out but that always comes up everytime because he was complaining that it seems like most women that he met in person takes a second look @ him then they end the date I cant blame them because Honesty is a real issue if u want to date someone because if u are not honest that is not a good thing to start anything with anyone ..
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