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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/8/2007 3:49:21 PM | | this is just a question for anyone. of all the replys everyone says that they would not have a problem being FRIENDS with a person that is in a wheelchair or some other disability, but how many would date someone with a disability? how many would give a person who walks with a limp or a person in a wheelchair a second look romantically? | |
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Quadly
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Joined: 8/5/2005
Msg: 128 | |
| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/8/2007 4:09:48 PM | ok ok i'm online. so far i haven't found many quad only charities, but there are a few..kind of. try 'helping hands' it is in the states, and they place specially trained assistance monkeys, yes you read that right, to help with everyday tasks. there is no branch in canada at this time, but maybe one day, after we start a nonprofit, we might be able to bring something like this to canada.
you have piqued my interest though, give me until the end of the week to make some calls to people who would really know...
Q.
ps sry bout the mail restrictions, changed. | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/9/2007 11:20:13 AM |
this is just a question for anyone. of all the replys everyone says that they would not have a problem being FRIENDS with a person that is in a wheelchair or some other disability, but how many would date someone with a disability? how many would give a person who walks with a limp or a person in a wheelchair a second look romantically?
Good question Marcy! I'm not looking myself, but others might be and I'm curious about the answers we'll get! | |
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Viox87
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Joined: 5/11/2006
Msg: 130 | |
| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/9/2007 11:31:31 AM | Hmm, Well, in all honesty... I have no idea what is accessable, but I wouldnt have any problems having a friend, or romantic partner in a wheelchair. people are people, and thats all there really is to it, I had a good friend in highschool that had a very bad limp, and he couldnt do alot of things, or stay on his feet for very long, but he was still probably one of the best people i've ever known.
I would date someone with a dissablity for sure. Though, to be honest, I would probably offend them from time to time, If they drank too much, I'd tell them they'd have to stay in one place, that Driving intoxicated is against the law, or if I drank too much, I'd ask for a ride home...
which, unless im mistaken would probably be offencive? | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/9/2007 7:50:49 PM | Not offensive to me or my buddy in a chair! Sometimes I wish my buddies would cordon me off to one area when I've been drinking, apparently I'm a REALLY bad driver hehehe. If whatever is said is said in fun, and it's not mean spirited, it's all good for most of us. We've heard so many nasty, inappropriate, and horrible things, we kinda learn to get a tough skin about it.
Mind you, others may have gotten hypersensitive, I guess it really depends on the person. Everyone I know that's in a chair is like "Ok, I'm in a chair, so what?" Quite casual about it, we are able to laugh at ourselves. That's just me and the people i know though. | |
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Quadly
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Joined: 8/5/2005
Msg: 132 | |
| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/12/2007 7:15:51 PM |
If they drank too much, I'd tell them they'd have to stay in one place, that Driving intoxicated is against the law, or if I drank too much, I'd ask for a ride home...
you better step outta the way buddy, cause some body gonna get hurt reeeeal bad!
don be messin with my chair, dems my legs.
i am the guy in the chair you better watch out for!
ok... no Quad only charities grabbed my attention as most organisations umbrella more than one specific type of spine injury. makes sense actually, pooling resources. i am by no means an expert on anything, so keep researching. | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/12/2007 10:02:58 PM | | Codee, let me say that I would hope you do not see yourself as "work" or " hassle". You should see yourself as a lovely woman with what seems to be a good attitude. As far as Accessibility, public places are bound by the people with disibilities act and are required to make thier establishments handi-friendly. I know this is great in theory, and many places are not exactly what you would call friendly for the handicapped. However any man that is worth the cloths he's wearing would go out of his way to make a not so friendly place friendly and establishments are usually more than happy to oblige any way they can. It can be done, and without as much trouble as you may think.Most chairs fold or break apart if needed for small doorways, and lets be honest, your not exactly a LARGE woman and could proably be carried up stairs if needed without too much trouble, placed into a chair until yours could be brought up, and then off to the fun you go. You should really have more pride in yourself for dealing with day to day struggles than most people could ever imagine in a lifetime. I myself am not handicapped, however I have several friends who are and have taken them out on the town. Yeah it may take a few minutes longer to get from place to place, but so what. That may very well be a night out they remember for the rest of thier lives. I take a blind friend of mine fishing with me, and have had a girlfriend who was handicaped. Dose it take a little extra effort, yes. but it is well worth the friendship gained, and entertainment of hearing a blind man telling me he has been watching his bobber the whole time. LOL. you've obviously survived whatever caused this handicap, so have fun and live a little. if it's an issue, then the chair is not the problem, he is. | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/12/2007 10:11:00 PM | | guess I should check the profile before I post next time, We have a law called the people with disibilities act making public places follow certin guidelines for accessibility. Most do, some find a loophole to remain noncompliant. Even the noncompliant ones will just about bend over backwards to help with access. I would hope that you have a law similar law. but reguardless, I stand by my statement that any man worth anything would do his best to make your dreams come true if your treating him right. | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/12/2007 10:22:40 PM | Are you for real? Wow, a friend would never care about any disabilities. They shouldn't anyways.
My biggest high school crush was on the trainer of my hockey team. She was in a wheelchair. She was in my grade and I was so into her. But I was scared to hell to talk to her because she was so friggin HOT. The best thing I ever did in high school was ask her out. She ended up being a great friend for many years. So in closing, NO it is not a hassle and dancing with a girl in a wheel chair is cool.
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/13/2007 1:11:55 AM | Oily.. I'm stalking you heh heh.
I have a really good friend Carrie, I've known her for like 15 years or something and we always went out together. When I turned 18 she wanted to take me to this bar, but it had like.. 8 steps.. 4 steps and a landing and another 4. I live in a small town so not much is accessible around here. She was determined to take me and I didn't think it'd work coz I have a power chair and without me in it - it's about 150lbs and another 120lbs with me in it. So... being a small town we know all the bouncers there and they come outside and literally lift me and my chair up the steps. Usually two, one on each side. All the while she was on the top of the steps screaming that if they drop me she'll hurt every one of them... all 5 foot 100lbs of her lolz. Mind you, they (the bouncers) were drunk themselves half the time, but what's the worst that could happen? End up in a wheelchair? Er.. wait LOL. Sick humour sorry.
Another time Carrie (my friend) and another one of her friends Shawna were going to the city to see male strippers (she knows them personally).. and Carrie asked me to come along but Shawna told Carrie that it would be better if I didn't go coz I'm a hassle... I'm nice but I'm a hassle, her exact words. So... Carrie being the sweetheart she is dropped Shawna off at home and said she'd be right back and she comes to my place.. tells me what happened and well... she was angry, very angry and she ended up taking me to the city with her and leaving Shawna at home LOL.
Carrie being as honest as she is.. told me she likes taking me with her coz I seem to attract alot of attention. I've noticed it too... people are curious about me and always seem to come up and ask me dumb questions lolz. I've noticed when us girls would go see the peelers that they would almost always come up to me before anyone else in the crowd. Also when we go out if I have to leave the car... I have to ask someone on the street to lift me in my chair, it's usually the first hot guy I see LOL. Even when we go to the Exhibition Grounds.. Carries car doesn't have a gimp sticker so we just drive up to the flaggers and tell them we need a parking stall close to the gates and they open one up for us even if the gates are closed for that parking lot. Same with line ups for the rides... I just have to tell them I want on and they let me cut in line and let us stay on as long as we want lolz. This is just some of the stuff I can think of off the top of my head.
I had a point but I think I forgot it... either way, friends usually won't care if you need extra help and if they have a problem with it, fukk em and leave them at home LOL. Besides, there's perks if you wanna hang out with me :D Neener neener. | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/13/2007 1:40:17 AM | Atta GIRL!!!!
You made me laugh so hard I almost fell outta my chair!! Wicked sense of humor chick. Next time the Stampede/K-Days is on, I'll personally come and pick you and whoever up and totally use you! lol
Still laughing.......... | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/13/2007 1:02:41 PM | I'm going to hold you to that. I love Kdays.. or what is it called now? I forget but I know it's something really stupid. Anyways, It's always fun being used... LOL. I look forward to it 
If you're going to use me, I shall use you. I would like a corn dog... and popcorn and ugh.. a candy apple! Ooo0o and those donuts with cinnamon... goodness. Corn on a stick.. with butter!! Lotsa butter..... Mm'mm buttery goodness. What's up with that guy who gives out pepperoni sticks? lolz. | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/13/2007 1:24:52 PM | kday num nums.....NOW i get it
they hand out pepperoni sticks? thats a little too weird for me!
mini donuts ROCK but corn on a stick? uck! i'd rather have the corn dog drenched with mustard..now thats good eats | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/13/2007 2:33:08 PM | You my little goober are an evil man.
And yes, the guy who gives out Slim Jim pepperoni sticks lol.. there's 2 or 3 guys just handing them out to people lolz. I love corn.. it's like.. almost as good as Pepsi =) ALMOST.. especially in the summer.. barbequed... MM!! and Mmmmmm steaks and no.. I'm not doing this again..
You're evil.  | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/13/2007 2:56:26 PM | I may care and be too aware of it for the first few dates as I don't want any problems and want things to go smoothly and both of us have a great time.
But once I understand the basics of things then I am sure I will accept it just like the fact that sky is blue.
Some people may not be used to see people with disability around themselves so give them some time to adapt.
Overall I do not mind dating a girl in wheelchair, whether it is permanent or temporary, as long as I feel comfortable around her I will continue to date her and get things up. | |
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Quadly
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Joined: 8/5/2005
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/14/2007 8:18:08 PM | I am not going back to read every response in this thread...
In answer to the question - YES the extra work is worth the effort.
Love works on wheels too~!
 
(quadly - you forgot the special passes at concerts that get you right down in front!!) LOL
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/15/2007 1:37:34 AM | | Its definatly worth it. I have a few friends in wheelchairs and I had a ton of fun. One thing that you might try is hooking up with people who are very skilled at somthing that would love to bring you along. I mean at the ski hills Ive had to teach my bud on one of those 3 ski operations that you can sit on for anyone thats lost use of their legs. The reason we were able to get on so well was because I was so confident in my own skills I could totally be there for the other person without needing much consentration on myself. Hell Ive even ski'd with a blind man, now tell me that doesnt top the list of "now that dudes got balls" you just kinda yell left or right and he did the rest, man now that was cool. | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/15/2007 3:10:48 AM | | Hi everyone, this is my first time posting, responding or actually being in this forum. I am still a little new to this site so some things are still new to me as well. But I seen this topic and I had to reply. "Friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it? "....... My thoughts on that is we are all the same ! Someone in a wheelchair just got something extra to take around with them, other than that, they are no different than someone without a wheelchair ! Myself, I look up to anyone who has a disability, as for myself and alot others that don't, we complain about things that are so small and petty it's shameful. You see someone in a wheelchair and very seldom do you see them without a smile on their face ! Myself, I complain if there is snow on the side walks as it makes it hard to walk from one place to another, what about someone in a wheelchair ??? How much harder is it for them ? So I want to say that whether we have a disibility or not, we are all human, we are equals ! So is the extra workk worth it because someone is in a wheelchair ?????? In all honesty, and in my opinion, most definitely ! Don't let a chair with wheels, a person with out the use of there legs, etc.... stand in your way of getting to know the person sitting there.......We are all different, but we are the same! | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/15/2007 7:56:24 PM | Kittenz -
but what's the worst that could happen? End up in a wheelchair? Er.. wait LOL. Sick humour sorry.
I've used this line many times - it really makes people stop and think!! Seems to remind them that we're not fragile just because we're in a chair.
I've noticed when us girls would go see the peelers that they would almost always come up to me before anyone else in the crowd.
I was never told this in rehab WHY???? Do you get free lap dances or anything?? I'll have to get out to the peelers WAY more!
Also when we go out if I have to leave the car... I have to ask someone on the street to lift me in my chair, it's usually the first hot guy I see LOL.
I have to admit, although I'm happily attached, I do the same. I go to one club sometimes that has stairs to the bathrooms. When I need to go, I find the two biggest hottest guys in the club and ask them for their help. It sure helps to get to know new people, and so far the guys have been more than awesome about it. It gives them a chance to show off strengh and niceness, and if I have to hold their shoulders while they lift me down... well I just can't help that, now can I? (wink) | |
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Joined: 2/22/2006
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/15/2007 8:10:24 PM | | i rember my first fight in school was when the school bully took my friends chair and would not give it back...so i took it back! and then thats it...the bully wants to fight me after school at three....your dead! of course i am shiting bricks cause he is huge and the bully!! but when i kicked his ass all over the parking lot and made him beg....lol! i never had to fight again!!lol! and still to this day if i see anyone parking in a handicap spot...i will call them out and when they go in the store...i'll key their car! f them! | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/16/2007 3:01:33 PM | Atta boy! Must have felt good to beat the bully. I totally humiliated a guy in front of his two daughters one day, the bf and me were getting me out of the truck in the gibble spot, and I noticed the guy in the gibble spot next to us. Totally able bodied, waiting for his wife or girlfriend in wal-mart with his daughters. I mentiond to him very sweetly that the spot he was parked in was for people with physcial disabilities only, and he started arguing with me. (meanwhile, my bf, who's a lot quieter than me, is pretending not to know me while I'm giving this guy s**t!) He kept arguing, and I just repeated myself very sugary sweetly to him, his daughters looking at him like "this tiny girl is giving you crap??" He ended up moving his car while I watched him, and probably having to answer lots of awkward questions from his young daughters. (the **stard was taking up the LAST gibble spot too!) It's funny seeing the general idoit public's reaction to someone who will call them on stuff! | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/16/2007 3:59:38 PM | | Yes I have many disabled friend's { in wheel chair's } actually I like hanging with them and I do help them out as much as I can : My one friend is a " Quad " he can't feed himself , so I go over and feed him : I don't look at it as a hassle , that could be me in the wheel chair some day : My boyfriend Tommy's in a wheel chair also : | |
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| friends in wheelchairs - is the extra work worth it??
Posted: 1/22/2007 2:03:24 AM | | OK, I have realized how awkward 'we' can be in the snow. I tried to take a bus, the lift wouldn't go past the snow. I tried to wheel into town, sidewalks covered in snow, had to go on the road. (scary!) Makes me realize how much I need my friends to come get me when it snows so I can get out of the house! | |
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my friends like the parking and the 2 fer 1 movies. plus they look compassionate helping their gimp buddy. chicks dig it, at least the type you wanna know....